I have decided not to name change here for the simple reason you will know it's me by my post and if you're going to flame me or say "Well I told you so", it may as well be the real me. I have posted here rather chat because I have opened up to more people on the conceptions threads.
Most of you know my situation for those that don't I have been sleeping with a guy for the past 2 months in the hopes of getting pregnant. I usual see him on Wednesday day time and Fri evening but I couldn't see him today so we arranged to see each other tonight... Anyway he got to mine for about 9.30.
We went straight upstairs. Sorry if what I say next is T.M.I but I gave him oral and yes rightly or wrongly expected it back but just as he was about to cum he pushed me down on the bed and dtd (with no foreplay) and came in less than a minute got up got dressed and said "I'm going now". I feel so used. I might as well be honest it felt a bit uncomfortable and I bled a little. The only time I've ever bled after sex is when I lsot my virginity.
I know I've been allowing myself to get used. I have never felt emotive after sex but I have just spent the past few hours sobbing. I'm in no way trying to cry rape as that was not the case at all, not once did I struggle or say no, but a little consideration would not have gone a miss. I just couldn't believe the change in him.
He is going away tommorow for a few weeks which now I am glad about as it will give me time to think. I'm sure he'd be mortified if he knew how he'd made me feel, do I tell him I feel used or do I just put it down to a quickie and rough sex. xx
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I'm ready for a flaming but just spent the last few hours sobbing and I need to talk.
internationallove985 · 18/07/2013 00:10
Thank you fifi.
I wasn't sure whether it was a case of a conversation that hadn't taken place, or whether OP had misled her FWB into believing she was using contraception when she clearly isn't.
In that case, I stand by my original post.
valium Have you read the thread properly? I posted earlier, but wanted to check on one point....so shoot me. 
To quote your own words international - "I'm not rising to it" 
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Ffs running I want to go to bed! You are talking rubbish. Are you a lawyer? 
Thanks for the link fifi. Will look it up when I'm next on. Good luck with the implantation!
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Do you think he should have asked her if they could start having sex?
Yes I do. He doesn't have to get a consent form signed in triplicate but the onus is on him to ensure she's up for it. If her body language is indicating that she's enthusiastic about it, then that can be taken as consent (as a pp has already said).
But, from what op has written, she quite clearly was not up for it at the point that he entered her. This resulted in her being hurt and bleeding, feeling used and sobbing.
I would guess that her body language indicated that what he was doing was uncomfortable too unless she's an experienced porn actress which should be a decent man's clue to maybe check with a simple "are you ok with this?"
Valium, I agree with your dh. My dh would say the same.
yes writer after she willingly sucked him off he was them supposed to ask, just in case he wasn't sure she was up for it, "can we have sex now"? . I will eat my tabbycat if anyone actually has sex like that.
Right now I'm really going.
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