If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

[sebsmummy1]

Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

Yes jakey, agree sometimes timing it just puts pressure on everyone, so I'm going for the as much as possible approach this month in the hope I'm less stressed about it all although i'm desperate to try and time it to perfection really

Well I know superdrug are as good as first response and LOADS cheaper. I think internet cheapies are ok, I think the main problem is they are probe to evap lines which can get you all excited and amount to nothing.

The problem with trying to push for things like Clomid is that you are going to start popping out eggs, possibly unnecessarily, and start using up your egg reserve. Unless you knew you were not ovulating it's not really of any great value.

On that note has anyone considered having that test to see how many years fertility you have left? I keep thinking about it and then realising just how devastated I would be if it said one year or something, but then I start thinking about it again!!

I took DS to a local playgroup this afternoon, it was full of yummy mummies, many of whom had had their children late and into their forties and it made me feel a lot better about the big 40 and it not being some devastating equivalent to a hysterectomy.

That nurse has a point as we don't DTD three times a week outside if the fertile window. I shall jump on DP tonight :)

Working does not make me any less of a nut job unfortunately. Although yes, it does provide some distraction and I can claim to have not thought about being pregnant for a good few hours today - whoop! I'm a management consultant, working mainly in health, adults and children's social care. Stressful and high pressure. So it's tough when the ewcm appears mid week!!

Ok so still no af except cramping like crazy. Bit scared as got some yellowy cm which I got before the last bfp which ended in mc as most of you know. I actually don't want it to be a bfp as would be a late implanter (bfn yesterday morn) if that's the case and late ones don't last with me. Just want af now. Never thought I would say that. On knicker watch (and now cotton bud when get home). Ttc is such a head fuck.

They do say regular sex throughout cycle is the best but also appreciate that doesn't work for everyone with busy jobs, lives or those that work away - doctor said to me twice a week was optimum! Wtf! Never get updiffed that way!

Phone means I can't read all updates but hope everyone is ok and punky it seems we are at the same stage!!

Well af arrived this morning.
Relieved in one way and another just feel sad and tired of it all.
Oh well, I've had a last minute cancellation for training I'm doing so I've got to revise super hard tonight for assessments tomorrow and weekend of training. Eeeeek.

Feel I need to come to terms with just having one child. I'm struggling with that though.

Oh fedup, sorry you're feeling rubbish but at least now AF is here you can put that cycle behind you. It's so tough, please don't give up hope, I was reading further back in the thread and you were really positive about 2014, we will get a BFP somewhere on this thread and there's no reason why it won't be you.

Was chatting to my lovely sil who had 4 mcs TTC 2, she gave up all hope and then bang it happened - she was 38 so I'm trying to remember this whenever i feel gloomy about it all.

Fed up are they investigating the miscarriages at all?

As you say, least the witch is here and it's a clean slate. I can totally understand you feeling the way you do. I also am trying to just feel lucky to have one which is so much more than many people have. But the yearning is there and I imagine doesn't go away. Let's hope you have nice high fertility now and you catch this month xxxxxx

Well I am 6 dpo. No point in symptom spotting as every time I've had a symptom that was new it's still been bfn!!! I know my month is coming, I've just got to want patiently.

Wait

Hello everyone,

Gonna join in if that's ok....Currently on cycle 5 of TTC #2.

Started fretting that I wasn't ovulating (zero symptoms and have never had a positive OPK). Went to GP last month who did blood tests, going abck next week to discuss.

Currently on CD11, first time using Conceive Plus - DTD last night and this morning. I honestly have no idea when I ovulate (if I even do!).

Said on a separate thread that I noticed a very slight bit of EWCM yesterday but was quite bloody (sorry).

Anyway, good luck everyone, here's hoping.

Hello! Yes, I've learned lots from this thread too. I had another day 3 blood test today, to see if the bfing hormone suppression has stopped yet. I seem to have a better GP than I realised, seeing some posts on here, though I think paying for the private consultation worked. The next stage next month is to have some scans through next month to work out more about when/if ovulation is happening etc.

I agree working offers no solace. I work FT hours in a high stress position but about the half of the time I can work from home. I work a strange pattern so I still get to do major amounts of the childcare. I saw NCT pals today with babies and ended up tearful on the drive home, though they would have had no idea I was feeling sad. Cuddling the baby while my own baby said "hello baby" and "baby crying now" got me a bit.

Good luck everyone!

Don't lose hope fed up! I heard a story the other day About secondary infertility that came good in the end. Think we've just got to keep plodding on. We all got pregnant before, so it can happen again. That's what I keep telling myself anyway.
From my end I'm on 11 dpo I think. Got major skin break out so am just waiting AF I think. It's not something I usually have but equally, I don't remember it being a preg sign either.
Strangely enough ds did 6 hrs straight last night. First time ever in 2 and a half yrs. was going to start weaning tonight but feeling very tired and may just wait and see if its a fluke or not. Basically I'm wimping out. Not sure why I had to be the one that can't get pregs whilst bf. My best mate got up duffed whilst she was bf her one year old and with only one bloody ovary. So not fair.
Welcome tap dancing!

Welcome tap

Thanks ladies, just still feel shit and had a go at my sister with 3 kids for not understanding. FFS she even took the morning after pill and was still pregnant with one of them. Just feels so unfair. I can't face my NCT - not at the mo. Too hard with all their sibling brigades.

sebs no, no looking into it on NHS as I've "only" had two. Sucks.

Right, got a night of revision ahead of me before some exams tomorrow - and already ready for sleep!

Welcome Tap :)

Well Fed up, you were right about us being at the same point. AF came today, and to add insult to injury it's been REALLY painful :( I knew this morning when my temp dropped massively (though I still spent an hour googling 'massive temp drop at 12 dpo any chance?) and other variations of the same topic.

My one consolation is that my lp is longer this cycle without having taken anything to lengthen it, and hoping next cycle is more settled. Now just to prepare DH for lots of BD in a couple of weeks!

Xx

Hello tap I am a newbie too
Sebs I just wanted to say that made me giggle reading about your psychic explorations! My immediate thought was where is this person, how do I get in touch with them! I do not believe in any of that psychic babble whatsoever, but this ttc malarkey really gets you grasping at straws doesn't it!
Fedup that is so unfair with your sister. I know a few people who got pregnant by mistake and then decided it was wonderful and went on to have some more. Just like that, so easy.
I'm sick of people saying things like ooh your DD is two?? Time to start trying for another one! I know people just don't think about things like secondary infertility but, well, they should!!!!
Jakey that is a good way to think, but I am such a negative nancy that I just keep thinking if I managed to get pregnant once before, why is it so hard to do it again!!
Also agree that working offers no solace. If anything the ttc is ruining my job, as I just cannot concentrate at work for constantly thinking about babies and being pregnant, and googling success/failure stories. It doesn't help that I hate my job and was only sticking it out in the hopes that I wouldn't be there for much longer as in a parallel universe I am now 7 months pregnant.
Good luck with the revision fedup.
Good luck with weaning Jakey, how do you think ds will take it?

Ha ha. It was only £7.50 do I guess it didn't hurt my pocket too much. How about when the month appears and she is right or wrong I let you know then if she is accurate

Thanks everyone

Didn't get to DTD last night as DH was too tired, gutted! Then to add more fun, DD spent the night vomiting and is currently recouperating on the sofa with DH while I'm at work.

Not looking good for later either (or this cycle in general).

How is everyone?

Welcome Tap and hi everyone.

Sorry to hear your Dd is poorly, definitely doesn't help you feel in the mood for DTD does it?! My dd poorly last night too, we go interrupted mid DTD by the sound of coughing and wailing - passion killer!

So day 10 of cycle here and succumbed to an Internet cheapie opk (was meant to be holding off til next month for that) and there's a definite line there, not as strong as the control line so i know technically that is negative, but a line nonetheless. However can't DTD tonight anyway as DH away and not sure I have the stamina for two days in a row. But hope to get back to that tomorrow after last night's interruption!! Got ridiculously excited about a pale line on an opk, can only imagine how ridiculous I'm going to get if I keep using these opk things saw my NCT group today and yet another one is pregnant with #2 - delighted for her as she is lovely but I couldn't help feel a massive pang of disappointment.

Fedup, hope the exams go okay and you're feeling a little better about stuff, really crap with your sister and NCT bunch

punky sorry to hear AF arrived, the bitch, and hope it's not too painful today.

I can't even count - realised I'm actually day 14 of this cycle. Hmmm, whether to carry on with opks or not?? Now I have started perhaps I just should, or will they make me even more nuts??

Argh Tap that's so bloody frustrating isn't it! Its bad enough being on the 2ww when you've been at it like bunnies, even more frustrating when you feel you haven't BDed enough. I have read so many stories where TTCers have BDed just the once in the fertile window and conceived, so try not to want to punch your DH too much lol

Cakebaker it really does depend on whether you have a longer cycle or think you ovulate later in the cycle usually? I would prob carry on testing anyway. If you are using cheapies just remember to test in the afternoon and try not to drink for four hours (i could never actually manage to do this!).

Well I'm on (i think) 7dpo. I am quite tired but i didn't sleep that well and otherwise everything is as i would expect on a non fertile cycle. Feel like its permanent groundhog day in my pants lol

Just a quick one as zonked after my training and exams to give punky a hug. Stupid periods. Mine has been painful and heavy too but lightening up now. My boobs also still hurt which is unlike me with periods but assume it's just messed up after mc.

sebs haven't you seen about 3 diff psychics or all said you would get pregnant this year?? One around May?

Oh and exams were v hard

Keep going cake unless you think you have ovulated?!

Hope dd better now tap

Fed up yes to three!!! And kind of about May. The internet woman gave a particular month that wasn't May but still fell within the other psychics predictions as they gave a less specific time period.

Exams sound exhausting but I bet you did brilliantly

Thanks for the hug Fed up. Sending one right back at you and hope you're having a good rest after your training and exams. AF not as painful today, though also had sore boobs which I never normally get. Weird. I also think my body is still messed up from the EP, hence my weird cycles. Am currently obsessing over whether to start taking b6, raspberry tea capsules, etc or wait and see what next cycle is like.

Cake and Tap, hope your DDs are better today and you can DTD without interruption! DH prefers to DTD in the morning but as DS tends to wake v early sometimes we have to try to ignore him shouting for us... Yes, total mood killer!

Sebs, really hope your psychics are right! I know a psychic but she refuses to see about babies as she says that is up to a higher power.... Sucks :(

All this 'balancing of hormones' is so confusing. They talk about three cycles after coming off BP don't they, although obviously some women fall pregnant straight away. So hopefully your next cycle will feel a little more normal Punky.

Not sure about supplements. You hear some people raving about them and others saying they thought they created other issues. I would be slightly cautious as obviously your hormones were working well to enable you to fall pregnant relatively recently.

Re the psychic stuff. It really is just desperation on my part and I would hate to encourage anyone else to do it just incase it gave false hope or worse discouragement. However if it turns out to be accurate i will definitely give details to anyone who wants them xxxx