Hi everyone
It's Mother's Day here too and I am celebrating by spending the day at home on my own refusing to join MrC on an outing to the in-laws 
and cleaning and getting some work done instead. Very thought provoking chat on here this morning. You are all such wise ladies. This thread is such a lifeline for me.
mrsd I am so pleased that you're feeling a little better now, after your awful week. You are resilient and you are going to get there. It's a long hard road but next time the doctors will not bugger up your cycle before you've even got to ET 
and the numbers game will be in your favour.
mad Oh no. I can't bear it, I am so sorry. I really hope you get good news tomorrow but I can totally understand wanting to protect yourself. If this is negative, can you do another round without all the downregging crap you had to go through before? Try not to worry about ovary twangs, I think that's normal given how much ours have been stuffed with eggs and drugs - I can imagine how upset and scared you must be now. I hope you get a surprise tomorrow but if not, we are here for drinking wine and helping you recover from this horrible shock.
sea It sounds like you've done some good research on the TB and have come up with a plan, which is always a good step towards feeling better, for me at least. I put off IVF for six months and although it was hard waiting, it felt better to be ready - when you do get there, you'll be raring to go and your body will be in good shape for the drugs. Oh it is hard though, I know - the constant waiting. It's just exhausting.
nelly you are one special lady. I know what you mean about wanting the whole package of a family, not just a biological link - and also about obsessing about the journey, which I definitely do - although I think it's hard not to. I also think your advice about making sure there is non-baby-related stuff on your iphone is fantastic. I am guilty as charged there. I'm starting a distance-learning poetry course this summer and I really hope it will take my mind off TTC stuff. It's so much healthier to have other things that make you happy to focus on. Incidentally I think your child is going to be very lucky indeed to have you and MrN as parents. What a wonderful environment to grow up in.
pout Oh no, I am sorry about the worry of your cycles being messed up after IVF. Did they tell you a date for FET - when Colin would go back into his/her ancestral home? Is it related to when your cycles realign? Like you, I don't like most other people's children (apart from a few really special ones). 
But I am told it is different with your own.
zippy I know exactly what you mean about the monitoring and the horrible feeling of ttcing without knowing what's going on. I think the hardest time for me was before I really got on the assisted conception train - when I was using clomid without monitoring and not ovulating and not knowing what the hell was happening. For me, that has been a good thing about IVF (although I hope you won't get to this stage). Putting the responsibility in someone else's hands, and having more information about my body. I do so hope that the clomid works for you and you can stop taking the stuff and get off the bus soon.
buzzy hope you're taking it easy at home and putting your feet up. You are just an inspiration and I think it's amazing how you've managed all this. Whatever happens, you're going to be a mum, and a fantastic one at that. My hand is here to hold during these next 10 days - I hope they go quickly and that you aren't too anxious during the wait.
joy I am sorry about the fears on the Ashermans syndrome. You just sound exhausted and I can totally see why. I wonder whether your next round, if you do go ahead, could be somewhere cheaper with less heavy monitoring than ARGC? You did manage to implant those two little embies and the karotyping showed an issue that wasn't to do with your egg quality - just a horrible natural fluke. I know you must be despairing right now, but I honestly think your baby is still going to come to you. I really do. I wish this was easier, it's so unfair. Incidentally MrC doesn't say anything during doctor's meetings either, to the extent that doctors have commented on it. He's quiet at the best of times but I just think AC is hard for men, they don't know how to deal with it, it's scary and guilt-inducing. I totally understand the irritation though as I felt the same way!
gin I loved that you said MrG was happier. That is SO incredibly lovely to hear. I bet it is a heavy burden for men to carry on their own, without our support networks.
sar salty crisps on the sofa sound like a winner. I understand about the investing of energy into threads and that you may not want to join an antenatal one. You've had such a rough ride to this pregnancy and I can imagine that you would be pretty traumatised still after what you have been through.
euro I am sorry about the sore stitches and the uncomfortable day out. How stressful about the ovulation worry too... I hope you're ok. Your next cycle must be really close and I bet you're keen to try again. Oh I'm sorry honey, it sounds like you're having a hard time at the moment. This is just a crappy process and every hurdle seems to throw up a new obstacle or worry.
All ok here, just having a quiet day at home. Still too scared to test. I might try on Tuesday which would be 13dpo. I'm just too freaked out by the idea of a negative. Full disclosure - I actually did an internet cheapie and then changed my mind and threw it away without looking at it . I am reassuring myself that even if this doesn't work, I can try again next month or the month after with an FET.