The hot new TTC after MC thread - all welcome, bring a fish and all the posifrickentivity you can muster! Prepare to overshare.

[Seasides]

The Rules...

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Thanks over....given that there's no bleeding at all I'm fairly confident from everyone's advice it can't be ectopic, which is a relief. Thanks ladies :)

Re: ovulating, I'm just using ic sticks for both opk and pg tests. I got a faint but positive opk a couple of weeks back on an evening, and it was faint again the next day in the afternoon so I presumed id caught the tail ends - DTD on both nights but not after that as I was ill, so I guess I could have ov'd a bit later but I'm still 14 days past that faint pos with no af and no positive pg test!

I don't temp, I'd be rubbish at being so organised.

Ladies I am feeling especially proud of myself, managed to get from breakfast time to bedtime without thinking about babies, miscarriages or symptom spotting! If only jury service was a full time job, actually, maybe not. Anyway, yay me!

sal left nipple has to be a sign. We're such a bunch of weird body prodders and pokers. One day MrP will catch me nipple jabbing/tweaking while simultaneously knicker checking and cart me off to the loonie bin.

Haha!

My BF has announced she's coming off the pill to start trying after she gets married (only been with the guy 6 months) in November.

Is it mental that I feel terrible and anxious already??

sal, completely get you on the bf thing. My bf got pg over Xmas which made things a little awkward to begin with, especially as she was scared to tell me.

It's weird, other than gay friends, there are literally no more couples left that we are friends with that don't have a baby or are pg. I found myself competing and 'racing' with lots of others who hadn't been together very long. I lost each race, and I'd say it's one if the hardest parts of this ttc malarkey. On the plus side, there's no one left to compete with,not that you should anyway but I couldn't help but compare.

It's really shallow but DH and I comforted ourselves in the knowledge that when we do eventually have a baby, ours will get more presents and attention because people will have felt sorry for us knowing our troubles ttc! It's all about the gifts! Haha

Hello everyone, I can't believe I've missed so much! Well, I can actually because this thread moves like the clappers!

otter, penguin and parsley - I feel your pain with the pregnant sister-in-law. I had two. I now have one and a lovely little DN. You just have to plaster that smile on and cry when everyone has gone. It does get easier. It's just getting past that initial punch of the announcement, I think.

I also get the due date significance, triple. Mine was back in October . Three months on and still no luck. A friend actually had her baby on 'my' due date. And I see her often at school pick up - like a real-life reminder of the baby that never was. Oh well. Chin up, tits out.

I ovulated yesterday on CD15, I think. So the Shagathon is over for another month hooray I didn't seem to have much EWCF this month, mainly on CD12 /13 which was a little worrying. So in order of importance. my worries this cycle are:

1. Lack of EWCF. Only used Preseed once and ran out of cough mixture last month and didn't buy any more. Silly me.

1. Period was light and only lasted 3/4 days this time. It is usually heavier and goes on for 5/6 days. So perhaps I am broken.

1. I have been taking a multivitamin containing Vitamin A. Apparently this is Bad.

Feeling the need for midweek

Hope you are okay Sundance Being in limbo can't be much fun. Perhaps you were gearing up to ovulate 2 weeks ago when you got the +ve tests, but then didn't, and actually ovulated a little while later? I used to do that if things were particularly stressful, then ovulate later when I chilled a bit (when I fell pregnant with the MMC, I ovulated on CD30).

Good morning everyone!!!

I've not been here for the past couple of days as I've been distracting myself with kitchen planning. Thanks for all the positive stories about Ikea kitchens - that's what we've decided to go for. I'm ridiculously excited about all the 'things' they have to organise drawers, cupboards etc We need to smash up the old kitchen, including wall tiles and floor tiles, I'm rather looking forward to it.

Parsley, they should get ttc'ers on jury duty all the time. I'm always grateful for a distraction from the mentaling.

Sundance and Sal I feel the same about our friends, everyone is upduffed or has kids and DP and I have been trying longer than most of them My bf is also about to come off the pill and start trying and I too feel awful about it already. It's a weird and shit bunch of emotions that accompany ttc especially after mc.

CD9 for me today and smeping started last night. I'm just back from acupuncture, I'm swilling the Robitussin and the opks are at the ready. Bring it on

Gah! It's shit isn't it? Worrying about something that hasn't even happened yet!! I fear I was a tad harsh as well saying I had adult acne for a year when I came off the pill...she's getting married in 9 months...I don't normally let the botch out of me in public, but I couldn't help it!

She even said she knew I'd react like that and it's not a competition and she hopes with all her heart I get pg soon but she has to get on with her life. Very true.

BUT WHY CAN'T EVERYONE ELSE WAIT FOR ME TO HAVE MY TURN FIRST!!!!

Bad times today.

Oh but it is a competition isn't it? I think we can't really help those feelings, just do what we can to keep a lid on the insanity. As your friend says, our own tragic circumstances can't stop other people getting on with their lives, much as we might irrationally wish!
I find myself thinking every time a pg is announced that the couple in question have 'stolen' our own opportunity and that means we definitely won't get pregnant that cycle because obviously only one baby per friend group per cycle is allowed right? Totally cuckoo!

Wow! So hard to keep up! Everything is moving at great leaps!

Triple - it was you who's got the same cycle! Think I'm out as opk's very def negative for the last 2 days! Not too bothered to be fair as we just TITH'd for fun and it was great! Hope you're a bit more successful!

I am sending good thoughts and consolations to everyone who needs them! Hard to give individual responses from my phone as can't flip over to see who I need to be talking to!

No sign of AF symptoms yet but not due until 14th so very much wait and see at the moment. Have sticks ready to pee on though

Parsley - yes it is a competition, for the million years we've been best friends I've always been the ugly duckling/third wheel, but whilst I didn't get much attention I did get the proper relationship long before either of them. My position was always the settled one who'd marry and have babies first and be in a position to advise/be useful when it was their turn. I've been overtaken so now feel like I have no role at all

I'm really badly losing my competition... Everyone else is miles ahead. But I've kind of accepted it as they're running 100m whereas I've been conned into a marathon. My prize will be greater than theirs!

MissH I bet your friends wouldn't describe you that way, try not to be too hard on yourself. This whole shit show is hard enough without us getting down on ourselves too. I know you're not one for platitudes, so chin up and get those tits out (errrr, you know what I mean).

I like english's analogy. Everyone bloody loves Mo Farah!

Yep, I'm Eddie the TTC Eagle also, though I'm fortunate that hardly any of my BFs are there yet. The ones who are are all knocked up or mums now though, I'll get lapped soon.

The crimson wave broke this morning. Already mentallymoved on, just glad to be able to drink again and looking forward to having a chilled out mini break. Determined to avoid thinking about ttc as much as poss, though hoping wherever we''re going isn't chock full of valentine's couples with bumps. Just spent the evening with friend with 6 month bump, it's rough.

Evening all, I know what you mean about having friends who are preggers. My DH says it's isn't a competition but it so is and I am def losing the race. My bf is about to go public with her new pregnancy and I'm dreading all the cooing and fuss she will get even tho I love her to pieces and am over the moon for her...I just want it to be me! I have two other close friends who are PG and my SIL ;who is 10yrs younger than me is about to drop. Worst thing is I have a friend if a friend who has ME, endometriosis and is quite over weight but she is TTC- apparently her and her DP have DTD about 50 times in the past fortnight I feel awful but if she gets pg before me I will shoot myself in the face. It's the last person I may have a chance of beating!!! God I hate myself sometimes!

Thanks Parsley - I knew they don't, but I saw it and was really happy with my role, it's been list and I can't bitch about it with them as they don't understand! That's why I'm on here!

baxter I understand those feelings, but I am only giving you permission to shoot yourself in the face if it's with a semi-automatic trout gun.

seasides hopefully your BFP is just around the corner, so you won't have to deal with too much 'competition'

MissH yep, that is exactly what we're here for - any and every off colour, outrageous and unpleasant thought/feeling is welcome here with no judgement but plenty of fish slappage. Let it all out ladies!

Haha baxter, that made me laugh out loud! I think we all hope we get pg before that friend of yours - though 50 attempts is pretty impressive, i consider myself to have done a good try after 8!

Woke up teary this morning, still no af! I cheated and took another pg test just to rule it out, af is over a week late now so it should show up. Was going to book an appt with the gp but realised I'm bloated, feeling shit and the cramps are back with vigour this morning so the witch must, must, must be imminent. Also, on paper it's just a really long cycle but not abnormal, tho long for me, I'd be pissed off taking time off work to be told to wait a few more days.

My cycles are so messed up, luckily I have a gynae appt at the hospital a week on Monday, where they will hopefully diagnose me with something, give me medication to fix it, and the I will get of straight away.....right?

Apparently this couple wont even leave the house anymore because its wasted TITH time. Where do they find the energy? Im sure after all those times he will just be shooting sugar water up her fanny. And dont worry, if they announce a PG I will use a trout gun for sure. Just need to get me one of those...would be useful to have about the place and quite fun to shoot I imagine!

sundance sorry to hear you are feeling shitty(er) today. Its unbelievable how much a MC can effect what is normal for us. I hope you get some answers soon. Have some

Sheesh, one busy day at work and I'm lost!

Sorry you're still stuck in limbo land Sundance. I think one of the hardest parts of this whole ordeal is the not knowing what is going on and feeling like you can't rely on your body to do what it should. The good news is that you have an appointment soon so I hope you get some answers from that.

Oh baxter, you have cheered me up with your violent shooting humour

My temperature plummeted today 3DPO and my heart sank because I thought I'd got ovulation wrong and we'd have to do the deed tonight. Isn't that terrible?! But it is just a fallback rise thingy again and I did ovulate on Sunday as I thought. Hoorah!

MissH, what is this 'TITH for fun' of which you speak?

sundance sorry you're feeling down in the dumps, hopefully your gyane will give yo some answers. Why can't our bodies just get with the program!!!

PMSL Baxter - sugar water

Champagne TITH is 'toad in the hole' aka bonking See upthread for an explanation!!

Girls, I'm with you on the losing the race thing. I've just had a wee cry at my desk today - a friend has just posted her birth announcement and photo of her new tiny DD on FUCKING FUCKING Facebook and it just made me feel so very sad

Anyway, I'm glad we have this space to vent, I'm feeling like a moody old barren bitch today.

I just cried reading that Jade Jagger is 6 months pregnant with her third? Forth? at 42. I think I mced because my eggs are old and faulty now do it gave me hope.