The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Just found this really interesting article on the best times to dtd, but the best bit is a quote from an obstetrician and gynecologist at the Yale University School of Medicine:

"The No. 1 thing women identify as their risk factor for infertility is stress," she says. "But the literature doesn't really support that as a risk factor.

"It's good to destress your life," she adds. "But in the end, stress probably isn't what's keeping you from getting pregnant."

Which is probably the most helpful de-stressing thing I've read in ages!

And the comments below are hilarious

Sorry the witch got you Triple especially with the timing. I prescribe chocolate, booze and swearing, not necessarily in that order.

Welcome Newbies. You'll find a great bunch of people here to keep you company on the dark and no t so dark days.

Morning all. Need some positivity here. CD30, 11 DPO the point where I started spotting last month and feeling it's not far off To cap it of I have a massive cold sore so feeling down. Someone give me a kick and tell me to get on with it please

Hollyben the spotting has not started yet, you are still in the game. No kicks from me, just a dose of posifrickintivity! Until the bitch arrives you're still in with a chance. fingers crossed for you x

tanny where there's a line there's hope, I hope they see you quickly.

Shall I add my stats?

Handsfullandlovingit, 32, DD4 DS2, ttc#3 for 1 year, mc at 5 weeks April 2012 (whoops but sad) mmc and erpc and retained products at 12weeks Oct 2013 baby measuring 9 weeks.

That was a tad depressing. The other dcs came so easily (whoops and 2nd month). Still, I am still officially LATE! Not sure whether to test this Friday or next. Would be on day 31 this week, cycle 23-25 days normally, it just feels a bit risky emotionally. Give me your views...

A stat refresh - so many of us I hope we can all move on soon.

Parsley - 32, ttc #1 for 22 months, BFP 1st Oct ‘13, MMC Nov 15th ‘13
Otters - 32, ttc #1 for 22 months, BFP 26 Oct '13, MMC 25th Nov '13
Sal1977 - 36 21, TTC #1 18months, CP jul 12, BFP Jan13 MMC Mar13, BFP Jul 13 MC Aug 13, CP Nov 13.
Seasides - 27, TTC #1 for 16 months, BFP Dec 12, EP Dec 12.
JBrd - 42, 1 DS, ttc #2 for 18 months, MC Jan 2013, MC April 2013, MC Aug 2013
MissHobart – 33, ttc #1, cycle 12, 2 x mc last year (July '13 and Dec '13.) both at six weeks. Bloods being taken tomorrow!
deuscat - 30, ttc #1 for 5 months, BFP 5th December ended in mc at 7+4 on 25th December
triplespin - 35 - TTC#2 (3 months) MC at 5.3 wks - June 2013, nothing so far
Penguin13 - 33 (soon to be 34), TTC #1 for 7 months. BFP Sept 13. Mmc and ERPC Nov 13.
EnglishGirlAbroad - 29 (nearly 30...Sshh!) TTC #1, Cycle4, MC at 5+2 30 Dec '13
hollyben - 39, ttc #2 bfp 10th Aug cycle 2, erpc 11th Sept (9 weeks). Prior: ttc #1 bfp Jan ‘10 cycle 9, erpc mar ’10, bfp june ‘10 cycle 2, dd born mar 2011.
Fedupofrainydays - 32, ttc #2, bfp Dec 2012, mmc at 12 wks feb 2013, bfp nov 2013, mc dec 2013 at bout 6 weeks.
Just - 37, TTC#1 MMC 6 and a bit weeks after hb, ERPC, Nov 2011; MMC 6 and a bit weeks after hb, ERPC x2 and hysteroscopy for retained products then HRT to heal, May 2012; MMC 9-10 weeks, good scan at 9.1 wks (discovered at 13), ERPC, Turner Syndrom. Tests at St Mary's, Uterus op Oct 2013;
tannyLoo - 41, 2 DSs, age 14 and 2, TTC#3 for 15 months, MC @ 5+5 weeks in Dec 2012, MMC @ 11+4 weeks but measured 6 weeks in April 2013, MC @ 6+2 weeks in Oct 2013, MC @ 6+4 weeks in Dec 2013 (Blighted Ovum) Diagnosed in Jan 2014 with Super Fertility and taking Aspirin, Progesterone and tons of supplements. Also having acupuncture.
Sundance - 32, ttc#1 for 15 months. MC at 12+3, March 2013. MC at 11+5, October 2013. (Turner Syndrome)
Sizethree - 34, ttc #1 - 5 months to get bfp - 21 Sept 2013, mmc 11+5 weeks on 18 Nov 2013, 2 cycles since
Luckystar - ttc#1 bfp July 13 saw heartbeat in early scan but mmc at 10 weeks
DoctorDonnaNoble - TTC #1 MC December 2013 BFP October cycle 4. Had the op on 13th December. Baby stopped growing almost as it finished implantation but sac continued. Started again as soon as but AF came 17th January.
wingandtalon - 34, ttc #1 10 months BFP 16th June 2013 1st cycle MMC August 2013
misspositivity TTC#2 since Oct 2012. 1mmc 19 Feb 2013 1CP 18 May 2013 and nothing since
Funkymonk ttc #1 cycle 14. mc July 2013 5+2. mmc Dec 2013 8+2 but measuring 6+2.
Handsfullandlovingit, 32, DD4 DS2, ttc#3 for 1 year, mc at 5 weeks April 2012 (whoops but sad) mmc and erpc and retained products at 12weeks Oct 2013 baby measuring 9 weeks.

holly - chin up, tits out. A: No spotting = good spotting; b: if you do start spotting it's completely wank, but tomorrow's a new day, and next month is a fresh chance. And a , a moan and a cleaning cry are always allowed.

handsful test, test, test (on Friday)! It'll be hanging over you otherwise, and it's looking so positive. Any symptoms?

tanny I hope they can fit you in ASAP, as handsfull says a line means there's still hope.

handsfull I've promised myself not to POAS until it's fairly obvious that the witch isn't going to show, I've set myself at least 7 days. I can't take the disappointment of BFNs any more. But if I was 6 days overdue and it was a friday I don't think I would be able to help myself... So yes, POAS!

I shall talk it over with dh, he is a sensitive soul! I am curious though...

hollyben I missed your post, sorry you are feeling down in the dumps, have a hug and a until it is time for

Ah to POAS or not to POAS! It can all get a bit Schrödinger's cat can't it?

One of my main reasons for hating POAS is the whole 'tempting fate' thing. In my stupid brain, if I dare to feel optimistic enough to POAS then I will be immediately cursed with a bfn just to teach me a lesson for thinking I could have actually conceived.

You can't bloody win!

Oh FFS! I've just had a phonecall from my mum, granddad has been transferred to a hospice and isn't expected to last more than a few days. Not exactly a shock, he's got bladder cancer and it was only a matter of time, but right on top of my dad's death feels like a bit much. One day the universe is going to cut me a break. I'm feeling very unemotional about the news, I think I'm all cried out at the moment. Mum's asked me to write a letter that she can read to him while he's still here as there's no way I will be able to visit, I'm sure I'll start bawling when I sit down to do that.

Sorry for the downer, I just needed to vent.

oh wing so sorry to hear that. I have no words except to say vent away

Wing I'm so very sorry to hear about your grandad. I hope you are surrounded by people who can support you but we will always be here when you need to vent.

wing even though its not a surprise its still awfully sad. You have had enough on your plate. Good luck with the letter, it will be a tough thing to do. Life can surely only get better after this, surely?

Wing, I'm so sorry! Life can seem so incredibly unfair. Hope you're surrounded by lots of supportive people in real life. I can imagine writing the letter is going to be very difficult.
I hope you get some good news soon. x

Now the witch has arrived 6 days early. I'm going to go home and bury my head until the world goes away.

Having said that, I've just had a good look at it (like you do) and it's not like normal AF. There's no real cramping and it's more watery/pinkish. Could this be implantation bleed or am I just kidding myself? I'm about 10dpo.

IB is generally brown, I've read wing - but 10dpo would be spot on, so af is unlikely - is your luteal phase generally longer? Really hope that is the good news to counter the sad news of your granddad. The letter's a lovely idea, though it'll be terribly sad to write. Good luck with it x

Oh sorry, I've just read it's 6 days early, in which case IB is a good possibility, I'd say. Fingers tightly crossed for you.

Definitely AF. Balls! No idea what's going on with my cycle now

Oh no wing . What a shitty day you've had.

Wing sorry you're having a shitty day. I wish I'd written a letter to my granny when she was dying. It is a lovely idea, although the reality may be a bit daunting. Good luck!

wing oh what a day. So sorry you're being dealt crappy card after crappy card. We're all here for you when you need us. I prescribe a good balls to the wall, loud as you can manage, dehydrate yourself with tears wail. it does zero to help anything but it's good to just let yourself get all primal now and then. Thinking of you

wing what a horrible day. I really feel for you! I second the wailing, perhaps accompanied by punching your pillows/the mattress...

oh no Wing, so sorry to hear your double dose of sad news. Hope you have lots of people in rl to give you big hugs and we're all here for you to chat if need be.

HollyBen - hope you are feeling better too.