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TRC 10+ months. Part 15...

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MuddyWellyNelly · 05/05/2013 15:55

New thread for the lovely 10+ers. 14 was awesome so another like that please!

OP posts:
ThatWayMadnessLies · 09/06/2013 13:20

Sun addled....

CritterPants · 09/06/2013 13:41

Hi everyone,

Quick phone post. What a lot of lovely chat on the board this weekend. Love nellie's tale of shower antics. Brilliant! And the London suggestions are making me homesick in a good way, it's such a great city in the summer especially.

Am in West Virginia all week on holiday with sister critter. Really really nice - and very funny, there were some actually hilarious conversations overheard last night from the lovely but very redneck construction workers chatting outside our motel room with one character telling his friend to 'lay off the crystal meth'.

Huge love to all of you feeling blue. The garden power washing and running and cycling sound amazing, so nice to be outdoors and get some sunshine. Have to go as sister is ravenous so we are going to try to find somewhere we can have a big breakfast and I can indulge my weird new love of bland carbs, dunno if mashed potato will be on the menu

EuroShaggleton · 09/06/2013 18:04

mrsd we jet washed the windows too... (the outsides anyway).

gin how's the allotment? A friend of mine bought a house last year with a large garden and posts pics on FB of the veg beds she has cut out. I'm jealous-we have a postage stamp of a patio garden. Nice enough for the odd BBQ but you can't really grow much in the tiny beds.

I love the Cutty Sark pub And we briefly considered the Traf for our wedding reception (until I remembered I had a first date there with an ex, who was coming to the wedding as we are still good friends...). I love Greenwich.

It must feel v odd to be telling people about your pregnancy. But amazing! :)

critter I would have thought a US diner would be the perfect place to satisfy a carb craving! I hope you found something suitably bland.

rabbitonthemoon · 09/06/2013 21:16

Change of plans and I'm not around to post properly tonight. Bad plusser. But sending positive thoughts to each and everyone of us. It's a bloody long journey but we are strong to have kept going and WILL reach our destinations!

sweetgrouch · 10/06/2013 15:36

Once again I have been failing to keep up.

MrsD - I just read your posts. I was Shock about the jewelry having been given to others. I would have been so hurt. As to playing second fiddle, I completely understand that feeling - we play it with the in-laws. The only good is that on my side there is less focus on child-bearing/rearing so we get a break.

Nelly - the sex in the shower story resulting in some minor property damage made me smile. I am with everyone else and am curious as to what the property damage was.

Gin - 13 weeks along is awesome! The allotment (after I looked up what it was) sounds great! How big is it? What do you plan to plant?

Sar - I'm so happy that your nausea is easing!

Rabbit - Your last words were very kind. I do hope we all reach our final destinations. I know everyone on here most certainly deserves to.

Madness - The summer holiday sounds like it will be wonderful and made me a bit Envy I wish I could take off for a bit this year.

Critter - I second Euro that I would have thought going out to a diner in the States could be a great way to carb-load. Your time with your sister sounds lovely.

Waves to everyone I've missed! Big hugs to anyone who is sad or in the tent.

AFM I have some giant deadlines looming and am going to a conference next week where I have to present. So overall I am being very dull and work centered.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 10/06/2013 20:40

Quick pop in, very busy with work, lots of exercise and pill induced maybe thrush :( Luffs to you all. Might become a better 10+er, or just be me. We ordered lots of good wine for when this fails.

EuroShaggleton · 10/06/2013 20:44

drizz I've only ever had thrush on the Pill. We seem very similar in our reaction to it! I hope you can head it off early.

rabbitonthemoon · 10/06/2013 20:50

I think I ate something a little dodgy at it BBQ this weekend. Today has involved a lot of running to the toilet. Thought I'd start with an overshare.
I am still waiting for my private apt. It has been three weeks since first contact and just over a week since I filled in their requested essay of our history. I this normal?! I'm trying to give them money! Should I look elsewhere? I just want someone to help me get pregnant Sad den?!

But apart from a dodgy belly and being ignored I am alright if not slightly still reeling from the a plus. I have done mega gardening. Congratulations gin on the allotment! I think that Dave is in for a digging treat! Have you inherited an overgrown or is it in good nick? I am an avid veg grower and have lots of raised beds so let's talk vegetables! I'm also into cut flower growing at the moment. It's all a lot more fun in the sunshine though.

There has been lots of lovely sunshine talk on here and shower damage which I have enjoyed. Critter your time with your sister sounded lovely and madness I liked your sun addled post. Euro please come and jet wash my drive! Have you started your new cycle now? And pout, is it fet time, I think I might have missed this.

Grads how are things, do delurk and let us know how you are. Buzzy are you ok?

Where is joycep? That is one long holiday!

Big wave to sweet, doll, sarlat, sea (where is you?) and all other plussers. The thread is so quiet at the moment and I miss people. I think I will shortly also need an ivf place to hang out too. I'm so very scared about it. I really do wonder if I will be able to do it.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 10/06/2013 20:52

We are secret hormonal clones - it is not bad yet, I just realised it was itchy. So it should clear up okay. But I really am through with all this fannying about. GRRR. This might well be my only go on the LP, but with my quick and sneaky natural follies, I've decided to stick it out as long as I can... Graps free hands, necks some alcohol, cos I haven't succumbed to any headaches yet.

rabbitonthemoon · 10/06/2013 20:52

Yay, cross posts! Lemon soz to hear about thrush. I only get that on the pill. The pill makes me a thrush/cystitis/weepy/ibs/depressed/spotty cow bag. Boo to the pill. By rights it has no place here. You may not get to drink that wine for a long time but good to have treats in the pipeline.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 10/06/2013 20:54

Yay for gardening chat btw. We have no garden but I try with pots on the balcony and my tomatoes are looking very good. Welcome back rabbit. If I can manage IVF anyone can. Ready to hand hold when the time comes.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 10/06/2013 20:55

Yay for cross-posted yays! I have the spots too, I feel like a bloody teenager. But not IBS just SB farting for England thankfully.

rabbitonthemoon · 10/06/2013 20:57

Lemon is it wrong that I am more scared of it making my ibs unbearable than it not working?! The pill makes it out of control and I need a lot of meds. No pill equals much better. Stress makes it bad. So I'm thinking hormones + stress = poo disaster. That said, after ov I am always calm in the tummy department. Maybe progesterone will help So I fret about that ahead of any thoughts that this whole shitty process might actually get me a child. What's one of those?

buzzybee123 · 10/06/2013 21:00

rabbit I would contact them and ask how long the waiting list is, it can't hurt to look at other places.

We had an allotment but it did become too much in the end, I'm growing lots on my balcony and a few tomoatoes indoors in the windows, my pukutakawa is looking the best it has for years :)

ThatWayMadnessLies · 10/06/2013 22:24

Evening. MrM away fr. The week so I am watching Gypsy Weddings by myself while eating yesterday's homemade oatmeal and raisin biscuits Grin.

So I thought Af had started this morning. I called the clinic and am going in for scan and shot on Wednesday. Then the bleeding stopped. Bugger. Assuming it will start again overnight or tomorrow but tis driving me slightly batty. I just want to know when things are happening. I'm going to ignore it for now. Sometimes I think I can stop it from coming just by wanting it too......

We have cabbages, pak choi, onions, chives, mint, thyme, coriander, lettuce coming out our ears, potatoes, strawberries, raspberries, blueberries and gooseberries all in our very small garden. Several other things have failed to grow blooming frost and we have given up on tomatoes all together. If we got an allotment we could have a greenhouse and then I could have lovely fresh tomato sandwiches. Used to go and pick our own with my gran and then eat them with butter, salt and pepper on crusty white bread [drooling emoticon]......

Sorry for the thrush lemon. I got it on the downregging drugs and it was miserable. rabbit the progesterone did wonders for me. No spotting or symptoms whatsoever until I came off it. I would really like them to tell me what my progesterone levels are normally like because I have been spotting for weeks this cycle...... Maybe I can talk them into a blood test as well as a scan on Wednesday.

sweet sorry for the hard work. Is there no chance of a cheeky escape this summer?

Big waves to the rest of you!

rabbitonthemoon · 11/06/2013 07:17

Madness sorry about the stop start bleeding, I get that it is so annoying and bizarre. I'm hoping things get back on track for you today. Interesting that prog makes you feel better. Post ov I feel calmer and ibs free (til about two days pre af) and often think I make way too much estrogen which might explain spotting , breast lumps, loads of ewcm etc. Who knows. Love your veg list I never thought to grow pak choi. I have; sprouts, leeks, cavolo nero, spinach, loads of salad stuff, peas, potatoes, chard and strawberries. My courgettes are having a bad year. The ten plus vegetable thread - would that catch on Grin

GinSoaked · 11/06/2013 09:11

Wow, I'm super impressed at all the veg growing! Our garden is tiny and mostly paved, but we do have a raised bed. We've got broad beans, salads, garlic, herbs, spinach (for our fur beast, I don't like the type I grow!) and strawberries. I too have struggled with tomatoes in the recent years and so have given up this year. We went to try to see the allotment last night, but there was no one about to let us in! I think this year will be mostly Dave clearing it and we'll try some lettuces and French beans, plus put some winter veg in. We want to move next summer, so will have to put in stuff that's ready earlier on.

rabbit what are you growing for cut flowers? I really like the idea of this, but aren't sure what to plant. Was thinking of putting in a load of spring bulbs.

Apologies to anyone who doesn't like gardening - this must be the most boring post ever for you!

mad sorry about the af head fuckery. It sounds to me like it's starting. I def had more spotting the first few post ivf cycles, but it did sort itself out eventually. I hated the not being able to plan stuff aspect, as I'm a real planner and the ivf had such an impact on work and social life.

rabbit I don't remember any particular bowel issues until EC and then it was the post sedation constipation, followed by diarrhoea (sorry to anyone eating!). Don't use the progesterone bullets up the back door if you get ibs. As I'm now weaning myself off them, my stomach has been a lot more normal. I still can't believe all the waiting you are doing re appointments. Bloody clinics.

lemons boo to the thrush. I find shit loads of live yoghurt helps, esp as I don't think you are meant to take the amazing thrush killer tablets when ttc.

grouch sorry to hear work is so busy. I hope you're not feeling too tired. It's all I can do to get through a normal working day at the mo!

euro we briefly thought about the Traf for our reception too, as well as the NMM! I've been to a few dos in the Traf function rooms, which were lovely, but like you have too many other, er, memories of drunken nights in the pub for it to have been the right place.

critter your meths convo made me laugh and think of breaking bad! Hope you are doing ok.

mrsd all our friends now know about the ivf, but not work colleagues. I wanted to try to de-stigmatise it, by being as open as I can about it all and it also explains why there will never be a baby no 2. Everyone had been really pleased and some have cried, making me cry! Even those that don't know our situation.

buzz hope you are doing ok and hanging in there.

Waves to everyone else.

My latest mental is that I have a wisdom tooth infection. The dentist won't give me any antibiotics cos I'm pregnant, so is monitoring it. I'm shit scared, as I know there's a link between MC and dental infections. I'm sure the dentist knows what she's doing, but I can't bear to think of anything putting the baby at risk. Anyway, I'm trying not to be too mental about it...

Poutintrout · 11/06/2013 11:33

gin MrP would love an allotment but I keep vetoing it! He can't even be arsed to mow our lawn so God knows what he would do with one. I am envious of all the gardening talk on here. I would love to be green fingered and have loads of fresh herbs and flowers to cut and bring indoors but I have a pathological fear of wasps and hayfever so the outdoors is a bit of an ordeal! For the green fingered amongst you can I pick your brains about some cheap and hardy read plants that can be neglected and not die bedding plants to put in our beds? They are overgrown with weeds and I intend to supervise MrP pull them out and replant something pretty.

Sorry about your worries over your wisdom tooth. Dentists really are on the ball these days so I'm sure they are giving you good advice. MrP has a recurrent problem with wisdom teeth infection and swears by gargling with salt water daily when it flares up.

sar so glad that your sickness is abating a bit. Hopefully you are over the worst and can start to glow!

mad Oh goodness at yet more AF fuckery. How is it today?

rabbits I am a bit surprised that a private clinic would make you wait so long. There really is no hope when even throwing money at this whole thing doesn't move it along quicker!
It's strange how you feel better after ov. I find I am more anxious and uptight.

lemons sorry about the thrush. That is miserable. Fortunately I've only ever had it once in my life and it was so yucky. I think I used the pessaries.

buzz how are you doing?

Nothing interesting to report at my end. Still none the bloody wiser as to whether ovulation has occurred. I thought that it had but am back to more EWCM. Am pondering whether I can be arsed with more SWI. Gah!

rabbitonthemoon · 11/06/2013 11:52

Oh gin as if you need another thing to be stressy. Did the dentist say this or has google been terrifying (google said I would NEVER conceive with fsh 10 the other day, nasty bastard). Could you speak with a midwife for advice? Wisdom teeth are evil. I won't take antibiotics (unless the devils disease gets a grip)and managed to stave off my last one by my acu advice of gargling with a garlic rinse which was pleasant for everyone. I usually do bulbs so loads of tulips, alliums, daffs, iris etc but this year I've got interested in more wild flowers. Take a look at the higgedly seed website. He has a June planting set which you could put into some of your allotment space? Grow flowers with me SmileThanks

Pout I'm calmer in the bowel department. But generally never fully calm since November 2010! In my pots I have some petunias and lobelia which are cheap (aldi if you catch them before the staff have thirsted them to death) and do make lots of flowers. I've also pushed some chives in and they are looking quite pretty. Maybe you have hatched two eggs? This could be your post ivf diff month so get thee some shagging. In spite of evil google of doom I am trying to keep hold that I COULD get pregnant. My tubes are open, there are wobbly eggs and sperm. It may be bargain basement in terms of quality but it COULD work. As it could for any of us. Lets force each other to believe. I also was pleased to hear there would be a survivors club! But I'm not signing up for that til I'm 40!

rabbitonthemoon · 11/06/2013 11:53

Oo you said beds not pots. Buy flowers seeds with me!

seaviewasia · 11/06/2013 11:57

Hi ten plussers. I am sorry for the long silence. I have been working way too much to avoid thinking about TTC. [denial of one's barrenness]
Will try to catch up and write properly soon.
Waves to everyone and happy to read diffed ladies are okay.

rabbitonthemoon · 11/06/2013 12:07

Hello sea, I missed you. But in my forcing of positivity today we are not barren but reproductive sloggers Smile hope all is good with you.

rabbitonthemoon · 11/06/2013 12:08

Also, I'm clearly not slogging at work today.

EuroShaggleton · 11/06/2013 12:27

one is overhung by next door's trees, which drop sticky sap over everything. So it gets really quite grotty. It's all super bright and clean now though! I'm quite envious of the gardeners on here. Our postage stamp isn't big enough for that and it's difficult to get anything to grow there anyway because of the overhanging trees (and the fact that the builders seem to have filled the raised beds they put in with hardcore and a few handfuls of earth rather than top soil....).

It's interesting that a few of us here react badly to the Pill.

rabbit if it's any comfort, the downregging drugs made me horribly depressed as I'm sure you recall, but had no effect on my IBS. The progesterone made me very bloated and gassy but it seems to do that to most people. I dreaded IVF and really didn't want it, but it's not as bad once you are into it.

gin is it worth talking to your midwife about the infection? I thought a lot of abs were ok during pregnancy?

I just told a colleague we were planning IVF for July/August. She needs to plan some business travel for those months with me and at the moment I just can't because we haven't decided on July or August for cycle #3 if the current cycle doesn't work. I told her why and that I would let her know when we have made the decision. She got excited Hmm so I told her I didn't want pressure, etc.

EuroShaggleton · 11/06/2013 12:32

Oh crap. Somehow the first few lines of my post have been chopped off! I was muttering on about the virtues of jet washing....