Hello all & a sad welcome to rubyshoe, drowning, littletulip, and spacefrog. (I hope I've not missed anyone). I'm so sorry you all find yourselves here, but I hope you find these threads helpful as I have. Your posts about meeting with the consultant reminded me how I crashed emotionally both after the funeral, and the pm meeting - I think you focus on these things as something to get through, which you do, and then it's afterwards when that's gone that it all hits you afresh. Facing the future which doesn't have your child in it, when it should. I've done it again recently, with going back to work - it was ok, but a couple of weeks later it hit me all over again. 'One day at a time...'. One day this week, I actually went back to 'one hour at a time', which was the first time in a while.
But more positively, what lovely news star and jules! So pleased :) I hope you're both managing the nerves/worry ok - also owl saying about coping with it ok during the day but night time being hard, I can totally understand that. It's back to the same 'one day at a time' thing, isn't it?!
missa good to hear from you, I've been thinking of you a lot xx
Afm, well I've had my birthday (I was ill, v hard because I was ill last yr because of being pg; this time it was a bug, but I felt so down about it and all the reminders of how hard that pg was - i was ill over xmas too - and then he died anyway.).
I went back to work - most people have been lovely; one (new since I went off) person didn't know E had died and asked me if I'd had a boy or girl. It's hard saying, " a boy, but he died" but what else can I say? I didn't appreciate him going on to talk about abortions though, even though I understand people don't know what to say... Even not saying anything is better!!
And then there was the person who actually knew, but had forgotten that E died. I can't remember ever actually finding something properly offensive before, but to me, that really is. Used to be someone I liked, but I find it rather hard to forgive that.
Anyway, since then, I've handed my notice in (not related!). Lots of reasons, but tbh part of it is that I just can't deal with going back to the same thing when my world has changed so much inwardly, I need the outward stuff to match. I feel sad about it, I love the profession I work in and most of the people I work with are great. But I need a change, and a commute of less than an hour and a half.
Reading back my essay, it sounds like I've been really struggling, but tbh there's been good and bad days like always. I've got some lovely friends around, who are still being there for me and not expecting me to be miraculously ok 7 months on. And I'm so thankful for them, and the good things in my life - more than ever before iyswim.
Hello to anyone I've missed & all lurking. Wishing everyone gentle days x