Old birds wanna join the coop???

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

[Tranquilitybaby]

Bloody hell Kegirl that's terrible! Here's hoping though this is going to be it for you, that it's time for things to happen. X

Has anyone heard from sebs, but worried about her. She's gone v quiet.

I'm doing ok, had a bleed for 5 days so really hoping my cycle will go back to normal now and AF will arrive on time next month. Still bit up and down but starting work again tomorrow. I'm self employed so it's at my own pace.

X

[stubbornstains]

Whoop!

Oh KE, what fuckwittery. But wouldn't it be brilliant if that was what was keeping you from getting PG- and now you've fixed it?

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Gonna post & run, new thread ladies:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2078615-Going-Clucking-mental-Old-birds-gather-round

Title compliments of stubborn.

[irma77]

Good morning all.

Keg I'm sorry about the painful af, but especially about the anemia. It's unbelievable! They make you blood test and then the receptionist (not the doctor) tells you on the phone that everything is normal and that's it!

Anyhow, updates:Cd 33, no af, bfn, no symptoms whatsoever.

[KEGirlOnFire]

HI all,

Sorry I've been away so long.

Had the AF from hell at the weekend. Don't know why, clots the size of my hand. Went to GP yesterday in case I should be worried. She was rubbish but did ask what they'd done about my anaemia last year when I had all my fertility tests done. I said what anaemia... Turns out that last year I was SEVERELY anaemic. She asked about certain symptoms (my hair constantly falling out etc) and it's all related. It also effects fertility.

So basically for the last bloody year I have been anaemic and it's highly likely that it is having an impact on the fact that we haven't fallen PG yet. It was bloody flashing red on the screen and it's been ignored every time I've been to the GP for the last year!!!!!

I am BEYOND ANGRY!!!

I'm now on Iron tablets.

Where's Mampam with the results of her scan. Hope everything is OK...

Big waves to Newbies and everyone else.

[spinningirl10]

Morning

Ooh it's got very busy here, welcome newbies

I've had a lovely weekend away with dp. Got home yesterday and got a positive opk so dtd again last night. Dp hates dtd on demand so it was rubbish but we achieved the aim and had a laugh about it! We used preseed for the first time and I'd also bought soft cups but chickened out of using incase I did it wrong and wasted the swimmers. Might have a little practice today and hopefully dtd again later and use then.

[patch77]

Tests started yesterday with a lovely (not) internal. The nurse was ok, chatted whilst she was doing it. Not sure if that's worse!! She said everything looked healthy (!??!) and the tests will be back in a week. Bloods next week and ultrasound now Thursday they rang and offered a cancellation.

Hope all you great chicks (sorry) have a lovely day xxx

[stubbornstains]

So, erm, ideas for new thread titles....."Going clucking mental" perhaps?! "Spitting feathers and getting broody"? "Wouldn't go in the hen house at night and got et by a fox"?.................perhaps the last one's a bit literal?

I went back to the GP's for the results of my day 3 bloods this morning. Everything fine, although my thyroid results were on the "low end of normal". I'm sure I've heard elsewhere that what doctors consider "low end of normal" is, in fact, "pretty low". Don't know if that's true, or how I'd convince her to do anything about it.....she doesn't want to refer me for DildoCam until DP has squirted in a jar for the lab. Fair enough, I suppose (he has actually registered with a GP now, and has his new patient appt. tomorrow morning. Slowly, slowly we make haste).

She also said that she'd seen posts of mine on FB because we obviously have mutual friends, asked if I wanted to talk to a friend of hers who'd had lots of difficulty TTc and is now pregnant, and recommended a fertility reflexologist! All of which, I think, says a lot about the kind of place I live!

I have started taking my temperature, but can't work out Fertility Friend. And my lovely fertility book hasn't arrived (I'm gagging to read it!) I am very tempted to get hold of some graph paper and make my very own temperature chart. Then I could treat myself to some new coloured pencils .

[Tilly73]

Had a good weekend thanks Gingerbread, my DH was off work so nice to spend some time together.
Still bleeding so I'm just watching all your post's waiting for some news.
It will be much easier being closer to his family and friends Irma (hopefully they will be a great support when you get that BFP) :)

[Gingerbreadlady1]

I'm in glasgow, I love Barcelona, it's one of my favourite cities!

[irma77]

I've been living in Edinburgh for 4 years, but I'm Spanish (near Barcelona) and DP is from the Midlands. He got a job at Leicester Uni, we'll be closer to his family and friends and I'll have more options for flights to go to see mine.

Where in Scotland are you?

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Very exciting! Me & annie are Scottish birds too, where in Scotland you from? Good luck with all that, keep reporting back. All whole lot going on in your house then.

[irma77]

We don't know yet Ginger !

We will be moving from Scotland to the Midlands. At the end of this week will'be driving down to see houses, we'll have to choose quickly as DP stills working here. Exciting/stressing!

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Could still be too early irma, still in till the witch arrives! Ooo, moving, it's hard going that, good luck. So what's your new house like?

[irma77]

Good morning everyone.

I poas this morning, 11 dpo and not pregnant. I keep telling myself that is ok, better this way, because we will be moving next month and we have to start packing in a few weeks, but who am I kidding?

I hope you all had lovely weekends!

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Good morning everyone and welcome fireflyz. How's everyone doing? Been very quiet on here.... Where'd everyone go.....?

[AnnieHoo]

Fireflyz

I was told to "keep trying" by GP a year ago and wish I'd changed surgeries now! You should tell them about your cycle shortening and ask for blood tests to check that you're ovulating ok. No harm in asking!

I have had 2 pregnancies in last 2 years at 39 and 40. Both ended in mc but on the positive side I did get pregnant... The best things I used were the Fertility Friend app or website to record your cycle and I forked out on a clear blue fertility monitor. I also bought a ton of cheap ovulation sticks off amazon for 5 pounds a bag for 100. This way I had a bit of control knowing when I was at peak fertility. I temped too which is the only way to confirm you have ovulated. I probably sound totally bonkers!!! But the stats are not great at 40 so i feel I have to do everything I can now to know I tried my best. It's different for everyone - I just have to do these things to keep sane

[fireflyz]

Thank you AnnieHoo. Was v kind of you to reply, I was feeling really low last night & saw your reply just before going to bed, cheered me up to read something kind & encouraging.
I have just added up dates again & realised cycle for last 3 months has been 25 days! Hmmmm... Seems like my adding skills are in question too! Gotta laugh really.
I will do some research into maybe supplements that can help? I am already taking seven seas frolic acid vitamin blend.
And I should go see a GP. It would be useful to know if I am even ovulating. One GP I saw a while ago (about something unrelated) said it was best just to try DTD as much as possible in the middle of the cycle, not to get too obsessed on charts and opks etc. So far I haven't tried doing anything except planning a bit with the mumsnet Ovulation calculator. Just don't want to look back and wish I had done more I suppose. So any tips you folks out there have, please share.
Thank you x

[AnnieHoo]

Hi fireflyz

I feel your pain! All I can say is keep informed, get tests done at GP and don't stop believing! The ladies here are going through it too and you'll find great support here xxx

[fireflyz]

Can I join? Feeling down, just got AF, on month 5 of 'proper' ttc #2 but have actually been off pill for a year, just I delayed things owing to lack of confidence about dealing with being pg and having a active DC#1. Then we both had some sudden family bereavements which meant we just weren't in the right frame of mind. Now I am feeling a bit desperate! I am 39 in October and just hear TICK TOCK constantly! Wish I had got on with it earlier! Even though I know I am lucky as I have one child already and having just the one to focus on means we are very close & I wouldn't change that. But I always imagined having more then one child, so we are now going for it! And it is just making me feel so fed up as we have been trying to do it at the right time each month ie in the middle! It's an effort to feel like doing it sometimes but we are trying to get to bed earlier! I know we haven't been ttc that long really but we were so lucky with dc1, just 2 months! That was about 5 years ago. And now I feel panicked that it's taking longer because I am just too old. And my cycle seems to be 2 days shorter ie 26 instead of 28..... what does that mean? I suppose the hardest thing is feeling like I might not have the choice any more. Sorry for sounding so blue :(
Any words of comfort much appreciated!

[AnnieHoo]

I'm the same. I'm finding it a bit hard to get out there and face the world again. We're bound to be a bit shaky but time is healing. At least we know that everything is functioning ok and it's just a case of waiting for a good egg

[Tilly73]

I'm physically feeling ok Annie, but have good days and bad days. Little things just seem to set me off. My work colleagues sent me flowers today which made me tearful again.
I did a pregnancy test and it was negative (even though they asked me to wait 3 weeks), but I'm still bleeding!!
I feel the same way about my eggs, even though my DH always tries to reassure me, although others aren't as sensitive and just mention it could be my age!!
I'd said to my DH we would try and if it happened it happened, but then I started getting obsessive about it, and can't believe how dissapointed I felt every time AF came, I feel like I have let him down, esp after this

[AnnieHoo]

Oh god I want cheesecake now! Starving after steamed fish and broccoli!!

Tilly how are you recovering from mmc? I've had all these tests because it was my 2nd mc in 18 months so my v v kind consultant is doing chromosome test for both of us and testing me for thrombophilia, lupus anticoagulant and anticardiolipin. But I know it's just happening because my eggs are 40 years old!

[Tilly73]

We have just finished off the cheesecake!!
You all seem to be having tests done, I haven't even thought about it yet, I suppose the fact that I got pregnant was a good sign. Not sure I could handle the results if they were bad

[spinningirl10]

I've just eaten a huge piece of cheesecake in Patisserie Valerie, feel sick now!!

Fankle that trip sounds amazing!! Dp and I would love to do that! We did USA Roadtrip on a big motorbike last year which was amazing! Had such fun and came home to a bfp which I sadly mc, we joked about calling it Vegas which is where it would have been conceived