I'm ready for a flaming but just spent the last few hours sobbing and I need to talk.

[internationallove985]

I have decided not to name change here for the simple reason you will know it's me by my post and if you're going to flame me or say "Well I told you so", it may as well be the real me. I have posted here rather chat because I have opened up to more people on the conceptions threads.

Most of you know my situation for those that don't I have been sleeping with a guy for the past 2 months in the hopes of getting pregnant. I usual see him on Wednesday day time and Fri evening but I couldn't see him today so we arranged to see each other tonight... Anyway he got to mine for about 9.30.
We went straight upstairs. Sorry if what I say next is T.M.I but I gave him oral and yes rightly or wrongly expected it back but just as he was about to cum he pushed me down on the bed and dtd (with no foreplay) and came in less than a minute got up got dressed and said "I'm going now". I feel so used. I might as well be honest it felt a bit uncomfortable and I bled a little. The only time I've ever bled after sex is when I lsot my virginity.
I know I've been allowing myself to get used. I have never felt emotive after sex but I have just spent the past few hours sobbing. I'm in no way trying to cry rape as that was not the case at all, not once did I struggle or say no, but a little consideration would not have gone a miss. I just couldn't believe the change in him.
He is going away tommorow for a few weeks which now I am glad about as it will give me time to think. I'm sure he'd be mortified if he knew how he'd made me feel, do I tell him I feel used or do I just put it down to a quickie and rough sex. xx

Dayoldcheesecake. Read my comment again before jumping on the let's flame international band wagon nowhere did I say I was raped. x
Thank you for your support tea and natter.x
Champagnebubble. Thankyou for your advice. I'm used to getting flamed on here. They think by doing that I'm going to go away but sorry for the flamers it aint going to happen, mind you in their defence I did say I say i was ready for a flaming. I argue my point with people though and the famous troll word often comes out!
Yamsareyammy. I met him im May thought it was going to be yet another O.N.S x

YET ANOTHER O.N.S ???????????????

How many do you have exactly???

international. Said with care and concern.
If you knew he was going to be even rougher next time, would you still sleep with him?

Prior to meeting fwb. I think I have had more than 100 O.N.S. I've never contracted any sexually transmitted deseases though I was screened in April and I was given the all clear. x

Do you have O.N.S because you like the guy and hope it will lead to something else?

Or do you have them with guys that you like just for a bit of fun?

Or do you have them with the sole purpose of hoping to get pregnant from one of them??

All different senarios really my angel was the product of a planned O.N.S I knew I was fertile but I was single so I went out with every intention of having a O.N.S to ttc
My D.D was a first date conception baby.
Prior to meeting fwb it was just for fun mostly. What can I say. I am a hot blooded women with desires. However now I do it with the sole purpose of creating a new life. x

Are you sleeping with other guys alongside your FWB??

I don't understand why if you are such a hot blooded woman, and such a fan of ONS's, why you would restrict your likelihood of conception by giving up that lifestyle for a guy you just see twice a week??

You didnt answer my question, so I can conclude that you are going to risk it.

I understand that by creating another life that you will be creating another person to love you. And my guess is that is what you are craving.

My thoughts exactly....

I meant my post in relation to International craving someone to love her

I think me and Juicy cross-posted!!

No I am only sleeping with this guy ATM for the simple reason, if I sleep around with randomers while ttc I wouldn't know who was the father of my baby was should I be lucky enough to get pregnant. x

You can view it however you want to, International, that is up to you to decide. You have to protect yourself emotionally.

I think it was rape. A decent man would read the signals of the situation -NOT just that you wanted oral yourself, but that having had no foreplay you wouldn't necessarily be aroused. I would be very concerned that if you see him again this will escalate. He doesn't seem to have any concern for your wellbeing, which even in the case of casual sex most people would have.

No woman deserves to be assaulted. It doesn't matter that she's making bad choices herself, it doesn't matter that she consented up to a certain point. Crap sex is different to rape and assault. It just is. Doesn't mean women have a right to behave badly and that they don't matter, just that that is a completely separate issue.

God there are some vile, ignorant people out there.

Well if I was you I would find a discreet way of finding out if he has had a vasectomy - especially if he is the same age-ish as you. Like you said, you don't know if he is married and has children etc. That may be the prime reason he hasn't mentioned contraception.

Try and find a way to bring vasectomies into conversation and see what his reaction is like.....

Juicyfatrump. Where did I use the words raped and abused. x

Juicy. With respect to the op, she is not your average poster if you look back to some posts early this morning.

Juicy, are you a man?

yamsareyammy - hahahahahahahahaha

That made me laugh out loud!!!!!

Juicy your posts are absolutely vile. Up there with Daft Punk's easily.

Tea you are right
this idea that it's her responsibility to say 'no' - not according to the law it isn't
it's his responsibility to get a 'yes' before continuing
www.rapecrisis.org.uk/rapeampsexualviolence2.php
and the endless wittering on about feminists

juicyfatrump. I will be more dignified than you are being and say congratulations on your pregnancy, I am not going to say anything abusive on here to anyone because I was taught better than that. I'm a survivor! x