Old birds wanna join the coop???

[Gingerbreadlady1]

Allo ladies! Wondering if there are any other over 35's (apparently the age of fertility suicide, who knew?) ttc for over a year wanting to chat? If so, pour yourself some virtual wine and let the chatting commence!

I lurk on here sometimes and just seen I'm in the positive after a peiod boat with sebsmummy.

Sorry about your ectopic tranquility, I've had one and it's very difficult to get your head around.

I was sure I was pregnant a few weeks ago, then I had a period. I had a strange impulse to do a test at the weekend (bleeding gums) and the little faint line came up. My only thought was 'oh fuck' because I've had an ectopic pregnancy in the past and the timeline was the same.

I managed to get a scan and bloods yesterday due to my history, but the epu are still congratulating me because my bloods are at 90 and I'm in early pregnancy according to them

I go back on Wednesday for more blood, but I hate the waiting around. I know what's going on with me, I just wish they'd listen. I don't actually know what they can do about it without any proof but I know they don't believe that I should be 6 weeks pregnant .

Oh my god Born this is crazy. Do you think it's ectopic or chemical? I'm so sorry you're going through this too. Do you have any bleeding?

I think mine is, just because it is the same as last time, although my hcg levels are a lot less than they were. They were in the hundreds last time and doubling over 72 hours not 48. I can only hope it has resolved itself and the numbers go down. I've had a small amount of brown stringy bleeding, but nothing since.

Quack theory alert!
I had reflexology last weekend and when I stood up afterwards I felt something twang around my ovary area. I mentioned it and she said my fallopian tubes felt 'gritty' so I wonder if it got moved along.

When do you go back for another hcg test, can't scroll up because my phone won't let me, sorry. How do you feel? It's a horrible situation being in limbo .

born I was adamant I was 6 weeks too but they said I could only be 2 at most which was impossible. Keep on at them, especially with you experiencing it before.

inshock I hope your levels drop quickly so you can love in. Sorry to hear that.

Think in probably best to move off this thread now, I feel like I've brought a lot of worry to it and it's supposed to be about positivity.

Physically, I'm getting there, I'm home now, sore and emotionally very up and down. Had to tell my 12 year old daughter this morning as she knew something was being kept from her and refused to go to school, plus told my close friends who were worried what was going on. Feel better for doing that and have had a good cry on and off. I'm just so heartbroken and sad. So needed a boost this year, after the crappy start.

I need to find out some info about conceiving again and how big the risks really are. Doctor was very positive about it but the info booklets they gave me aren't. Any idea were I can get some accurate info?

Thanks for your support girls x

Born, I get so bloody frustrated when the so-called 'experts' do NOT listen - we know our damn bodies - we know when something isn't right!!! You will have more personal experience than (probably) they will have had. I really hope it turns out Ok for you. The brown stringy stuff is what I had on and off over the two weeks that they were testing my bloods. Even now they don't know whether mine was ectopic or not because I MCd naturally in the end, but having had a Lap & Dye back in November, it showed no blockages or issues with the tubes.

SebsMummy, any news hun? Are you OK?

Tranquility, please don't leave us unless it would help YOU. I've found more support through being on MN forums than in RL and I, for one, don't feel like you should leave this thread, I'm sure we'd all like to continue supporting you.

I would start another thread about the chances of conceiving with one tube. When I thought that's what I had, I asked the Consultant and she was very sincere that the chance of reduced fertility is only slight because the remaining tube will float between ovaries. I remember specifically her saying that it would make sense that fertility is reduced by 50% with only one tube, but she said it was much higher than 50%.

HTH Hun. xxxxx

Oh Tranquility you poor poor love. You have not bought worry to this thread at all. All you did was give me the kick up the arse I needed to get to the doctors and whilst I think it's a chemical, we don't know, and much rather be safe than sorry.

In my last TTC thread there was a lady who joined who had lost her tube due to ectopic and she conceived more easily than me and this pregnancy is preg reading successfully for her. So the future is indeed bright, but I'm sure if it feels anything but at the moment. Huge hugs xx

*Progressing successfully

Sorry tranquility, it's me steaming in from being a lurky lurker, not you. I just saw the similarities and came bounding in because I don't know anyone else this has happened to. I hope you get looked after you until you heal and start feeling better

Thanks people, I don't want to leave.

If I can help anyone else, I will so ask away if you have any questions. Briefly cried on DH's shoulder today and we tried to talk about things. He said he spent 2 hours pacing up and down, whilst I was in theatre and doesn't want to go through that again, which I can understand but I'm struggling with how I feel, I can't just switch it off.

Stay Tranquility you're part of this group! Everyones experiences on here, happy and sad, are so valuable to the rest of us. xx

Please stay with us tranquility, this process is grim lets be honest, not the joyous occasion it should be, so at least we can cheer each other on or hold each others hands. We're in it together.

Quick post, back later x

I asked the Consultant and she was very sincere that the chance of reduced fertility is only slight because the remaining tube will float between ovaries.

in awe at our ingenious bodies!

Stay tranquility- if it helps you!

Hear hear Inshock and Ginger, I think that's unanimous for you to stay Tranquility!!

Bornof, you didn't steam in at all and you're most welcome - how are you getting on?

Stubborn, I know - amazing isn't it!!! I'd never heard of it before she said it.

Wow, that is amazing!

bornoffrustration you're most welcome here, hope you're ok, keep us up dated. sebs & tranquility, thinking of you guys...

fankle my levels on 2 occasions were just under 900 so yours are high but ok (can be caused by stress (ttc) or nipple stimulation (ttc)

Wow! Who knew?!
But I reckon my prolactin must be much higher now- not through nipple stimulation but through the sheer stress of long term ttc!!!!!!!!

I was quite low yesterday as I just know there's no chance this cycle. I found myself wondering how much more of this I can take. I have no idea how people cope through years and years of infertility- Im just over 2.5 years and I feel like its taken over my life.

I know fankle, I really do. I can tell you're low.are you not getting iui soon? Maybe a new step will revitalise you? It's crushing month after month. I feel like that so have started to book loads of other things in, hols, weekend away, party at mine etc as I can't have this being the centre of my existence (obv deep down it is) & weirdly acting that I'm not obsessed is making me a little less obsessed.

When I win the lottery I'm buying ivf for us all, or a baby from some random country!

Babies for everyone!

Thank you I'll stay. Would miss you all terribly. After being absolutely terrified Sunday for my own life, I'm now just starting to grieve about what we've lost. God it's bloody awful isn't it?

If like to in time, try again, not sure that DH agrees but he's said let's let things settle down and we'll talk about it.

Sorry to hear you feeling so down Fankle. Hopefully the iui will give you a new focus.

X

Just to give people hope one of our long time TTCers on the miscarriage thread tested positive today . Two years TTC, been using Clomid for around a year I believe.

It absolutely can happen even when years pass, but I know that is little solace when you are living with the disappointment of BFNs each cycle. *hand holding

Indeed! How generous of you!

You're right...and I really admire your coping strategies and optimism. I think I go through brief phases of optimism followed by hopelessness, despair and anger- all very up and down. It's so bloody unfair! I hate being on this roller coaster and really really want to get off it now! I know we all want to get off it.

I should hopefully be starting iui in July. But I fluctuate between seeing iui as a hugely positive and active step forwards and an intervention that may not even work.

Need to get out of my slump I think. Would love to plan a nice holiday or something but this summer will be all about the iui(s). Plus, DH doesn't want to be too far away from his dad in case anything happens, so we aren't even able to discuss holidays right now.

Shit piled on shit!

sebsm thanks for that, does give me hope. Please pass on congratulations from the old birds!

tranquility, you've a lot to process. Just heal & grieve, we're here for you to talk to whenever you want.

fankle you've been at this a yr longer than me, not sure how ill bear up long term. Slap me if I'm an annoying dick but what do you enjoy? What makes you happy? Put as much of that into your life as poss. Entertaining? Boozy lunches with friends, exercise (apparently some people enjoy it), get a pet (we're getting a puppy when house renovations finished), spa visits, concerts? I personally like to do as much as possible to keep busy when not working x

I know it won't fill the hole but might make the wait more bearable x

First appointment with gp on Friday after work. What should I expect?

Thanks Ginger can I have a little vietnamese baby girl, they're so cute! :)

Tranquility I started to read "Taking charge of your fertility" but have to admit I've put the book down and been reading positive articles like the one about Kate Silverton who recently announced she's expecting again at 43. I can understand your DH's reaction, he must've been really scared. When I had my MC last year my DP said he wasn't bothered about ttc again, he hated seeing me so upset. Give him time x

Born welcome! Hope your bloods ease your mind tomorrow.

Sebs How are you doing?

I've been really busy this afternoon....eating an easter egg and homemade coconut cake and taking a trip to starbucks...yep I have well and truly fallen off my healthy eating regime now. :) I've now been ttc for 10 months and it's driving me mental! I can't keep up the no caffeine, no 'treats' , no alcohol, I'm sick of putting life on hold and every time I socialise being the only one drinking lemonade (I'm not a big drinker 2 glasses of wine and I've had enough!) only to get to cd27 and be disappointed again.

I'm hoping acupuncture will sort me out :)

Just as a footnote - last year I conceived the first month of trying (have to keep stating this as it's my only achievement to date) and I was drinking tea and coffee, having 3/4 glasses of wine a week, eating chocolate/cakes etc!! I'm seriously starting to wonder if giving everything up really makes any difference!

Patch77 Have you had any tests done so far and how long have you been ttc?