If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 4)

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Hey!! We have had lots of graduates from Part 3, so let's get on the TTC bus part 4 and make this place a ghost town.

Destination Pregnancy, choooo choooooo

*today Sebs!

Hi fedup I remember you too. Lovely to see you (though it sucks to be Fred 1 alumni)

Hello everyone else

Are congrats in order sebs so pleased for you!

So 2 years! I am actually OK about it now. I was very upset from about 6 - 18 months. Every month was a crushing blow. Now I am just used to it. AF was three days late this month and I didn't even take a test

All my hormone tests and DH's sperm test have come back normal so just have to wait and see what the 'invasive' tests throw up.

Luckily we do have DD (6) who is fabulous. The hardest thing is that she is desperate for a sibling. That really hurts

Just got back from docs, he is going to refer me to the EPAU next week. So that's something!!

Punky the positive opk sounds, errr positive!! . Have you found your ovulation has moved forward? I know I went from ovulating on cd 16 post bfing to around cd12. That seemed to be quite a good sign in the end.

I'm going to list my pretty much brand new cbfm on eBay soon, so let me know if anyone wants first dibs. I've still got some unused sticks as well. I'm not going to promise anything but it did get me knocked up so I guess it can't be too dreadful although I only got highs the month I used it, but I do think that made us have more sex. Who knows!!

Great news sebs! And also punky, definitely something to feel positive about!

lucy we certainly are similar! Thanks for the hand holding until sat!

You really couldn't have made my afternoon up. Take seb to playgroup, this is our third time there, am quite friendly with the lady that runs it. She knows I'm newly pregnant, she also knows I had a bleed last week. Well she spends 10 mins at least giving me every bloody horror story of friends and people she knows who have lost pregnancies and in two instances, full term babies It was like she got onto a roll and couldn't stop.

My face was just set into a look between wide eyed amazement and utter bewilderment. Why would you say stuff like that to a newly pregnant frightened person!!

As I was leaving she shook her head at me, pulled a sad face and then mouthed an animated good luck.

People never cease to shock me quite honestly.

Fedup I posted the Softcup, sorry it wasn't earlier so you could have used it this cycle xxx

Oh how horrible!! What a stupid woman! Perhaps she thought you had lost it cos of the bleed and was 'trying' to make you feel better through the usual 'oh it's so common to miscarry' rubbish that I always get! Even so... What a dick! Hope you are ok and you aren't talking any of it on board.

Ah, thanks for soft cup, much appreciated. Got another load of ewcm today so not quite sure what's going on. Didn't manage to have sex last night as DH was out til 1 but will try conjure up some energy tonight!

talla glad all the tests were normal but eeeek re invasive ones. Sound a bit scary but hopefully get you resolution if needed.

Wishing all those (and their OH) in the fertile zone all the energy and enthusiasm required for sufficient shagging!

Oh no! Because I said to her, well my pregnancy test moved up to the next conception date bracket so at least it shows the hormone seems to be increasing, so that's something! To which she replied, ' aaaah well sometimes your body continues to act as though you are pregnant but then you go to your scan and......' Well you can imagine how that ended .

People are just so shockingly foot in mouth sometimes.

Lots and lots of luck for the 2ww everyone xxxx

Sebs how awful, she sounds like a total witch! Words fail me at how bloody stupid people can be, you would definitely think someone running a toddler group would know better! Poor you, hope you're not too full of rage about it.

Fedup good luck with tonight!

Still playing the waiting game here. Trying to avoid crazy symptom spotting. The only thing that's different is I'm kind of off my food a bit (not like me!) and just really want meat...a big burger would be ideal.

Cake the only thing I noticed this time was creamy discharge on 9dpo, this was a good sign for me. Lots of luck.

Thing is lady is very very nice. I just think she knew not what she was doing. Perhaps she'll sit bolt upright at 3am this morning and think OMG, what did I say!!!!!

I really hope that lady gives you an apology next time you see her sebs!

Still desperately trying to hold out to poas til Saturday unless AF rocks up before them. Technically I could still be too early on sat but as cycles are a bit irregular i thought cd29 not a bad bet and I will go fully bonkers if I wait longer

I think cd29 is a good middle ground Cake. Don't you dare do it before then!
Well I have been feeling sick all day and building my hopes and getting just a little bit excited. But now I'm home I realise I am totally imagining symptoms. I think AF is for sure on her way, all the usual signs are there and no vague indications that maybe I have started growing a tiny person. I will definately not be in the mood for a party on saturday if I get a bfn, even if I can drown my sorrows. Oh ladies, how do you keep going! Talla you are so brave to have gotten this far and to be relaxed about it all. Are you still hopeful and feeling positive that your time will come? Glad the tests all came back clear. I can imagine how hard it must be for you with your DD, I am feeling more and more now like I desperately want another child just for my daughter to have company more than anything else.
Sebs what a strange woman! Is there a chance she too is ttc? maybe she felt she needed a rant and you just happened to be in the line of fire!! I bet she really did wonder what the hell had come over her when she got home!!
Would you recommend the fertility monitor even if you are managing to get sort of positives on ics?
I think I might try acupuncture too next month, anyone got any advice/tips?

Don't worry Lucy, I'm hanging in there til sat just like you. Also imagining symptoms and basically being a grumpy old cow!

Oh I want her to go away. Just go away. Another snug announcement of # 2. Going to deactivate my Facebook as can't cope with it. :(

Oh Fedup, we are all there/here with you. Sending you some hugs and . I think avoiding facebook can only be a good thing.

Thanks lucy. It didn't help that I was a bit drunk after some work peoples leaving drinks, and then cried the whole way home in the train! Looney! Need to get a grip but it's just so unfair isn't it?

Facebook manages to make the majority of user's lives seem perfect. I don't know how really. I'm guessing it's because it gives a snapshot of information as opposed to the whole picture. Just use it infrequently and hide the newsfeed of those whose feed you think may be painful for you.

Loads if hugs from me too xx

Oh fedup it's rubbish isn't it. I'm just trying to gear myself up to head out to the local soft play with a bunch of friends who are all preggers or have two, I even thought about pretending to be ill and cancelling but it's not fair on dd so I just need to pull myself together and get out.....arghhhh....hard.

Oh bless you Fedup. Crying on the train oh dear!!
Well AF just got me, so looks like I'm going to have stand you up on saturday cake.
Why do I still want to cry even though I knew it was coming?
It's practically two days early too which gives me a luteal phase of 10 days at best, I have no hope of ever conceiving do I???
Now I have a whole day of work to get through before I can go and give my beautiful DD a big cuddle.

Oh Lucy I am so sorry. Well I think you need to indulge in lots of at your party tomorrow! And you will get pregnant, this just wasn't your month but you can now wipe the slate clean and embark on a shagathon next cycle! Wishing you lots of luck x

Thanks Cake, I will be getting well and truly stuck into the wine tomorrow. How early is too early to start!?
I so hope you are right Cake, but with each month that passes it is easy to lose hope. I did absolutely everything right this month too. I am a bit worried about my LP, and think I will book a Drs app to get the ball rolling. I never wanted to have to go down that route though
How are you feeling?

Lucy LP doesn't tend to change each month (fed up taught me that! ) the follicular phase is what tends to be inconsistent. Are you sure you OVed when you did? Are you sure this couldn't be implantation, is it heavy or just spotting?

I've had light brown discharge today. Trying not to panic, more pissed off than anything as I'd just started to feel more confident.

I know it's easy to say but try not to lose hope Lucy, I may have got it wrong but seem to remember you've not been trying for many months yet like me? I feel exactly like you, just want it to happen and just need to remind myself this is still early in the ttc stakes compared to some. As sebs said maybe you just didn't ov when you thought so perhaps opks may help with that next month. I'm feeling very bloated and just feel sure AF is on it's way. Although I'm going to poas tomorrow in theory I could still be early as AF due anytime from middle of this week to end of next I think! So irritating this random cycle stuff.
Sebs, light brown discharge is fine I'm sure, just a little bit of gunk being dislodged in there! X

sebs the soft cup just arrived - thank you

It's scarily big! I feel a little frightened by it!!

Just seen the brown discharge bit - try not to worry. Your tests got darker / conception indicator went up so I think it should be ok. Hard not to worry though. Perhaps it's twins just bedding in nicely?!

lucy could it be implantation? Yeah LP stays the same normally it's the bit before ov that does. Like I have ovulated on day 8 and day 15 but af always arrived 13 or 14 days after.

Oh Sebs how cruel, I really hope it's nothing for you. Is there alot? Did you doc say go to the hospital (forgotten the name of the place where you go -epc is it??) if you had any more bleeding/discharge or if you were worried? It just won't let us be this baby making will it.
No I did have a vague thought it could be IB, but it is heavy and very red and I am getting period pains and cramps, so definately AF. I was feeling just a teensy bit hopeful this month too.
I got a positive opk on tues 14th, so would have ov'd within 36 hours, so even a 10 day LP is pushing it isn't it? I thought the same about LP not changing too Sebs, but my cycles seem to be saying different recently. I have used opks for the past 3 months, and my LP seems to vary between 10-13 days. Or at one point about 20!! DO you think it could be that my ov is delayed after getting the positive or am I just not using opks correctly!!??
Cake this was my 7 th cycle. Not as long as some I know, but my cycles have been getting more and more irregular, and I just have a bad feeling about it all. Huge good luck to you for tomorrow, hopefully your cycle will be a bit more normal this month, but obviously a bfp would be better! How long have you been trying for?