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About to start / Just started TTC no.2 (part 4)

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SwedeAway · 13/01/2014 04:45

So, here it is, Part 4! May it bring lots of BFP's for those of us still waiting and may it bring happy healthy pregnancies for those who are fabulously pregnant.

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HazyShadeOfWinter · 12/02/2014 20:10

Oh metal I'm so sorry, I hope you have time to rest tonight and over the next few weeks as you process and recover Thanks (hug). Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Sad

Better it is awful they are just ignoring you if they said to begin with you are high risk, I hope you have some success in getting more support.

Morerum, how much longer do you have at work again? 8 days? Or was that mrs. I'd definitely consider getting signed off, and using hte days to rest since your dc will presumably be somewhere else? But yes I guess the SP before you go onto Mat pay wouldn't be great. Maybe you could reduce your shifts/hours?

guinnessgirl · 12/02/2014 20:19

oh Metal, I'm so sorry. no words really. hugs, Brew and Thanks

morerummorefun · 12/02/2014 20:31

metal im so sorry big hugsSad Thanks Brew i hope youve got someone to take care of you xx
ive got 9 weeks left and work 2&1/2 days a week will just need to see how it goes.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 12/02/2014 21:42

Oh metal Sad

I'm so sorry to hear that. I really hope you've got goody people round you. Take care x x x

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SwedeAway · 13/02/2014 04:50

Oh Metal, so sorry to hear that. A big hug from me.

I cannot possibly be showing but my waist and belly are expanding at an alarming rate (I am not eating that much more than usual). I could hardly get my trousers on this morning.

Decided to take the new job. Starting on the 1st March, exited and petrified at the same time.

Scan booked for next Friday.

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BetterNotBitter · 13/02/2014 10:10

Hope your appt is ok this morning metal thinking of you.

very exciting re new job swede and as for showing! apparently it's impossible to show before your 11th/12th week as that's when your uterus moves up above your pubic bone. Anything before that is just bloating, disappointing I know!! Good that your scan isn't too far away.

How's everyone today?

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SwedeAway · 13/02/2014 10:24

Bitter - yes it is definitely bloating, I was just amazed at how quickly I am expanding. Still cannot enjoy this pg at all until I get some sort of certainty. Until then I am distancing myself from being pg (that incudes no pg apps on ipad, no pg magazines or nothing else pg related). I do eat my vitamines and my hormones but that's it. We are not talking about it at home and just waiting for time to pass until the scan (and even after that I know its not certain). Having an mc certainly takes the fun out of early pregnancy.

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BetterNotBitter · 13/02/2014 11:06

We did exactly the same swede with having a mc before and also having bleeding throughout this time. No apps, no baby list nothing. Extreme Self preservation but sadly necessary.

Even at almost 17 weeks with this unresolved bleeding were still not going ott. Im sure baby is viable still but not convinced all is well with it terms of conditions its more susceptible to due to me being high risk etc.

mrsm22 · 13/02/2014 11:08

Hi All,

Metal - I am truly sorry for your loss, and am almost lost for words to comfort you. You sound tremendously strong and brave. What a heartbreaking thing to happen, I was ot expecting that. There is still a glimmer of hope for when you go to the hopsital this morning (you might be there now). Please let us all know and I am thinking of you. xxxx

Morerum - I'm sorry you're feeling a bit down. Is it the work situation? I think the others are right, could you not go on leave soon? We are due about the same time and I am finishing on 28th Feb but saved up a month's holiday so mat leave doesn't start til April which is only two months before i'm due. Do you have any holiday you coulde use beforehand and leave soon?

Hi Kt - How are you doing? Can't believe you are ten weeks. I saw the midwife and it was about two weeks until i got my 12 week scan appointment through, BUT you can ring the hospital and ask to be put through to admin and ask if there is a date yet for your 12 week scan and they will tell you if one has been allocated yet. I did this when pregnant with my DS and they managed to tell me the date over the phone but it hadn't been posted out yet. You should be getting it soon if you're already ten weeks. You must be excited!

Better - How are you?

Hungry - Are you still waiting to hear from work?

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SwedeAway · 13/02/2014 12:08

Better - I am glad to hear that I am not the only one reacting like this. I just cannot get into the whole pg thing when I know deep inside that nothing is certain.

I think I took it for granted when I fell pg in Dec and now I am just grateful for every day that I am pg.

Burying myself in work at the moment to try to keep my mind on anything but the pg. Next Friday can't come soon enough (just seeking a little bit of reassurance).

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morerummorefun · 13/02/2014 13:48

mrs I think that I will finish early, was hoping to wait till dh was working again which should be within the next month. if I can make it to 28 weeks then I wouldn't need to go iff on the sick. im taking my holiday pay alongside my last 7 weeks of work to try to bump up my smp. xx

HazyShadeOfWinter · 13/02/2014 15:01

Hope you are getting sensitive and efficient care today metal, my thoughts are with you.

I have a very trivial dilemma - I was referred to a different team of midwives to the ones I had last time and have asked to be transferred to my original team. Fine. But have been allocated to a new midwife, who asked if I'd prefer to have my old midwife. I sort of would, since I really liked her, and with this team the midwives are with you at birth and antenatal care too. But it seems rude to the new one to ask for the old one. At least I'm on the right team now, with continuity of care and the option of a home birth. And actually I ended up having a different midwife at my ds birth anyway since the other one was with another woman. So it doesn't matter that much, but I am dithering. Perhaps because it's a distraction from the sickness!!

mrsm22 · 13/02/2014 16:11

Hi Hazy - Are you contemplating a home birth? I am. Even though i had a tramatic birth with my DS (forceps, 3rd degree tear), i feel a lot of thins that went wrong were down to the hosipital and i really have a bit of a phobia of hospitals so think i'd feel more comfortable at home. Re the midwife thing - i'm not a huge fan of mine this time round. Fortunately she told me that they don't do the home births, someone just gets sent from the hospital i think. I was at a different surgery last time and had a very good midwife. This one is not very friendly. I don't think it matters if the same one is at the birth because they might intend to be there but who knows what will happen when the birth actually comes round, your midwife might be ill or on holiday etc. I think you go with the one you feel most comfortable. Sadly i have no choice but the one i've been given who i fins a bit unfriendly and she doesn't like to talk much and i don't feel overly comfortable asking her things, which isn't great.

Thoughts are with Metal today x

BetterNotBitter · 13/02/2014 17:03

I have the same issues with my midwife mrs shes very dismissive and not a all approachable, doesn't help things does it?!

Metalhead · 13/02/2014 18:06

Hi ladies, hope you've all had a good day. I'm not doing so well today. Spent 3 hours at the EPU getting my mmc confirmed, then talking to the doctor about treatment options. I decided to go for the surgical management, but they couldn't book me in until Tuesday. While I was there I was getting quite strong cramps, and had some pink blood when I went to the loo, so now I don't know if I'm going to miscarry naturally over the next few days or still get to have the op on Tuesday. I'm quite scared of 'passing the product' as they put it, I'd much rather they just removed everything surgically. Just feels like nothing is going right at the moment...

Good luck with the new job Swede, exciting times.

Hazy if you'd feel more confident with your previous midwife I'd ask for her and don't worry about offending anyone, if they give you the choice they must expect you to give a preference.

morerummorefun · 13/02/2014 18:14

awh metal im so sorry. this happened to my sister. once they told her the couldn't find a heartbeat she started passing lots of 'gloopy' discharge. as if your body now knows. xxx take care of yourself xxx
hazy if you have the option to switch I would, it will put you at ease. x

Noyoucantwatchpeppapig · 13/02/2014 18:59

Very sorry to hear your news metal.
AF got me last week, we hasn't DTD at the right times in jan so was not expecting to be up duff. The good thing was that at least AF came after 27 days instead of going AWOL.

GingerbreadBabyPlease · 13/02/2014 20:07

Metal I am so sorry to hear your news. You poor thing. Life is just real sh*t sometimes. Hope it's all over quick and painlessly for you Sad I hope you have been getting lots of hugs and cuddles from DD.
Not much to report from me. Just plodding on through my 2ww, hoping AF doesn't come early.

HungryHorace · 13/02/2014 20:39

I'm so sorry it's all so crap, Metalhead. :-( Sending hugs your way. xx

Noyou, thank god for AF when it was anticipated. At least that's something!

Gingerbread, remind me what DPO you are again.

I don't get a choice with my midwife. It's the one who works at my surgery, and that's that! But if you can choose, Hazy, you should.

Mrs, no, I won't hear til 2 weeks after the meeting, I don't think. There's quite a bit to work out!

I've been to the dentist tonight. I gate having my teeth cleaned as it sets my sensitive teeth off. :-/ But still no fillings, so I'm pleased about that!

Does MN look weird for anyone else tonight? Or is it just my iPad?!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 13/02/2014 20:40

Metal Sad I'm so sorry.

Be kind to yourself. Take time off work. Get support.

GingerbreadBabyPlease · 13/02/2014 20:41

Looks fine to me Hungry! I'm on a laptop though.
I'm 4 or 5 dpo today, depends if you count sat or sun as the day, as I had a positive on both days. I've given up counting Confused.
Oh, booked my Drs appointment, next thursday, hopefully I'll get my bfp that morning.

guinnessgirl · 13/02/2014 20:52

metal, it must be very hard for you. praying for strength in the midst of it all for you.

quick update from me - AF has finally shown up. 8 days late after all that, don't know why on earth so late but just happy to be back at square one. Think we're going to hold off ttc till April now to avoid another Dec baby, so I might be a bit quiet till then, but I'll be keeping an eye on the thread for all your news.

HenriettaTurkey · 13/02/2014 20:57

I'm so sorry, Metal. How completely crap for you. Will be thinking of you over this time.

Quick update here. Took final cerazette today (dh's birthday) so as of tomorrow I am contraceptive free. Need to start using an app to track my AF and help me figure out when I'm fertile. No idea which ones are good and which are nonsense, though.

HungryHorace · 13/02/2014 21:38

My Days is good, Henrietta. :-)

Good luck TTC!

HenriettaTurkey · 13/02/2014 21:47

Thanks, Hungry!