If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

[sebsmummy1]

Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

Thanks punky, dd on the mend although still up a few times last night, yawn. Glad AF not as painful for you now.

Fedup, absolutely no idea if I've ovulated, given up symptom spotting as I just seem to drive myself utterly bonkers!

Did another opk just now. A much fainter line than yesterday, but still a line. So I wonder did I ov yesterday as that was the darkest line? I'm utterly clueless aren't I

Sebs, please don't give your hard earned cash to any more psychics, they're awful people who prey on the rest of us during our most difficult times IMHO. Spend your money on which is the answer to life's problems. Ok, so that's a lie, but while I'm eating it it feels like it

I know I know!!! They feed on the desperate and vulnerable. Doesn't help that my Mums really into it so I've grown up with it being considered quite normal.

I wish there was the ability to include sigs on this site as I forget what peoples history is on here and don't want to keep repeating the same questions or say something insensitive assuming certain things have happened when they haven't.

I am 8 dpo I think today and nothing happening whatsoever xx

Positive opk!! I'm stupidly excited

Ok they were a 6-pack from Home Bargains but still, they're reliable aren't they?

Photo?

Hi ladies. I'm never new on here. What does dpo mean? Should I poas tomorrow 12 days after ovulation? Had a mc last no and really feel pregnant now. But prob all in my head. Xxxx

Evening all, I am the same Sebs, I can never remember what anyone has said previously, I have about 5 tabs open on my computer replying to people reading pack over the previous pages!! I do think psychics prey on us when vulnerable and tell us what we want to hear, but as long as it doesn't break the bank and you can take it all with a pinch of salt there is nothing wrong with having a bit of fun with it! So in other words, when your prediction comes true I will be having those details off you please !
Cake I am also utterly clueless with opks! Istruggle to even stick to a time of day to use them, so when I do the results are useless anyway. Does anyone else find it hard to go even 2 hours, never mind 4 without needing a wee/drink? I got a very faint squinty line the other day, and I have had some ewcm today so I'm going to guess that now is a good time to dtd!! AF due 2 weeks tomorrow if she behaves herself this month and sticks to her regular schedule, although I would obviously prefer she just f**ks off altogether this month!
Good luck with the exam results fedup, when will you find out how you did?
Punky I have also heard good and bad from supplements. I do think the best you can do for yourself is to eat healthily, cut down on drinking and caffeine and not stress, and other boring totally unrealistic things!! My moto this cycle is to just take a deep breath and relax whenever I can feel myself getting carried away with obsessing over it. Whether I will be able to keep that up for another two weeks....
Sebs do you think you will POAS in the next couple of days?
Hope everyone is having a nice weekend.

Just a quick one this morning - as I'm back for day 3 of training (passed all Fridays exams -whoop! But don't know about yesterday's horrible ones) and I am shattered!!

Just a quick one re opks. I think the digi ones are so much easier as don't leave you analysing lines (there is always some LH in your system so can have lines on tests even if you are no way near ovulating!!)
Plus digis can be done in the morning (clear blues) so you don't have to worry about saving up wee (I too struggled with the 4 hour thing unless it was about 11 am and I didn't drink anything all morning!!) I used to test twice a day nearing ovulation to make sure i caught the surge too but you don't have to do that.

They stressed me out which is why I stopped but never say never to going back.

mrs dpo is days post ovulation and hello!

punky weird about the boobs too. Day 4 of my period today and tailing off - sometimes still sore boobs but not too bad. And spots getting slightly less angry!!

Right need coffee before day three starts. Caffeine cut down starts tomorrow

Lucy your post made me really chuckle xxxxx
I poas this morning and bfn. Going to try and save the other one as I am 99.9% sure I'm not pregnant so it's just a waste of money and heart ache.

Congrats in passing your first set of exams fed up xxxxxx

Just got teary in Tesco cafe over a little baby on the table two away. I'm so frightened I'm going to become one of those women that pounces on newborns and scares their Mothers.

If any good can come out of this (assuming I ever fall pregnant) it will be that I will not take the pregnancy for granted and will be so bloody happy, as will my family, if I ever get another BFP.

Lucy I'm with you on opks, surely it's impossible not to drink or wee for that long unless you're a camel?! So I just did the opk at lunchtime, probably therefore not totally accurate but it's the only realistic time in the day I can. So did another one today and no line whatsoever. So I'm now wondering if I ov'd on Friday as that was the strongest line I've had? Or do you ovulate after you've had a strong line?? Anyway DTD last night but not sure if it was pointless and whether to keep going next week too? Any advice knowledgeable ladies?

Congratulations fedup on passing your exams and thanks also for the tip on digi opks, I can totally see the point in spending the cash on them now just for the convenience. I might do next month, but also like you worried they may just make me too obsessed!

Sebs, so sorry you were upset at tesco, totally know that feeling and have to stop myself staring at every pregnant woman i see. Getting scared that I'm so focused on the life I want that I'm forgetting to enjoy the life I've got....

Welcome mrs

Oh gosh we are all do similar on this thread I find myself nodding along to every post.

I could not make a cheapie opk shoe anything bar a total negative, directly I started using clearblue digis with FMU I got positives, they are definitely worth the money!! I would advise scrutinising your CM but also your libido. I find I am infinitely more horny when I'm fertile, and my cm is moist, cervix high.

Even though my cbfm is still saying High it is very obvious I am not fertile currently. My cm is either creamy white/yellowish and lotion-like or totally dry.

It's easy to feel your cervix by inserting yr middle finger and feeling towards your spine. When you are fertile it will be high and you either won't feel it at all it have to insert most of your finger to do so. When you are near AF it moves lower down and becomes firmer. I generally only check my cervix a few times a month as it's not a good early pregnancy indicator. It is quite useful though to show when your fertile.

Hmm I think I might fork out and buy the clearblue ones next cycle then. I can't even be bothered doing an opk today, I was going to wait a few hours of not weeing/drinking but I thought sod it I want a cup of tea!! I also struggle to analyse my cm, I don't usually get much throughout the cycle so when I do get some, which is roughly around the time I would guess I ov it is clear and stringyish, so I presume that is what I would be looking for. I have been a bit crampy the past few days too so hopefully all these things point to ovulation.
Cake what day are you on? If it was me I think I would just take the strong line the other day as your go go go, I think you ovulate within 12-24 hours after a positive, is that the same with ewcm too ladies? So hopefully dtd last night will have been bang on for you I still feel a bit baffled with the whole thing but I'm trying not to get too carried away with it all and just have sex every 2/3 days and a bit more when I guess I'm fertile!
Glad I could make you smile Sebs! And I'm with you on the crazy woman front. There were pg women everywhere in asda yesterday, and I couldn't help but stare at them all. Also at buggies, it used to be that I was oggling the buggy to see if I liked it when I was pg with DD, now it's to see how old the baby is. Do you know what else I am obsessed with? age gaps between siblings. Everyone I meet now I want to know if they have a brother or sister, how big the age gap is, do they get along, do they wish they'd been closer in age or further apart. It's totally crazy, I obviously can't control what age gap there will be!!
Well done and good luck with your exams fedup!

Oh the age gap is my obsession too. Big obsession. It freaks me out. IF I have a second child it will be at least three years gap now. I wanted two but no such luck :(

Thanks ladies, I passed all 4 exams so hurrah!

Me too fedup re age gap...DD will be at least 5 now if we have another....there's 5 years, 3 months between my brother and I, so that's my maximum level before I start getting really panicky

DH now very unwell with DD's bug, this really isn't my month

I honestly don't think there is a perfect age gap, really. I have heard all sorts of stories about small age gaps being bad, bigger age gaps being fantastic. Least with a larger gap the first child is in school/out of nappies.

Please don't drive yourselves mad with age gap worries. The only thing that's really going to decide if your children get on is personality. You either luck out and your kids get on as they get older, or else they are just chalk and cheese and they don't (talking from experience here )

Well done fed up. You ROCK girlie

Agree sebs that age gaps will be what they will be, pros and cons either way and frankly I'll just be glad if #2 ever appears! And wow to you knowing what to look for with your cervix, I'm feeling like a total novice.

Lucy I'm on day 16 and had the strong line on opk on day 14, we DTD on day 15 and think we will try again tomorrow. I'm a bit mistrustful of these cheap opks though, so who knows. Will definitly get the digi type next cycle. Also I've had a 25 day cycle then most recently a 34 day one so really not sure about whether to keep DTD all next week just in case? Wwyd ladies? We're taking the every 2 - 3 day approach but it's pretty tough to stick to this with busy lives isn't it. As for EWCM, I'm struggling to know if it is that, or just, ahem, leftovers from DH. Sorry tmi!

I think statistically we are due a bfp on this thread now! Really hoping for good news from someone very soon. Sending lots of positive thoughts to you all x

Haha Cake I am the same with confusion between ewcm and leftovers!!! It's so nice to hear that you aren't alone in your craziness!!
Fedup it's the same for me, we will have a gap of 3 years plus if I don't get pg this cycle. I wanted no more than 2.5 years between, I want lots of children too so this is just adding to the frustration! Serves me right for being so cocky about our fertility first time round Now that it is past my magic age gap window I am thinking like you Sebs, it is all down to personality really, and the way DD is at the mo I could not imagine being heavily pregnant or having a newborn!
Well after deciding I couldn't be bothered with the opk today I did one after not weeing and only drinking a brew for 2.5 hours, and I got the strongest line I have had for the past few days. It wasn't as strong as the control line but it will do for me!
If I were you cake I would dtd tonight if you can? and a few more times next week, just to cover every base. It is hard to squeeze it in though, excuse the pun, whilst working and everything else too. What do you all think about dtd too much?? I'm on cd13 today, but we have dtd mon,wed,thurs,fri and today so far. DH was off work most of the week so that is the only reason we have managed so much this cycle! But now I'm wondering if maybe we peaked too soon. It seems the more I read on the threads on mumsnet that with anything you're damned if you do and damned if you don't!!!
Sebs hope you are surviving your 2WW ok?

Wow Lucy impressive stats on DTD! We haven't managed two days in a row yet! Not sure it's possible to DTD too much, just as often as you can unless any fertility issues is what I seem to read. I think we'll to DTD a couple more times to hopefully cover all bass as you say! Just not feeling v hopeful but must stop thinking like that!
Lovely to hear from fellow crazies, as you say so nice to feel you aren't alone in this madness.

Girls I thought I saw a faint line, but DP is saying no and I wiped pink this morning that is slightly staining a panty liner. Either the witch is coming or its implantation.

I suspect I'll be following this up with a but I'm going to bob about in my what if bubble for today I think.

Lucy, my fertility acupuncturist (I only saw her once lol) said that you should DTD as much as you can in the fertile window and Fertility Friend say the same. Other people say every other day.

I would just say if it's a real chore better to do it slightly less but get DH really aroused as opposed to every day if it's all a bit wishy washy. You certainly haven't done it wrong though!!!!

Doing my special implantation dance for you sebs !

Bless you xxxxx

I know I'm a bit impressed too! Very unlike me/us. It seems the more you do it though the more you enjoy it and want to do it more!
Well I really feel like I want to throw my all at it this cycle so will keep dtd as much as we feel we can be bothered. No stress allowed though!!! I'm the same Cake, I'm such a negative nancy. Come on though, let's get our capes of positive thinking on!!
Sebs do you mean you have POAS today?? A faint line you say?? Enjoy your bubble today and I so hope the next few days bring you what you want, everything crossed.

Fx sebs
Some lines are only viable by the trained eye but hopefully tomorrow's one or dha after will be dark enough for your husband to see. Excited for you xx

Loving the cape idea Lucy, like some sort of BFP super hero
Keeping everything crossed sebs.....