Old birds wanna join the coop???

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

(does at happy little dance at fankle's news).

Welcome karma. So sorry to hear about your ectopic . Hope that won't create any problems for you with TTC#2 xx

Ginger I'm fine thank you. Been to the zoo today with my family, weather was beautiful. Just very lightly spotting. The doctor will rung me tomorrow to either tell me the numbers went up or went down. It's irrelevant either way now but I would be interested to know where my numbers peaked as they are obviously on there way down again now.

I have right days till AF is due. Will be interesting to see if my body hangs on till then to bleed properly.

Tranquility, how you doing today? Xx

Thanks karma xx

Seb - I feel a bit better today thank you, less tearful and more optimistic for the future. Let us know your results when you get them, thinking of you xx

Glad you are feeling a little better Tranquility. You've had a tough week. I think that's a lovely gesture with the rosebush and lanterns.

This is for Ginger

thank you everyone for all the support and good wishes! I am still in shock I think as I honestly thought this cycle was out as DH had to work away during my fertile week.

That's a lovely clear BFP, congratulations xxx

Fankle, you must be so excited!
Interesting to hear you didn't get to dtd much. Do you know how close to ov you managed it? Sorry to be nosey but I always think you have to be at it loads and we never seem to manage it as often as I would like! It really is a lottery isn't it getting that bfp

Hi Karma and welcome.

Sorry to hear of your eptoic. This is a lovely friendly supportive group.

spinnng I think we only just caught my ovulation day...very late at night. I'd got a positive opk the day before (Wednesday) and I didn't see DH until after midnight on the Thursday (so technically Friday). We'd last dtd early Monday morning before he left for his work trip. So really it was only twice during my fertile week. That's why I thought we didn't stand a chance this cycle as we usually dtd every other day during the fertile week.

Good luck for this cycle!

Hi everybody, is there any more room in the coop for another (probably non laying) hen?

I've been lurking in this thread for a while, and today I decided to stop being creepy and join in.

I'm 36 and DP is 44 and TTC #1 since January, but I only had 2 very long cycles, I was diagnosed with PCOS in my early 20s. At the moment we are not following any treatment, my GP told us to keep trying a bit longer.

I started to use OPK this cycle and I got a possitive one on CD21, although with PCOS you never know, but it was followed by, what I believe, ovulation pain, so will see.

DP partner is really stressed at work, and we are about to move to another part of the country, so we only managed to dtd the day before the +opk and 2 days afterwards, so not getting my hopes to high. A bit gutted my seduction skills weren't powerfull enough during the big O day :(

A this stage of the game I'll be happy to detect ovulation signs and shorter cycles.

Well, that's my story. Good luck to everyone!

WoW!

I've just seen that BFP tests, congratulations Fankletastic !!!

Wow that's fab Fankle and goes to show it only takes once. Really happy for you

Welcome Irma and good luck

Welcome to the coop Karma and Irma Your not alone Irma I can guarantee my DP will be up for it all month until we get to those few precious days and then he'll be stressed out and working late! Almost guaranteed!

Fankle That's a lovely bright BFP! :) My DP and I were discussing things last night, I'm obsessed whereas he has a laid back approach and is convinced if it's meant to happen it will (this is on the back of another chat about consuming caffeine and small amounts of alcohol) your BFP is making me think perhaps he's right. :)

Congratulations Fankle!

And welcome Irma! I'm another newbie! Nice to have some support - I found TTC very stressful last time round. I am also on the OPK sticks and I wouldn't worry about not pinpointing DTD on the actual O day - before and after also gives you a good chance so FX! xx

Thanks Inshock!

Re the laidback approach, I can vouch for that! With DS1 we tried for 9 months, and we were massive health freaks during this period and gave up everything: Alcohol, caffeine, hot baths, etc. I got a bit obsessive and even banned DH from wearing tight underwear! When it didn't happen I though F it and went on a bit of a bender of unhealthyness and that's when we conceived. I am determined to put less pressure on myself this time round!

Well I think it's time for me to come into this coop if you'll have another old hen in the pecking order!

Hello Ginger and Fankle from Clomid thread - thank you for starting this thread Ginger, it's great and definitely the place for me to be.

Fankle - brilliant to see your BFP photo below .

Now I'll bore you with my story: I'm 40, DH is 44. I just didn't meet the right guy until I was 38. We've been trying for our first since July 2012 and got pregnant quite quickly but mc in Nov 2012 (blighted ovum at 8w+5d). Tests done, all ok, DH's tests OK. I was told to 'keep trying' in April 2013 but wish I'd pushed for Clomid then. Started on Clomid in Jan 2014 and was amazing to get a BFP after 3rd round in March 2014 but sadly ended with another blighted ovum at 8w+5d again last week so currently going through mc and waiting to start on Clomid again next after menstrual period.

Will take a few weeks to recover from this mc but determined to accept nature's reasoning and go for it again soon.

Welcome Annie Sorry to hear about your losses and amazed at how strong you sound. Your story is so similar to mine! I'm 40 and DP is 37, I like toyboys! :) We didn't meet until I was 35, we had some fun etc etc and decided to ttc in Jan 2013, fell pregnant straight away but had a mmc in March 2013, been ttc since June/July 2013, we've both had all the tests done, all ok, but no pregnancies since! I saw a fertility specialist in Oct 2013 who felt 4 months of ttc wasn't long enough and was confident I would conceive again so told to keep on trying. I'm off for another appointment soon but neither him nor my GP has offered me clomid as I'm OV every month. Do you mind me asking how did you manage to get prescribed it when all your tests are ok?

oh I like it here already InShock - great to meet someone with such a similar story. And yes you can ask me anything. I forgot to say I went back in October 2013, really frustrated that it was nearly a year since mc and that I'd been a bit neglected with the advice 'keep going'. It was a different young GP and she did the 21/28 day progesterone test on me again and that time they found I hadn't ovulated so they came to the conclusion that I had anovulatory cycles so I sometimes do but sometimes don't ovulate. They then referred me to the OB/GYN consultant who prescribed Clomid straight away. I was pretty shocked how readily he prescribed it. I am not convinced about the 21/28 day prog test... my cycles were up to 45 days long then so that doesn't seem like a conclusive way to decide whether to prescribe clomid or not. I was temping so think i was ovulating. Clomid regulated my cycles down to 28 days which I've never had before.

Afternoon all - fantastic news Fankle congratulations!!!

Welcome to AnnieHoo, Karmanna and Irma.

Sorry, it's whinge time...

Is anyone else fed up of putting their lives on hold for this??? I've been looking at holidays in Lapland to book for this Xmas and I was almost sold on it, until I started seeing pics from my friend on Facebook who is currently in Orlando with her 4 year old DD. It looks amazing...

I'm looking at February next year (one week in half term, the other week not in half term - if we did the Easter holidays it would be £700 EACH extra - so I'm prepared to take the charge...).

But what's stopping me is that if I get PG between now and then the holiday will potentially be a nightmare, especially with my history of gestational diabetes!!!

I cannot believe I've started spotting at bloody 6DPO - really fed up!!! I really wish I didn't want another child.

DD said to me at the weekend 'I wish I lived at Oliver's house, it's boring here because he's got a sister and I haven't'. A little part of me broke when she said that. I would so love to give her what she wants, why can't I????

Ok rant over. Off to have a sob now and watch Frozen (which won't help at all!!!).

Back later in a better mood (I hope). xx

So similar Annie :) I do feel there's a certain amount of fobbing off with the 'you've conceived once you can do it again' line. Interesting you should say about the anovulatory cycles, my fertility specialist said an 'average' woman ovulates 7 times a year at the age of 40, I've no idea where that stat comes from and a 35 year old 9-10 times a year. So based on that we all have some dud months! Have you been using opk's?

Ummm to clomid or not to clomid?! I think another appt with my GP is needed.

KE Girl Feel free to whinge away! That must be so hard to hear from your DD and such an innocent thing to say. I've whinged away on here recently, after 10 months of ttc I can't take the no caffeine, alcohol, reduced sugar regime combined with planning nights out (or in) based around whether I'll be 'fertile' and needing to dtd and constantly keeping track of dates, it's driving me mad. I've also been looking at holidays for the end of the year but we want to go back to Asia but can't book incase I'm pregnant....but we put the holiday on hold last year in case....argh!

kegirl don't put life on hold, book a holiday if you want to, as long as you have insurance you can always postpone if you fall pg.

Feel for you, hugs xxx

Totally agree with Tranquility :)

Wow, ovulating 7 times a year on average at 40 is sodding depressing isn't it!!!

Sebsmummy I must have low expectations because that was better than I expected, he told me an average 35 year old OV 9-10 times a year so a 40 year old is only slightly less. Don't forget it's based on 'average' stats and some women don't OV at all.

Hmmm, that's interesting..... The results of my 21 day test came back pretty low (28.8, 30 and above is "good"), although the GP said that she thought I probably did ovulate. Maybe it was an anovulatory cycle then? I definitely noticed less OV pains and less (although some) EWCM last month...

I've got plenty of OV pains already at CD6 this time (normal for me), so hopefully will be popping out an egg this month anyway...This is the first month I've been taking my temperature, so am interested to see what that will tell me.

I went to see a friend the other day- she mentioned a friend of hers who has adopted 2 DC, so I asked her more about that (all going well and easy apparently), and let it slip that we are TTC. She told me it took her 18 months to get pregnant with DC#1 (in her early 30s), yet no time at all with DC#2. But the point is, that I would never have known if I hadn't asked. It seems to me that difficulty in conceiving is more common than we think- it's just not talked about that much.