Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

[alyant79]

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

isit i love the phrase "smear of disappointment". So apt.
also - run like the wind! My main early pregnancy symptom the last two times has been a distinct LACK of symptoms.

welcome skylark. so sorry that you're hear with the rest of us.

isit if I were you, I'd run home asap and test.

skylark sorry to see you here. You are in good company here. I also lost one at 12 weeks, nearly 6 months ago now. There is a thread for ttc over 40, not sure if you have found it yet. I am thinking of joining when the EDD will turn me into a 40yo mum. (I'll be 39 in less than a month time). I know what you mean about being lucky to have one, and I count my blessing on it, knowing that there are others who would love to be at least in that situation. But I would dearly love to give DD a sibling too.

Yay, I came on hoping to see some positive news! How exciting penguin. I hope it turns into a nice strong BFP over the next few days.

Welcome skylark. Sorry to hear about your MC but you'll be in good company here.

Exciting stuff penguin. A line is a line Is a line, hopefully the better class of IC will confirm it tomorrow. BTW both my BFPs have been identified on ICs quite late at night, so you don't always need to wait for the first pee of the day.

isit run run RUN!

aly glad to hear you had a good break, hopefully preparing your body with booze for a post-ovulation shag will do the business this month.

Welcome skylark. It's crap that you need to be here, but the company is lovely...

Welcome skylark !!

aly your holiday sounds lovely. It was miserable and rainy here, hope you had some sun!

nerdy AF has arrived but that means a literal phase of 11 days. Eek should I be worried? That is a lot of needles in the acupuncture!! Must be relaxing though to have an hour of just lying down.

Hi skylark, and welcome. You'll find lots of support on here to help get you through.

So isit, did you do it?

My test from this morning still has a faint second line, although the instructions say not to read it after 10 mins (it has been 10 hours ). Trying not to get my hopes up too much, but I will be gutted if it turns out to be a false alarm.

Hello lovely ladies. I was here in June during my missed miscarriage and you were so lovely and supportive - I don't know what I would have done without you. Anyway I have been stalking and religiously following project desperate...I've ignored it for a week but the lines are getting darker and darker and last Friday I got my BFP! Went to the doctors today to start the ball rolling for booking in etc. Am terrified and my DH is refusing to indulge my desperate need to sit perfectly still and do nothing until May. Anyway - I loved hearing positive stories over the past three months - so although it's very early days...I just wanted to share xx

Welcome back aly - be careful in that bathroom next time!!

isit I would definitely do another / tis Friday after all!

Welcome skylark101 sorry you are here but hope this thread helps you - it has and is helping me! Xx

Well AF due yesterday and nothing yet - will be POAS soon - it's driving me mad not knowing but also hate getting the bfn - sometimes prefer just getting AF - or a bfp of course!

Wow I really did not refresh my page! penguin that sounds promising!

Fantastic news ks78!
Note to self must refresh when using phone to mn

okay ladies well its a BFP! Can't believe it - have the stick right here and can't believe this has finally happened! Now I'm terrified! Please let this one stay! Can't bear a third mc! Also I'm 39 in November ... so us late thirties comming up to forty can still do it!

Hope I can still hover with you ladies

Hey ladies, I need you to scrape me down off the ceiling please....

Went to docs today for DH's sperm results and all was ok apart from his morphology (the shape). He only had 1% normal (it should be over 15%). So he's got to do another one in case he was just having an off day. I've then asked Dr Google about the MC side of things and although it is vague there could be a connection. To say I am panicking and worried that clearly the only possible route is now IVF but don't want to upset DH (he's quite blasé about it tbh). What if we just keep MC? What if we have to use donor sperm (how would you feel about that?). What if we never have children and die old and alone?

Slap me quick.

Crossed posts. Yay EMKI!!!! Well chuffed for you!! Xx

Emki wow!!!!!! That's great news. Yippeeeeeeeee!!!!

Ks78 that's wonderful for you too, wow what a good news filled Friday.

Sal that's a bugger about dh's sperm, but maybe as you say he was having a bad day. I don't see how morphology could possibly have anything to do with mc though, so I reckon the fact that you clearly can get knocked up is an excellent sign that the morphology isn't an issue in itself.

Sal my best friends DH had a sperm count of 10... That's 10 live sperm in the whole sample, and they were fairly limp and pathetic looking. They went on to have 2 healthy pgs. She was concerned that DD2 might take time to conceive, but her DDs have a year or so between them. You never know what will happen.

I have been lurking and reading, but feeling really down and unenthusiastic this week I normally manage to cling onto at least a little bit of positivity but it is seriously failing me this month.

Firstly, wow to penguin, KS7 and emki fantastic news. Congrats. x

I am about 8dpo today, did an ic hpt because quite frankly I cannot stop myself and seem to love the dissapointment every fecking month of wasting pg tests for nothing. So yes, obviously a BFN. I am holding out no hope whatsoever this month, I already know I am yet again not pregnant. I've been an emotional wreck this week, I cried 3 mornings before starting work which was not a great start to my day. My reflexologist has been signed off sick so I have got to wait another 2 weeks from now to restart my course from scratch. I just feel like everything is against me at the moment! My best friend is now a day overdue so the impending newborn visit is looming, and I am praying I can hold myself together for her sake!!

Sal Hopefully it was just an 'off day' and the next one will be an improved result, I don't really know much about sperm to be honest so I can't offer much advice. In terms of how would I feel about using donor sperm...If that was the next available/easiest option then I don't think I would dismiss the idea, however I can see DH being harder to convince...

Emki and Penguin can you please remind me how long it has taken you both to get this bfp following your mc's?

Welcome to sky hope you find some support here with us. x

I have also convinced myself that my remaining left tube does not work at all and I have zero chance of conceiving and feel like going to see my Dr and demanding a hsg to check it out but I know they will say no because it has only been 3 months since my surgery, I already have a child and I have to try for another year at least.

x

Waves to Saggy How are you doing? How many weeks are you now? Seems like a lifetime ago that you were on this thread as a ttc-er. Can you please remind me how long it took you to get your bfp following your mc too?

x

Im hanging in there. We are currently 15.1. I MC at the end of January, beginning of February, and got BFP at the beginning of july IIRC. It felt like an eternity.

over after my first mc (at 20 weeks) I got pregnant after 4 cycles. Then had mmc at 8 weeks - it took 11 weeks for first AF to show up - couldn't leave the house! Was not fun when AF arrived - but this is the 5th cycle. I OV on CD14, (only the last two cycles have been 28 days) and we DTD on CD13 & CD14

I have to say that both times I've got pg after mc I have been in a state of giving up - thinking it's never going to work- but not stressed anymore just frigging depressed - feeling there is no hope - it's like I have to hit rock bottom.

over for me its the not knowing when and then not believing it is ever going to happen - I'm sorry you've had such a rubbish day - this is such a difficult thing - and no one understands how awful it is to you xx

Thanks Emki I definitely feel very close to 'rock bottom' right now whether that theory will work for me I am not too hopeful! Really hope everything works out okay for you this time, you certainly deserve some good luck now. xx

Can I just say for the record that Dr Google is a marvellous shithead of a shit stiring cock-jockey. I am never for the next 90 seconds going to consult him cos he's clearly a bloke again.

Absolutely RIGHT! although sadly, Dr Google is also on tap 24/7. IMO, as long as you can retain some objectivity, realise that mainly the worst case scenario makes it to Google, and are able to filter out the rubbish, you'll be ok. Unfortunately, I am generally unable to do so, and end up terrifying myself stupid er !

Congrats emki and ks78 , brilliant news! How many weeks are you then?

I'm pretty sure now that mine is a bfp too, which would make me 4 weeks pg today. I did a second IC test this morning (different brand) and it also had a second line. I've just bought some CB digis but will save them for first thing tomorrow to get the most accurate result. Very exciting but very scary, I will just lurk here for a while too if that's ok, I don't feel ready to graduate just yet. I can't get the one in three chance of a MC statistic out of my head.

over, it is 5 months since my MC, although the first two months were pretty much a write off due to screwy cycles. Like emki, we also DTD the day before and on the day of ovulation.

I tried three other things this cycle that may or may not have helped (1) reading erotic fiction to get in the mood (2) using enough fertility monitoring gadgets to fill a branch of lakeland plastics (3) challenging sod's law by buying very impractical shoes.

sal, leave dr google alone! he's just a quack.

Woop...more BFPs. Congratulations Emki and ks78. Fantastic news and some much need positivity for the thread. Glad to hear your line from yesterday has turned in to a BFP as well penguin.

sal, as you say maybe DH was having a bad day. See what happens next time before starting to panic (although I know I would react the same way you have...google is the root of all evil but I just can't help myself!)

Not having a good day here. Tried to go shopping with some friends and basically had a panic attack in the middle of a busy shopping centre. Never had one pre MC but my anxiety is really rearing its head now. Cancelled my plans to go to a friend's party tonight cos I just don't feel up to it. I feel like I'm being a bit pathetic but I just don't know how to sort myself out.

Penguin, great news about the 2nd BFP. So far I have followed the 2nd part of your 3 part plan. Using IC OPKs, plus a fancy pants CB digi OPK. Will break out the black lace literature once I get a smiley face on the fancy OPK. And if impractical shoes will get me a BFP, then I will get shopping!

Congrats emki and ks78, wonderful to see such a rush of BFPs, really hoping that these all go the distance.

I am paranoid about missing the fertile window this month. Thought I spotted EWCM this morning so, despite negative OPK, insisted that we DTD before DH left for a weekend away (whilst 2.10yo DD was in the shower! ). Feeling a bit silly now, but gearing up for DTD as much as possible during peak shagging week. I am DETERMINED to be pregnant before EDD. Not massively expectant, we don't have a good hit rate at getting pregnant, but it will not be for lack of trying. .