If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

[sebsmummy1]

Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

OMG congratulations punky! Yay!!!!!!

I hope this one is sticky and in the right place!! And after all your probs getting DH in the mood this is excellent! Well done for persevering (and for the O after he's dropped his load - I fail at that part as usually O before him!)

Hurrah!!!

Omg omg omg that is the most BRILLIANT news, so happy for you darling . Praying this is a great pregnancy for you. All my love xx

Wow wow wow congratulations punky, such fantastic news!

I've been lurking a little ladies, but just to say I too had all the usual AF signs before BFP so you're definitely not out until the bitch shows up! I also had nosebleeds too.

And yes ginger, get to it! Definitely the two days before ov seem to make the most difference, but then I was pretty unscientific about it all last month and so we just DTD every other day from cd9 to cd16 (plus a random one about cd23). I too took multivits but that was about it, couldn't do the propping up of bum as a few times it was just random mid evening so needed to get up! I was totally convinced it would not be our month and them BFP. I think I'm about 5 wks now, going to doc next week, still feels unreal.

Sebs, sorry you're still having that bleeding but it does sound v positive as it's light, so hopefully just annoying rather than anything else.

I'll keep lurking if that's ok as I want to see the rest of you get those BFPs, it will happen!

Brilliant news punky.We needed another bfp. Strange how they just delight me on here and make me feel a little sad it isn't me in real life. Well done you.

No AF for me yet, but fairly sure she will be on her way any time.

But you're right, there's plenty of time to be sad when she's here!

Sebs, how are things today? Fedup, we both seem to be at the same horrible point. It's a comfort to know someone else is going through all this. x

Yeesssss Punky!!!! Another BFP, amazing. Congratulations!!
Well ladies I did as I was told and DTD last night. It was actually fun and I felt like I enjoyed it rather than just doing it to make a baby!!
I agree with you all, the few days before ov are the best and that is when I am hoping to catch it, but I also don't want to overdo it before then, to 'save them up' so to speak! My problem is my cycles have been a bit weird the past few months, so how do I know when the one or two days before ov are going to occur? I've been having a few cramps on and off the past few days but still no positive on an opk or any ewcm. Last cycle I got the positive on cd14, which will be thursday, so if I go off last cycle, maybe I will dtd again on tues and then thursday...so it will be eod during fertile week. God this all so confusing!!!!
Sebs I can imagine you must feel like you are going mad not knowing which way it will go. But you certainly seem to be in the best frame of mind, so hopefully it will tip to the perfectly ok side very soon, two weeks til the scan is it? Think of it like your 2WW!! Have you spoken to the dr/midwife today about the constant discharge?
Fedup any updates today?

Thanks all :) I have to admit I am freaking out already about the possibility of another ectopic. I managed to be happy and enjoy the bfp for about 1day. Already been on the phone to the EPU today. They said GP has to refer me! Ridiculous! Anyway, so next time I can get a gp appt is next Monday (though I called back to complain as then the referral takes a few days more! So they said to call back on Thursday morning and they will try to get me in. Then hopefully I can be referred to EPU for early next week. I just want to know!!!

Sebs, hope you are ok, I hope the bleeding stops soon. The wait for the scans is torture!

Ginger, I would just go for it as much as you can, at least every other day until you get a pos opk. Then every day. I didn't get any ewcm this cycle until after my pos opk, which is why it was such a shock really!

Xx

Well done for getting on with dtd ginger. Mine vary too every month so I go on when I feel a bit friskier and cm. I usually get some cm before ov so I'm lucky in that sense but whatever I always start with every other day from cd 8 until I think I've def ov'd.

Well, been feeling a bit odd today so went to the gym and felt dizzy on the bike and a bit weak. Had some more creamy milky cm again too. So I bought a superdrug two pack on my way back from the shops and it's a bfp. I'm shitting myself. I know I should be excited and I am but it's just triggered a whole range of emotions! It's not even a squinter. Really obvious line that came up straights away. Yikes, shiiiiiit, and a small, whispered 'yay'. Feel a bit crampy so hope I won't start bleeding. Please god may this be a good one :)

OMG Fedup!!! Whoop whoop! Soooo hoping this is a sticky one for us both. We can both worry and stress together!! Xxx

well done fedup.that's brilliant news. It really is and you deserve it so much.

looks like I'm out this month

Has af turned up zippy? Was so hoping for a hat trick this week x

I've just calculated a due date and it's DS's birthday based on a 26 day cycle that's prob my average.

good for joint parties fedup!

Yes, AF seems to be here. I always have a day hoping it is implantation bleeding, but it never is. I'm so ridiculously sad and distraught, it just doesn't seem like it is going to happen and I am blaming myself for leaving it until I am in my mid 30s. Allowing myself a tearful self-indulgent whine. Except I was in my early 30s when I got pregnant instantly with the first, but that was almost 3 years ago somehow.

Trying to decide whether to organise a party for my baby turning 2 in a few weeks. Selfishly I think I can't cope with the newborns and bumps. A rubbish mum to be even thinking of that, it's about her not me. But it's hard isn't it, TTC. So very, crushingly, frustratingly, lonely and hard.

Amazing news fedup, so so pleased! And good luck to everyone else waiting for scans, 2ww and all the bloody waiting then tends to go with this TTC/pregnancy lark!

Ah zippy I know how you feel I really do. I didn't go to half my NCT events as struggled seeing all the second bumps and babies. In fact I pretended I was busy last Friday so I didn't have to go round and be the only one without a second and hear all the stories about how hard it is with two... Blah de blah. Be selfish and do a family party for DD. That way she had a party but you don't have to face the sea of bumps and new borns. Sometimes you have to be selfish to get through this ttc hell. And I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

You aren't old either. The average ages for the FIRST baby at a hospital near me is 38. Yes, 38 average. I had DS when I was 30 and that seemed quite young compared to most.

Lots of love to you xx

So sorry Zippy.. I was hoping it was your month too :-(

FedUp - My due date is 1 day after DS's birthday.. weird huh!! Maybe we are extra fertile in January's!

xxx

Hello ladies still lurking here occasionally and needed to say a big congratulations to all the bfp's!!! fedup im so so pleased for you! I really hope its a sticky one. You too sebs try not to worry too much about the bleeding. There are lots of people in my april thread that have had bleeding.

All is well with me 31 weeks yesterday. Sickness all gone and just a bit of SPD but its not too much of a problem.

Good luck to all the newer ladies that probably wont even know me it will happen!

Zippy I hope you're feeling a bit better today? I agree with fedup, just throw a little family party for your DD, she won't know the difference anyway at the age of 2! I really had to force myself to go to playgroup yesterday, there is one lady there who brings her newborn along and a few others with big bumps. But on the other hand I have just met a lovely new lady who only has the one, same age as my DD, who also isn't pg! All the words you use to describe this journey are spot on, and I am feeling just the same as you I'm only on cd11 and I have given up hoping already this month, I just know in my heart of hearts that there are other issues at hand, and I'm not sure I have the financial/emotional stability to be going down that route. I am trying so hard to accept one child as being ok and enough, but I get so struck by sadness when I think I won't have anymore babies. And don't blame yourself for leaving it til 30's, you did what you thought was the best for you! I had DD when I was 25, I'm now 27, thinking that by starting early I wouldn't have any problems and would bang out 4 babies before I was 30 (yes 4!) but look what's happened...so I don't think your age would make a blind bit of difference if there's still a 3 in it!
Fedup Amazing Congratulations to you!!!!! I am very happy for you, and I hope hope hope that this one is a sticky one for you, you deserve it. If I conceive this month my due date will be the same as it was for DD too!!
Hello Bart, I don't know you, but amazing congratulations at being at 31 weeks!!

Hi bart can't believe you are 31 weeks - woweeee! But also shows how long I've been on this thread so hope this time is my one!!!

Today has been hell. Literally shaking whenever I go to the loo out of fear. How on earth am I going to get through this?!?!

I phoned EPU and (clearly nicer than punkys EPU) as I have a location scan booked for 20th feb when will be 6 weeks... If I get that far. They did tell me to ring when I got the bfp and the reception lady recognises my name - not sure if a good or bad thing!!!

Thinking of you ginger and zippy. It is unbelievably hard to be around people who you know through DC1 who are pregnant or with new borns. I sometimes feel sick at the prospect of hanging out with them. It's really tough and go easy on yourselves. The nice EPU doctor was the FIRST medical professional I've met who understood that and actually let me talk about it. I think she could genuinely empathise which is so rare. Take care everyone xx

Thanks so much everyone. I've said before, but I haven't told anyone else at all in RL apart from the doctor so it is nice to have your support. AF was cruelly very light at first making me get my hopes up all over again as I had implantation bleeding over 2 or 3 days last time, I'd thought it was AF until I got sore nipples and morning sickness! But I'm pretty sure it's AF real now.

Nobody asks in RL anyway, I had a very difficult birth and it needed months of hospital treatment afterwards to fix me up (ignore all that, pregnant ladies, I'd do it again in a flash obviously!) so they told me not to TTC until it was over (not that it made much difference as AF cycles didnt come back for ages). But I think my NCT pals who know all that assume that's why no 2 hasn't happened. I blame myself for carrying on bfing to 21 months too, I was so proud of doing it whilst working funny shifts and long hours, but maybe everyone was right about it being too long for a reason.

Anyway, I have a gorgeous DD who is talking very fluently and she always makes me feel better. And I am very pleased for sebs, fedup, punky and the rest but I want you to stay on here as I'm going to miss you otherwise x

fedup, you're going to be fine. Nobody can be so unlucky again. The odds must be good. Really.

In a way that's a good thing zippy - then you don't have anyone asking, 'so when are you having another?' Or 'it's about time for number 2'. Does my head in.

Can I ask what happened? It doesn't scare me hearing stories (except when baby doesn't come out of it ok). I had third degree tearing but that after the initial theatre 'repair work' it only required physio and pelvic floor clinic stuff and laxatives for months!!! It's so attractive isn't it. Hope you have healed properly now.

Ds had me in giggles this evening. I just love the funny things he says. I'm so lucky to have him :) and I know I can say that on here as we all have one dc to brighten up our world!! Xx

Just wanted to say a HUGE congratulations to fed up, fantastic news. Made up for everyone with their BFPs this month. Long overdue xxx

thanks fedup. similar sort of thing, except a fourth degree tear after a very long back to back/forceps labour and the stuff afterwards has taken a bit more sorting out. At first things seemed quite bad with the effects of the damage, I was worried indeed, but the repair stuff and physio has been very successful and they have been great but it took a long time to get there, over a year. They wanted it to be as healed as it could before pregnancy strained muscles again. All future births have to be sections but that is fine with me if I get chance. x

Just to say massive congrats to fedup
Still lurking to see you all through your BFPs. X

Hi all, how are you all feeling? Please don't leave this thread now that you have your bfps, your knowledge and support is indispensable!

Zippy was/is it AF in full flow now?

I too have 'downstairs' issues after having DD. She was born very quickly, and the mw who stitched me up didn't do a great job. I had a borderline third/fourth degree tear which she didn't realise at the time. In short I now have no perineum and will need reconstructive surgery at some point, but the gyno advised me to wait until I was done having children. It does impact my way of life though so this is another reason why it sucks having to wait so long for another baby. Zippy do you think it was a good decision to just get it fixed and resign yourself to c-sections? I am starting to wonder if I should go that way too, two and a bit years is a long time to still be a bit sore! Again though, it hasn't put me off wanting more babies!!

Hi gingerbread, I don't recall being given any option at any stage. The fourth degree tear was very severe and the surgery immediately afterwards took some hours with a Consultant called in to do it. I didn't have great bladder/bowel control for a little while but it got fixed and the work after has been a long road but great results.

In all honesty, I don't think anyone would know the difference now physically and I feel absolutely fine. But yes, they were clear at every stage including immediately afterwards that it would be c sections from now on. I wouldn't even consider anything else. But there might be a good reason for you to wait and if the surgery will interrupt TTC that might not be a bad reason to wait? Though I wouldnt be at all afraid to ask for a section if you thought that was a good reason either.

Yes, definitely AF. Boo hiss. On the plus side I have a letter from the GP confirming all bloods are now entirely normal and ovulating is happening. So that's something!