The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

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The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Awww and that's the best proposal story lol

I accidently saw the poem that OH had lifted from the web and sent to himself via email on Thursday night. The last line contained a marriage proposal. I of course think that he is going to propose on my birthday and Valentines day and think OMG OMG. Get to the day, open my card, to find the same porn but with the last line changed to read something different. I think my face probably said it all.

Omg porn lol.

Classic typo and gawd knows what kind of stuff I write on here if that's what my phone considers a preferable auto correct

Ahhh otters that's lovely! Poor old Mr Otters when you laughed it off initially, he must have been stumped! Wedding planning is a lot of fun, definitely more enjoyable than ttc!

sebs what a good typo! Haha! I lost count of the number of times I thought MrP was about to propose - took him nearly 6 bloody years!

Sebs! I just snorted tea all over my laptop!

It will be a very cheap small wedding. And I always said I didn't want to be a pregnant bride so I could drink ALL the champagne . So the dilemma is whether to wait possibly forever years until after we have a baby, or to take the plunge and risk being a preggo bride...

I have decided to spend the day ring shopping online. My work must really love me

That's a lovely story otters! I don't think a proposal has to be if and grand, it's personal to the couple! That sounds perfect! I loved planning our wedding, perfect way to take your mind off TTC!

Definitely english, way too much emphasis on showy offness these days. MrP proposed while we were on a nice walk, and we had our wedding at a very pretty countryside village hall that cost the princely sum of £350 to hire for the weekend!

Oh I think get planning is the best idea. You know how AF really enjoys appearing two hours after you've bothered to go out and pay stupid money for an ultra early piss stick?

Well pregnancy works the same way. Give up on it and start planning something else and you sure as hell can guarantee you will get a positive in no time

To be honest, I don't think I could wait to start planning. I'm a planner and an excellent work procrastinator so this is right up my street! And yes, I'm hoping it'll bring on a bfp

Parsely your wedding sounds lovely. Ideally I'd like to do something similar and hire a quaint hall and have people bring a plate. Unfortunately in Edinburgh things are rather expensive and more corporate. I'll need to put my thinking cap on...

You ladies do make me laugh. Love the typo sebs

Congratulations otters bet dp was gutted on Friday! MR h proposed whilst we were in Paris and I was 5 months pg. I thought it was odd he kept suggesting places we really needed to go. Turns out he was trying to find the right place! Enjoy the planning. Lots of the smaller hotels in Edinburgh have good packages. We got married almost 3 years ago and only had immediate family during the day (17) then about 90 for a party at night. We did look at a few smaller places but they weren't big enough for evening. The Bonham (I think) at the West End was nice.

Almost into the tww. Just a couple of portions to tith post ov as per SMEP to go.

Otters - My DH proposed on a rainy day in Bath after the rugby by saying 'so, should we get married then?' Lovely.
Our wedding was really, low key. Church wedding (Catholic church so free) followed by a reception in our favourite pub! Food was very yummy and much cheaper than the other ways of arranging catering we looked into!

Otters... Get on Pinterest. Perfect to while away the hours and get inspired!! I spent many a happy hour pinning everything and anything!!

I had to wait 10 years for my proposal

Welcome minky Sorry you have found yourself here. It is a brilliant place for support and laughs. We didn't take any precautions post-MC but also didn't TTC with any real purpose either. You may well find that your cycle completely changes or it might be the same there is really no way of telling. I now get sore nipples around ov which last until AF I never had this before. I notice lots more too which I guess is because I spend a lot of time consulting dr google am more aware. You need to make sure you have had a bfn before you use OPKs as OPKs can give a false positive otherwise.

Yep Holly is right. I think after mc you are left sitting on your hands which really is the absolute worst as all you want to be doing is anything, be it charting, pissing on opks etc. instead it's weeks of crotch watch which is fucking depressing.

My hpts are just relentlessly faint positive which I suspect will stay that way until AF appears.

Congratulations Otters! What lovely news! Hope you enjoy planning and ring shopping

I didn't get a grand proposal either but that's not the point. The point is you're both committing to declaring and consolidating your relationship into a happy marriage.

I loved my wedding and have just received the photo album and wedding film which has allowed me to relive it again. Such happy memories.

Whoop whoop Otters lovely news!!

Do it quick! We did it about 4 months after getting engaged (was preggo when he proposed). Sadly was not preggo for the wedding but it was lovely and about £1500 all in. Perfect. I have friends who have spent between £18-20k and another was £40k+!! WTF?? That's a huge deposit on a house!! In fact they now moan they can't afford the house they want...suckers!!

Whoever recommended using cottons buds to poke around, I now have a twitchy cervix.

Picked up prescription for the heparin and a sharps box, I looked like a right crack whore carrying it back to the car!!

Oh hurrah otters what amazing news. Now you can take your mind of TTC and plan a wedding instead then you can be one of those people who get miraculously upduffed without even thinking about it and be 8 weeks preggers before even knowing about it. Congratulations!!!

Ummmm, how the hell do i check my cervix and actually WTF am i supposed to be looking/feeling for. Is it just a case of ramming a digit up there and checking if its 'open'?? No idea what that is supposed to feel like! And is the cotton buds just to check mucous??? is it safe to be waving a stick around in there?! I know it will just be another part of this TTC malarky that i will get obsessed with but the knowledge may come in handy at some stage.

Checking your cervix can be useful but only as part of the bigger picture and generally it will not tell you if you are pregnant sadly.

If you squat on the floor and insert a finger you will be able to feel your cervix. Around OV it will be higher and feel soft. Before AF it will be low and feel quite firm. I was able to tell I was definitely miscarrying by checking my cervix as it was low and dilated so there was no chance the contents of my womb wasn't falling out.

This is slightly complicated if you have already given birth as then your cervix is always slightly open or at least feels it!!

The cotton bud started with me checking for implantation bleeding mid cycle but then just became a bloody annoying habit. I wouldn't recommend it. Just check your pants or toilet tissue.

Oh congrats otters that's lovely! I agree with all the small and quick wedding advise lol, ours was smallish but because we were engaged for 15 months or have people lots of time to voice their opinion on how about wedding should be :/ gits.

Well failed my driving test this morning so beyond fucked off, 4 minors but 1 serious on a round about due to driver not turning right while indicating and me braking too late :( fucky fucky fuck fuck. Well to be honest I'm such a wreck at the mo I thought I'd do a lot worse (this is my think positive bit)

Crying loads at the moment, think I'm having a mini breakdown type crying, could my period be on the way? Or am I just actually having a break down?

Trout bazooka for one please.

parsley ment to say sometimes people can have problems with vision due to ear infections, happened to my mum and work colleague. Weird eyesight and then really dizzy/sick so might be worth looking into that if your eyesight test doesn't reveal a lot x

TeaRex - I failed my first test due to the examiner being so intimidatingly cold and awful I was a nervous wreck! (2 years ago now) The next time I had a lovely chap who put me much more at ease. Still won't drive with DH in the car though as he thinks it's funny to joke that I'm rubbish. He's such a bloke sometimes!
Due to my phone being nicked I'm currently without my tracking app so this month will be a lo-fi attempt at TTC.

TeaRex that sucks, I'm so sorry. I think when you are already feeling sad about something you just don't have the ability to shrug off other crappy events like you would if you were happy. I don't think you are in the midst of a break down no, I think you are, like most of us here, thoroughly pissed off and hoping life will cut us a break pretty soon and bring some nice news.

I have a weird question for you all. Have any of you consulted psychics in the quest for hope whilst TTC?

Thanks doctor and sebs
Never used a psychic, but I'm the sort of person who reads a horoscope and believes it if it's good and dismisses it if it bad, you do hear of some really crazy stories though where they've been spot on so who knows, i'd be curious to hear if people have had a good experience as well :) x

My inner scientist won't let me do things like that.

See I have been brought up with psychics as my Mum reads Tarot and has lots of these type of friends. In my experience they have been both uncannily accurate and absolute bullshite.

But, all of them (three) that I asked the TTC question to saw me conceiving around March/April this year with one giving a wider margin of March - July. All of them saying a boy and not one of then seeing a pregnancy in January although the last psychic I asked did ask me if if had a miscarriage (at that point i hadn't).

I'm really scared I am holding these people at their word and if March and April pass me by with no pos hpt I'm going to be devastated all over again. It's worrying me and I wish I had never asked any of them.