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Ha ha - I met my man late in life too! Found a drunk Australian in a dire nightclub in Covent Garden who is now my DP. We probs would get married if we now didn't have to use our savings for IVF - grrrrrrr! After my horrible recent pregnancy experiences, I am jealous of everybody who gets pregnant and is instantly delighted and relaxed. The last three times I have thought 'Is this ectopic?', 'Is my body going to try to kill me and this baby?', and have been right every time. I also know that if IVF is successful, I will be a nervous wreck for 9 months. All the innocence has gone. Oh well. Like everybody else on here, it wouldn't have been right to have kids with any of my dodgy exes so will be worth all the struggle and heartache. Big hugs to everybody xxx

Hurrah for meeting the right men to share the ups and downs and wonders and heartbreaks with

I'm currently in the middle of a hike around the chilterns in a gale force wind and stopping for a mo to admire the view and get my breath back. When I get back I'm looking forward to getting a scrumptious roast chicken on the go and snuggling down with my DH (I like to call him my wonderhusb ) who worked from 07.00 yesterday til 02.00 last night with a terrible back so we will ensconce ourselves on the sofa and watch some tv drama recorded through the week. There are definitely worse places to be!

Oy Pramela - where's our dance anthems??

I met mine when I was 27, but it took us a while to be ready to settle down (and I got there before he did, which was a source of much frustration).

I met my DH in a nightclub. I was orange from fake tan, had a long blond curly hair do, a miniskirt and a fag on. I was a right catch oh, and a one year old at home!

We are also having a roast today

Yes, we are in a dark place on this thread. I dont feel happy or excited about my next cycle. I have made lots of changes this time but I dont feel engaged in it all or even hopeful. I feel convinced that we will get an even worse result than last time.

I think we need a mantra on here? A motto or statement to induce hope and to spur us on??

I always say " it will be ok in the end. And if its not ok, its not the end".

But do I really believe it? Im not sure at the mo

Wow tame I picture you as a young madonna! I don't know why I automatically think of the 80s fahi

Wow tame I picture you as a young madonna! I don't know why I automatically think of the 80s fashion! Long curly hair, pink bead necklace, washed out denim mini skirt, lace gloves

I met DP when I was 17 and working for screwfix when it was a small company so we've known each I other for 10 years, together for 9. We were too busy having fun to thing about kids! Wish we'd started earlier now!

AF is here by the way! Woo! Bloody hurts but well chuffed

Madonna??!!! I looked like a chav extra off eastenders .

And shamefully was only 9 years ago!

glad AF is here for you wish xxxx

I have realised that I am on day 26 of a normally 28 day cycle (although last month was 24 days) and no spotting or cramping so fingers crossed the acupuncture is working already! feel pretty chipper too but the sore toe is making me grumpy!

Hoorah for AF! (That's for wish, not a thread motto!)

I actually think your motto is pretty good, tame. "...and if it's not ok, it's not the end" can be interpreted in so many different ways. How about "Life goes on."?

I'm feeling a bit happier today. SIL moving in with us a few days a week for a few months, so I'll have to be nice and cheerful and "fake it til I make it!" I think it'll be good for me, spending time with someone and spending less time churning things over in my mind.

That's good news Tame, shame about the toe. Surely with modern medicine you could go but yourself a new toe? I've seen programmes where people have their big toe put on their hand for a thumb! It's possible! I have dodgy toes so ill look into it
I think we were all that chavvy girl once... I was anyway ha!

Glad you're feeling happier today nobeer

Sorry if I upset anyone with the last post. Of course the rest of you should feel free to rant at will, that is the point of the thread. I am (and I bet I am not alone in this) my own worst (and judgemental) critic. Whilst I would never think badly of anyone else who does what I do, I think badly of myself for doing it. Stupid but true, sadly.

I guess that's at the heart of how I am feeling. I am 43 today and have never hated a birthday so much. TTC wise, it is now-or-never territory and my fear is the "never". And I feel so f*ing ridiculous and stupid as I only have myself to blame. It's not as if DH and I met later; he was 21() and I was 26. I should have done this years ago, not as the half-century approaches. If I were listening to me, I'd think "well, you left it too late so deal with it" and I assume others are thinking the same. See? Own worst critic.

It also troubles me that everyone on here seems better adjusted to their reality than me. How am I going to cope if it all fails in the end? Will the rest of my life's happiness be blunted by this infertility?

Oh God, I think I need a drink .

Never mind the bollocks we're the egg buddies

Hey badhair mine is an Aussie too!

Small - Pizza Express have sent a birthday email which gives me a free bottle of prosecco. Guess where I'm having dinner now?

res you can only play with the cards you are dealt. You make choices, suffer consequences, celebrate good times. No regrets, no blame.

And if it doesn't work? You will carry on your life with a tinge of sadness but it will all be overtaken by other concerns, other worries and other gaps in your being you wish weren't there.

Being human is all about survival and self preservation.

Nobody dies from this pain. We just carry it about, hope it will be relieved, but we will all survive if it isnt.

Xxxxxxxxxx

God that's depressing!!!!

Truth is res- we will all complete our family somehow. Xxxxx

Happy Birthday Resipsa and get the Prosecco down you, quick! Glad you have an Aussie man too. I am not very accepting of my reality at all, so you aren't the only one. Chin up - things can change in a moment. Before I met my Aussie man I was 34 and miserable, despairing that I would be single forever with memories of a horrible abusive relationship with my ex. One year and one month later Aussie man and I were living together with a baby. I've had a horrid year losing 3 pregnancies, both tubes and my fertility in less than 9 months, but still think my luck can change, cos it did before. Am forcing myself to stay positive. We will all get there - xxxxxx

Happy birthday Res!!! Xxxx

Lovely story badhair xxx

res
Happy birthday and enjoy your birthday meal!

Res happy birthday hun Go get that bottle of prosecco & please give yourself a break! tame you are a ex Chav look alike genius. "No regrets, no blame" should be our mantra ladies.
Big fat hugs to all that need them xx

Happy birthday Res, Tame I too once sported big curly hair, a fag in one had and a glass of jd&coke in the other! The curly was a perm tho - oh how that dates me!

Badhair - I met many a dodgy bloke in even dodgier clubs in covent garden - well done on finding the good one!!!

Brooks, I like it