The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

[wingandtalon]

Thanks for all the thoughst ladies. I didn't have a good wail last night, instead I took my new horse and threw her over the highest jumps I dared to (I think we beat our personal best) which is a wonderful way of blowing cobwebs away. We were both knackered when we'd finished but I think it did me the world of good. I sat down and wrote the letter when I got home. It was actually a really healing thing to do as I wanted it to be a fairly cheerful 'this is where my life is at and this is how I remember you best' letter. It really made me think about what I do have. A wonderful husband who will do anything for me, a lovely house, a job that I love and find endlessly interesting, a horse who gives me a huge amount of joy and freedom, and two ferrets who never fail to make me laugh even when I'm feeling my bleakest. A child would be the icing on the cake, but writing that letter made me realise that I don't need it to be happy, I already am, and that is a very important realisation to come to. I think I can now move on with a much more positive outlook and hopefully with less desperation.

sundance 10lbs in a month is impressive!

Some of those exercise regimes are making me feel tired just reading them. I'm going to stick to making the horse do all the work!

[wingandtalon]

fedup I think I would leave it, but it's such a personal thing. It might give you a BFP, but how will you feel if you get a BFN? Is AF a better way for you to find out? I find AF to be easier to cope with than a BFN because if I POAS I have let myself believe that I am upduffed.

[EnglishGirlAbroad]

Fedup - I like to think I'd wait. In reality I think I'd want to wait until AF is 2 weeks late, as that would take me past the point of the mc. But I know that would never happen!

Wing - that's a really lovely and positive post. And one I think I will try to remember on days when I'm feeling down. Which recently have been few and far between. I'm glad you found writing the letter healing.
I've started writing a diary to put down all my feelings. Just so when I do get my sticky BFP it'll remind me of how far I've come and how much I've wanted it.

[Parsley2506]

wing wow, that's really lovely and very inspirational. My gran is not here any more but now I feel like writing her a letter to see if I can engender the same positive feelings, esp. as the start of shag week has already been postponed due to Mr P going home early from work with a dodgy tum. No toad in the hole for me!

fedup I think you should wait. It's still pretty early. You can break the Friday rule and POAS mid-week next week instead? I won't fishslap you!!

[OttersPocket]

wing What you write is lovely and is a big dose of posifrickentivity for us all And something for me to really reflect on. Thank you.

fedup I'll be 11dpo and will test in the morning. It's the birthday of a close friend tomorrow and I shall be having a cocktail or two when if I get the bfn. It's such a personal decision. But I feel better knowing AF is going to show rather than her turning up without warning iyswim?

[Sal1977]

Toad in the Hole. Fnar. New thread title addition at some point?

Ramping up here to start shag week in the next couple of days, romance took a nose dive last night after DH asked me if it was normal for a girl to fart so much. Oh.

I replied with a trump and a sideways glance. Classy.

[Handsfullandlovingit]

Sal chortle! Who said chivalry is dead?

wing thank you for the lovely post, you have given us all a little lift. I am already blessed in so many ways, but sadness can cloud that if you let it.

I am officially rechristening dtd toad in the hole, "tidh"? Much jollier. I am also very fond of energetic sleeping. Less so these days, snuggly jamas and a good book are much more appealing somehow.

I may or may not test tomorrow. About 5 days late maybe. 20 dpo. I can't decide. fedup in your shoes I'd wait. Be kind to yourself.

[champagnegoldfinch]

Bloody hell, I don't log on for a couple of days and there are bazillions of posts to catch up on!

Add me to the list please: champagnegoldfinch TTC#3 since Jan13; MMC at 11+4 Apr13. Trying again since Jul13, CD3 cycle 8.

wing sorry to hear about your Grandad. That letter sounds lovely and posifricitive.

To whoever asked about temping, sorry I can't remember who it was - a temperature drop a couple of days post-ovulation is pretty standard. It's called a fallback rise, I think.

I have let my VIP membership on Fertility Friend lapse this week, otherwise known as Desperate TTCers Taken For A Ride So I can no longer obsess over my charts. Definitely for the best.

Sorry for the early arrivals of The Red Tide of Doom. And keeping my fingers crossed for Tanny and Handsful

[champagnegoldfinch]

Oh, and I am 36 (nearly 37, eek!).

[Seasides]

Such a busy day!

wing - I really appreciated your post too, and I'm glad we're all in the lucky position, iyswim, to get what you mean. Lovely supportive DPs, good jobs (or at least jobs), and plenty to make us laugh - even if it is trumpy sal! Who I'm also glad isn't going to gaol, I don't think they tend to allow smep conjugal visits in there...

handsfull and fedup - I'm with otter. I like as much notice of the bitch's arrival as possible, that way I can have my glass of wine and mentally move on to next month as early as possible. It's partly why I've started temping again, though not sure how well that's going. Pretty sure I ov'd yesterday, no ewcm today, but temp only went up by 0.1 degree. Didn't sleep well, do that may have been it, or I think my thermometer might be dodgy (a bad ttc-er blames her tools!).

It's toad in the hole for me tonight anyway, just in case

[Parsley2506]

Yes to TITH!

sal show him this and he'll soon realise it's very normal Fart Facts For Sal

MrP is ill as only a man can be; lots of whinging and self-pity. After I chastised him for missing day #1 of shag week, he assured me he'd 'bang my brains out' tomorrow night. What a charmer! No wonder I fell for him with smooth lines like that.

Making the most of an extra night off with some nice red wine, my book and an early night

[Triplespin]

fedup I would test, and its a Friday!! If its a bfn you know it may be cuz it was too early.

wingso true, definitely worth appreciating what we have in life and take for granted.

sundance don't worry. I am sure you have managed to have enough goes at it. Might be worth DDT tonight if on,y for your peace of mind.

Has anyone had a hycosy done before? Mine is booked for next week, but I have just learnt that it s really painful. Is that true? I am getting nervous.

Good luck to poasers tomorrow. handsful can't blv you have not tested as yet!

[Justonemoretime]

tripple, do you mean hysteroscopy? I've had two under general and they are no more uncomfortable than an ERPC. They tend, if they are in there looking for 'issues', to go in ready to 'do any work that needs doing' as it was put to me when I had my septum removed. Good luck with it, anyway.

[Parsley2506]

Hey triple - I had a HyCoSy last June, it was no biggie at all. Bit of discomfort when they push the dye through and some mild cramping after but nothing a paracetamol and a hot water bottle and a massive bar of dairy milk couldn't sort.
Found it really interesting to see (at the time, now I am sick of seeing scans of my barren womb ) and the consultant was very friendly and happy to explain exactly what he was seeing.

I'd been ttc for 15 months by that point, they say you're more fertile after and I got my BFP 3 cycles later. Hmm, maybe I should try to go for another one!

[fedupofrainydays]

Yep am def going to wait, thanks girls. I don't actually want to know even with the minute chance I am pregnant, if I am pregnant - if that makes sense. Plus no sticks in the house!

I haven't got any drinking fests coming up so can wait it out til bitch rocks up. Normally I would hate waiting for her but at the mo I feel scared of bfns and bfps so staying away from sticks. If I ever get a bfp again am petrified of blood if it appears as I've only had it in pregnancy when it's been bad news. So for the first time in 15 months of ttc am going to wait til af!

[deuscat]

fedup I was going to say I would poas. But I think you're making the right choice for you at this time. Well done! I wish I had kind of resolve. Like Handsfull, too.

Wing your post is lovely and very inspirational. We all get so wrapped up in this ttc journey that we forget all the other happy and wonderful things in our lives.

Last week I slept badly cos I was so excited to poas. I will poas tomorrow but I'm not excited this time!

[fedupofrainydays]

Good luck to those POAS tomorrow. Hoping for continued run of last week.....

Normally, I totally would with you but actually not sure I could cope with seeing either bfp (for fear) and bfn (depressing) at the mo. Not sure sure what's happened but literally so scared of both scenarios so I can't win! Perhaps I need a glass of wine...whilst giggling about toad in the hole and banging brains out

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

Good luck POAS people - not me for a couple of weeks! We're struggling to DTD at the minute as DH has been on a 6pm-2am shift just as I hit my fertile period! Oh well, can only do what we can!

[Justonemoretime]

Good luck to poas-ers! Two weeks away foe me. Think I ov this weekend. knackered already!

[EnglishGirlAbroad]

Bfn for me! At only 7dpo I don't know what I was thinking! Haha! I knew it wouldn't be a BFP so don't feel let down. No more poas til next Friday, which will be d-day! Might not feel so positive about a bfn then!

[OttersPocket]

Well it's an expected bfn for me this morning. 12dpo and AF due Sunday. And I'm feeling very pre-menstrual. Hey-ho, tits out and onto Fertile February!

[deuscat]

BFN for me too. CD38 on my WTF post-mc cycle and no signs of AF either.

I need to muster up some posifrickentivity. I had a little sob after the bfn because I'm so frustrated with still being in limbo. I feel angry at my body

[OttersPocket]

and for you deus It's hard going isn't it. Allow yourself a moment of sadness and anger.

[Sal1977]

Oh ballbags! Any others having a life changing wee this morning?

Fedup - did you copy and paste my post from two weeks ago? Right there with you babe! Fear/gutted/relieved whether its a BFP or a BFN!

[Handsfullandlovingit]

English and otter I'm sorry for the bfns. Onwards and upwards, tits that is.

So dh and discussed it and we are waiting til next week. It does look good, but having lost one pregnancy at 5 weeks (i.e. 3 weeks post ovulation) I'd rather not know until next week, if we get that far. Next Friday I would be approx a month gone. So much less sad to get a late period than a v early loss. I am dying to know, but I think in this case, ignorance is relative bliss. I was up half the night debating whether to do a test! Tired, but working from home. Hurray! Happy Friday everybody.