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If TTC # 2 has turned you into a nut job this thread is for you! (Part 3)

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fedupofrainydays · 20/08/2013 06:57

Still here, still ttc, still POAS, still symptom spotting, still counting days, still temping, still shagging and still absolutely nutty!!!

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fedupofrainydays · 28/11/2013 08:24

Sorry to hear that sebs.
No, my cycles are always about that length as is considered normal. Anything over 21 days is.
Glad you are still positive tho....

So I tested this morn once at work and bfn. I did it before I have any conversations about leaving... Jic. Af should arrive on sat for me I thinks xx

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sebsmummy1 · 28/11/2013 08:38

Its interesting how one thing has an impact on another doesn't it. I'm also thinking if making some different life choices off the back of my failure to conceive. I was putting off starting my own business again until I raised my family to a certain point. But now I suspect there will only be three of us I am going to readjust my ideas.

Good luck today chick xxxx

threepiecesuite · 28/11/2013 10:06

Sebsmummy, I'm thinking of doing the same thing in my career. I just have a feeling we'll be a family of 3.

Well I'm having a strange thing. AF now a day late (unheard of). Had light pink spotting for 4 days but nothing more. Did test- bfn. Very bizarre!

sebsmummy1 · 28/11/2013 10:22

Threepiecesuite that sounds interesting!!! Could it be possible implantation I wonder? I hate how everything involves waiting!!!! I am so impatient lol

2beornot · 28/11/2013 11:35

Sorry for your bfn sebs Sad. My cycles are generally 26 days so that sounds fine to me.

I've definitely gone for the getting on with life approach. I may have got my BFP but as we know that doesn't always mean I'll have a baby. So if I get offered the job I'll still take it and deal with consequences later. I don't know when DC2 will arrive so I'm not going to sit around waiting. As it stands we have a long weekend with friends booked for end of August. If it ends up I can't go and lose money then oh well!!

Three piece - that sounds strange. I hate it when you're in that limbo of no AF, no bfn.

Does anyone mind if I still stay on here. It honestly doesn't feel real and I'm a bit scared something will happen.

fedupofrainydays · 28/11/2013 17:22

So... I didn't resign. I have however got off the project that was miles away and now on a London one (my area). Phew.

I'm also training on the side so I can do my own business!! We are all at it!

Course stay with us 2be and keep planning your life!

Hope you get out of limbo land 3 piece - hopefully with the positive result!

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threepiecesuite · 28/11/2013 20:37

AF now arrived with a vengeance. How cheeky of me to hopeSad

2beornot · 28/11/2013 22:47

Threepiece Sad

Why does it always take so long for AF to arrive? I'd much rather if it's not going happen you find out straight away.

fedupofrainydays · 29/11/2013 07:06

Sorry three piece :(
Af can be so cruel. Just allowing us to hope that little bit by being late..
I'm waiting for her to arrive in my camp. Decided to stop wasting tests and have not tested today as been feeling af will come today (probably during the presentation I have to do with a client today in front of 35 people which will be fun).

But it's almost the weekend! We have our NCT 2nd birthdays party and most will be bringing their second baby or bump along. I find these events super tough. I particularly don't want to hear how hard it is with two, I would chop off my arm (right not left as left handed Wink ) to have two kids. I am going to just hide in the soft play so then I won't have to have those conversations!!

dildoos any news for you? Did af arrive or did you get a bfp?!?! Amaze if you did and that drink goo has done its magic!

Xx

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sebsmummy1 · 29/11/2013 08:25

I'm so sorry threepiecesuite Sad. This TTC is driving me mad at 6 cycles in, I can imagine how soul destroying it is as time goes on.

OH was so down last night and that's not like him at all. I think he gets his hopes up because silly me feels hopeful each month and then AF appears. I look back at how smug we wrote when I got pregnant at the drop if a hat the first time and cringe. We just had no idea at all, so blasé.

sebsmummy1 · 29/11/2013 13:39

So I have taken my own advice and booked in for acupuncture treatment with an award winning Oman down my way. It's £47 for an hour, I have no idea how often I need to go and am slightly scared at home quickly the costs could rack up, but I said to OH that if we get the wrong side of 40 and I haven't tried anything bar leaving it to nature, I think I'll kick myself.

I've kind of reconciled in my head that I don't want medical intervention at this stage. So this feels like a halfway house.

First appointment week Monday xx

sebsmummy1 · 29/11/2013 13:40

Woman, no idea what an Oman is Grin, sounds a bit woo.

fedupofrainydays · 29/11/2013 19:36

Oman is a country! Good luck with the needles lady. My friend has had it and found it relaxing if anything... And heard others have helped their fertility.

On knicker watch here. I hate this time when you know it's coming and so just want it over with... Ugh.

It is hard on the men too. Particularly the longer it gets, not least as they have to deal with our heartbreak and tears every month. My DH gets upset too now when I get my stupid period. He is still holding out for his twins Wink

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dildoos · 29/11/2013 21:34

Hey all happy Friday Grin
Af arrived here x

sebsmummy1 · 29/11/2013 21:47

oh dildoos im so sorry Sad misery loves company lol

My iphone has died, totally. Think i have lost a lot of my lovely photos and all my contacts. God knows how i will ever get half the numbers back!!

Im taking it to a repair shop in the morning to see if anything can be done. Please if any of you have anything important on your phone make sure you back it up regularly. My only light is all the good photos i whatsapp to DP, so at least i know i have 75% of the photos that were on my phone still.

fedupofrainydays · 30/11/2013 08:03

Oh no dildoos how late was af in the end? Hope you are ok.

What an arse about your phone sebs and glad most of the pics are with DH. I think my stuff is backed up on iCloud when I connect to wifi but you have promoted me to check!

Ugh so af due today (I think) and don't really feel anything. Had a day of cramps on thurs and watery discharge yesterday now nothing and a bfn. So just a waiting game... I hate it!! NCT party this pm and mixed emotions, looking forward to seeing everyone but dreading seeing all families with the new babies, which is most to be honest. I'm sure I will be fine at the time, just the build up is hard and I worry how I'm going to react. Think of me ladies, seeing my expanding nct group is what I find the toughest of my ttc failures xxx

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zippygeorgebungle · 30/11/2013 16:17

I know exactly what you mean fedup. I met my NCT friends too today and we are close. They know all sorts of details of the difficult birth I had etc but I have not told anyone at all in real life about ttc. All the other women except one have a bump or baby and we are not even at the two year point yet for another few months. They kept telling me to hurry up so we could all be off together again and it was hard.

Sebs, I think you might be in the same position as me potentially. The consultant was very clear about why, even though I have regular AF and was only breastfeeding once a day, there was pituitary suppression ie low FSH and LH. He thought I was ovulating but the low FSH did indicate the feeding had caused difficulties conceiving and he was clear this would end in a couple of months after complete cessation.

fedupofrainydays · 30/11/2013 17:06

Yeah, mine know all about my ttc and mc traumas too. It's tough isn't it. I coped pretty well and was lovely to see them all as we did go through so much together, I guess I just so want to be in their position with 2 kiddies.

No af yet but still bfn so who knows what's going on xx

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fedupofrainydays · 30/11/2013 17:34

I'm freaking out. I might, just might have a bfp.

It came up btw 10 & 15 mins after doing the superdrug test. Thought was bfn and went to give DS his tea and then looked again and I see a line.

DH has gone to shops. To get food. Wish I was clearer - ie wish it was a strong positive but it's just a super faint line that could easily be an evap.

Why didnt I just wait til morning then it might have been clearer????

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sebsmummy1 · 30/11/2013 17:39

Fedup - really hoping the witch stays away chick xxxx

Zippy - that's interesting. I think it's been 1.5 cycles since I have given up bf and I do feel better for it physically I have to say. No more niggling aches and pains, I assume through the oxytocin keeping joints loose? I had to quit as I just couldn't take the chance that one feed a day could be enough to stop me from conceiving. Bubsy didn't care less either way lol

Have you totally ceased feeding now too?

sebsmummy1 · 30/11/2013 17:40

iPhone totally shagged btw, just randomly developed a huge terminal issue, nothing even happened to it!! Makes me very hesitant about do ending a lot if money replacing it as it was only about 4 years old.

fedupofrainydays · 30/11/2013 18:17

I've decided that of DH can see a line when he gets home then it prob is a bfp.. Otherwise I will just think Conclude I'm mental!!

Give up breastfeeding is so hard girls. I tried at least 3 times before I did for real - kept crying about it so carried on!

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dildoos · 30/11/2013 20:15

Wooooohooooooooo fed up I am actually shaking with excitement for you!!!!!!!!!!! Take another !!!!!!!! Can you get a digital tonight as last time I had a line late took a digital which took along time but came up eventually with pregnant 1-2 weeks!!!!!!! XxxxxxxxGrinGrinGrinGrinGrinThanksThanksThanksThanksThanksThanksThanks

sebsmummy1 · 30/11/2013 20:26

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sebsmummy1 · 30/11/2013 20:26

OH MY GOD LOL