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Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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alyant79 · 22/08/2013 09:02

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

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SeasideLily · 05/10/2013 08:24

Ha ha, she also says she makes vision boards for things she wants-can you imagine if DH found a pin board covered with pics of babies, and pregnant ladies with my head stuck onto them? Think it would be hard to persuade him to dtd ever again...

fedupofrainydays · 05/10/2013 08:27

Ha ha. Imagine one of those sideways on pics that shows the baby growing inside a woman and your head stuck on the top. Hilarious!!

fedupofrainydays · 05/10/2013 13:55

Oh man I'm having a shit weekend. Dad in hospital (we don't know what it is but might need an operation on his spine as he's lost movement in his legs / reflexes don't work) and I've had another bfn. Slap me all you like with fish. Then checked my emails and another pregnancy announcement (that's 3 this week and 2 actual births) I'm feeling emotionally battered and bruised.

CamomileHoneyVanilla · 05/10/2013 16:29

Thanks for the welcome back everyone. AF arrived today so officially dusted off and reset the fertility monitor, purchased the grapefruit juice and evening primrose oil and started a beautiful new excel spreadsheet to record everything. Back on project desperate. Yay.

Sorry your having such a bad time of it fedup. What's going on with your dad does sound really scary. Lots of hugs and Flowers for you and your family. Pregnancy announcements are the pits aren't they. Although what I hate more are those people who 're-announce' it practically every day. Grrr

One week seaside?!? I'm joining you in the positive affirmations.

Bezza2508 · 06/10/2013 00:24

That is a shit weekend fedup. I hope your dad is doing ok. There always seems to be a pregnancy announcement to kick you when you're down doesn't there. Thinking of you.

Sounds like you're ready for it camomile.

If you make a vision board seaside, make sure you film DH's reaction! Smile

fedupofrainydays · 06/10/2013 06:58

Thanks ladies. Went to see Dad again last night and he's in good spirits even if a fair bit of pain. They still don't know what's wrong, probably because the NHS seems to shut down at weekends so no consultants are looking at him, his scan and bloods results. Bring on Monday when they will. Made me realise even more how silly the mon to fri pattern is for the NHS. People don't choose what day of the week to be ill!

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alyant79 · 06/10/2013 10:57

oh dear fedup i hope your dad gets some answers soon.

a big fat BOOOO for all the bfns yesterday. really rubbish.

We've just finished shagathon here. yesterday should have been ov day but my temp was only slightly up this morning. we snuck in an extra quickie this morning since DD slept in until 7:30 (for the first time ever on a weekend) just in case i ov today instead...... now for the dreaded 2ww.
Feeling optimistic for october. It is my month Grin

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Sal1977 · 06/10/2013 11:32

Bright and sunny morning here in Devon, got a farmers food fair to visit today then over for a curry at my bezzers house tonight (see a pattern emerging?). My pre-holiday diet has gone well not but on the upside, only 4 sleeps til our belated honeymoon on Turkey. All positive stuff.

Now, a word to the universe....as you have decided to unleash a shit-storm on us this year (excluding the wedding of course), it would be nice if you could make this holiday so I come home up-duffed with a sticky bean. Cleverly or stupidly I should be ovulating bang smack in the middle of my honeymoon, which is also what should have been my due date (next Saturday). Please please please make our honeymoon a good one in all ways!! That is all.

Big boos to the BFNs and AFs arriving this week. October HAS to be a good month for all of us, then we can all graduate together and be BFFs for evermore!!

LivinItSmall · 06/10/2013 17:57

Fingers crossed for an excellent honeymoon Sal!
AF has arrived 2 days early so am a bit fed up. Along with one Facebook pregnancy announcement and one birth announcement . I'm not sure the evil that is Facebook is good for my mental health!

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 06/10/2013 18:37

Sal, really hoping you have a productive honeymoon! Wink

Boo to AF LivingIt. I fear my cycle is tracking yours this month. Lots of PMS type symptoms today and I've started spotting. I fear the early onset of AF. Sad

NerdyBird · 06/10/2013 21:38

Sorry to hear about you dad fedup I hope you get some answers on Monday and that he'll be on the mend soon.

Also sorry your AFs seem to have turned up livin and yorkshire. Mine due on Weds. Have been feeling sick on and off all this week so looked up whether it could be pregnancy symptom or PMS, and of course it could be either! Really hope it's not PMS as could do without feeling sick for at least a week before AF!

It's soooo tempting to do an early test, trying hard not to give in!

Fairypants · 06/10/2013 22:01

Can I join you?
I have just had a bfn following a mc starting on 18th sept so I'm hoping to gear up to start ttc again (once the blasted bleeding stopsAngry)

ArkadyRose · 06/10/2013 22:26

Don't give in to temptation, Nerdy! readies the Trout of Slapping I'll be 14dpo on Tuesday, but I'm going to hold off until Friday to poas. Though if this cycle follows the same as my most recent ones, AF would be due on Thursday.

A friend today innocently remarked "it's impossible to be 'a little bit pregnant'" - I couldn't help thinking "hah, try the 2ww - Schrodinger's Pregnancy!" Grin Still, only a few more days to wait.

Sal1977 · 07/10/2013 00:24

Welcome Fairy! Sorry you find yourself here, you are in great company though!

Big fat bumhugs for the AFs arriving, hopefully she'll piss off quickly so you can all crack on!!

SeasideLily · 07/10/2013 08:54

Shrodinger's Pregnancy, love that!

Sorry you're here fairy, but I hope it'll be a good support until you get upduffed again very soon.

I'm feeling positive for October too aly-this is our month. The shagathon got off to great shakes last night, going to try and actually enjoy it this month!

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alyant79 · 07/10/2013 09:12

Shrodinger's pregnancy is great ark.

hi fairy! sorry that you're here, but hopefully it won't be for long - i mean that in the nicest possible way, of course.

Was fully expecting my temp to go up today as it has every month, but it's still very low - hoping that i've just ovulated a day late and that it's not an anovulatory month Hmm. Either way it means that we should probably dtd tonight in case today is ov day, since last attempt was yesterday morning. This makes me grumpy as, like seaside we really tried hard to enjoy dtd this month with no pressure to perform on command - it's worked so far and i don't want to ruin it on the final day. Angry.

What do you guys think? If i do ov today, swimmers from yesterday should still be hanging around, shouldn't they?

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alyant79 · 07/10/2013 09:13

oh and sorry for AF living and possible AF yorkshire

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OveranxiousUnderated · 07/10/2013 09:25

Hi everyone :)

aly - In theory yes the swimmers should definitely still be hanging around...but if it was me and I knew my temp hadn't risen yet then I would have to dtd again purely because I would beat myself up about it following a bfn and convince myself "it's because we didn't do it that last day" which is what I do every month! So annoying though after you've tried to refrain from the usual 'must do it xyz' attitude.

Welcome fairy Smile everybody is lovely here, it's a great support for me.

Sal - really hoping you get some good luck on your honeymoon!

I too have a positive feeling about October...trying to tell myself that everyday. I'm currently on cd12 although my cbfm thinks I'm on day 11 and gave me a high reading this morning which is very unusual as I always get a high on day 15 followed by a peak. So half of me is panicking my body has malfunctioned the other half is just hoping I'm going to ovulate slightly earlier...I have changed my vitamins and a few other things this month not sure if that could be connected?!

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OveranxiousUnderated · 07/10/2013 09:26

Oh and hope your Dad is okay fed up Thanks x

YorkshireTeaDrinker · 07/10/2013 09:47

Aly swimmers from yesterday will def be hanging about (can hang about for up to 5 days if CM is optimal. The latest get yourself up-duffed book that I have read (can't remember which one, have worked my way through a few!) says that pre ovulation sex is best, as swimmers need to be waiting for the egg to emerge, not rushing in after the event. So it should be ok, but I would want to chuck in another shag, just to maximise the chances.

Overanxious fx that October is your month. I think staying as positive as possible has got to help.

I am not officially out yet. Spotting remained just that. Now 12dpo, AF due on Wed, got cramps, sore boobs and intermittent spotting. It is particularly grim that the symptoms of AF and BFP are so tauntingly similar.

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alyant79 · 07/10/2013 10:01

thanks guys that's my feeling too - swimmers should still be there but another shag would be the safest option.... but it'll ruin our stress-free, fun-only cycle!
So conflicted.

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alyant79 · 07/10/2013 10:05

yorkshire that's so Confused and Angry making. stupid spotting

over maybe our bodies have swapped - you're ovulating early and me late instead of the other way around. i'm also trying very hard not to panic.

sal your honeymoon is going to be fantabulous! ovulating right in the middle is perfect. There's no better excuse than a honeymoon for shagging as much as possible and not worrying about timing at all.

I too think that october will be lucky for many of us

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katatonic · 07/10/2013 11:33

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NerdyBird · 07/10/2013 12:04

Hi kata

Glad everything is going well for you, hopefully we'll be joining you on the side soon!

If you've got any ov tests left I might be interested

cosmickitten · 07/10/2013 12:16

Just an update, I am currently still pregnant! Had a scan last week to rule out eptopic (had awful pains in right hip) little dot seen right place with heart beat but measuring very very small for 6 weeks. Too soon to tell if I simply ovulated late or if growth is poor. Another scan in 10 days times to check growth. Not sure what to feel yet, mainly worried!