I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods...

Congratulations LittleMiss!

Congrats littlemiss looks like all that planning of tattoos etc paid off! Well done! Think positive xxxx

Congratulations! and don't worry. At this stage, the embyro is completely separate from your blood supply, so the alcohol won't reach the baby.

LittleMiss Yay! Congratulations!

I've just eaten my fifth bunch of asparagus in three days. Is it possible to get pregnancy cravings on CD12? or am I just a fat pig?

saggy thanks, that makes me feel much better!

Oh and I very much doubt you are a fat pig if asparagus is your chosen binge :)

Tattoos etc on hold for now....very nervous but not quite as terrified as I thought I would be at least.

xx

Yesterday's asparagus was wrapped in pancetta, today's was slathered in melted Stilton!
Fingers crossed that all goes well for you. X

Yay GOOD news, that's what I like to see! Congrats littlemiss!

saggy I had asparagus with eggs-with-runny-yolks today. Highly recommend that for tomorrow

Is everyone else also throwing caution to the winds and eating/drinking everything they shouldn't because sod's law if they do, then it'll happen? (And if it doesn't happen then at least they've enjoyed wine, smelly cheese, rare steak...) That's my current policy anyway having previously been quite careful about what I ate one week after AF onwards. I agree with saggy too that it's too early to cross over/affect the embryo anyway - one less thing to be paranoid about!

Night night everyone x

Horray littlemiss!! That is great news

Well DH came home from the rugby yesterday with 'stomach ache' and I said that was no excuse and he'd still have to DTD. I was lying on the sofa and then let out an inconspicuous fart and he was like 'is this meant to be getting me in the mood!?' ha ha!!

Anyway we did manage it as I think DH was too scared to refuse, I'm turning into some kind of crazed maniac!!! Wondering if we can make it 3 in a row today as it's much harder during the week when we're both knackered.

Anyway welcome 'cupcake' sorry you find yourself here but come and join us, we're all nuts nice and normal.

saggy your er wee must be smelling interesting with all that asparagus

Morning everyone, just had the best lay-in! Lush!

We're doing well this month (first cycle following AF after MMC).
Had a positive OPK on Wednesday and Thursday (days 14 & 15) and so far we managed to DTD on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday! Gonna try for one more today then the old bits and bobs can have a little rest! Lol.

I'm a bit annoyed about missing Wednesday as I wanted a full house, and bless him, DF had a crack at it after getting home from the pub pissed (celebrating end of exams), but err.....wasn't very successful! Hehe

What has everyone planned today? We're off suit shopping for DFs wedding suit (guess we had get a wriggle on as its only 5 weeks away)!

Hi Ladies...

Just wondered if I could please join you. Have been reading the thread, and I think this might be the right place for me. Feel like I haven't got anyone else to talk to. Driving DH mad, and my best friend who 'was' going through similar is now 22weeks pg and I don't want to keep rambling on to her!

I had a miscarriage in August last year (2 weeks before my wedding, great timing I know) and have been TTC ever since. I have one DD (2.9) and I adore her, but the desire to give her a sibling is becoming stronger and stronger each month that goes by, especially since the MC. I got pg with her straight away, pretty much once and only once - and then the same again when I got pg last July. So I have been even more worried that something is wrong...why is it taking so long when it didn't before? etc.

I just have this overwhelming feeling that something is 'wrong' with me since the MC, does anyone else feel like this? I feel like I've been damaged, hence the lack of BFP success. So much so I went to the Dr and she did 21 day tests and sent me for an ultrasound scan which both came back okay and clear. (With the exception of my tubes, she said she couldn't tell me that they were definitely clear without using dye etc). My cycles seem regular, I get all the right signs, positive opk's, peaks on fertilty monitor...so WHY?!! It's just so disheartening, I really try to stay positive, but it is getting harder. I feel like we can't try any harder/do anything different. It's almost as if we are wasting our time. I'm sorry for this negative essay, just feels good to write down all of my feelings.

Anyway, there is my back story. Now I will stop whining, and send lots of posifrickintivity to all you fellow ttc'ers and hoping you all get some good luck very soon.

Hello overanxious sorry you are here but welcome - its very hard -such a horrible time and I feel for you've- I mc last July then ttc and got pg in jan then mc again - I also have 1 dd and feel I am stuck - on hold -

Have you been getting very stressed? Have you tried having massages and things like that? Feel silly asking but I really do think that making sure you take some time to yourself helps -

I'm terribly anxious about ttc again but trying to have things to look forward to that will relax me ..... Lots of hugs to you xxxx

Also when did you last go for your scan? X

Also good going sal feel exhausted just reading your post! Xxx

Hi Emki - thanks for your lovely reply.

Sorry to hear about your MC's too, such a horrible thing to go through. I suppose I have been getting stressed yes, more so each month. Before the MC I had a very regular 29 day cycle, then each month after the MC it went from 35, 34, 33, 32, 31, 30, 29...so I began to think everything was going back to 'normal' however last month I had a random 37 day cycle, which threw me, and I was just waiting for AF...I put DD into Nursery for the day and went shopping with my Mum, totally stress free day and I came on my period the next day, so maybe the stress free day to myself helped, or maybe just a coincidence.

I had my scan on the 14th March, so two months ago.

I'm feeling really down today, suprisingly I'm happier when I'm on my period than when I'm into the 'two week wait' the horrible feeling of "I already know I'm not pregnant" just takes over. At least when I'm on CD 1-20 I feel relatively positive thinking there is a chance...

I'm currently on CD23, but have no idea whether I am due on in around a week, or closer to two weeks following my random 37 day cycle last month! So that doesn't help either.

I've used the clearblue fertility monitor this month just for something different, so I am keeping everything crossed and trying so hard to stay positive.

xx

Well done - try and book something to look forward to too - it took me over 10 weeks to get my first AF after mc and doc said it was probably due to stress that I didn't ovulate sooner x do take time for yourself - fingers crossed for you this month xxxx

Welcome "over anxious". Sorry to read your story. I am pretty new to the thread too. I have a DD 21 months and would love to give her a sibling. 2 mc later here I am still willing to try. I understand your desire.

Not sure whether you have tried but I am having acunpuncture it really regulated my cycle after first mc and made me feel better about things - more relaxed. I was a bit cynical at first but thought it was worth a shot.

sal my goodness you go girl.

littlemiss congrats on your BFP.

after poss opk on Thursday and DTD we didn't manage it the rest of weekend as my DD had vomiting bug so I doubt there will be any positives from this corner on fri 24th.

Sorry you're here Overanxious, but a big friendly welcome at the same time.

Maybe you should try some other things such as reflexology, acupuncture, temping etc?

On the month I fell PG I was charting my temps, using OV sticks, Preseed Lube, shagging ALOT and eating pineapple for 5 days after OV!

At least it feels like you are doing something when you pull something else out of the toolkit!! Xxx

Congrats littlemiss. And welcome to the thread cupcake and overanxious.

overanxious, I think it's normal to feel like something is wrong with us. At least I do. I think it took us less than 3 months to concieve DD. It was all very easy. I thought it would be again, but here I am, trying since September, and still here without a bump. Keep in mind that even for a normal couple, it can take up to a year to concieve. (I think the stats says 80% succeed in 1 year, and 90%+ in 2 years). If the scan shows there is nothing wrong, just keep your faith up for the time being. It's ofc easier said and done.

I think I'm onto the 2ww now. My BBT showed two days of high now, but FF hasn't detected the ovulation. I'm not sure why. It's gone dry down there too. I'm glad to take a rest from the bd. DH actually asked do we have to do it last night . It is very hard going for us to do it every 2-3 days. And since we started ttc, the only time I got bfps were when we managed every 2 days. So the pressure is very real (to me) to keep at it. If only I could trust we could succeed with every 3 days!

As for food, no I'm not abstaining from anything. I'm eating all my favourites like blue cheese, wine, raw egg (cake mixtures ). Also doing the gardens and litter boxes without gloves. I'm sure I'll get obsessed with all this as time goes by. But for the time being, I'm feeling quite relaxed about these, except taking the folic acid.

Hi, can I join please? I had an ectopic pg in December which was treated with methatrexate, we had to wait three months before ttc (according to the hosp this was not up for debate and it could be devestating if we concieved in this time because of the drugs in my system), we are now in the first month of trying and I'm due on this week, I feel so tearful cos I know I'm not pregnant, I don't feel it at all which I have done the last 2 times (I have 18 month dd) but I just keep hoping, this is going to drive me insane if I am like this every month, especially as I got the BFP in the first cycle both times, and knew before I was even late. And because everyone knows about the ectopic we are getting people asking if we're ttc now that the three months is over, I mean how rude is that, yes actually we're shagging like rabbits every night, would you like to know positions as well?

I feel really fed up and miserable today and I'm sorry for the rant

Gratz littlemiss :)

Quick moan from me, just to get it out there and avoid having to bore anyone else. No idea what's happening with my body this month, it's impossible to concrentrate on work, I'm just obssessing about everything. Burst into tears at a works do last Friday, then managed to cheer up and immediately headed to the dance floor so now everyone must think I'm a mental case (which I'm starting to think I am).

Not sure if I'll POAS on Friday, the last one is still sitting on the shelf in the bathroom and makes me sad when I see it but I can't throw it out :(

Hi Chips, it sounds like there are a few of us in the same boat at the moment. I can't help cos I'm no better myself at the moment and I haven't read the whole thread so I don't know your story, but I wanted to say I'm with you.

Thanks suchfun. I MCd 11/04 so still waiting for AF but always hoping that it won't come :) Today's 'symptoms' are sore tits and heartburn but really I know it's just a bad bra and hunger pangs :(

it's so hard, you so desperately want the "symptons" to lead to a BFP, but at the same time you don't dare hope.

I've got to pop out now but I'll be back online later, and hopefully in a more positive mood!!

Hi all