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I'm ready for a flaming but just spent the last few hours sobbing and I need to talk.

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internationallove985 · 18/07/2013 00:10

I have decided not to name change here for the simple reason you will know it's me by my post and if you're going to flame me or say "Well I told you so", it may as well be the real me. I have posted here rather chat because I have opened up to more people on the conceptions threads.

Most of you know my situation for those that don't I have been sleeping with a guy for the past 2 months in the hopes of getting pregnant. I usual see him on Wednesday day time and Fri evening but I couldn't see him today so we arranged to see each other tonight... Anyway he got to mine for about 9.30.
We went straight upstairs. Sorry if what I say next is T.M.I but I gave him oral and yes rightly or wrongly expected it back but just as he was about to cum he pushed me down on the bed and dtd (with no foreplay) and came in less than a minute got up got dressed and said "I'm going now". I feel so used. I might as well be honest it felt a bit uncomfortable and I bled a little. The only time I've ever bled after sex is when I lsot my virginity.
I know I've been allowing myself to get used. I have never felt emotive after sex but I have just spent the past few hours sobbing. I'm in no way trying to cry rape as that was not the case at all, not once did I struggle or say no, but a little consideration would not have gone a miss. I just couldn't believe the change in him.
He is going away tommorow for a few weeks which now I am glad about as it will give me time to think. I'm sure he'd be mortified if he knew how he'd made me feel, do I tell him I feel used or do I just put it down to a quickie and rough sex. xx

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ZingWidge · 21/07/2013 20:01

edward

enjoy temper tantrums!

edward49582 · 22/07/2013 08:28

Ah - do you have children? You stop loving them when they have temper tantrums?

Thought not.

chipmonkey · 22/07/2013 12:04

international, you say you were tested last April and were found to be healthy? Was he tested?

fifi669 · 22/07/2013 13:27

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 22/07/2013 15:07

Fifi-
I could no agree more

Secretswitch · 22/07/2013 18:50

Hi International, just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you. I hope you are getting on alright. Please take care of yourself.

RaRaZ · 23/07/2013 13:18

With regard to consent - no venom here and I have read the We Believe You page - how is a man with whom a woman is not in a relationship and with whom he has little or no emotional connection supposed to no that she has withdrawn her consent to sexual activity if she makes no attempt through either speech or body language to let him know? Cases where she is too scare to are clearly different, but if there is no such issue and the woman does not tell the man...how is he supposed to know???

fifi669 · 23/07/2013 13:48

I quite agree raraz, the OP herself has said she wasn't raped, some people seem to be trying to convince her she has when at no point were there any indications she didn't consent. Feeling used after the event is unfortunate but quite likely considering their arrangement.

chipmonkey · 23/07/2013 13:56

It sounds excessively rough though.

internationallove985 · 24/07/2013 17:34

Hi Secretswitch. I'm fine now, thanks and thank you for asking it's very kind of you. xx

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tabycat · 24/07/2013 18:11

this thread is ridiculous and an insult to women who have been raped!

internationallove985 · 24/07/2013 18:30

Where did I say I was raped Tabby cat. I was left feeling used after a sexual encounter nowhere did I use the words I was raped. x

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KeepTheFaithBaby · 24/07/2013 18:34

To be fair, that's true. I may not agree with international's approach to TTC but she never said she was raped. In fact when asked, she gave more detail and said she didn't feel she was raped.

chipmonkey · 24/07/2013 18:38

international, I'm glad you're feeling better and you never did say you were raped. I still don't think that what he did was right though.

tabycat · 24/07/2013 19:01

I never said that you did...to clarify I said this thread is ridiculous and an insult to women who have been raped!

Secretswitch · 24/07/2013 19:19

Hi International, glad you are getting on. This is your thread and you have every right to post what you wish. Apparently thos at MNHQ agree that this thread is valid as they have commented on those poster's making vile comments to you. I wish you then best of luck.

internationallove985 · 24/07/2013 19:28

Thankyou Secretswitch.

I would also like to thank the poster who brought those somewhat unsavory posts to MNHQ's attention. x

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 24/07/2013 19:54

Oh FFS

internationallove985 · 24/07/2013 19:55

Your meaning and point by that comment. Makeitupasyougoalong. xx

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 24/07/2013 20:03

It's bloody boakworthy the attention seeking.
But you carry on your shenanigans I'm sure you will keep us informed I just really don't want to see the time come when you really need help, support and guidance

GherkinsAreAce · 24/07/2013 20:07

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internationallove985 · 24/07/2013 20:10

How rude are you makeitupayougoalong but like I say I wont rise to it.
Also I don't ask you to read and comment on my thread do I. xx

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 24/07/2013 20:14

No but seriously you need help abd support in RL for this because you seem to want to keep this all going until you get a 100% response that what your doing is right. Your not going to get that.
I don't actually mean to be rude, I'm being honest. I'm not a nasty person but I just need to be honest.
This is a child we are talking about and a man who has been somewhat violent to you.

Answer me this honestly: You've spoken to him again haven't you?

internationallove985 · 24/07/2013 20:19

I'm not looking for approval I know most people would say my situation is not ideal. Also I didn't say he was violent to me either.

I've not spoken to him aside from last Fri but we've text each other. He's away for another 2 weeks.

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Writerwannabe83 · 24/07/2013 20:22

Who has he gone away with??

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