Joy I've been thinking of you lots this weekend. And you know, the ARGC don't have the monopoly on either embryo quality or successful outcomes. Looking at their stats they seem to see a lot more people who are older than you, and who knows maybe you're just a bit young for their approach and need something a bit softer or less hardcore? I'm sure the added stress of cycling there won't have helped. Definitely explore the nhs options (do you need to be honest about having done privately first? It would be good to have a discussion about what was done previously but would it jeopardise funding, I'm not sure, it's not something I've heard of). And you know you can do some immune stuff alongside if you wanted. This cycle for me was nhs FET and immune stuff including intrallipids privately on the side. You make such a lot of eggs, that's a really good fertile sign. And you know I do believe overall lifestyle and changes (e.g. diet etc etc) that youve been making recently can have a big impact but maybe need a bit more time if you know what I mean. I remember reading a study about women who had high natural killer cells who stopped trying and a year later their nk levels were significantly reduced (think it was in de beer book?). And I know this is of no comfort but you (we? whimper) really have got years left yet to crack this nut.
Nelly, the whole de thing is such a personal decision, and I'm always wary of giving my views on it as I really think each to their own. However I will say, just because its the opposite of mrsden, is that the situation you describe with your friend is probably the closest thing to what I would consider, but I haven't got that right person in my life if that makes sense. I think if it was the right situation with the right people where the two families could end up as almost extended families / cousins / godmothers etc, where everyone knew each other but the boundaries were made clear, would be the most appealing to me, probably because it sounds the most controlled without surprises if that makes any sense and is of any help. There are so many blended families these days, why not have more people involved to love a child? I'm sure there would be some very difficult emotions at times though and sensitivities etc. Only you know what you could cope with and how you'd react.
Euro glad the appt went well. The tests should be interesting to see if these show up anything new. I might look into getting some of those done.
Mrsden I had a scratch the month before this round. It's the only round I've got past implantation.
Rum omg yes to downtown shocker! It's not flipping eastenders! That's not what I want in my period dramas thanks, I was really quite upset by it!
Sea I so hope your result are down this time.
Lemon and Mad hope all is well and you're managing to relax a bit.
Absy glad you found the article interesting.
Waves to Rabbit and Pout and all our lovely diffed cheerleaders.
Afm just still waiting for the grimness to start really. Some signs things are slowly getting started. We've managed to start talking about future possibilities and overall feel surprised we made it as far as we did after 6 yrs of complete nothingness. The thought of doing yet more of this though, is as you'll all know, is just completely like 'how much more can I take'. This experience has done 1 thing for me know though. I don't think I will be envying pregnant women ever again. I felt like utter crap and the worry was awful, and I have to say I can't work out whether I'm more freaked by the current dead embryo inside me (sorry) or the fact that it was actually, although briefly, alive (and out of my control? theres that word again, maybe im far more of a control freak then ive ever admitted to myself!) Morbid thoughts, sorry, it's going to be a tough few days, thankfully I'm not working now till thurs and only then if I feel up to it. Put on not too shabby a show at work today though. I might come on to wail every now again if that's ok.