Old birds wanna join the coop???

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

how's your day been? mine started too early (4.15) but it did mean I got quite a few works hours in which is good as I'm working from home this week 3.5 days but need to fit it into 3 days at the most. I work as a consultant so travel a bit for work but balance it with being able to work from home a bit which is nice.

Is it too early in the week for wine?

I always make plans or have treat AF weekend, nicer wine than normal or banned preg food like a nice rare steak I find it helpfull to have something nice to take my mind off it. Do you tend to give yourself a treat?

Hi purple

It's never too early in the week for wine!

I'm down in the dumps as AF here officially, boo! Plus gonna be away from work over times I'm likely to be ov in feb and march so frantically checking dates! However my cycle is unpredictable so all bets off.

I really like your AF treat plan, think ill join you on that. I did have 2 cakes in work then bought a family cheesecake on way home to cheer myself up blush]

You're AF due this weekend? Do you temp? How's it looking? Fx!

Boo AF!

Nah not temping I use to have an electronic thingy (can't remember the name) but with my weird work patterns and travel think I'd find normal temping to much hassel.
Such a pain with travel and trying to explain why you can't travel or would like to move a meeting without people guessing what you're up too.

I'm doingy normal job pt going back ft in a couple of months when things pick up as we tend to be busier in the summer.

Yh I'm so Sat - feel like it's on the way tbh - have some nice wine lined up, can't do much as its mil 80 next weekend so we are away.

Ooooo! Nice weekend away, that's the best AF treat or celebratory weekend!

I'm not usually away that often so it's ironic that on month 2 & 3 of clomid I am. Dp can be away a lot be we try to work round it. Plus I work shifts so when needs must we dtd at random times purely to try to get knocked up lol! Dtd sex ain't as much fun, no matter how we go about it hehe

Yes it can be hard to keep the romance when you're dtd to a schedule!

No AF so poas but neg of course - I expect the tablets have skewed my cycle a bit to plan with my mind.
So I get to have nice wine tonight, yum.

Will you still check to see if you ov next month , do you temp or use sticks?

How'd you get on purple? Did the witch come or ....

Or......

I feel really guilty, but fingers crossed you somehow mange to sneek in dtd at the right time next month.

Wow!! Really? I'm I allowed to congratulate you yet? Details pls!

So so so chuffed for you! Why do you feel guilty?

Oh its just I remmeber being where you are and the waiting. I'm only 4 weeks 3days so very early and I've MC before so not getting my hopes up too much but tentivley looking at old newborn photos and reminising

The cramping and light bleed that I throught was AF coming last week must have been implantion I suppose, and no other symptoms yet so fingers crossed I'll be one of the lucky ones and not get morning sickness.

That's brilliant news, fx that all goes well and all your bad luck is behind you x

thanks x

Hi there,

Please can I join? All the other threads are soooo busy and I might get lost...

So I'm 40 in June... Promised myself that I didn't want to be pregnant at 40 but hey ho, it's not a switch that you can easily turn off when it just hasn't happened...

So we have one DD who will be 5 in June. We've been trying for two years (on and off - not really committed to it at times) and we've both had all the tests available on the NHS and I had a Lap & Dye done in November.

Both got the all clear for everything.

I was spotting as early as 10 DPO (and once 7DPO) but that has calmed down a bit since the Lap and Dye and now in general it's very slight spotting from about 12 DPO.

I'm on CD4 and just purchased a load more IC OV and HPT sticks. Planning on starting DTD from about CD8 until OV.

I've had two MCs, one pre-DD and one just over 18 months ago.

Wow that was a long first post!!

Congratulations purple

Hi katniss, maybe this is a lucky thread! I'm tttc #1, cycle 16!!! 38. It's all a bit of a stress this ttc lark, I'm cd8, so we can be 2ww buddies depending on cycles! Are you new to mums net?

No, I've been here for 6 years

I was here through ttc the first time around, the mc and subsequent pg with dd. And I've been here eversince. A few name changes over the years though.

I work from home on the pc so waaaay too much time to jump onto mn.

Wow, a pro' then! I've only been here about a month. It's great having folk going through the same stuff.

It is. I couldn't have got through everything before I had DD if it wasn't for the ladies that I 'got to know' through MN. I still have some of them on Facebook - we started a private group using the name of the thread we used to be on.

So, I don't know about you but I've changed my views on TTC so much over the years. With DD we got PG the first month of trying then had the MC and then 6 weeks later I was PG again with DD. Stupidly I decided that I was very fertile and we didn't need to try.

Two years later here we are...

I even stopped taking Folic Acid etc because with month after month of no success it was just making me feel worse. But then each month I'd panic that I was PG and wasn't prepared in regards my health!!

So, this month is the first month in a LONG time that I'm going to make a concerted effort to take Folic Acid, use the OV strips and DTD as much as we can over that week.

What's your story Gingerbread??

Hello again ladies. I dropped off the thread a bit as have had horribly busy few weeks.
Huge congratulations purple, delighted for you. I shall have celebratory wine on your behalf!
BFP/AF due anytime now (cycle's been a bit all over the place since MC in November). But not feeling too positive this month. Think we got timing right, but am fully prepared for the dreaded AF to ruin my weekend!
Wishing everyone the best of luck in the next few days if it's your POAS time! x

Can I join?? I'm 35 and worried time is running out for a third child!
AF due Tuesday or Wednesday. Every month I'm convinced I'm pregnant then AF arrives and I'm gutted. Symptom spot like mad every time which is hard not to do!

An old bird here who'd like to join. TTC for a year finally got pregnant last year only to have a silent miscarriage in December 2013. My first pregnancy. I'm 39 and TTC again. Anxious

Hi everyone lovely to have new people join us. Hi size3, will keep fx that AF stays away, I'm hoping purples good luck is contagious!

My story is I'm 38 & ttc #1, cycle 16, so can relate to everyone's frustration.
I've had the checks & have mild pcos apparently (I had no idea), everything else is fine except very irregulars cycles (up to 64 days). I'm now on my second month of clomid so really hoping this might help. Had chem preg in nov. dh has had 3 sperm tests that the hospital messed up! So he's back again on tue poor thing (although a teeny bit glad hes sharing in my pain at being pocked & prodded, very shameful!). 4 times is ridiculous though! I'm also dealing that I may have missed my chance but ironically it took me this long to find the person I wanted a family with.

Finding having people to discuss this in depth with so helpful too katniss!

Hello ladies. I'm needing a rant...
How are you all coping with friends announcing their pregnancies? Especially those unplanned 'surprise' pregnancies? I am really struggling at the moment.
For me it's cycle 4 TTC No.1 after silent MC at 12 weeks in Nov (took x 5 cycles that time so pretty fast), and I'm 35 this year. And I am getting so upset by every baby announcement and new baby arriving as I just want it to be my turn. And I'm so worried it just may never happen.
I am happy for other friends, but it just keeps knocking me for six every time.
Is this normal?

It's entirely normal sizethree so don't feel bad! Of course you're happy for your friends but obviously it's gonna be upsetting. The so called (a bit skeptical that they are all accidental) accidental pregs are the worst cause you're trying so bloomin hard! I completely relate. 34/35 is still a good age for ttc, lots of older women get there, it may just take a little longer, that's all. And you'll value it all the more when it does happen. A mc a 12 wks is horrendous, I'm so sorry.

My most annoying friend is 40 & was my ttc buddie, having been told shed never fall preg naturally she got preggers 2 wks later when she'd stopped trying. She now says really helpful things like "you just need to get trying"!!! She knows fine well what's going on. To avoid slapping a heavily preg woman I now don't see that much of her. It's too upsetting.

So no, you are not alone in feeling like this. Treat yourself well, spoil yourself, and have some wine, I find it helps