I'm ready for a flaming but just spent the last few hours sobbing and I need to talk.

[internationallove985]

I have decided not to name change here for the simple reason you will know it's me by my post and if you're going to flame me or say "Well I told you so", it may as well be the real me. I have posted here rather chat because I have opened up to more people on the conceptions threads.

Most of you know my situation for those that don't I have been sleeping with a guy for the past 2 months in the hopes of getting pregnant. I usual see him on Wednesday day time and Fri evening but I couldn't see him today so we arranged to see each other tonight... Anyway he got to mine for about 9.30.
We went straight upstairs. Sorry if what I say next is T.M.I but I gave him oral and yes rightly or wrongly expected it back but just as he was about to cum he pushed me down on the bed and dtd (with no foreplay) and came in less than a minute got up got dressed and said "I'm going now". I feel so used. I might as well be honest it felt a bit uncomfortable and I bled a little. The only time I've ever bled after sex is when I lsot my virginity.
I know I've been allowing myself to get used. I have never felt emotive after sex but I have just spent the past few hours sobbing. I'm in no way trying to cry rape as that was not the case at all, not once did I struggle or say no, but a little consideration would not have gone a miss. I just couldn't believe the change in him.
He is going away tommorow for a few weeks which now I am glad about as it will give me time to think. I'm sure he'd be mortified if he knew how he'd made me feel, do I tell him I feel used or do I just put it down to a quickie and rough sex. xx

[coffeeinbed]

[Juicy fat steak. How have you came to than conclusion! and you call me a troll!!! x]
You have to admire the use of the kiss after a sentence like that.

[coffeeinbed]

sorry, epic bold fail.

[chipmonkey]

Snazzy, there is no deal. This guy is completely unaware that she is using him to get pregnant. He's just in it for sex.

[MissStrawberry]

"rightly or wrongly...."

It would be WRONG to see him again.

You are so casual about how you can have/get a baby I really feel you need to mature a bit and get some counselling.

[MissStrawberry]

You already have a child?

[WannaBeAMommy]

Conception...... Everything to do with conception. Ive had some threads of my own that you couldnt say to anyone in person like how long do you wait to go toilet. Do you raise your bum. Drinking etc. Isn't this about getting the right info no matter how silly tge queations are and then doing tests and the two week wait... Its meant to be a fun forum not this!

[ZingWidge]

ok, not read full thread, but here's what I think (also having read previous comments of OP elsewhere)

OP however much I understand your desire to have another baby I can not applaud your method of TTC which is based on tricking someone else. It doesn't sit right with me as such.

BUT

in your defence I must say that in your case at least one of you actively wants a baby which IMO -on its own!- is a way better start compared to when babies are a result of ONSs, carelessness & accidents or rape and as such are unwanted and/or unplanned by the "parents".

I really think you should talk to your boyfriend and discuss this.
we all want things but that doesn't mean we will or should.
please consider what others said - some people are trying to protect you and your future baby from unnecessary problems.

I do hope you will have another child one day out of a loving relationship where you both decided to TTC.

[Branleuse]

this is just a complete non issue.

Youve had sex with a guy that turned out to be a bit crap. He used you, but it shouldnt be a big deal to you because you have been using him, but for some reason it is. Maybe because youre a bit entitled

[internationallove985]

Thank you to everyone who offered me their support. He was calling me all last night in the end something told me to answer... We talked for a little while and I told him how he made me feel. I wont go into detail about the conversation as I think even on here somethings should be kept private. We are going to talk more throughly when he comes home and take it from there. xxx

[yamsareyammy]

Be careful internationallove985.

You are playing with fire.
You may get burnt.
He may be finding out just how "rough" you will accept.

and in your case, that may be quite far.

You could be starting a rape thread on here before very long.

[saintmerryweather]

when you talk more thoroughly are you going to tell him hes gonna be a daddy? or will your honesty not extend that far?

[Writerwannabe83]

lol

Course she is......

[MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong]

Quite transparent I think

[willitbe]

As a little aside as this thread was posted in conception.

Oral sex will hinder conception rather than help!!!!

There are enzymes in saliva that are harmful to sperm. Also, sperm need a certain pH level to survive and saliva interferes with that. Even water can cause osmotic shock.

So OP, if oral is the only way to get your sperm supply going, then I would find another donor now, preferably a donor that does not want oral before the big performance and can be a bit more considerate to you! (and you should not receive oral beforehand either!)

[MadameBlavatsky]

God some absolutely fucking horrible responses on here. All this angst about this 'poor unsuspecting guy', ffs, here's an idea, if you don't want a child DON'T HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX, it's not rocket science. Either he's completely stupid or he just thinks it's someone else's problem. I suspect the latter, and quite frankly I'm struggling to find sympathy in any way for him and that's even without his behaviour towards the OP.

OP having said that, I advise you to listen to the massive alarm bells here. This guy is a twat. It doesn't matter what you label it as, physically hurting you to the point of bleeding is more than just a bit of rough sex and doing that to you makes him a complete cunt. I've had rough sex before, but never to the point of making me bleed! at the insinuation that you deserve to be treated like that. You don't.

He is NOT a good person and I think you will end up getting far more hurt if you see him again. I understand your desperation for a child, but doing this is likely to backfire in your face. He is NOT a good person to father your precious child. You can find proper sperm donors and go about it without all the risks. The risks to you right now in this current course of action outweigh the potential benefits. You say FWB is working for you, but love, it really honestly doesn't sound like it is. FWB can work, if there is mutual respect and there is none here. You are more than some random guy's fucktoy, don't let him treat you like one.

[MadameBlavatsky]

"If only you could meet someone like Chesney from Corrie. Obviously I don't mean ginger hair "

Oh, and JuicyFatSteak, you can just FOTTFSOFAWYGTFOSM for this ^

My son is ginger and gorgeous. You, on the other hand are just horrible.

[internationallove985]

Hi Willitbe thankyou for your support and advice. xxx
Hi MadamBlavatsky Thank you for you kind words. Also I agree ginger hair is gorgeous infact I think negative comments about hair color should be against the law. Well it's illegal to say anything negative about skin color isn't it, and yes absolutely so it should be. xxx

[emmelinelucas]

OP, keep thanking people for kind words
So many Problems
Give them all a grip
lol !

x

[yamsareyammy]

From, how she has answered on another thread in Chat or somewhere, it is clear that international has some sn.

international. I think you need to be more careful about looking after yourself. I dont know how well you know the man, or think you do, but he will have already worked out by now, that he can do rough sex. It is likely, quite likely, that he will do it rougher.
Is there anyone in rl that you can safely to talk to about this? As what you are doing, could put you in some danger.
Seriously, take care.

[Writerwannabe83]

You say it is clear that International has some sn..

What is sn??

[ZingWidge]

sn = special needs

[internationallove985]

yamsareyammy. I just don't get your comment how does me wanting a baby bring you to the conclusion that I have S.N. x