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The Elderberry Pavlovas who occasionally sausage wang – a fabulous thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 8)

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Bunnygirlie · 06/04/2013 22:56

Newbies very welcome provided they meet the strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers) and bring a bouquet of sausages when they join!

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BlindKitty · 19/04/2013 22:24

Oooh and thought I'd share a few IUI success stories that inspired me today!

I confided in my friend at work today. Turns out it took her 7 years to have her 1st. She had 3 goes at IVF (2 failed, 1 MC). When the money was running out, they tried one go at IUI and got pregnant first go! She then just got pregnant naturally with her second.

Then, she told me about her friend who had 10 goes at IVF (yes 10, she must be made of money!!!). They ALL failed (really don't know why she carried on). She then tried a one off IUI and got pregnant with twins!!!!!

Has made me feel a lot more positive about iui! Smile

BlindKitty · 19/04/2013 22:27

Yorkie - don't beat yourself up hon. I do it every month! I'm doing it now and I'm not even sure I've ovulated!!!! Sad

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Bunnygirlie · 19/04/2013 22:31

Yeah yorkie don't be hard on yourself, we've had all those little moments of thinking it was our time and it wasn't Sad

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Pipbin · 19/04/2013 22:32

Ladies.
All go here and we are both far to busy to DTD or for me to post much on here.
8dpo and a had a fluttering and a tiny bit of spotting but I'm not getting excited. New house on Saturday!

As for the dappy bint who didn't know she was updiffed, I know a woman who genuinely didn't know she was updiffed until she went into labour!

Also, the vertue of the orgasam post his has been much talked about here. I, and others, remember seeing a documentary about 20 years ago when they filmed one from the inside and proved that it did help conception.

And, I have and love my mooncup, however I get toxic shock from tampons and given the choice I would use tampons.

Where is Merk, what news?

BombasticPeanut · 19/04/2013 22:35

Oh pants yorkie, AF is such a moose.

I did find the first one odd, I find them all odd but by now I'm used to the weirdness and find it strangely comforting to be half naked and stuck full of pins, listening to panpipe music with a heat lamp over my belly. In fact today I fell asleep and woke up in a panic in case I'd rolled over on the needles! Did she look at your tongue?

barking now I want a kitten. Why do I never find kittens? (I have three furry babies already, but that is not the point) I nearly bought a spaniel pup today just because I accidentally found a link to someone selling them while looking up kennels..

tally she can shove her flutters where the sun don't shine. Bloody instadiffer. She probably has boobs down to her ankles though at least I hope so Envy Angry Sad

yorkiebilb · 19/04/2013 22:36

Thanks bunny and blind for being so nice.

Some great IUI stories there blind V positive!

BombasticPeanut · 19/04/2013 22:42

Ah yorkie I think we all secretly convince ourselves we're DEFINITELY pregnant every so often. I do it literally every cycle, to the point where I genuinely believe the tests are broken or I have a very weird condition whereby I am totally pregnant but my wee doesn't have the hormones in it. Yes I am that messed up. Hugs.

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Bunnygirlie · 19/04/2013 22:48

Ooh pip new house, exciting!

Hey peanut can I pass on the Wine and have [tea] and Biscuit instead, trying to be good!

Home alone and feel the need to Internet shop and buy myself something to make me feel better, but what to buy?!?!?

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yorkiebilb · 19/04/2013 22:54

peanut cheers that makes me feel a bit better. I thought I was doing something wrong for not getting it! Yep she looked at my tongue and put a heat lamp on my belly as well! Then did some strange but lovely stroking on my feet. She was going on about trying to make me connect with the earth which I wasn't so sure about! However, the rest of what she said made sense.

Unfortunately towards the end DH kept on trying to call me on my mobile to say he was waiting outside! This kind of spoiled the relaxation! I shall preserve though.

yorkiebilb · 19/04/2013 23:04

Speaking of cats my Dh has just shown me a very funny YouTube video. I've no idea how to post the link but search for 'shark and ducking! Happy Halloween from roomba cat max-arthur' it made me laugh!

yorkiebilb · 19/04/2013 23:05

bunny I always buy earrings online!

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Bunnygirlie · 19/04/2013 23:35

Watching the Animal Awards from last night, probably not the best idea, now crying!

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Frogcatcher · 19/04/2013 23:51

Make room for one more on the pity sofa pls . It's shag week (according to FF which is still working off average cycle & not my ever increasing ones) & DP got drunk & is now snoring in bed beside me. He also got in a mood because I suggested he was drunk so that was DTD out the window. And I made yummy curry which he didn't even eat Sad. If he didn't already have a child who he adores I could really question his parenting suitability sometimes.

Yep yorkie I convince myself every month. There's loads of stories science on the Internet about women who don't test positive for months and/or still get AF just to help drive you mad too.

Thinking I might investigate this acupuncture business. It sounds like a really nice way to unwind at the end of the week even without the TTC benefits.

BombasticPeanut · 19/04/2013 23:54

bunny Books! And health supplements that don't work!

yorkie hmmm yeah I'm not totally comfortable with the hippier aspects. Luckily my practitioner is aware of that and only occasionally mentions Qi, otherwise she's pretty much 'normal'... I have no issue with the spiritual side of it, but I don't know enough about it to grasp what she's on about!

...hm. Maybe I should buy a book online on acupuncture...

Right, having said I'm not comfortable with hippy stuff, I've had a nice bath with essential oils in it while listening to a fertility hypnosis CD, and now I'm off to molest DH sleep! Night night berries, sleep well x

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Bunnygirlie · 20/04/2013 00:00

Hey frog not tried acu but reflexology is another of those things that I thought was a load of baloney lol started in December and it's regulated my cycles to 28/29 days, never liked people touching my feet but it is very relaxing and seems to help my IBS too!

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Tallyra · 20/04/2013 01:18

I have heard that acu can make you quite emotional after the first session. I've had basic acu on my neck and shoulder for other problems, but I don't know who to go to for this, and couldn't afford it even if I found out. which reminds me, I need to try and book another session cos I can hardly move my shoulder

Kitty I'm not even sure what we're doing at the moment. doctor suggested not trying until the appointment, which makes sense because I don't really want to go through another mc. I had (and almost certainly will have again) hyperemesis which meant being hospitalised for fluids each time and I never got further than 9w, so I REALLY don't want that to happen again if there's any remote chance it could be prevented from mc. There's not really any hope of not being sick though Sad
However, Our first one was in 2009 so I'm getting pretty pissed off with it all and also pretty desperate. Everyone else that I am aware of having trouble have now managed to get duffed and I'm left sitting here, over 4 years later when some friends babies are practically old enough to start school, and they are the ones that got there after I did.

Bajas · 20/04/2013 07:19

tally that sounds so hard. I can see why they're telling you to wait- mist be hard though when all you want is to be pregnant.

I've had a tough week. My dad had a stroke and is in hospital. Starting to improve. Leaving for the 5 hour journey now to see him. Before that dh's excema was really bad so haven't dtd this week and have had a 1 degree temp rise this morning so another month wasted. Knowing my dad isn't well makes me want to be pg even more as I want him to know his future grandchild. Pretty miserable all round but hopefully getting to see him will cheer both him and me up.

Pipbin · 20/04/2013 07:40

Yorkie. DH showed me that. We decided that it was the pinnacle of human achievement and everything else afterwards might as we not bother.

barkingtreefrog · 20/04/2013 07:41

So sorry to hear about your dad Bajas, hope he's doing even better when you see him Thanks
I totally understand why it makes you want to get pg even sooner as my Dad has Parkinsons and has gone downhill lots since we started ttc. I've always adored my Dad and he was a very hands on father so it breaks my heart to think that by the time I have a baby he probably won't be able to pick it up and hold it Sad .

Cate555 · 20/04/2013 09:36

Bajas sorry to hear about your dad I wish him a speedy recovery.

Frog I know exactly what you mean my dad is in hospital at the minute, everyone in our very large extended family adores him & I know if I ever do have a baby it won't get to grow up knowing him.

Anyway loving to sound of Reflexology and accu I'm going to look where my nearest are. I take it the needles going in are not painful?? I'm a bit of a scardy cat with needles Blush might try Reflex first.

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Bunnygirlie · 20/04/2013 09:40

Oh bajas and barking how awful that your dads are poorly :-(

I want to get pg soon as I still have to Granny's around and would love them to have a great-grandchild!

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yorkiebilb · 20/04/2013 09:43

bajas really sorry to hear about you Dad but good to hear he's starting to improve.

Thanks berries for being so nice to me last night. Slept well for once and DH has started researching ways he can help more e.g cutting down alcohol etc. so that has to be a good thing.

frog that's why I decided to do acu. I thought if it can help me relax more it has to be worth it.

tally I didn't know acu can make you emotional - may explain my meltdown yesterday I guess! Sorry to read about your traumas around ttc and waiting for your app. Hope the time goes quicker for you.

yorkiebilb · 20/04/2013 09:48

cate barking sorry to hear about your dads too.

cate I'm scared of needles and was v wary but it was absolutely fine and not painful in the slightest.

Thundercatsarego · 20/04/2013 09:53

Hi everyone.

Just a brief one before I face the baby hell day.

Just to say sorry for poorly dads- that is really sad and totally understandable that you want to get pg, I feel the same- some of wanting a baby is about my whole family, not just me and DH.

peanut you have my total respect for talking to your friend. I am a total wus when it comes to confrontation and if I have to do it often do it in writing to avoid the awkward face to face bit.

I remember the conversations about the 'cervical dip'. Tbh there's enough pressure and difficulty dtd enough let alone having to worry about that too!

I'm finding the acu conversations fascinating and love the idea of a hot lamp in my belly. Anyone get squeamish about the needles?

Right better get going- I've got a short time to try and make myself look presentable. is the expression polishing a turd?

yorkiebilb · 20/04/2013 09:55

Hey thunder hope today isn't too hideous for you.