Hi Ladies, hope you are all ok
Owl Its great to hear Little Owlet is growing nicely and youre managing to enjoy the pregnancy. It must be so complicated, such a conflict of emotions. How far along are you now, sorry I have lost count of the weeks? Know what you mean about the mind going blank as soon as you walk through the door - I always go armed with a huge written list of questions now. I think not wanting/not being able to prepare things for the baby is natural for Mums who've been through what we have...I wouldnt worry about it - once you get your baby in your arms all that practical stuff will probably seem unimportant!
Sleeping sorry the hug comes late, it is totally normal for you to be feeling like you do and you definitely shouldnt feel guilty. You are happy for your friend but like you say it just reminds you how unfair life has been. In the books Ive read about losing a baby they all say that allowing yourslef to feel all those emotions is just part of the healing process. Hope youre feeling better since you wrote the post.
Blue sorry you were feeling so low, I think post-Christmas is a time for feeling like that anyway, never mind after being though what we have. Its so cruel that right when we need our 'friends' most they seem unable to support us - like Owl says maybe we too would have been crap at knowing how to react if it had happened to a friend, but forgetting or expecting someone to "get over it"...I really dont think so. I just keep telling myself that if they are that insensitive then its probably better not to have them in my life anyway. Did your friend cheer you up? I have wondered if maybe it might be a good idea to make some completely new friends, and not say anything (or at least for a while) about our loss. Sort of allow myself a pain-free zone where I know they dont know and there is no pink elephant in the room constantly. Probably wouldnt be able to do it anyway as I cry so easily nowadays and they'd start to wonder why or think I am just plain mad!
Mitchell I hope you managed to get through your precious daughters anniversary as well as could be hoped, it is hard to imagine how it must feel to have had her with you for so many years then lose her.
Ruby, Beetle, Tulip, Spacefrog hope you are all doing ok
AFM As expected Christmas for us was pretty grim, the festivities are just so in-your-face and impossible to ignore. I couldnt face going anywhere on the 24th or 25th but we went to DH's family 'do' on Boxing day, as expected I ended up in tears for most of the meal, it was pretty surreal as they all just kept on eating/talking. I sort of wish that someone had come right out and mentioned A, but nobody did and maybe it was for the best, I dont know. I sort of naively hoped that I might feel a bit 'lighter' after the first anniversay, but its not happened. All thats changed is (like Blue) I get the distinct feeling that people expect me to be ok now over a year has passed
Hugs to everyone, sorry to those I've missed xx