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wish It's good that you haven't thought about it not working isn't it? If the worst comes to the worst and it doesn't work you will deal with it. But I've had to learn now to think positively when I can, as I don't.want to be sad unless I have to be (well that was the theory). Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying they were perfect at the Winterbourne, but I suppose I got a little bit attached as I did 3 cycles in undera year and got to know them. I just feel a bit like a number on a conveyor belt where I am now. Chin up old girl!

I agree with choco, wish. I think it's great you haven't been focussing on any negative what ifs. I think the only way to deal with it not working is telling yourself you'' make decisions about that when the time comes. For now, keep up the positive thinking

Morning buddies!

Sorry the possibility of things not working suddenly hit you wish. It might, or it might not. But as a dear friend who understands after 5 mcs before her first baby says, you don't want to go through it all, because you risk failing again, but it is the only way to get what you so desperately want. However, spending too much time dwelling on the risk of failure won't help you now or if it goes wrong. Hand hold!

Sorry about the conveyor belt feeling, choc. I know what you mean. After my mc, lots of people knew me at the clinic and they were all lovely, but a year later, although still friendly in general, I've gone back to a number...

I hope sludgegate lets up fab. I am sure it will one way or another!

What stage are you at beer? Sorry I have snot-for-brains and I forgot.

I hope you got lots of little person cuddles badhair. What a tough year!

AFM I am coldy, yesterday I was feverish, tried to keep it down with paracetamol, and managed reasonably. I just hope I didn't cook lembie. Less than a week before we know and thankfully we have a) a trip abroad planned for afterwards and b) another 4 FETs, if they all defrost so well as this one did

Morning all

I have a fabulous tasty recipe which I whipped up the other day - Tame in particular will like this - gluten free and super tasty - lots of flavour and the little flashes of mint shine through brilliantly (ooh get me - I could be a food journo). It's Aubergine, chickpea and tamarind stew - yumbo www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2010/nov/15/aubergine-chickpea-tamarind-stew

The goat was very simple www.channel4.com/4food/recipes/tv-show-recipes/sunday-brunch-recipes/goat-curry-recipe - very tasty - a bit like a proper vindaloo - all spices but not tons of heat.

Sludgegate is over AF has arrived. As expected but a little bit bollocks too. Hey ho, I am completely not expecting to get pregnant naturally now so it was a bit of a surprise.

drizzy sorry you're feeling poorly. I hope you're being looked after and relaxing and not stressing. We're waiting to do FET, probably in November now. We've decided to move. We've found a cheaper flat as we've spent so much (and going to be spending more) on IVF. Prob moving at beginning of Nov so just in time for the FET! Stressed I'm looking forward to living in the new place, but not looking forward to all the hassle which goes with moving.

fab those recipes sound amazing. But not sure I can get goat round here! Will defintely try the aubergine and chickpea one but I need to google what a tamarind is. Sorry AF turned up. You're not alone in being disappointed when that happens. Even after being told I won't conceive naturally I'm still silently gutted each time my period arrives.

Ha yes getting the goat was a bit of a challenge - you need to go to a butcher's in a multi-cultural area - the town I currently live in is very white middle class and each butcher that I spoke to looked at my like I was mad! I then went to my old town which is bigger and has a wider demographic and had a butcher who had quite a bit of goat - hurrah! Next time though I think I'll get a joint and get my husband to butcher it instead as we ended up with lots of little shards of bones in the curry which was a bit challenging on the eating part.

Nobeer moving will be a challenge!! I guess it will keep your mind of things in the lead up?

Driz I hope you feel better soonest lovely. I'm sure you've got a nice strong lembie that's not going to have a problem

Wish I think it's a good idea to go into it all with a positive attitude - you kind of have to forget what's happened before and think that this one is it! With exclamation marks and everything! You owe it to each embryo to think the best for it I reckon.

Hello ladies how are we all today? I hope you are all ok and hanging in there. Just a quick update from me had the ET this morning. My 6 embryos became two so we have frozen one and had one transferred. Am feeling very weird! Head is all over the place. To combat thinking about anything too much I have drawn up a list of house jobs that need doing (2 pages of A4) poor DH I have a feeling he is going to be busy until a week on Friday!!!!

Llw congratulations you're PUPO!! Keepint busy is a VERY good idea

Congrats on PUPOness from me too. It is a relief just to be left alone for a bit - no jabs, no scans, no thinking about dates for EC/ET - so enjoy the peace in your head and body.

Thank you ladies! One question, what's PUPO? I'm hoping its a good thing

Pregnant Until Proven Otherwise!

Hoorah! We have another PUPO lady ! Well done llw. You can't beat a good list under normal circumstances but when you're entering head fuck land it's a must. Keep busy lovely. xx

Love you all, couldn't have got here without you (excuse the soppyness) mean it though! Having not told my friends you have been my saviours, now it's just fingers (and legs) crossed!

Llw2 yay you're PUPO!
I'm feeling optimistic for you x x x
Hope the next couple of weeks pass quickly, try and get a bit of relaxing and breathing space in too.

I'm not planning on telling my friends either, did anyone find it was impossible to disguise because of the bloating? I'm worried that as I'm usually slim the bloating will really show and people will ask if I am pregnant.

Congrats on puponess and a frostie, llw!!
Thinking of you but on phone so short post!!

Hoorah! We have another PUPO lady ! Well done llw. You can't beat a good list under normal circumstances but when you're entering head fuck land it's a must. Keep busy lovely. xx

Anyone else having trouble with the iOS 7 update? FFS-sorry for the double post!

Congrats Llw! X

Evening ladies.
What news from the egg buddies?
Looks like AF is on here way here, which, assuming she shows up tomorrow, will be 28 days since the last round of IVF failed. Quite nice to be back on a cycle straight away.

Of course a big part of me is hoping that the spotting is implantation and not AFs warning shots.

Pipbin! How are you doing? Do you mean you're starting another IVF/FET cycle already? Or you mean just your natural cycle? I forget. I reckon we'll be doing FET in November, will keep you posted!

Hi all. Sorry for being a little absent lately not much to tell. Just waiting for 2nd oct to start my buserilin so not much doing, although DP gave a semen sample yesterday to be frozen ready just in case he can't produce on the day!
Congratulations on PUPO llw that's great news and a frostie too - well done u! Try to relax these next 2 weeks don't go lifting heavy stuff just supervise DH! x

llw2 congratulations on being PUPO. Sounds like it went really well and have a sneaking suspicion that you are the one to get the BFP ball rolling!

AFM I had my review yesterday and to be honest I came out feeling really disappointed. I had my nice long list of questions (thanks ladies!) but didn't really come out with any answers. They have no idea why it didn't work this time and have put it down to one of those things, which I can live with. Apparently there isn't much more I can do to help the womb lining or implantation although we did talk about accupuncture which I am going to look into. The thing that got me though is that we still have three frosties so I thought that the Dr would be like "well, its not worked this time, but we still have three so chin up". Problem is that the three remaining frosties are of C quality and so have about 10-15 % chance of sticking. The Dr. was trying to be as positive as possible but without giving me any false hopes. She said that frosties have a lower success rate anyway as they are never the best embryos (they are put in straight away) and then they use the 2nd best and then the 3rd best an so on. I asked if it was even worth putting them in if the success rate was so low and got the response that there is still a chance. Although they wouldn't recommend putting all three in at once why bloody not, the more the merrier I say So I came away feeling very disappointed and low. Just feel like I want to get the next two FETs out the way so that we can start a fresh cycle. And the worst bit is, is that normally I am really positive and look on the bright side. I hate feeling like this.
There were two good things though that came out of the meeting. Apparently the progesterone injections might delay my cycle so we could get going in November (instead of having to wait until January) and we have some control over what day we do the FET. But apart from that it was pants really

Hey egg buddies, long time no speak! Sorry I've been AWOL for a bit. I've just got my first AF after my miscarriage. I'm still a long way off my next treatment as ill be doing a fresh cycle again. My review isn't until November either. I'm appealing to my pct to see if I can get my funding transferred to a private clinic that takes nhs patients.

Llw congrats on being PUPO!!!!

Marypops sorry you didn't get the answers you were looking for. I thought they only froze good quality embies? I'm sure you've still got a good chance with them or they wouldn't put you through it.

I hope everyone is ok. Sorry I'm completely clueless as to where everyone is up to. Hi Brooker, Nobeer, Pip, Missm, Fab, Tame, Res etc (sorry if I've missed anyone)