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TTC 10+++ months part 18

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Mrsden · 08/12/2013 21:06

This is the BFP thread.

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Mrsden · 11/12/2013 17:30

Joy, I was just coming on here to moan about that thread. I can't understand anyone who would start a thread to shout about their bfp. But then that's because I'm a bitter and twisted infertile.

I totally identified with your bramble story. I find myself enjoying doing something and then remember I'd happily not ever do it again if I had a baby. I do wonder if it's ever possible to get over not having children. Will the pain disappear at some point?

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Mrsden · 11/12/2013 17:30

Free, what a story. It just fgoes to show it can happen. I'm liking the sound of your Chinese guy.

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Ginestas · 11/12/2013 17:56

OMG free! Congrats! Fab news. mrsd has truly created a 10+ers bus Grin Grin

ten congrats on being pupo. Interesting about that dr. One of the Greek ones (the one with tight trousers and no glasses), I really didn't like and he made me cry. Must be the same one. Mrs Nargund is so nice, as were the 2 male gynaes who've left in the last year, that it seems odd to employ someone with such a bad reputation...

Am still so thrilled re the bfps. cos has it sunk in? Amazing and I'm so so hoping there are a few more before Xmas. < looks at euro and ten>

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Mrsden · 11/12/2013 18:05

Any sign of the little Ginster yet? How are you doing?

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Cosmonaut1 · 11/12/2013 18:26

Free!!!! Wow, congratulations, and I especially love a bfp after loads of effort so well done you.

MrsD great thread, I wish everyone could fall one by one this / next month (and that I don't miscarry) that's my wish Santa I hope you're listening.

Joy I think I feel so many emotions at once that I feel a bit numb. You're bramble story made me sad, I can totally see you with a little bramble helper soon. It's so hard to see it for yourself isn't it. I remember Art saying that when we met and now look!

Foxxy so sorry about them there nipples. So glad you posted that here and not on t'other place Grin. It is highly vexing the changes Ivf brings. My tache has never been the same since, I have a permanent Tom Selleck number.

Ten you're Pupo, great news! Good luck for the 2ww.

Cosmonaut1 · 11/12/2013 18:28

Gin and Sar massive luck for the births in case I don't get another chance. And update us afterwards!

eurochick · 11/12/2013 18:33

Wow cos - you really have completed the fertility marathon! What a well-deserved BFP.

I sighed at that thread too, joy and mrsd.

gin I have seen 3 different greek guys there. One did a lot of my scans (including the 2 for the mc) at Harley St. I haven't seen him this cycle, so I assume he has gone. He was ok. I've seen 2 others at wimbledon. One fairly slim with a lot of hair product. I always felt a bit ick looking at that mop between my legs when he was down there ! He did my first couple of collections. The bigger greek guy was still there and did EC for this cycle. He was the one who did my 3rd EC where there was the bleed, and the awful transfer in that cycle, and I find him very rough. The new woman was so much better.

seamermaid · 11/12/2013 18:42

MrsD you clearly have the touch!

Free that's an amazing journey. So so happy for you. I don't suppose your Chinese doc is based in London is he? [running to free's doc at first opportunity]

Joy I know it must be hard to feel hopeful after the tough time you have been through. I will keep positive for you.

Hope Euro and Ten, our PUPOs are doing okay. You ladies should be the next in line for this BFP bonanza thread. Grin

foxinorangesocks · 11/12/2013 21:42

Woo hoo free, that is fantastic it really is. Den you conjured up a magic thread! It is funny how it comes in batches and it really does. Does a super close moon effect this? I like moon woo. I reckon the moon would have to graze its arse against my house to get me pregnant though! Isaw the thread. I was worried at that point but now it seems lightening quick.

ArtemisTheHunter · 11/12/2013 21:55

Free!!!!! What fantastic news. I'm doing the tail feather dance with all my might in the hope of a bus full of BFPs before Christmas. It's about time!

Euro, ick at the hair product between the legs doctor! I don't like the sound of the tight pants/no glasses guy either. Are you sure he really is a doctor and not just a Greek waiter gone astray?

Waves and big luffs to everyone. Autocorrect just tried to change that to 'big muffs'... Better quit typing while I'm ahead Grin

CocoAndNuts · 11/12/2013 22:26

free YAY!!!!! That's one well earned BFP.

sea it's a shame you can't tell your clients to shove it. I work in a male dominated industry but fortunately they are on the whole more enlightened. There are still stupid sexist comments though, unfortunately things aren't quite as equal as they should be yet.

euro ten here's hoping your tww makes this a bumper month.

fox your arse grazing moon did make me Grin

tww nearly up. Lacking boob ache this cycle which has caused some mentalling. Fallen off the carb, alcohol, caffine wagon with a pre-Christmas blow out. Enjoyable but feeling the guilt now.
It's getting late. So catch ya later lovely ladies xx

Cosmonaut1 · 12/12/2013 08:11

Had really bad cramps last night so did another test this morning and now bfn (both digis)... so that didn't last long. Ffs.....really p**d off!!!

ArtemisTheHunter · 12/12/2013 08:19

Oh Cos love, I should think you're a bit beyond pissed off... WTF? Have you had any bleeding, or just the cramps? (Cramping is normal in early pg but bloody terrifying). I'm hoping you've just got a duff batch of digis this morning. Worth going to your GP for a blood test? I really hope this one works out for you,it has to be your time x

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Mrsden · 12/12/2013 08:34

Oh cos, can you get to the gp for a blood test to find out what's going on? Could you try a non digital? They're not that sensitive I don't think. I've got everything crossed for you.

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Cosmonaut1 · 12/12/2013 08:40

I've done a non digital too - its def gone.

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Mrsden · 12/12/2013 09:02

I wish I could be with you in real life cos so I could give you a hug. I know there's nothing any of us can say to make it less painful. Is there any value in getting it recorded as a mc by the GP?

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sarlat · 12/12/2013 09:36

Cos - I am dreadfully sorry. What an awful awful change of events. Definitely get this recorded as a mc with the gp. You poor thing, this is just not fair.

But I think we have to take the following from this situation. Egg and sperm can and clearly do meet and probably always have. In order to support implantation and early pregnancy, you require gestone or similar. You have had a chemical pregnancy which is very normal especially considering this is the first time implantation has been supported in a natural cycle and many women have many of these as part of normal fertility with a non viable embryo being the main reason.

So, are you able to get more gestone and simply keep trying beteeen natural and fet? This is not the end for you sweetheart. Remember if it weren't for the many years of ttc behind you, you would see this cp as a slightly positive thing in that your body knows what to do. I am sure I had a cp 2 months before my bfp and many people do all the time.

Big hugs cos, thinking of you.

freedom2011 · 12/12/2013 09:52

Sorry cos that's such a shame. Send you lots of sympathy. It will happen again.

joycep · 12/12/2013 10:30

No no no Cos. this is so bloody unfairl. Why cant you have a break for god sake, it just sucks.I do second what Sar says though. This has been immense progress and I think you have found the missing bit of the jigsaw. I'm just sorry it has turned out like this. Thinking of you.

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Mrsden · 12/12/2013 10:46

Very wise words from sar as always.

I am excited to report that there is a stork sat on my garden fence. This has to be a sign, does it not? No baby in its beak though.

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eurochick · 12/12/2013 10:47

No! That is just too cruel. FFS. Cos I'm so sorry.

eurochick · 12/12/2013 10:50

mrsd that must be a sign.

I was woken in the night by some quite severe cramping. I'm 6 dpEC, so clearly implantation is trying to happen. But I've had similar on all my IVF cycles and I know it doesn't mean a good outcome, so I am not excited about it. Just very sleep deprived! Zzzzz

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Mrsden · 12/12/2013 10:53

Mmm, that's interesting euro. So if implantation is occurring then the little embie is still going strong at this stage. I really don't think implantation has ever happened for me, I'm sure ours stops developing at 3 or 4 days.

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eurochick · 12/12/2013 10:56

Our embies must always get this far, for there to be some HCG produced (and I've had positive tests on all 3 IVF cycles). I think it's after this point we have problems.

Poutintrout · 12/12/2013 11:17

No cos, no. I am so angry that this has happened to you, after the hell you have been through you deserved so much better. I won't go on, I just want to send you love and tell you that I will be thinking of you. I've actually got a tight chest with anger.