The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Seasides - not really - throwing myself into crazy races is my coping strategy. Every month I hope I'm going to have to contact the race organisers and say can I defer as I'm pregnant. Not happened yet :(

Had a tiny bit of funny coloured CM today (cos I know you all wanted to hear that). My fucked up bit of the brain says IB. My normal brain says AF is on her way. 11 dpo here, so either could be possible!

Bollocks.

I'm in the crazy camp too sal. Just checked my cervix... Lovely and high and tightly closed. Must be pg!! Ha! Someone aim the semi automatic trout gun at me!

Ok seriously, this is for you cervix checkers - how the hell do you tell the difference? I've had a rummage from time to time but as far as my fingers can discern it always feels like a meaty little nubbin. How have you trained yourselves to spot the difference? Am I just not rummaging often enough?

Spent a happy afternoon with my BFF and her gorgeous 4 week old. Really really really want my own one now please.

I've become weirdly obsessed with checking it... So have kind of figured out when it's low or high.
Saw an article online one knuckle in is low, 2 medium and 3 is high - gives you a rough idea. Thinks it's a case of practise makes perfect!

Glad you enjoyed your cuddles... But I'm sure it makes your desire for your own even stronger. Even when I see strangers babies I go all mushy!!

One knuckle deep in the ol' fanjolina? I don't think mine's ever been that low! Have I got a bucket flowerpot?

To be fair it would have to be practically hanging out if was that low!!

Hey everyone. Hope you had a fab valentines xxx

I have been very quiet trying to distract myself in 2ww. Looks like a few of us willing be poas on Friday or before

I am 7dpo and cramps twinges very sore boobs. I have a 10 day luteal phase so either AF is on its way.

sal have you thought of doing my tampon trick and seeing what else is up there????

I am terrible for waggling a cotton bud up there and seeing what I can find . It's a terrible habit and one I wish I hadn't started to be honest.

seb I am glad I am not alone. Though think a cotton bud would be cheaper then a tampon so might switch. Might have to tie two cotton buds together.

Things aren't great with me. Keep bursting into tears and haven't left the house all weekend. Felt like a mope DH wants me to stop putting myself under so much pressure. Oh well just have to get one with it. Am sure AF is on its way just wish it would hurry up so I could start again.

Hello,
New to mumsnet (apart from a peek at that hysterical penis beaker thread that a mate told me about!) but found myself on here for last few weeks just lurking and laughing and/or crying at your threads!

I am in similar boat - had mc at 8+6 on 25th jan - was lucky to get pregnant on first cycle, had a scan at 6 weeks (pain ?ectopic) and all well, saw heartbeat, but then bled (not loads) but scan confirmed incomplete mc. Bled for 7 days then stopped. Had a f/u scan a week ago and poss still a little bit there. Advised medical or expectant management is ok. No need for ERCP.

Now waiting for AF - told it could be heavy in view of above. Just eager to get on with things. Have people waited until after their next period to ttc? We have dtd a few times but no idea if I have ovulated. (Can usually tell). Is that a bad idea if still "incomplete". Finally had neg preg tests. Can you use the ovulation kits immediately post mc?

Would have been my 12wk scan tomorrow. Wishing we were back where we were a few weeks ago - full of plans and names and hopes. Not sure I have much patience and I have a tendency to get a bit obsessive so not sure whether to start with the counting and ov kits etc or whether to chill and drink wine and shag a lot!!

Anyways waffling now. Hello, hope I can join the party

Minks xx

Hi minks,
Sorry you've found yourself here. It's thoroughly crap. I hope you have lots of support at home and are looking after yourself.
I would just do what feels right for you. Some women ovulate very soon after the bleeding, I personally don't think I ovulated in that first cycle.
I hope your stay with us is a short one.

I'm 12 dpo now and after my slightly excited rant about my cervix I know getting very AF like cramps and (tmi warning) browny cm when I'm prodding around up there. Think the witch is on her way

Hi minks so sorry you're joining the gang but glad you found us.
I didn't really pay much attention to my WTF cycle as I was still getting my head around the loss. We did attempt to start ttc mid cycle but stopped as I couldn't get through it without bursting in to tears (poor MrP, lucky I didn't give him performance anxiety!).
My GP and the midwife at EPU both said it's better to wait for one period, but then both also said that's only to help them with dating. It's therefore really up to you and what feels right.

CD27 here. The witch is almost certainly on the horizon, the only symptoms I have are feeling hot over night, spots and grumpiness. No boob soreness or anything remotely pg related.

I've not seen any of my RL friends bar my BFF since before Christmas. I have genuinely turned in to a hermit.

Hiya Minks, so sorry you are here but just get posting as everyone is so lovely xxx

I don't want to see anyone either. I'm avoiding quite a few places and an awful lot of people. Most of them know what has happened through text or messaging but I still don't want to see them and deal with the elephant in the room. Crazy.

Well I think this WTF cycle may see my period arrive first as I really have nothing tangible going on down there. The only thing I am now noticing is slightly sore boobs. I thought I was coping quite well but the reality is I'm not. I keep crying at the drop of a hat and the first thing I think about when I wake up is the mc. It's miserable.

Hoping that once I get start chatting OV again I may start feeling more in control.

Missp I hope you're feeling better today. Sorry to hear you've been feeling so low.

Welcome minks. sorry for your loss, but hopefully you'll find support with us here. We started trying again straight away but no joy. Onto cycle 2 now. I'd say take the pressure off yourselves if you can and just see what happens. I drove myself insane in my first cycle post mc cos there were a lot of fake pregnancy symptoms which really got my hopes up and messed with my head. I'm obsessive too!

Sebs I'm sorry you're having a tough time at the moment. It's really such an awful thing to go through but for me I am noticing my sad days are getting fewer and fewer over time. But I'll never forget our little life we lost. You'll get there.

It's a new week people, time for positivity. DH has for once managed to time being poorly with AF so hopefully he'll be good to go in a few days ;) I'm off to punch things in about half an hour (always good) and on Thursday I'm off to see my old best chum from school and her little baby boy. I will not cry (until I get home) and I will NOT drink any wine (might have a beer to reward myself for getting through it). It will be fine.
It's half term - everything's awesome (not trying to convince myself at all!).

Welcome Minky sorry you lost your baby. It's shit!!

Be prepared to have shocking days but post on here (we love gruesome details about the physical side - sick lot we are), but you'll have good days and piss yourself laughing at some of the shite we talk about!! It'll help get you through!

Had to see the GP this morning about our letter from the consultant. He was sooo lovely! Gave me a prescription for the Heparin so I can start taking it as soon as I get upduffed and said he's happy for my MW friend to show me how to use it, so feeling better about that side of things!

English we're date twins at the moment. 12dpo here as well and I think AF may be on the way to visit as I had a tiny bit of funny coloured CM yesterday. Fucksticks. Did textbook smeping this month so feeling a bit gutted about it.

Oh well, onwards and upwards. In some ways as time goes on it does get easier to cope with but on dark days its worse. If you know what I mean.

I think I'm probably the longest standing member here joining in April last year....?

Fingers crossed both of us have a happy result Sal despite icky coloured cm!!
Fuck off witch, you're not welcome!!

IKWYM sal - although with me I think it's because it's all starting to feel a bit pointless, and I'm more and more convinced my other tube's blocked and we're just humping away for nothin'. Here since around then too - March maybe? Forreeeeevvvveer and a day, anyway.

Hi minks - I'm sure you'll be leaving us again very soon, but glad to have you until then

Hi everyone, welcome Minky. We're a lovely bunch so get posting and join in the fun

Well I've had an eventful few days! Do you remember that I bought a brand new baby-unfriendly shiny car? Well, that lovely 8 day old car is now in the garage in the sky. It was parked on the street outside my work on Friday and a silly bastard person who was texting whilst driving ploughed into it and wrote it off . I should hear back from my insurers today to see what happens now. I might have cried a little bit

TTC wise, DP and I put in an excellent tith effort this weekend. I got my smiley opk on Sat and we manged tith twice on Sat and twice on Sun So it's the tww now for me - urgh.

Oh, and DP also proposed so he'll one day post baby be my DH

Argh god I've become one of the PO on here and have just got really pissy with someone who chose to use AIBU as a place to light heartedly discuss terminating her pregnancy.

I used to be totally pro-choice, but of course now I'm in the situation I'm in I've decided to act like a fucking fruit loop over something that is NOTHING to do with me.

Trout gun obviously.

Ahhh otters your poor car! I'd have been fuming!! Well done in your tith efforts and MASSIVE congratulations on the engagement!!

otters woooooooo! Congratulations! How did it go down? Love a good proposal story! Sorry about your car tho, I hope the idiot that crashed into it is being charged with something - texting and driving, what a fucking knob! What if you'd been in there? Twat!

seasides remind me when your HyCoSy is? Hopefully that will put those fears to rest. I am on the hunt for other tests I can obsess over try to get our GP on board with. Can't help but feel like if it took 18 months to get one failed pregnancy we need to be 'doing' more. But I am also totally fed up of thinking about this shit all the fucking time!

sebs not an unreasonable way to feel at all given what you've been through but it's healthiest to stay away from trigger threads like that. Nothing good ever comes from reading them! Come and rant at us lot instead

My vision went totally weird this morning. I couldn't focus on words in front of my face, like there was a sort of blind spot wherever I tried to focus, and I had a fuzzy wuzzy wavy line around the edges of my vision. Don't worry, I've booked an eye test but not before googling to see if it's a pg symptom. Of course it bloody is, I think anything and everything can be a symptom, "blurry vision early pregnancy symptom", "pins and needles early pregnancy symptom", "itchy bum early pregnancy symptom" - I think that basically I just need to step away from Dr Google.

Thanks

The proposal was certainly not the most romantic ever! DP and I had a lovely evening eating dinner and drinking lots of wine on Friday night. DP suggested that we get married and me, being a bit of a dunce sometimes, brushed it off as general chit chat. I may have said something about a proposal on Valentine's Day being a bit tacky! I think DP was a bit

We spent Saturday and Sunday doing DIY and all day he was a bit 'funny'. So in bed last night he turns to me and says, Otters, you do release that on Friday I was being serious and it was my, admittedly rubbish, way of proposing to you? So I made him get out of bed and do it properly . And that was that We're going to keep it to ourselves for a week, go ring shopping on our very limited budget, and tell people next weekend. To be fair, it was very 'us', we're not into massive declarations of undying love for one another. But we're very happy and secure so we're both chuffed to bits!

Omg otters HUGE congratulations. That's so fantastic and what better way to take your mind off TTC than planning a fabulous wedding. Eeek . Fingers crossed for your 2ww, sounds like you timed TITH just right.