If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

[sebsmummy1]

Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

Have I done enough in ttc?
I have been ttc for years, I have now tested with the clearblue smiley face opk's I got my first smiley face 29th and second 30th I had intercourse 28th 30th and 31st my question is have I done enough although I didn't have intercourse the day of the first smiley even though I did it the night before?

Hi Demi, it sounds like you've done enough to me. You've covered every base with the dates you dtd for when you got your smileys. Fingers crossed for you! Will this be your first baby?

Ouch 5 is definately pushing it Fedup! We sometimes have to 'schedule' it for ridiculous times too as DH and I don't see one another (at home) from thurs morning to sat night due to work schedules. Feels like wayy too much effort I'm going for targetted BD this cycle using the clearblue sticks, as I really can't face lots of sex EOD all cycle long!!
Is anyone doing anything nice this weekend?

demi yes sounds fine. You don't have to have sex everyday for it to be your month and sounds like you did it a fair bit at the right time so good luck.

ginger it's so tough when fertile period falls on awkward days of the week! I love it when it's a weekend for us but if it's mon through Friday I really struggle!

Knackered here (what's new!) was my day for a lie in but woke up at 7 so not really achieved it!

11 ish dpo here and starting to feel a bit nervous about both getting my period and getting a bfp. The former is just depressing and means on to another month of ttc (it's been 15 months for us now :( ) but bfp totally frightens me as am so scared of blood after last time. Not sure mentally I can cope! So kinda in a 'I can't win' situation.

Someone slap me round the face please and make me just get a grip... Thanks!!

Fingers crossed fed up, totally understand your fears as I am sick of seeing blood too but we either give up altogether and get sterilised or accept this is the pain bit before we all hopefully get the gain. You could totally test at 11dpo and expect a faint BFP, I'm guessing you are going to wait it out though

I've accepted my BFP is unlikely to go the full distance now. The spotting just won't let up and Im totally bored of stressing now. Had a great night sleep, have spent the last few hours cleaning downstairs to David Guetta on full blast am out this afternoon and tomorrow. Life must go on or else we'd all go bonkers.

Have a great weekend everyone xxx

Yep - this is the first month am waiting til period arrives or testing only when100% sure it's not coming as just not sure I want to know early!

Sebs - I think from the scan news it looked positive as the bleeding doesn't seem to be mc related as it's all still in there and in right place but good plan just to get on with life. Although it's hard it's def the best thing to do. Gorgeous sunny day here today so good to get out and about for some rays!

Gorgeous sunny day here too. Life is good

Oh fedup. Maybe try and view it the other way, if you can..like if you don't get your bfp that is convenient whilst you are so busy and have so much planned. You know you do get bfps so all is not lost, it will be next month.

And if it is your bfp, you have to start thinking of due dates and the joyful bit and concentrating on all the ace bits.

All a loads of nonsense I know. I'm expecting AF in next few days too. Tomorrow if it is the cycle I had all my life until the last few months when it seems to have got longer.

sebs, you're pregnant and doing ace. I feel very positive for you. x

Ginger - thank you :) and yes this will be my first, we've done it again today so fingers crossed this will be our month!! I shall keep u all posted , thank you to ur reply to fed up xxxx

Ha fedup we are the opposite, weekends are a bad time for us for fertile period to fall! Did the clearblue ov test today but no smiley face, it's still a few days early I think, if I go off of last month I got a positive on cd 14, which will be thursday for me, which isn't ideal in terms of dtd! Hopefully we can catch it a day or two before I ovulate. Not sure you deserve a slap, more of a !! It's totally understandable the way you are feeling given your past year or so. What day do you expect AF? I can understand you wanting to wait till then too, I think I will too this month.
Sebs I think quiet optimism is the way to go from now on, I wish I could practice what I preach though! As long as it doesn't turn to heavy red blood with cramps surely it will all be ok for you.
Zippy how are you feeling? Do you have an inkling if it will be AF or BFP?
And where on earth are you girls living, it has been horrendous here today, blowing a gale and chucking it down with rain/sleet!!

Well its been an interesting day!!

Started bleeding more heavily last night and today there has been lots of black sludge and lots of pinky red blood, no cramping. But when i say 'bleeding' its nothing like period blood and it only touches the pad, but when i wipe there is a coating on the tissue each time and it is mucousy.

When i googled bloody mucous in early pregnancy loads of stuff on cervical erosion came up, so i can't help wonder if it could be this instead of a threatened miscarriage. I also did another Clearblue digi with dilute afternoon wee and 3+ came up, so my HCG has obviously risen appropriately and is currently still high.

So it really is a waiting game.

Either this is going to end in miscarriage or i am going to be scanned on the 17th and see a heart beat. I honestly couldn't tell you what i think in my heart as i have resigned myself to all scenarios, im not even scared of seeing blood anymore!!

Oh sebs you poor thing. It really is one thing after another for you at the moment! I suppose google does have its uses if that has been the problem all along? Its not nice for you to have to go through whatever it is but you seem to have a straight head on with it all. Will you call the doctors or midwife on monday? Hope you manage to get some rest tonight x

Oh sebs you poor thing. It really is one thing after another for you at the moment! I suppose google does have its uses if that has been the problem all along? Its not nice for you to have to go through whatever it is but you seem to have a straight head on with it all. Will you call the doctors or midwife on monday? Hope you manage to get some rest tonight x

Sebs are you having sex still? As that can trigger it. Also I would just go with what the sonographer said that's its a burst blood vessel. The fact your hcg is going up as it should is a good sign - mine was weak and the conception thing didn't progress as it should so I think you are ok.. And if you are getting used / not worried by the blood then even better!!

Thanks girls, appreciate your calm reassurance xxx

Nope, haven't had sex since my BFP and that first bleed as I know they say not to and also I can remember having sex in the first trimester of my last pregnancy and bleeding and freaking out!!

Yep, I'm bullet proof now lol. I feel the worst has already happened in my mind anyway now so the road is pretty smooth in a weird way.

Fed up how you doing? Isn't AF due tomorrow if you have a 12 day LP like me? Hand holding here xx

We had sex at about 4 months with my son and other than that been too scared when pregnant!

Yeah am ok thanks sebs. I think af is on her way. I have a 13 / 14 lp so think af due by Wednesday.
I'm sleeping so badly, am knackered - just got so much swimming round my head at the mo. Determined to go to bed at bout 8 tonight and get some proper zzzzzz's.

Hope everyone is doing well! X

Ugh. Feel all crampy. Stupid period.
Been a gorgeous sunny day but I've been stuck inside doing my coursework! Please will there be an end soon...!!

In laws have come round and not in the mood so quite glad of the excuse to hide upstairs

How are all my 2 ww buddies doing?

Same as you, fedup. AF on her way, I can feel it. Not sure I can cope with yet another month of disappointment (not that there is another option but coping!), yet another mum from mat leave announced her pregnancy today at a party and I am pleased for her - she had been trying for a year, and is close to 40, so I know she knows what it feels like - but, you know, it's a bit hard too.

I only OV'd last weekend too, so still a short luteal phase. Though let's see when she arrives.

Hope everyone else well and feeling a bit less down!

Girls my heart goes out to you, it's such a horrible horrible feeling when you know the bitch is on her way. It makes no sense why it won't work if you have sex at the right time!
I'm on cd 10 and keep putting off dtd . Will have to go for it tomorrow though, can't leave it much later! Should get a +ve opk in the next few days. I'm hoping the less is more strategy works this month. But deep down I think really I've just given up. I've done so many months now of having lots of sex at the right time and it's just not worked that I think why is this month going to be any different. I wish I could just skip to that point in the future where I am ok and happy with only having one child and I lead a happy and full life that doesn't revolve around timing sex and peeing on sticks.....probably another decade or so to go yet!
How are you today Sebs?

Ok, girls you know that early pregnancy also masquerades as AF on her way. Do you are not out until she definitely arrives, don't be sad yet xxxx

Ginger remember your best chance if success is bfing before you get your positive opk. So get shagging girl!!

Much the same here. Had very light spotting today. Massively better than yesterday but the spotting just won't stop, it's like a fucking dripping tap. I veer from assuming I have miscarried to thinking it might be something else, to feeling that I may have tingly nipples to thinking I have no symptoms whatsoever as the pregnancy is over. Etc etc etc. then add to that a general low level anxiety that at any minute I'm going to have a sudden mc and it will be painful and horrendously dramatic. It's as though I am teetering in top of a cliff and at any moment I will fall and it's totally out of my control.

BDing even!!

So I went to bed at 8 last night and asleep by 8.30 and had 10 hours sleep and STILL feel exhausted. Must be pregnant right?!?! Ha ha. Nah, just need to catch up.

sebs i can imagine the rollercoaster. I hope it stops soon too. Think you are doing amazing.

ginger I know it's so tough isn't it - bit like 'what's the point?' When you have done it all right for months and nada. But the news says the best two days to have sex are two and one before ovulation so get on it!

Morning girls, well it looks like the nosebleed was a sign, got faintest of faintest bfps yesterday at 10dpo. 2 more today for luck so I am just about believing it is real... Though the nausea also helps.. To be honest after the way I've been feeling the last few days I wouldn't have believed a bfn. Have had af cramping at 8dpo which I think was implantation, weird dreams, snoring (which I never do unless full of a cold) sniffly nose, pain from both ovaries.. Dizziness.. And the nausea.

So anyway re af cramping, don't rule yourself out til the witch comes!

Now I just need to get my early scan (in a few weeks) which will hopefully prove baby is in right place, then get through the first trimester without mc (and obv whole pregnancy)... Easy right!!

So, onto the what I did this month... Well you all know our bd timing was pretty good (fluke). Bd 2 days before ov, one day, and day of ov. All 3 times were at night, so I propped my bottom half up on a pillow all 3 times, made sure I had the big 'O' after the swimmers had gone in, then home to sleep with bum propped up. Both DH and I have been on conception vits. That's about it really. I didn't end up taking cough medicine, or any extra vitamins, or homeopathic remedies.

Just praying its a sticky one with good sat nav (oh and I'm not very religious but I did also pray this month).

Hope you girls are all good, zippy has Af got you?

Xxx

Not 'home to sleep', off to sleep... 'Home to sleep' implies I moved somewhere! I made sure those swimmers stayed in!