If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

[sebsmummy1]

Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

Did you manage to get to soft play this morning?

I thought the same fed up when I saw it!! But actually it goes in very easily and you just hoik it out in the morning.

I think it's not so much the light brown discharge itself, but the worry it could turn into something else as the day(s) progresses. So you end up being in crotch watch all the time and id just got out of doing that!!

I'm sitting on the sofa watching some 'interesting' kids TV while DS throws himself all over me with a cd in one hand and the remote in the other. We did softplay yesterday with granny and it was very good, he goes down the large slide on his own now, on his tummy. Funnily enough I don't see any pregnant ladies at these places!

Ah Lucy, sorry I thought you'd been trying for a little less time. This is cycle 4 for me but the 1st one of really properly trying rather just seeing what might happen. So really a very short time compared to some but all new to me too as i got pregnant immediately with dd so consider myself very lucky indeed, especially as I was over 35. Do you mind if I ask if you're over 35? If so then a trip to the GP may be worth it but otherwise I think they may send you away?
We did make it to soft play and I instantly felt bad about not wanting to go when I saw my lovely friends - I really am very pleased for those with bumps, so just tried to stop thinking of me for a change and get excited for them, they deserve it.

Lucy are you using the clearblue opks with the flashing and static faces? Are you backing opks up with monitoring EWCM and temping.

If it were me I would want to pinpoint OV using something like FertilityFriend just incase you were getting false readings on opks. I assume you don't have PCOS as I know that can make using opks difficult.

No I was just using ics, but the positive I got was on one I got from a chemist, so a bit more 'superior' to ics but still not quite a clearblue smiley. I am a bit daunted by the cost of them, but think I will bite the bullet this month and just buy some. I do monitor ewcm, do I assume once it's all gone that ov has been and gone? Think I need to up my game ladies!! Will sign up to FF or something tonight when I get home, buy some goodies from amazon and dig out my thermometer. I will be coming back to you for lots of advice as the month goes on!!
In terms of PCOS, I have never been diagnosed with it, but am starting to wonder if it's possible to develop it in your late 20s? After having DC already? I am 28 this year and while I have always had regular cycles, I do have a few of the symptoms of PCOS and after having irregular cycles recently it has got me wondering....
I think the doctor probably will turn me away as I already have a DD, my age and it's only been 7 months, but at least I can let them know so if it does get to twelve months then they will know where I am up to.
Glad you went and enjoyed soft play cake.
Tummy sliding sounds like fun!! Wish they did soft play for big kids!!

You can hire one of the soft play places near us out for adult parties I haven't.... yet.

I am not sure how positive I feel about ever getting pregnant again now. After 2 years trying it seems so unlikely. But I have (mostly) come to terms with it. It's just DD's really obvious desire for a sibling that keeps us going.

I'm interested to see what the clinic throws up. I don't have PCOS I know that. I do have some of the symptoms of Endo but they may just be in my head.

I definitely need to lose weight so I am working on that

I'm not sure if we would go the IVF route. We could afford it but having seen friends go through it, and it not working, and knowing my own personality I think I might get sucked in and want to try again and again. So we'll see.

DH and I have discussed it and if we do go that route I will be donating eggs too - hopefully help someone else have a baby too. Because the feeling of not being able to absolutely sucks. And at least we have DD.

Try not to fret about the discharge sebs - I had many bleeds with DD up to 18 weeks and she was always fine. I was a wreck mind

Wow Lucy I'm 10 years older than you! Definitely worth getting checked out for pcos and I'd do as others have suggested on the temping, opk and all that jazz. I'm sure that's what your doc with suggest too.

Talla, I wish there was an icon for hats off to you but have these instead - I'm so impressed by how sensible you sound when I'm nuts already after a relatively short time TTC. You're my new hero

oh fedup, I understand entirely the grrr feeling on hearing everyone else's good news.

My moment today was talking to a grandma by the swings who had a 13 month old with a brother or sister on the way in a few months. I said that was quick work, and she kept going on about how great it was to have a small age gap and there were many years between her and her brother and it wasn't the same and she had been telling her daughter to get on with it quickly etc. Obviously she had no idea that the stranger she was chatting to was struggling but for me AF hadn't even come back by 13 months never mind pregnancy 2!

My body seems to be attached to this bfing business, I always had loads of milk and it is still there (just little drops) almost three months after stopping. No wonder my hormone levels were so affected by it.

sebs, is all ok? x

Think so zippy, no idea really. Had some mucous discharge this evening on the pad and when I wiped. Whenever I google anything it always seems to be negative, I guess that's the internet for you!

You know the world is full of foot-in-mouth strangers. Forgive them as they know not what they do. I was in Tesco with Seb earlier and had a very sweet look from a lady on her own around my age. I couldn't help but wonder if she had her own children, or perhaps couldn't have her own children and felt a pang looking at me. You just don't know of you. The most innocent of conversations could be a dagger to the heart of someone else.

Okay ladies...so poas this morning and....very faint line! But it was using a sainsburys test and having googled it it sounds like they aren't v good?? Argh, don't know what to think now, I've no experience of what an evaporation line looks like but I def think there was a faint line on mine but DH said not to get hopes up just in case. Bit impossible though! Think the only thing to do is go and buy an expensive clearblue one that actually says the words?? Won't be able to until tomorrow though...

Omg omg omg lol

Ok, how many days past ov are you first off? Second of all is the faint line the color of the dye (blue or pink). If so I do not think it's an evap. I had so many people shout evap at my test and it wasn't, so don't be too discouraged by people in the internet.

Noooo the words tests aren't very sensitive at all. I would be going out tomorrow and getting a First Response then peeing on a digi once my period is late.

Thanks sebs, not sure how many days past ov as wasn't testing but today is cd29. Line was faint but blue colour, I tried to take a pic but my camera phone is rubbish

Google seems to tell me sainsburys are the worst ever tests, wish I'd known that before!

Anyway I will just have to wait and see what clearblue says when I get one tomorrow...argghhhhh just more bloody waiting!

Or first response, I'll buy whatever I can get my hands on that's not own brand!

I think you are pregnant

Argh sebs I really hardly dare think so until I get a test that just says the words....if this turns out to be evap line I am going to be even more gutted than a bfn, if that doesn't sound toooooo mad!

I will link you to my first blue line test that everyone said was evap, is it similar to this?

www.canyouseealine.com/view_home_pregnancy_test.php?testID=43494

Thank you sebs, yes v similar indeed!!!! right I have to go out now but thank you for being there, I will of course keep you posted when I can finally get to a bloody shop! If I do manage to today, would you still test again today or wait for tomorrow for first wee of day? Xx

I would buy a pack of two. Piss on one this aft/this eve and then one in the morning. Even better if you can avoid having a drink this afternoon and get your wee a bit more concentrated but if you can't I'll still use it later today as I just wouldn't be able to wait

Good luck xxxx

Thank you sebs, getting to a shop today is going to be tricky so I might be forced to wait until tomorrow anyway. Xx

Goodness - exciting cake! I'm away with the worst internet connection so hopefully I can check tomorrow and see its a proper bfp. Yes sainsburys can be a bit dodgy but they also gave me my second bfp, faint but there. Evaps tend to be blue but very thin on the sainsburys ones... In my experience. I would next opt for any pink dye test if you can. Superdrug or first response are good options. Good luck!!!!! Xx

Hello again! Thanks fedup! So took your advice sebs and snuck out to get a first response pack. Poas mid afternoon despite having had loads of cups of tea thanks to visit from in laws and still a faint pink line! Feeling more positive but won't be convinced until I get a more positive result or it's cd96! feeling hopeful but almost don't dare to be...will def poas in the morning. Eeeek!

OMG deffo preggers! Yay!! Congratulations mr and mrs cake! Xx

Congratulations, thrilled for you. What's your EDD? Xx

Brilliant news, well done cake! Very pleased indeed.

Not quite on the same scale of good news but I got a peak sign on the fertility monitor today, cd19 which is still late (AF generally appears on day 27 but has been late last few months) but is five days earlier than previous peaks so hopefully a lengthening luteal phase which can also be something that shortens when bfing apparently so hoping going back to normal

I'm meant to be going for some ultrasounds next cycle to monitor exactly when the OV is happening etc but sounds a bit intrusive and expensive so might leave it a couple of months and just see if it happens. This doesn't sound like me, Mrs Impatient, so I might change my mind, but I do feel a bit more relaxed now the blood tests are showing better results (and also now it has happened to sebs because you stopped feeding at the same time thus giving me some hope when you got your bfp!) xx