Old birds wanna join the coop???

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

[Katnisscupcake]

Of course I means no help!!! Not no hope...

[purplemurple1]

I'd get him to come up esp if you're still away next month as well.

[purplemurple1]

Hi willow I'm doing ok thanks, are you managing to rest?

[Lagoonablue]

Just dropping in to give you hope ladies. I had DD 1 at 43 and DS at 47! No fertility treatment just lots of planned DTD, temping, charting and OV sticks. DD1 took 3 months and DS1 took 12 months.

It can be done, don't give up or get despondent. Good luck.

[Sparrowlegs248]

Thats good to hear Lagoon and lovely to hear sucess stories!!

gingerbread can you not stay over at the hotel with hubby and manage an evening and morning dtd? Fab that he's happy to make the trip!! I would definitely give it a shot if you can and good luck.

I am wondering what to do now. Just make more effort with dtd more frequently, try opks or just get a clear blue fertility moniter. Or go to GP as i will be on cycle 10 this time. Hmm.

Do you all use opks?

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Thanks ladies, lagoona, thank you, I love hearing success stories!

Think we're (mental?!?) gonna go for it, the train is a good option (cheaper & less hassle) and yes I can stay out overnight so would keep us in the running this month. God! The lengths we go to!!

notta, I use opk's or the clear blue fertility monitor. It's brilliant for letting you know when ov is imminent so you can concentrate your efforts. Lets be honest, who can be arsed dtd every other night every month!

[stubbornstains]

Hello....(tiptoes in nervously)
I've been on MN for years, and if I'd ever thought I'd find myself on the TTC threads...! 4 years ago all my woes were about the problems of having a baby on my own, after having conceived, pretty flukeishly, during a brief fling. In fact, over the years, I've accidentally got PG several times while using contraception, so have always been convinced that I'm some kind of Goddess of Fertility.

Now, finally, I have met Mr Right. And we've been trying for a couple of months. And nothing's happened. And he's 46, and I'm going to be 40 in three weeks. And I'm freaking right out....

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Hi stubborn, don't be nervous, we're a good bunch and all in the same position of ttc. It's just our circumstances that vary.

Try not to freak ( i know! i know! It's very difficult not to) however a couple of months is really early days. Sure given your fertility goddess status everything will be fine. You've done it before so it will happen again

[purplemurple1]

I use opks initially because I travelled a lot for work but as it turned out I wasn't ovulating at all it was good to find that out early. Now it's good to know if my tablets are working. It's worth a check to understand your cycle I think.

[Katnisscupcake]

I second what the others have said about opks. I buy the cheap ones on ebay. 30 opks and 5 hpts for just over £3, with free postage.

[PaulaFletch14]

Hi stubborn

I'm 40 in six months and my DP is 44, had a silent miscarriage in December and so scared that was my only chance . TTC again but my heart isn't really in it I want the baby I lost. But given my age no time to waste.

Glad there are older ladies out there as I was beginning to think I was alone.

[Sparrowlegs248]

Might have to order some opks then - any particular recommendations?

[purplemurple1]

It's cheapies of Amazon for me.

[purplemurple1]

Are you officially on the 2ww now ginger?

Hows everyone else doing?

I'm living vicariously until I can get back in the game.

[Gingerbreadlady1]

I am purple although not feeling very confident this month, not sure if we missed our window despite Herculean effort. And it's been a bfn every other month when we've shagged like rabbits at the right time! Positive opk wed at 2pm, neg that night & it was Thursday night before we got together to dtd. Thinking it may have been too late.

How's everyone getting on? Very quiet on here. Or has everyone just got a way better social life than me?

[Katnisscupcake]

Hello all,

Mad busy week!! Well we managed to dtd on Tuesday and Thursday and haven't had the positive opk yet, will be testing shortly. So dtd tonight, tomorrow and then Monday depending on when I get a positive. Normally ov on CD15 but already cd14 and other than a bit of ewcm today, no signs so far... odd...

How is everyone doing?? So did dh travel to you ginger? Hopefully you made it in time!!

Been a busy day today, out to the shops with dd, then lunch at my sister's new restaurant followed by dd's horse-riding lesson and then home, just feels like a long day. I don't feel too bad though because I stood and ironed for over 2 hours last night - yuck!! Hope everyone is ok.

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Wow, you are having a busy day, impressive!

He did katniss but not sure if it was too late.

[purplemurple1]

Such a lazy week - and tonight I'm having rare steak and nice wine as my "I'm not pregnant" treat.

Got to try to catch up with work next week esp as I'm self employed so no work - no pay. Clients really nice though so bo issue with me being off for a few days just shocked as it never happens normally.

[Gingerbreadlady1]

You sound like you're doing really well purple. Enjoy that steak & wine, I'm off for dinner in an hour, think i also have a large glass of red wine, mmmm

[Katnisscupcake]

Ahhh I should take a leaf about of your book purple and have some wine!! I haven't had a drink since Xmas day because I started slimming world in January, but I definitely won't be able to have one when I get pg, so I should do it now!! The steak sounds nice too... may have to get some tomorrow when I go shopping. Asda do nice steaks... yum yum

Ginger, where are you going for dinner? Somewhere nice?? X

[Gingerbreadlady1]

I just had amazzzzzzing dinner, feel a bit sick I'm so full . I had a large vino as discussed (& sticky toffee pudding), I've been at weightwatchers but just cancelled my subscription as I seem to have convinced myself that somehow just paying the subscription with no other effort is enough too loose weight. Denial!

Steak is lean protein (fillet) so ok on diet

[Katnisscupcake]

Evening all,

Well I have no idea what's going on but I'm cd15 and still no positive opk, first time since I've been using opks... it's weird but I had some odd pains on about cd8 so I'm really hoping that I didn't have some freakishly early ov this month. I guess I may not ov this month, for the first time, but I guess we''ll see. How is everyone else getting on?

[Gingerbreadlady1]

You may still ov & just be a day or so late, extra stress at mo?

[Katnisscupcake]

Not necessarily stressed, but I was quite poorly last weekend and taking loads of painkillers, so I guess that could have delayed it... Didn't think of that, thanks Ginger!!

[purplemurple1]

Steak is def OK on a diet, not so sure about all the butter that OH cooks it in, it is nice though! I should really try to get back to cal counting of some sort now I'm back at work FT and not carting the kid everyhere with me I am noticing my clothes getting a little tighter.

fingers crossed kat that your just running a little late this month.

hi stubborn I'd had two accidental pg yrs ago with ExOH and was convinced it must be new OH when we struggeled esp as he had had probs with an ex before. Turned out to be me (and her I assume), but it was fairly simple to fix so even if things have changed it doens't mean the worse.

hi paula sorry to hear about your loss, its early days to be back to it, but I guess we're all in the same boat here! Are you temp charting, OPK etc or just seeing how it goes?