If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

[sebsmummy1]

Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

Oooh zippy that is an excellent sign!! You know that my OV moved from day 16 to around day 12, my cycles went from around 28/30 to 24/25/26. I felt pretty despondent about the shorter cycles as you know, but i obviously didn't need to worry.

Assuming you will be paying for ultrasound I think it would be a good idea to just give it another couple of months (assuming you don't fall pregnant of course) and see if your OV day settles.

Everything ok on crotch watch here. How you doing Cake?

Congratulations Cake! Just like Buses, no good news for ages then 2 in quick succession :-) Hope it kicks off some more good news for the rest of us!

Sebs, sorry about your scare, am glad you are being scanned soon, and hope it will help put your mind at rest (though I know most of us never truly relax until months into pregnancy!)

Zippy, great news about the peak sign.. My cycles have been mad the last few months and it gets you wondering if you will ever ov. I hope your cycles do settle down soon!

Well after my surprise 'almost positive' on the OPK strip my talk with DH went well and we BD 3 days on the trot.. Temps have gone up, and FertilityFriend says I ov'd on Thursday which was the last day of the 3.. so fingers crossed. At least I feel this month that we gave it a good go. Now in the 2ww..

I hope all you ladies are having a lovely weekend! LucyJ how did the party go?

Punky that sounds like your BDed at just the right time. I'm sure there was something I read that talked about the BDing before you O was much more effective than trying to time it to the day you O as by then it's often too late.

Hope everyone else is having a good day today. My partner is applying for a job 2.5 hours away today!! This will mean, if he gets it of course!, him either living down there and commuting back at the weekend. Or all of us moving down there and renting the house out here that we have just bought!! Stupid bloody timing all round but as it's so much more money I said just apply and I'm sure we can sort the rest out.

I've got slight cramping today, but had this least month and turned out to be nothing so reckon it's just my body sorting itself out after mc.

I can't remember who it was that said about that woman they met who was banging on about how lovely close age gaps are and telling her daughter to get one with it...
Ouch. I think I would have burst out crying if that was me or said something like 'well I tried and it didn't work now F off!'

At my in laws this weekend and they had ivf and discussing what to do with their remaining frozen eggs (first time was successful and have twins). Weird chat. And I've not yet mentioned my second mc.

Ps. punky you def had sex on right days - the two before ov are the best statistically!

Hello everyone, thanks so much for all your lovely comments. I did another first response test this morning, and yes still a line, faint it's true, but a line! So unless I'm the unluckiest person ever to have 3 evaporation lines then I think, gulp, I might be beginning to believe it's a BFP! It has been such a shock, really didn't think this was my month as had some horrible pmt symptoms (no other symptoms at all) and although we did DTD every other day cd 8-15 and a random one of cd23 I just thought irregular cycles the last few months would mean it was just so unlikely. But there we go, just shows what I know. I really have found everyone on this thread so helpful and supportive, so thank you, and I'll stop being gushy now! sebs glad to hear all well with you, I think my edd is roughly first week of oct, how about you?
zippy that is great news and definitely think your right to hold off a couple of months for the other tests, keeping everything crossed for you.
punky sounds like that was perfectly timed
Right I'll continue to lurk as obviously it's ridiculously early days so anything could happen.
Wishing you all loads of luck, this thread is definitely due some more BFPs x

Yeyyy!!! Hurray Cake!!! Huge congratulations. I'm so sorry I didn't wish you luck yesterday,I forgot all about our POAS party after my unwelcome visitor on friday! So pleased for you, that is just great news.
Punky the party was brilliant thanks. I have been very hungover today but it has almost been enjoyable as it has stopped me thinking about ttc and babies. None of our friends are very baby-minded so it was lovely to just feel 'normal' for an evening. And I certainly wouldn't have been able to drink as much as I did or eat half a wheel of brie if I was pregnant!!! I did have one awkward moment where someone was asking about baby number 2, I'd had quite a bit at that point and sort of half-laughed it off and the conversation trailed away.I don't like making people feel awkward but it's definately getting harder to not scream out I want a baby nowww!!
Do you know what cd you're on fedup?
Punky does sound like you got your BD timing right. Fingers crossed for you!
Some positive news for you too Zippy, here's hoping february is a good month for us all, DH and I are going to give it our all and have nicknamed it Fantastically Fertile February (or Fuck Me February as he prefers!!!).
Sebs not sure whether to wish your DH good luck or not for that job!!

Ah so glad you had a good party lucy and LOVE the 'fuck me February' name!

Yeah, I'm cd 19. Think period is due in about a week or just over. Not wholly sure as I got ewcm after I thought I had ovulated this month - so think I poss didn't ov til Wednesday ish and am due next weds. Trying to distract myself as don't want to be too disappointed. We have booked loads of stuff recently - Canada in September, Corsica in June, London trips out late September and weekends away in aug. Plus all my PT stuff (exam in less than two weeks now: eeeek!)
PLUS we are extending (trying to see the point even with just the one child, perhaps to make money on it?!) and will take 6 months from march time - yikes! Move out or stay in the mess?!

sebs good luck for the job. If it's the right one you guys will make it work as funny as the timing is it will all work out ok in the end! I'm hoping DH will get new job soon too so I can leave mine to start new career!

cake hope it's a smooth run for you. And hope we are following suit with bfps pronto!

Keep up the positivity zippy and sounds like you know your body pretty well - I would just focus on the test results and how doc said meant good egg reserve etc.

Right - I'm being told I must play cars...

lucy so pleased you had a brilliant time at the party, sounds like the perfect way to forget about babies for a while! Loving your new name for feb too, wishing you loads of luck.
fedup sounds like you're going to have a fun packed year for sure and brilliant to have lots going on to distract you from the TTC madness. We've been to Corsica and it is one of my favourite places in the world, v jealous and now tempted to plan a trip too! Here's hoping AF stays away xx
I'll continue to lurk on here if it's ok. Planning to get a digi test later as I feel I just need to see the words before I believe it.

Wow fedup you sound like you have a great year planned, and amazing time management skills. AF due for me about the same time as yours so we can try not to get our hopes up together!

Always worth extending if the money is right, surely, fedup; and if you're like me your house already has enough toddler stuff in it to look like a with just one, so I imagine the space will be well used.

Lots of rational, sensible advice for me on here re waiting before spending ££s and undergoing various tests (thread not living up to its name, we're meant to be crazy!)

Cake and sebs success has somehow given me a bit of hope.

So, I'm going to go for my day 21 test now I think I have ovulated (even though I am on day 21 now if you see what I mean. Does anyone know if you have to do it a certain number of days after OV?

I think it should be 7 days after OV zippy

It's 7 days before period due (what doc said to me) so 7 after ov is same if you have a 14 day lp!!! I think it just needs to be long enough after ov to have sufficient time for progesterone rise.

Yeah I guess I just don't want us 3 rattling round in a huge house for no reason.... I'm sure I won't notice it when it is done... But still. We are going in to the loft too with the idea that it will become mine and DH room. But it DS is on his own on the second floor am not sure I want too!! Ridiculous maybe. (And it's not going to be that big, just we prob wouldn't necc bother if we didn't want more kids. Or maybe we would.. Who knows!!!)

Fedup you will have another child, I promise you, and you will carry it to term. So plan your extension and prepare your house for your larger family because it will happen xx

I agree. Objectively, it looks more than likely fedup. You've been shockingly unlucky, of course, but you have managed to conceive three times; every chance another mini fedup will be around to co-occupy your second floor, store toys in your extension and play havoc with your holiday plans. In fact my money is on you for our next bfp x

Ah thanks guys. I just feel a bit flat about it all but pleased you think it will happen even tho I doubt it more every day. I just find the 2ww fucks with your head so much too, which I know you all know!

I'm at the stage with my son where I have to bargain with him to get him to eat certain stuff. I'm sure it's not the right way to go about things but only way I seem able to get variety in his diet. Please god may this be just a phase!!

sebs how's the brown discharge this wk?

I wonder if we are all able to be a bit more rational about someone else's situation than our own. Like the ladies on here objectively saying wait before having intrusive tests has actually persuaded me far more than the "just relax" type comments that eg a GP or stranger might make. And, fedup, it's kind of natural you would be finding it difficult to maintain hope but from an outside perspective it does look highly likely.

Zippy is right, you have conceived three times, you have been unlucky twice but you only have to look at celebs to see examples of girls who have miscarried twice to then go on and have two healthy pregnancies (Lily Allen springs to mind immediately).

My sister had a healthy first pregnancy, sadly miscarried her second at 6 weeks then went on to have a healthy third pregnancy not long after.

I'm ok. I try not to think about things too much at this early stage as I have no idea how things are really going. Pregnancy tests are still strong lines ( I found some ICs in the drawer so using them) and discharge is normal. No symptoms but didn't have any with Seb till about 8 weeks. Midwife appointment tomorrow, doctors appointment Wednesday where I think he will be referring me for the scan.

Thanks ladies :)

Yes, it's always easier to be rational for someone else. I've one friend in RL who gets it. We are both utterly nuts about our own situ but some how can see the rational side for one another! And it's the same on here... Thanks ladies.

I felt a bit peeved before when my sister was trying to tell me to stay positive and have faith I will have another one... Bugs me when how coukd she poss understand what it's like when she has her 3. Try not to let it get to me but does feel so unfair that she should have 3 and will prob have 4 by some 'accident' again.

I'm glad we can all sort each other on here whether it's about losing hope or doing invasive tests or dealing with early preg bleeding

I went to the gym this eve and had a good thrash about. Feel better for it. Start my new project at work tomorrow - fortunately about an hour away, not the 3 hours of the last one!!

Ps sebs hope all goes well at appointments tomorrow and wed.

fedup just wanted to echo everyone else, you've been so bloody unlucky but I'm sure that will change. My sil had 4 miscarriages and went onto to have 2 dc so it can and will happen for you. In the meantime great idea to thrash it out at the gym and good luck with the new project.

sebs lots of luck for your appointments, keep us posted.

I decided to tell one of my good friends in RL yesterday, thought in case things don't go to plan someone else ought to know. Not really sure when to go to docs etc, seems a bit early yet!

Hi girls, well appointment was entirely pointless today as midwife said it was too early to go through the booking in procedure and we should book in at 9 weeks instead. She was thoroughly confused as to why my doctor said I should make an appointment with her (she looked up my notes on the screen and it was written there so thankfully I didn't look like a nutter).

On the plus side she is going to have a word with the Early Scan Unit and ring me, so hopefully that will go ahead. At first she was saying that it might not be a viable pregnancy and I may have miscarried, however by the end she said she did think it was viable!! So a nice head fuck for me but you know what I'm pretty unfazed by it, think I've catastrophised enough now in my own head and no one else can say anything I haven't already thought.

As it goes I think this pregnancy is going to be fine. God knows why I think that, I just do!!

How curious sebs. Last time, I mentioned as an aside to my GP I was pregnant, when at an appointment for a chest infection the day after getting my bfp, the clearblue test had said 3 weeks pregnant, and lo and behold was ushered in to see a midwife there and then who wanted all manner of decisions about which hospital I wanted, nuchal fold tests etc. So just goes to show it differs massively.

Highly likely all will be well sebs. Take care.

Well she is slightly forgiven as she has organised a scan for this Friday!!!!! Ohmegawd

Think I will go on my own as my Mum can look after Seb as she is due to see me Friday this week anyhow.

Fingers crossed it's happy news.

Yeah I thought midwives didn't need to see you til booking in appt but doctor does early on to register you for mat exemption card thingy and hospital for scan date.

Glad all seems ok sebs and you are feeling positive about it - that intuition is usually right.

I'm in the 2 ww of doom. Don't even know when period due but know I have ovulated (well had the symptoms). Work is so busy and am knackered trying to do 4 jobs at once (consultant, mummy, wife and training in my PT stuff) it's bloody hard work and hope I am doing at least some of it ok. Give me strength. Now off to sleep.

Anyone else on 2 ww?? punky??

After my positive feeling I got some brown tinged mucous on wiping last night and little but this morning. It's so hard not to assume the worse. I guess at least they should be able to tell me something on Friday. Even if it's bad news is rather know now than at 12 weeks.

Fingers crossed for those in the 2ww xxx