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TRC 10+ months. Part 15...

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MuddyWellyNelly · 05/05/2013 15:55

New thread for the lovely 10+ers. 14 was awesome so another like that please!

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CritterPants · 20/06/2013 15:39

euro that's annoying as it's a mental rollercoaster that I'm sure you could do without. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I will be willing the little follies on and hoping for a great result on Sunday. It's bloody stressful and all-consuming, this stage.

buzzy so glad that everything still seems to be ok and you got to hear the 'galloping horses'. This has been such a rough ride for you.

rabbit I thought of you last night at the meditation talk, which was cool. I love that purl bee blog that you linked to on Pinterest - it is a mine of awesome craft projects!

madness so sorry about the long AF but glad that you are starting to feel a bit better. I hope you have a lovely summer - Scotland in the sunshine is as close to heaven as it gets. All those delicious lovely Scottish raspberries and bright, windy beaches!

sea your story about seeing the little girl made me well up. I am so sorry that you had that moment. It's so bloody hard and you must be exhausted and just despairing at one thing after another. I guess the only thing I can say is that you are moving forward towards your goal. You are taking steps to deal with the TB crap and moving closer every day towards your IVF. I truly believe you will have your own little person soon. I'm just sorry you're having to wait so damn long.

Everything is good here. I had my first midwife appointment yesterday, which was cool. I heard the heartbeat and saw the little creature, and the midwife was great - very Californian and a bit of a drill sergeant but clearly very experienced. My dignity was shredded when she did a manual exam of my hoo ha and pronounced it 'roomy... you'll be fine' Blush Grin. Ultimate humiliation.

eurozammo · 20/06/2013 15:52

Heh! critteroftheroomyhoo-ha should be your new name. :)

CritterPants · 20/06/2013 15:57

Is that a challenge?! Wink

seaviewasia · 20/06/2013 19:13

Euro ? I can see why it?s frustrating but that good news is that you have ones that are good to use. I think it?s okay to take the drugs even if the outcome wasn?t exactly as expected you weren't to know, as mad said, sometimes you body just does it own thing.

Buzzy ? Glad you are feeling better

Critter ? So lovely to hear you had a good scan and heard the heartbeat. Must be so exciting. I am so happy for you. Grin at what the midwife said to you? how insensitive. I am sure she meant it in a good way! You should change your name? hahahahaha

Rabbit ? I haven?t official forgo my NHS go yet. The funny thing is they outsource IVF anyway and the place would have been my second choice after ARGC. I am half tempted to take up the NHS go but I am worried about all the immune stuff which when I have gently mentioned before they have just looked at me like I?m stupid. MrS insists it?s better to stick with ARGC and tells me to stop worrying about the money. I can?t help myself. I am sure NHS will come through and let you re-direct it to private clinic. It?s often better for them to do that I think. So glad you are being taken care of by Dr Nice.

Mad ? Hope you are doing okay and glad you are feeling better.

AFM ? Another A+ announcement today. I am genuinely happy for her ? an old and very dear friend (who hasn?t been trying long). I felt bad as she apologetic about telling me. I spent most of the time telling her not to feel bad and I know it?s not a zero sum game. It?s not her fault I can?t get pregnant etc. [bittersweet smiley face]

buzzybee123 · 20/06/2013 20:30

critter I dare you Wink

sea sorry about the announcement, they don't get any easier

roomyenoughforacritter · 20/06/2013 20:42

sea I am so sorry about the A+ announcement. They are so hard, and it's almost worse that you had to reassure her. It's like being stabbed in the heart. It's easier to get the news via text or email so you can have a cry on your own if you need to.

waves to buzz

Anyone feel a bit draughty in here? No? Must be just me...

rabbitonthemoon · 20/06/2013 20:47

buzzy glad things are going OK. Shame on your dr for fleecing you for omeprozole.

euro I am hoping you get a nice surprise at ec. I do think it is a very good thing that there were so many follies - this has to be a good sign for you that your eggs are plentiful. Things can suddenly change with follies can't they at the last minute?

critter purl bee rocks! I love their things. and secretly have baby things lined up for The Future. What a cheek to say that! But comforting to know for baby pushing?!

sea you are a lovely person to take an A plus with such good grace. My last one I didn't take with good grace at all. In fact it royally pissed me off! My private clinic allows you to 'add on' to your nhs funding for immune tests and other fancy things so maybe worth an investigate at some point? We talked at length about immunes. He said that 5-10 per cent of people who pay for the immune testing find significant issues. He said it was up to us if we wanted to fork out for them before trying a round or two and seen as we will hopefully be getting that funded, I will wait and see what happens. I'd pay after that though for one last lets throw everything at it go. But here I am presuming I have eggs/embryos etc etc. So complicated. If only you could just buy a baby! I'd take a mortgage for one!

madness that sounds like a hellish period. I didn't realise your hot flushes got so full on. Are they horrible?

I am going to moan now. I am sick of feeling guilty about alcohol. Tonight we went out for a bite to eat at the pub after work on a whim. I could have just sank a nice cocktail followed by a glass of wine. Three years ago I would have and wouldn't have blinked or felt bad. Today, concerned I've been letting my drinking slip, I had a soda water Sad. By letting things slip, so far I have had a small glass of wine on Monday, a third of a pint of beer on Tuesday and another small glass of wine yesterday because it was sunny and lovely in my garden and it felt nice. I also had a glass of wine on Saturday. Now I realise this is not ideal IVF drinking patterns. But it is not exactly excessive! After ages of having just one or two drinks a week I feel like a proper lush and that I have ruined the next few months worth of eggs. Pah! When we go out with friends now I feel shocked at what they manage to drink. I also now have the tolerance of a gnat. whereismywine

rabbitonthemoon · 20/06/2013 20:48

ha ha critter I'm sure there is a draught excluder on purl bee..

roomyenoughforacritter · 20/06/2013 21:28

rabbit I don't know if they have designed knitting patterns for the kind of draught excluder required Wink

Please don't worry about wine! I drank while I was downregging and stimming, and had a glass of wine after EC and a prosecco to celebrate my bfp. I think doll did too. IVF is crap enough without being denied a glass of chilled white! You will want to get the lovely summer drinking in now as hopefully you'll be being all abstemious for nine months soon. Smile

buzzybee123 · 20/06/2013 21:52

critter thats not quite rightWink

rabbit as long as you are not a raving boozer, have a drink, in fact have one for me, you are allowed to have a life and a drink, it really won't make that much difference, I only stopped drinking after EC, granted they weren't my eggs but you are hardly pickling your own, you still have to enjoy life through all the TTC crap so don't beat yourself up about it :)

I have got all my other drugs off the ladies online :) i'm hoping this is just a calm patch and not the beginning of something sinister, the 3rd July seems forever away Hmm

eurozammo · 20/06/2013 21:55

Love it critter.

rabbit I agree with the others. I am down to one or two glasses as week, but still having the odd one. In fact, I might have a cheeky friday night one on the way home from work tomorrow.

ThatWayMadnessLies · 20/06/2013 22:39

rabbit i feel guilty too but agree with the others. If we gave up everything for the years this has taken we would all have lost our minds by now. A little bit of alcohol won't do any harm. The hot flushes were miserable last time and had me breaking out in a sweat about once an hour, even waking me up at night. I was on the decapeptyl for 4 months then though and only 2 months this time so i will get through it. Helps to know what to expect i reckon.

sea I'm glad your emergency was a false alarm. I had to call Nhs 24 for a similar episode post surgery a few years ago. Also probably caused by antibiotics. They sent an ambulance Blush. Was scary at the time.
Long the new name

ThatWayMadnessLies · 20/06/2013 22:45

Phone posted too soon.... was trying to say i love the new name critter and so happy with your good scan.

euro I'll join you in that cheek friday wine i think.

buzz I'm sure the drugs are responsible for you feeling better, not anything untoward not that my confidence will reassure you July 3rd will feel like forever now but it is very soon. I am counting down to it myself as I'll be on hols :-)

Waves to everyone else.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 21/06/2013 08:00

Morning lovely ladies!

Massive congrats to princess for maxi-baybee-princess' birth! That sounds so wonderful and foreign

Hurrah for being in the land of normals, sar and who-else? I hope the scares will cease soon, buzz.

Quick question, I cannot have a hot-flush the day after my first DR-injection, right? I am very hot and bothered, but then it's been sticky all week, so...

Sorry about the mental week euro. IOTO remember, and next time "just say no". I do think they started you a bit late on the drucks, and with a strong own-O this was a risk (talking from too many IUI-experiences here).

Hurrah for DrNice rabbit. I am with you on the Not Wanting To Be Doing This, but I felt like that about SO IUI, until I got diffed with it. The outcome makes a huge difference!

Sorry about the scare and the moment sea. I hope you get lots of your own small people with fringes at the end of your rattling with meds episode.

Sorry you've been anxious pout. I am tempted to try some meditation to cope with the next six weeks or so.

Waves and handholds to all those waiting and hoping.

sarlat · 21/06/2013 08:34

Morning,

Absolutley do not give up a little tipple of wine if that is what is fancied. The long term misery of ttc needs to be balanced with some fun. Small volumes of alcohol will make no difference.especially where the rest of the diet is healthy and water is drunk by the gallon. I can recommend maxing out on omega oils. These are brill for egg development. In fact I think eggs like a drop of rioja Grin too. I had 3 very heavy sessions in the first month of pregnancy. Unknowingly of course but the baby seems happy enough and growing at the rate of knots.

Critter - roomy hoohaa??? [Confused] GrinMy goodness me, never heard of that test!!!!Although very reassuring info when it comes to the big push. I fear I have the opposite problem according to my lap. Not sure if that means anything but will ask the midwife. Congratulations on your scan. So glad all is well. Hope the nausea isn't too nasty.

Buzz- so glad all is well. I really really want you to have a boring and uneventful pregnancy as that is what you deserve. Take each day as it comes, plenty of distractions if you can.

Euro, I am sorry you have been stimming unnecessarily but glad excess embryos are looking unlikely. We wil all be rooting for you on sunday. Just remember that you can get pregnant, your womb is receptive, this is just a numbers game and a matter of time.

Gin - how are you feeling? Has the nausea finally disappeared? I have bump envy, I bet you look amazing. My sonograoher studied my abdomen and predicted I would be a late bulger. I guess height and hip shape in my case (ridiculously wide) might have something to do with it.

Madd-I am so sorry for those night sweats, they must be dreadful. And to top it off you had a horrid post ivf af.I hope you have lots of fun things lined up this summer. How is mr mad? Bet he is sad to see you go through all this rubbishy pain and night sweats.

Rabbit - so sorry for the anxiety. I really don't think there is a way to completely deal with it when it comes to long term ttc. I think half accepting that it goes with the territory is a bit of a relief but I dont think it can be totally eliminated, I know I never did. I have said it once and I will say it again. Long term ttc is massive. It is up there with life's biggest traumas and the stress levels and daily impact are immense. I would love to see some people we all know deal with this crap day in day out whilst holding down responsible jobs, being good partners, daughters, sisters, being a pleasant person and trying to do normal stuff. Most people couldnt/wouldn't.

Rabbit - I am really glad that you had a positive experience with the new clinic. You deserve to be treated with kindness and be made to feel like the fertile person you are who is in with a great shot.

Sea - sorry about the a+ announcement. They are really stingy and stabby. I do feel for you. Sounds like this girl was genuinely concerned for your feelings which although can make it feel worse shows she must be a nice person who is attempting to empathise. Big hugs honey. Don't know much about immunes but I do know listening to the inner voice is really important and wont lead you far wrong.

Well I am off work and the gp has diagnosed me with a throaty viral infection plus good old reflux, feel yacky. I cant remember the lasr time I felr well/normal. Glowy second trimester where are you? ???

sarlat · 21/06/2013 08:43

Cross posts lemon- yes I reckon down regging could make you feel a little odd this soon. Your body is processing lots of new things, keep an eye on it, but how exciting to be on the next step of the cycle.

Also artemis - I wanted to thank you for your really lovely post the other day, I loved the way you took time to offer reassurances to everyone regardless of their presentation. Iam sorry you had the baby scare. I can imagine that this is very unsettling. Would less movement and growth suggest baby is nearly ready to pop out? Make sure you go easy these next few weeks. You and baby are number 1 priority.

I wonder how princess is getting on.....new baby, brand new house, I bet she feels she is dreaming. Looking forward to the next update princess when you are goodand ready, xx

MuddyWellyNelly · 21/06/2013 16:10

Just putting you back on active convos. I'm reading but have literally run out of things to say. MrN is away and he phones and I have nothing to add to the conversation. You may guess I'm very much in da funk. I had an announcement the other day which might be an A but now I've realised there is only one categorisation ie everyone who isn't me. I'm a jealous bitter barren.

Oh that was a happy paragraph....! Anyway just wanted to say how pleased I am about the progressing pregnancies and windy foofs. And Euro I'm sorry about all the confusion over follies. Fingers crossed for the golden egg.

AF finally arrived yesterday after the CP second useless ivf. We have yet to book our follow up. Weirdly all the strength and resolve I had immediately afterwards has disappeared. I don't know what to do next.

And I have been drinking plenty of wine, without guilt! Not today though, not yet anyway.

The weather has been lovely. Everything else is a bit shit. .

Oh but where is Joy??

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Cosmos1 · 21/06/2013 20:29

Nelly I am with you today, I am utterly sick to the back teeth of this shit and am just so tired of it all. It was after work drinks today and I left early as I literally have nothing to say and forcing smiles hurts my face.

Great!

Princess great news, well done you. New house, new baby!

Critter your post made me smile, am impressed with your flexibility. Great scan news.

Euro yes that is a head fuck, good luck with EC let us know how it goes.

Rabbit about time you found a Dr Nice.

Sorry not to name check further, my wines losing its chill, waves to everyone else.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 21/06/2013 20:57

:( nelly and cosmos. I so recognise the feeling. I had it a lot in the months post-mc. It will get better, I promise.

Thanks for your support, sar. Although I have to say, I find very little exciting in the IVF-path. It is just another couple of hoops and weird things to go through. Not so much to get me pregnant but to have tried everything...

mrsden · 21/06/2013 21:01

Nelly and cosmos I'm joining you in the shit room, just back from a BBQ where I had nothing to say. Forced smiles while children, babies were focus of attention. Stuck sat with pregnant friend moaning most of the night about how she hated being pregnant, can't wait for it to be over,this is her second. First is only 16 months. Dh and I left before everyone else, feel so shitty about all this.

eurozammo · 21/06/2013 22:09

Sorry for all those of you in the tent. I'm with you, although to be honest I'm more grumpy than down.

I've had a fucker of a day and decided that wine is the answer to everything. The day started with the scales telling me that I have put on another 2 pounds, to put me at my heaviest ever. Then I got to work to be moaned at unjustifiably by some passive aggressive irritating fucker. Then this afternoon, I came out of a meeting to find several frantic voicemails from our clinic who couldn't find out HIV/Hep screening results, which are needed before EC on Sunday. I'm positive that I gave them to them (had the tests back in Jan) so I'm quite irritated that they left it to late afternoon today to discover they had lost them. I then had a huge panic while I waited for Mr euro to get home to see whether we had a copy. Otherwise we would have to have tried to get the GP to give us a copy tomorrow, or not go ahead with the cycle. Luckily, we had kept a copy so we are still on for Sunday. I would have gone absolutely batshit mental if it turned out I had been injecting myself for days for nothing. Not exactly the ideal calm run up to EC...

I'm slightly better now I have had wine and a nice dinner. Trigger in 20 mins...

buzzybee123 · 22/06/2013 09:33

euro surely the clinic could have worked out that you have had the tests as this is not your first round of IVF with them Hmm I always find things go tits up on a Friday

Sorry about all those in the tent, I fancy a bit of carrot cake so am willing to share

The only reason I am up is because Kayla doesn't believe I should stay in bed if she is up Hmm she will constantly walk all over me making a complete racket until I think feck it and get up, Barry is already up and has fed her Hmm she has now calmed down and is looking all innocent . .

buzzybee123 · 22/06/2013 09:35

ooops I came on here to say good luck with EC on Sunday euro clearly I am not quite awake Blush

MuddyWellyNelly · 22/06/2013 09:43

Buzzy, Kayla is just training you for a few months time Wink.

I'm a bit less suicidal today. Maybe it was just the AF hormone drop. I'm so sorry we are tent dwellers en-masse. Lemon I hear you on the "just doing ivf so I can tick the box". I think that helps me actually. I will do a 3rd go just to say I did it. Then DE here we come.

Euro sounds like the wine was well deserved!

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Poutintrout · 22/06/2013 09:48

Sorry to hear about so many of you in the tent. I think there must be something in the air. I had a massive wobble last night too bought on by a combination of spotting starting (for some inexplicable reason, prob hoping for that ironic pre FET BFP, I was hopeful this cycle for the first time in ages because I haven't had many PMT/AF symptoms which was a new little shitty twist) and seeing a picture of Lee Macks cute baby on Would I lie to You Confused I tried to speak to MrP to make myself feel better. Big fecking mistake. His response to me wailing about how it will never happen for us was "well we know that, so what can you do......." What a dickhead Angry

euro Huge good luck for tomorrow. I will be thinking of you. I love your new name and used to love Grange Hill! Can't believe that you had a flap about your test results like that. How ridiculous of them.

critter Great news on the scan. If it's any consolation you will be glad of roomy when your time to push comes!

buzz I can sympathise with being woken up by Kayla. Little Dog does this too and will lay by the bed sighing loudly and enthusiastically licking his bottom like a washing machine on the spin cycle. He then is so worn out that he pants frantically. He also is the king of walking loudly on the hard floors and keep sitting up and down in such a way as to clatter his tag on the floor until you just give in and get up!

Got to dash. We have an appointment at the opticians and MrP decided to do a poo for the last 40 mins and now I'm not showered. Gah!
Love and waves.