The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

sal step away from the cotton buds! said totally hypocritically as I am poking around like mad myself at the moment. Not this literal moment, but you know what I mean

Welcome sarnie, embrace those emotions best you can. They don't make you a failure or a bad person. Glad your GP is assisting with some positive action for you but hopefully you won't need it.

minky I wasn't planning on marking the loss, but was inexplicably drawn to a beautiful handmade silver heart necklace at a craft fair before Xmas which I bought in memory of bean. Haven't told anyone else that's what it is for, it's just for me.

sun you gotta be on the ball to keep up round here! I HATE packing of all varieties so you have my total sympathy on that one. I usually start off neat and by the end am just flinging anything in to any box going which is obviously not at all the reason why we still have two unopened packing boxes in the loft 5 years after moving

CD29 and am getting those weird fanjo bubbles that usually immediately precede the arrival of AF.

Sal I am weeping here . Why oh why did I mention bloody cotton buds. I should have STFU.

Haaa Sal! Trout bazooka aimed at you...put the cotton bud down...slowly...get those hands where we can see them and leave the loo.

Hi sarnie, sorry you've had to join us. If you flick back a bit you'll see we're all with you on the not-being-big-fans-of-pregnant-ladies thing. Unless they're us, in which case we LOVE them!

Good luck with the packing sundance, an exciting chore. Lol at 'one of your BIL's spare houses', so casual like! Sorry it's pube infested though...less good.

Hello Fellow TITH champions, how are you all? Am I allowed to say I honestly miss you all... The banter, fish throwing and over-sharing... I still chuckle when I think about things like syringes and penis beakers.

But I'm pleased to say that I'm just popping in to share some news as requested that will hopefully keep up the posifrickintivity. After two weeks of incessant crotch watch I had a scan today and it's all in the right place and there was a little blob with a heart beat. I'm about 5 + 6 so a long long way to go but I cried with relief that there was at least something there. I had nightmares last night about it all being empty. Next scan is in two weeks unless any bad bleeding in between so hoping that flies by (well I can wish)

I hope you are doing well girls... Otters I see you got engaged - hurrah!!!
I'm going to be checking in on Fridays to see some more bfps... I've saved a few seats for you on the preggers threads and they are waiting to be filled by the lovelies on here - sal, parsley you def have bagsied yours.
Hi to the newbies too I'm a proper thread veteren - I starters on this thread back in march 2013, had another mc in dec 13 and on my 4 pregnancy now... And hopefully a grad for keeps.

Now feeling crampy and a bit sore down there... Hoping just from willy-cam prodding but starts the worrying... Lob me a trout please.

Make that 87. I can't stop!!!

Seriously, I don't think I'll have an AF this cycle as I'm swiping it before it hits the open air!!

Thats brilliant news fedup We have had lots of feeling down recently so thats great to hear.

sal step away from the cotton buds. The first step is admitting you have a problem. Repeat after me my name is sal and I have an addiction to swipe my fanjo with cotton buds. Keep saying it till you mean it

Excellent news fedup!

Otters Congratulations! The next best thing to a baby (I hope)!

Tea Sorry for the driving test. I, too, failed my first. I was 8mnths preggo and was in such a hurry to pee that I oversaw a stop sign. Muuuh!

Sal, sweetie, please stop prodding your honey pot! OMG. This is going to be my next obsession.

Sun Good luck with moving! I was going to move in 4 weeks but the administrator responsible for my flat is turning out to be a real bitch. But, I'm moving to my forever house! :-) So fuck her, anyway, right?

Minky I know I'm going to sound really crazy. Which I probably am. When I mc'd I couldn't for the life of my flush my little Tadpole down the loo. I couldn't. DP couldn't either. So I collected him and packed him in very safely and stored him in a disused freezer drawer. We are going to bury him under the big tree in front of our new house. In the sun. OMG. My EDD is coming Saturday and I was thinking I'm actually holding it together real well but now I'm crying and just feel so sad for my little babe.

Sorry. That caught me off-guard.

Yay fedup! I was literally just thinking about you this afternoon, so glad to hear things are progressing well and long may it continue! Thanks for bagsying some seats, hopefully we'll be there soon. Not feeling too confident this month but we shall see. Give my best to our other recent grads too if they migrated thread with you .

sal one way to save money on tampons eh?

tadpole have a hug and go easy on yourself this week.

Oh fed up I am totally delighted for you . I was lurking on the RM thread to see how you got on today and was whooping in the kitchen when it was good news. Gives us all a little hope.

Tadpole - huge hugs. I think your plans sound beautiful. What a perfect way to symbolise your hopes and dreams that were lost that day. Im sure it will give you a lot of comfort and if my mc had been similar I would have done the same. My sister lost her second pregnancy and also planted a tree . She went on to have her second son who will be two in April.

Sal you have forced me to have a rummage up there too and I think I might have found some fertile cm. Just incase I will be jumping on DP in the next hour or so.

sal. Lol. Just make sure you count them in and out. You don't want to be going for a dildo cam when preggers and them hoking out some stray buds!!!!

Hi newbies. Sorry you have to be here

fedup excellent news.

Well it turns out my bath is pregnant!!! This is how it happen.
Poas (fish slap) decided I just maybe could see a faint line so as dd was in the bath i decided to use bath water so I could have a comparison test ( do I sound mad yet??). Anyway second line is more visible for the baths test. So chuffed for her. Think mine is an Evap line. Third day of spotting so am sure AF will arrive tomorrow.

Two things - 1) the stupid cow who bullied me in secondary school has just had a baby ! UNFAIR.
2) Seeing as I turned 35 in my 2 month pregnancy that ended in MMC, I'm wondering when myself and DH should be thinking about going down the investigations route?

doctor. Crap news

I am just about to turn 36 and asked for referral. Was to go back at Xmas to arrange. Gp said a few months to get over mc an then after 6 months of good level of trying then will refer but will do bloods etc before that. Think every GP has different view.

Oh great, more NHS doing things differently in different places - I HATE that. Bring back a proper NATIONAL Health Service!
But thanks for the info

Oh yep. My GP said he would only refer me if we wanted to self fund IVF as we wouldn't qualify on the NHS.

At the time I was really just wanting confirmation that I was ovulating, two weeks later I fell pregnant so we know I am. So basically there is nothing my GP would offer me whereas other girls (with children) on my TTC thread were being offered all sorts of tests. I have a feeling that even if I have 3 mc in the trot he still won't be interested in investigating them

Hiya fedup, great news, so so pleased for you. But save me a seat too, it's coming up to my one year anniversary on this thread I think, which is rather depressing.

What's with all this cotton bud abuse? Leave them alone, you'll only dry yourselves out!

seasides, I see what you mean about my pretentious sounding b.i.l, haha, sounds like I married into a family of millionaires or something, sadly not.

donna, it's a tough call, but I think it's worth setting a target date, if you havent already. If anything, having tests booked in help you feel like you're being more proactive and there's usually such a long waiting list which gives you time to try naturally with the reassurance of extra help at the end if unsuccessful. You have to really nag at doctors though, it's so frustrating.

My gynae hospital appt is on Monday, after 4 months waiting time, so hopefully it won't be a total waste of time. Hoping they can at least shed light on my wtf cycles.

Has anyone had any luck with the cough medicine/ ewcm effect? If so, which stuff did you use and when do you start taking it?

Hello sarnie sorry to see you here, but this thread does really help keep you upbeat x

All those with shit GP's of might be worth trying another (even in the same surgery) there seems to be no continuity of care so another might be more sympathetic/on the ball x

I'm off on holiday tomorrow, all packed, loads if sanitry stuff just in case but no cotton buds ;) so got everything crossed for some BFP's on Friday for you ladies, not sure how much Internet access I'll have but I will try to get on as this thread is addictive xxx

I'm so glad everything is ticking along nicely for you Fedup!

AF finally decided to make a proper appearance. The bitch woke me up at 6.30 with some all mighty cramping! But I'm kind of glad she's here, feel like it's a spring clean for my fanjo!
I've also had a wiggle with a cotton bud.... Don't think I'll become addicted to that one

English, sorry the bitch has arrived but also I agree about it also being a relief. I am still hoping that I might ov in my WTF cycle but I'd be absolutely fine with AF too I just want something!!!!

Everyone just walk away from the buds lol

Tadpole sending you a big hug. I think your plan sounds lovely.

AF greeted me too this morning englishgirlabroad. To be honest I am glad of a clean slate too. First one after MC. Lots more cramps than usual so expecting a tidal wave. Ugh. Had planned on taking DD to a soft play thing this morning - in half term too - must be mad.

Fuck off witch! Sorry she got you english

CD30. If I prod my boobs just so, they're sore but not really. Cat is also all over me this morning, I don't have any sticks to pee on, maybe I should pee on her?

Girls, advice please.

Had a big glob of snot like cervical mucus this morning. I know it's not fertile as it's too thick , but is it a good sign do you think? Does anyone get cm like this leading up to ov? I know in the last cycles I had before I fell pregnant I was only getting proper EWCM before ov and actually not that much whereas in cycles whilst I was still breast feeding and not falling pregnant the cm was a lot like this

I've just taken a dose of cough medicine, any recs as to how much to take? I took a 15ml dose just now and on the bottle it says you can take 4x 10ml dose a day.

Thanks xx

Hi sebs, not sure about the globular (mmm) cm to be honest. I was taking Robitussin this cycle and took 3 x 10ml doses a day (which was recommended in the Toni Weschler 'bible' 'Taking control of your fertility'). Are you using opk's?

Parsley, I DARE you to poacat

Thanks otters. I will take that dose too then

Wish I could use opks but I am still showing positive on hpts so I can't