The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

tea sorry about the driving test. I failed first time too, and like Doctor I blame the horrid examiner, she was a total byatch. I do feel a bit bunged up so maybe it is an ear thing, it's gone now tho so will see what the opticians say. It was quite scary for a bit, I thought I was going blind!

sebs not really one for psychic-y stuff, don't believe in it. There's way too many people just preying on other peoples vulnerabilities, it's all about the £££ in my opinion!

sal you are ready for action now! Who will do the jabbing?

Spent this afternoon researching fertility clinics near us. So conflicted about it all - pre BFP we were pretty much resigned to getting medically assisted but now I've had a natural BFP I feel like on the one hand that we can get pg so should just relax and give it (even more) time but on the other hand it took 18 months to turn up and I lost it anyway, so perhaps we do still need help. Argh. Don't know what to do

Congrats otter! Our engagement was hilarious-I may have had a panic attack I was not cool! Got my freaking out out of the way all In one go though...we hired somewhere really low key in central Edinburgh for £300, it was lovely-can pm you the details if you're interested (aware that everyone will be getting their advice in though!)

That way madness lies I reckon sebs. I googled my horoscope a couple of times despite not believing in it in the slightest, and it could easily get addictive I think, and perhaps, as you say, give you false hope. On the other hand, fingers crossed it is coincidentally true!

Haven't booked hycosy yet-need to double check it won't influence eligibility for ivf should we need it. Have heard paying for fertility investigations can disqualify you, but not sure if that's still true. Will get it booked asap though.

P.s. sorry for the driving test tea, it sucks. Sounds really unfair too, not your fault :-(

Sorry about the driving test Tea! Big fat bugger! But you'll pass when you're a bit less stressed, don't worry! I totally fuked up my first test and only narrowly past the second!!

Don't really believe in psychics, although I did see one last year who said she could see a future abroad for me... And low and behold I'm now abroad. I've also been told by one I'll have 3 kids so here's hoping.

Brown cm has turned to red spotting, the witch is imminent. Expect her tomorrow. It does at least seem like my cycle has normalised. Got my cbfm to try this cycle and agnus castus, possibly some reflexology too. Here's to march ...

Aww Tea that sucks. I too failed my test first time round dues to a horrid instructor. I rebooked for a test two weeks later and passed then. Get back in that car

Thanks for all the congrats everyone. Seasides, I'd be great if you could pm me. I've got a low-key venue in mind so I wonder if it's the same place?!

According to SMEP logic DP and I should be having some tith tonight (3rd day after positive opk). I'm knackered though and really can't be bothered so we'll probably give it a miss. Interestingly, I read some research over the weekend which said that in 100% of examined cases, ovulation happened with 24 hours of the LH Peak. And that in cases where ovulation happened after 24 hours of the peak being detected, no pregnancy happened. So that's my excuse for no tith this evening! I can't bloody find the research now of course....

otters. Congrats that's amazing news. Wedding planning really helps taking your mind off TTC. Simple & quick is the way to go. We just counted up what our wedding in January cost and I think it would have covered at least 5 rounds of iVF.

tea sorry to hear about driving test. Took me 4 goes. V frustrating and expensive.
english sorry AF is poss on route.

So I am due on Wednesday and started spotting yesterday. Quite crampy so pretty sure I am out. Sigh. It is the anniversary of finding no heartbeat tomorrow. The rest of the week is anniversary of medical management. Can you believe I have been sad for a year. Maybe time for GP referral. He said he would refer me at Christmas but my friend is my gynae and she says she is happy to wait a few more months. She would like me to relax. Ha ha easier said than done.

A pesticide told me I would only have 1 child - a girl. So far correct.

I failed my driving test twice tea both because I was really nervous and messed up reversing round corners who actually does this in rl? second time I had done it perfectly on the EXACT corner in my lesson before. IMHO it makes for a better driver My bf passed first time and her driving scares me no end.

otters we should also be having SMEP 3rd past after positive OPK tith tonight. I similarly cannot be arsed.

Lol not a pesticide a psychic

There don't seem to be too many people who do pass first time. It's my fault, should've been more careful, just think I'm so annoyed as everything else went so well, and to be fair my examiner was a nice guy. Oh well, have to rebook and hope it goes okay next time x
Hope everyone has a nice day today, and any

*one racing commuters on foot wins :) x

:)

Grrrr....body fail. Just started spotting as well English. My temp is still high though so when I woke got a false sense if security. Bumhugs.

Oh Sal, you sure it couldn't be IB? Just checked back a couple of pages and couldn't see where you were in your cycle as to whether AF was imminent or not.

What id give right now to know what was happening in my body. I think absolutely nothing but I assume at some point it will realise I am no longer pregnant and do something.

I'm sorry Sal , when are our bodies just gonna get with the program!!
Kept saying to DH last night 'I just want to be pregnant, how fucking hard can it be'. There's pregnant people everywhere!! Bad mood today.

It seems laughable now the efforts we went to in the past to prevent pregnancy. It was as though we could fall pregnant at the drop of a hat, in my head I only had to look at a penis and I was going to be with child. Oh the irony.

Oh buttflaps Sal

Hycosy referral letter came through yday, need to get std tests and then it's 12 week waiting list apparently. Was all set to hi-tail down to London for private scan but think I can wait 3 months to save £300.

Loving all the autocorrect fails! Pesticide porn

Pm'ing you now otter let me know if you don't get it, not sure I've got a handle on it yet.

Oh crapbags Sal, stupid bloody bodies.

Didn't get you pm Seasides. you might need to give it another shot.

2DPO for me today and I got a ton of ewcm this morning - what the hell is this? Paranoid DP and I have missed the boat as didn't tith last night (despite me trying). Anyone else get lots of ewcm after ov?

Ignore me Seasides - just got your pm Thanks for the info - I'll check it out!

Going for a run I the hope the motion lures AF out properly.
Obviously I've been googling very light periods and have decided I have low estrogen! Light periods = poor lining = no chance in hell a bean will get comfy! Wallop with a trout needed!

Hi all, can I crash the party? I was on the early MC thread but that seems to have merged with this one/fallen off the active list.
I have a DD, 2yo, who is wonderful, but... I had an early MC back in Jul13, and didn't do a lot of DTD in the months afterwards, as I wasn't feeling up to it; so started trying in earnest back in Dec. I have had a short LP (10 days or so), with spotting during the last few days before AF, so have started investigations with my GP... tests so far have come back 'normal', but am awaiting ultrasound.

I am feeling a bit low at the mo and in need of a bit of support. The EDD of my MC is fast approaching (I would have been 36w this week I think), and it seems like everyone I distantly know via FB has had a baby in the last week or two (even people I haven't seen in yonks and didn't know were pg), and I am just so sad and jealous and yet disgusted at myself for feeling like that. DH just doesn't get it, as to him I don't think the baby was ever real.
So right now I am on CD21, 8dpo, waiting to see if I am going to spot, get AF or BFP in the next few days, knowing I have an US next month if it doesn't happen this month, so I should feel hopeful, but actually all I feel is a massive failure to have not been pregnant by now, and so envious of all the lovely newborns, but worse, also sad that my beautiful DD isn't enough for me.
Sorry, I know positivity is the name of the game here - think I need an injection of it!

Thank you ladies for the nice welcome. Need to get used to all the lingo on here.

Got a feeling my blob on way - since having my dd I get period pains in the backs of my legs and bum. Very weird. Had same pain when mc but the nurse at EPU looked at me like I was a nutter when I said - my legs ache! Be glad to get the wait over with if it is, but think it may be a blood bath so have decided to stay in and eat cake.

Talking of psychics - I have a good friend who describes herself as "spiritual" ( I think she is a mad hippy but love her to bits). She told me I was pregnant a week before I'd even got the bfp (which I did early). Shame she didn't tell me it wasn't going to be. I am usually a massive skeptic.

Did you do any to mark your loss? People keep suggesting a rose bush but I am worried I'll kill it

Hi minky, I didn't do anything like that as it was so early on, plus I was worried about a tree not surviving, or having to leave it behind if we move house etc.
You could get a charm if you like those bracelets, or maybe a particular piece of jewellery as a momento? I might do something like that to mark my EDD, as I think it will be a hard day for me.

Tried to convince hubby that a diamond encrusted eternity ring would be the best piece of jewellery (it's not going to go out of fashion!) - still waiting! And think will die waiting. Oh well

Something to mark the EDD sounds good - I am better at keeping busy - worked an extra shift yesterday instead of thinking about my 12w scan. Or have a tendency to neck huge quantities of vino. Not good when ttc! Hmm.

I know EXACTLY what you mean about babies and Facebook - I swear half my friends have pushed one out this last week!

Well, the sun is shining and there is a single snowdrop in my garden. Plus I have welcomed almond croissants into my life (wipes drool off chin) so today I am feeling positive. Can recommend sarnie if only a brief fix !

Hi all - blimey, been away for a few days break and boom! - about two hundred posts on here since I last checked in.

Massive congrats to Otter - what a lovely proposal, it nearly made me cry!! Wedding planning can be a lot of fun, though I'm glad Pinterest wasn't around when I got married otherwise I would have been overly obsessive about everything.

So no bfp's to report? Sorry girls, fx that it's just too early and we'll get another wave of successes soon.

Currently packing the house to move - we have to be out in 4 weeks.Shit. My brother in law is renting us one of his spare houses, which would have been a nice gesture if it wasn't a total dive. The previous tenants have recked it - I saw pubes in the bathroom - ewww. So now have to clean that house too as well as packing here. can't wait to find a house we can actually live in permanently.

Just want to say, I've poked approximately 86 cotton buds up my fanjo in the last 48hours.

With no lock on the bathroom door, I'm hoping DH doesn't come in to discover me looking like I'm going to curl one out on the bathroom floor. Just saying.