I'm ready for a flaming but just spent the last few hours sobbing and I need to talk.

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I have decided not to name change here for the simple reason you will know it's me by my post and if you're going to flame me or say "Well I told you so", it may as well be the real me. I have posted here rather chat because I have opened up to more people on the conceptions threads.

Most of you know my situation for those that don't I have been sleeping with a guy for the past 2 months in the hopes of getting pregnant. I usual see him on Wednesday day time and Fri evening but I couldn't see him today so we arranged to see each other tonight... Anyway he got to mine for about 9.30.
We went straight upstairs. Sorry if what I say next is T.M.I but I gave him oral and yes rightly or wrongly expected it back but just as he was about to cum he pushed me down on the bed and dtd (with no foreplay) and came in less than a minute got up got dressed and said "I'm going now". I feel so used. I might as well be honest it felt a bit uncomfortable and I bled a little. The only time I've ever bled after sex is when I lsot my virginity.
I know I've been allowing myself to get used. I have never felt emotive after sex but I have just spent the past few hours sobbing. I'm in no way trying to cry rape as that was not the case at all, not once did I struggle or say no, but a little consideration would not have gone a miss. I just couldn't believe the change in him.
He is going away tommorow for a few weeks which now I am glad about as it will give me time to think. I'm sure he'd be mortified if he knew how he'd made me feel, do I tell him I feel used or do I just put it down to a quickie and rough sex. xx

Juicy fat steak. Where did I say I was raped. You admitted yourself I said it wasn't rape! Okay you have made it clear you do not like me, and that's fine, but to deliberatly target someone is not on!
FOR THE RECORD I WAS NOT RAPED. AND NOWHERE DID I SAY I WAS!! x

So you posted for attention then?!

You know what, I would be inclined to want to tip the bloke off about what you are doing and hope that he makes a hasty retreat for a lucky escape, - he sounds like an arsehole himself anyway though.

But either way to post about what's happening with you and your unsuspecting fuck buddy on a the Conception thread is just not right. It's just goading really isn't it?

No because I was emotional and needed to talk or am wrong for that now. It seems I can't do anything around here with the words troll and attention making a grand entrance, but yet it's okay for people to say whatever they like to me. x

Fenton I have already said why I posted in conception. x

Thank you for your supportPendentMarina. It means a lot. x

op please consider a new plan to get pregnant.... You dont need this guy hanging around for the next eighteen years plus.

Given you can probably see you don't want a life long commitment to this guy now, best to move on. You don't deserve to be treated without consideration, whatever else is going on.

As for asking: yes the decent thing for him to do would have been to say "turn over, I want to fuck you hard". Asking for consent can be sexy if done right.

Perhaps I'm naive, but surely a normal sexy quickie doesn't involve the guy getting dressed and leaving immediately.

You're not the first, neither will you be the last, woman to not realise someone is a tosser before sleeping with them. These men don't get better, and this behaviour may escalate during pregnancy.

Time to move on.

I don't agree with your methods of getting pregnant International but you do still seem like a decent person, just because you are doing something I would never consider doesn't make you horrible (just misguided! ).

In reference to the rape thing, I think some people are implying that they would consider what happened to you as rape, or close to it, even if you don't.

I think you should be rid of this guy or at least speak to him and tell him you want a baby and is he happy to provide the necessary so at least he knows. It sounds to me like he is literally just in for the sex and doesn't care much for you. This can't be a no strings attached thing for you as if you do get pregnant then he will always be your baby's dad even if he chooses to have nothing to do with the baby as a father. I really really urge you to speak to him about it. As others have mentioned there are other ways of having a baby and there is nothing wrong at all with a male friend consenting to be a free sperm donor if you are both happy with that decision.

Perhaps we should apply the 'If you haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all' rule here. There is no need to be mean to someone who is upset no matter what decisions they have made. Offer advice and disagree of course but lets not get personal or it just ruins the forum for everyone.

Thank you for your support. Disney Diva. x

International I haven't seen you address what I said earlier about the potential for std's. You need to go and get yourself tested and use condoms from now on with any new partner until you are both tested.

You wouldn't want to end up pregnant and with an std. It could be disastrous for both you and the baby.

I never thought of that Fairylea especially if there is potential of him sleeping with others!

I'm sorry that sex was uncomfortable for you, but I don't think the bleeding - unless more than a few spots - is really anything to worry about as rough/quick/energetic sex does cause some women to bleed.

I don't think you're really in a position to say you feel 'used' when by your own admission you have been using this guy yourself - but if sex with him isn't making you happy, then that's obviously not a good thing. If you feel that strongly about it and don't fancy/feel able to/etc have the conversation where you explain how you felt and the two of you are a LOT more open about what you want with each and what is acceptable, then I suggest you cut him off.

Hi RaRaz. The bleeding was more than spotting but it wasn't heavy either if that makes sense. It's stopped now. Also.thank you for your support.x

How long did you bleed for/how much did you bleed? You don't need to announce that here, obv, but think about it yourself. If you needed a pad/tampon/etc, I'd suggest you might want to call your GP for advice.

if youre trying to get pregnant, then maybe he thought you would prefer him to come there instead of your mouth?

and shit sex does not equal rape ffs

Bran - the guy is not aware that the OP is trying to get pregnant.

Ironic really.