TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

Im not sure Mummy - when i've used them I just stopped after I got the first double line and then made sure we DTD as must as possible in the following 48 hours - amounted to twice DTD

Oh FFS! Ds has just been on FB and broke the news that ex SIL has just announced she is PG.
it's fecking typical. She is an absolute cow of the first water, who has the mothering skills if a dead cat!

Thanks for the advice ladies - just attempted the seduction and it was a no go :-( might try again when we go up later - if not I will go for it tomorrow. DH doesn't know that I'm ovulating but I think he may suspect it as there have been no problems any other time in the cycle. I'm guessing that DTD before the positive opk will count too as sperm can live for a couple of days so hopefully Sundays 'contribution' will help!!

Saggy - sorry about the pregnancy announcement - they are everywhere at the moment - there are 2 ladies in our street who have had babies in the last 2 weeks - we are only a small street so can't avoid them!
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Hi guys I've had a quick scan....in an attempt to catch up ;) we had the same giggling problem in the sack (no pun intended) DF reckons I've broken him hahaa, we did it mornin and night whilst ovulating he said " if you aren't up the duff by now after all that then there's something bloody wrong!" hehe! For once I hope he's in the right!

I've got my blood tests tomorrow morning for my lump do cross everything for me! In other news I've cut out all caffeine and started drinking green tea and lemon and hot water plus the grapefruit diet....lost a stone! Went to work in new clothes and felt fabulous even my students commented but to be fair I think that may be a bad thing

fod that's fantastic - I'm trying to lose weight - such a jelly belly - what's the grapefruit diet? I'll google it so don't worry if you can't be bothered to explain .

Fingers crossed for you tomorrow fod

saggy I'm with you - it's hard! I'm on tender hooks waiting for people around me to say they're pregnant.... Finding this thread a great release for all the things you can't say! X

fod that amazing! I too have cut out all caffeine and limited refined sugar as much as possible but I'm still the same size.

I am feeling really positive about this cycle. It's day 14 I'm sure I'm ovulating right now or very close to it. Lots of perfectly clear CM probably the best I've had since MC.
Oddly it seems as of my cycle has corrected itself, I am back right where I started ovulating on a Tue like before MC. maybe that's the reason I was coming on period slightly earlier each month was my cycle trying to correct itself.
Seems like thundercat was right about your body taking same length of time to heal for as long as you were pregnant.

But I do think cutting out all caffeine and taking B6 has helped, hopefully the conceive gel is working too.

On the CBFM front still getting high everyday I did muck it up today by forgetting to pee on stick, I had to squeeze a tiny bit out for the stick after it even so it still said high.

Fod that's ace!! Well done!! Good luck for the bloods tomorrow x

Wow fod that's amazing!! How long did it take? I lost half a stone on slimming world but have piled it all back on again due to being a complete pig over Easter/ from then on!

Yes and I hope your blood test is good news tomorrow x

Oh and thanks for all the positive thoughts re: the spotting; haven't had any more so fx. I'm nowhere near ready to venture over to Amy pregnancy threads so I'm sorry for still hanging around here.

Blackholes of course you're welcome to hang around for as long as you like - you're a posifrickingtivity story! Really hope it all goes smoothly, you deserve it.

You guys have made my day with your DDT stories, so funny! It's not just us! Though I think my last month of hormonal freaking out has made DH too scared to say no now, as I told him I'll be ok as long as I know we've done everything we could. Well, that might not be entirely true, but it certainly helps - the first month we missed the opportune moment and it made me feel like the whole month was a waste. Plus, he's 12 years older than me so I wouldn't be in this sodding situation if it weren't for him - kids wouldn't have crossed my mind by now I don't think, but now they have they're somehow all I can think of! So he can hardly complain when I turn into hormone soup.

Isn't it funny that men spend years and years wanting all the sex they can lay their hands on, then when it's suddenly necessary the pressure is too much?! DH says his 15 year old self would be outraged if he could see his 38 year old self complaining I was demanding to dtd too often!

Everything crossed for you tomorrow fod. and a large glass of

Blackholes - there is the graduates thread for this thread which if/when you feel ready may be somewhere to come and take a look link here
I can't stomach the normal "due in..." threads yet, too many people already buying stuff before even having 12 week scan. Yeeuch! I don't want to be the pessimist in the corner of their thread

Good luck for tomorrow Fod

Thanks sO much guys!! That's really sincere, supportive and generally lovely of you all, I know what you mean about the sexathons. I texted my DF from work today to tell him of tested again and I appear to stop be ov (that'd make it three days- of course it must have been wrong) his reply "your going to kill me! I swear to god I've never felt si ill" Awww bless

I lost the weight in two weeks! You have half a grapefruit or 4oz of grapefruit juice in the morning with 2 bacon and 2 eggs (cooked anyway you like) followed by salad and meat or fish for lunch plus a half grapefruit or a drink of and for lunch as much meat and salad as you like (avoid white onions, celery and

Grrrr posted before I'd finished!.,,,,potatoes. Have a glass of tomatoe juice or milk before bed (you can have salad dressings, butter etc too)

The combination of the grapefruit and the food on the diet massively speeds up you metabolism and it recommends eating til your full and don't snack. A friend at work has started it after seeing my results post Easter hols......(disclosure....avoid if on the contraceptive pill....obviously this does not apply here!!!)

I have a question about ewcm, seeing I'm quite new to this monitoring fertility game.
When i spot it, is it too late for dtd, or should that signal the beginning of sex fest?
Symptoms appeared as follows: friskiness - monday, yesterday, ewcm - yesterday.
We dtd thursday, sunday and yesterday, do we have to go for tonight too, or is it too late?

According to phone app I should have ovulated yesterday, but based on first seeing ewcm yesterday, do you think i might actually be ov today?

fod good luck for bloods today. And FANTASTIC work on the weight loss. I'm very impressed.
blackholes really really hope you don't get any more spotting/pains

Hope you guys managed to seduce your men last night. I did

fod good luck to you. High five on the pound droppage.
blackholes sure it is normal, but also v normal to be concerned. it's a nightmare time isn't it?!
alyant yeh I would dtd again - we go for it for about 7-10 days solid - as I'm never quite sure exactly when it all happens, even though i've now bought opk - no wonder it's become a chore! I reckon whoever says they normally do it 3-4x week is lying...or they are trying to have a baby!
thunder may join you with the mentalness 2ww - am cd24, though my cycles are usually around 35 days so nothing should be happening yet. vv tired, that it is. Also not really sure what happened with ov as got a smiley face but no real EWCM. Went for it anyway but who knows?
Anyone watch sewing bee? Am loving Ann and Lauren.

Hi all,

Trying to remain more calm today, keep my imagination (and CRAZY) in check) and just wait for af.

fod that really is fantastic. Good job you don't mind grapefruit too- not a fan myself!

aly it's supposed to mean shagfest should begin and many people would say its more reliable of what's really going on with your body than an app because it appears when you are fertile. I don't really get it myself though so I certainly can't rely on it.

I am now on day 28. Usually have 28 day cycles but didn't get my smiley til 2 days later than normal so I know af will be late too. One demonstration of how opks can help keep you sane (ish!). Will definitely hold your hand though kater.

thunder good luck!

aly once it goes clear EWCM then it's do it ASAP time, the reason being is the muscus around the cervix is now at its thinnest and it means the swimmers have an easier job of getting inside.

Just add once it clear that's usually when you are either about to ovulate or are ovulating, it's a hormone reaction to ovulation that thins the muscus around the cervix. Ovulation lasts usually around 24-36 hours so today/tonight is ideal. Also very good that you did it yesterday too that means you may still have sperm inside waiting for the chance to get in.

I'm certain I began ovulating yesterday (afternoon to be precise) we DTD as soon as we got home from work and will do so again tonight.
We also DTD Satarday and Monday and are using 'special' gel that keeps the swimmers alive for longer.

I don't think there is much more I can do to really get pregnant any quicker.

Thanks guys for all the advice.
Guess I will try to dtd tonight as well. Don't really feel like it tbh - runny nose and sore throat. Also I've convinced myself that I actually don't want to get pg this cycle although i know I'm lying to myself as the timing would be terrible. i know this logical phase will last about 10 min and i'll be devastated when AF comes, so i'd better start getting myself in the mood for lurvin'

emki forgot to respond earlier - Fx AF shows up for you soon OR you are pg again.
It must be so frustrating to have to wait so long.

morning all,

I feel I should spill the beans on the once in lifetime shagging opportunities... perhaps they're not really once in a lifetime chances (well, two of them weren't). Two of them were bonus nights with an ex - one with the OTGA from about a million years ago, and i met my DH soon after so that really was the last chance I'd ever get and I still slightly sad that I missed out on that opportunity but don't tell DH; once was bonus night with evil exBF, who I caught shagging my best mate. He was still going out with her so it would have been a revenge shag and really really good sex (about the only thing in the relationship that was good) so although I regretted it at the time, with hindsight, I'm not that bothered. The third one - well, he went on to become an international star, adored by women the world over. At the time he was a nobody and I didn't see him for another year, by which time he was a sensation and I couldn't get near him .

On thunder's advice, I'm going to POAS on Friday - 13 dpo so quite early - but it will give me a good insight into my true feelings. If its a bfn and I'm disappointed, I'll know I'm ready for another one. If its a bfn and I'm relieved, I'll know I've still got some ishoos to work through.

I discussed the whole thought process of how long and how ofter I can keep trying for with DH last night. He's so desparate for another one that I think I'll have to keep going for longer than if it was up to me, but at least he listened when I confessed that I hate being pregnant and that I'm dreading it. I don't think even our DPs really understand what it is to go through a mc, do you? They can be sympathetc and I know it hurts them, but I don't think you ever really can get it till its happened to you. (Which is very patronising, but there we are)