TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

I'm still here! Just wanted to echo the dtd troubles! Had a giggle reading posts. Possibly had the worst dtd ever that both of us started laughing so hard we were crying. Helped lighten the mood I guess. It is hard though - such pressure. Becomes a whole different ball game. (Excuse pun)

On phone but good luck DIY with scan. Fx all fine xxxx

DIY that's brilliance. I'll try the "only twice more" line tonight methinks.

I really really hope that your scan looks OK today - do keep us posted.

little I hope that you do sort things out with your family. It sounds like they are being very insensitive.

DIY hope the scan shows everything in the right place and a viable pregnancy, even if it's too early for a HB.

LB that's really pants of your family. Sounds like your cousin is fine about it. I know it's sometimes difficult to understand unless you've been there, but really it shouldn't be that hard to put themselves in your shoes for a minute.

at all your devious DTD strategies!

DIY- so hope all goes well at your scan, fingers crossed xxx

littlebairn sorry about the falling out with your family. I think people don't really understand unless they've been through it too, even my dp doesn't really understand and gets annoyed with my worrying. Am making a big effort to appear less stressed at the moment, after the hospital appointment yesterday he was saying that if this one fails he doesn't think he could put up with me stressing again and maybe we should stop at one. That makes him sound like a knob, he's not at all otherwise, just doesn't understand. He was saying 'why are you worried about miscarrying again, it wasn't that bad was it, just a bit of pain for a few days but the rest was just bleeding wasn't it?'! I think in a funny way he's trying to make me feel better, I'm just a bit sensitive about all things ttc and pregnancy now...! Am feeling more philosophical today though, am lucky to be pg and it's not over yet, time will sort things out either way. Just hoping the sac's in the right place, only a couple of hours to find out.

Please can someone slap me?

I am 11dpo. I have an extremely extremely small chance of conceiving due to bloods and lack of dtd this month and yet I'm freaking out! Desperately want to be pg, no hope of being, just want af to come so I can move on but she's not due til Fri or Sat. WAAAA!

Big wet fish coming your way, Thunder ! Hope you are put out of your misery one way or the other in the next few days.

Sorry that sounds bad! I mean by either AF arriving or a surprise BFP...

Thank you tins I needed that. And I knew what you meant. Just feel like I have no patience to wait for a few more days at the moment. Going mad!

I'm glad I came here, you are all make me laugh with your stories of trying to DTD We are still yet to DTD post MC as I had a bit more blood at the weekend but I'm already dreading it thinking about how MUCH effort I made to get PG last time!

I know I must try and just 'enjoy' it but the MC has really damped all enthusiasm in that area at the moment - one of the most insensitive comments I've had from someone after the MC is: 'well just think of all the fun you're going to have trying for another!' Hmmm not really getting excited about that right now as I've just had a fanny operation and am still bleeding heavily from it....

Anyway, big slap to thunder the 2WW is excruciating, it's like time stands still!

I'm sorry to hear your story littlebairn, if I was your cousin I would totally understand and it's no-one else's business really.

I hope to hear good news from scan results, tests and some BFP from you all soon.

Had scan, they can see a sac in the right place so that's good news. Have to go for bloods again tomorrow - they found some free fluid I think which means they can't exclude anything odd going on? - am glad about bloods as I should know soon if the hcg's going up as it should.

Hello all - I've been lurking, not posting [Bad Santa]. thunder I won't fish slap you again, but let me know if you're still needing another one. Though impatience for AF isn't necessarily a fish slapping offence, as its not negafricktivity.

And also, impatience for AF is not an exclusively TTC emotion - unless you are lucky enough to be regular as clockwork (i.e. on the pill) its always a pain as I was never 100% sure what day it was going to arrive, and I always sort of forgot when it was due. So then you spend a week being all PMT and emotional forgetting you've probably got PMT and you're stressing over nothing. Or (going back even further to pre-DH days) you're hoping and praying it arrives on a Monday so that you're free for your date at the weekend (when you hope to get lucky ). [Can I just add that AF has stopped me not once, not twice but THREE times from once in a lifetime shagging opportunities, due to its untimely and unexpected arrival]

So, I'm 10DPO, but I think too early to POAS on Friday (would be CD25, "normally" have 29/30 day cycles) - though I did ov earlier than previously this cycle. But waiting till the following week is really late. Actually dreading it, either way anyway. I'm going to be gutted if I don't get a BFP (waving bye bye to the 2013 bus, which is pulling out of the station) but also I know I'll be almost gutted if I do get a BFP, as it will really feel like a here we go again. I can't be arsed to pg again. 5 out of the past 10 months pregnant and nothing to show for it but then I'm secretly sick as a pig with jealousy at spanish's twin news

Slightly getting myself to the position that if I am not pg by the end of this year, I'm going to give up and stick at one. Or look at adoption. I don't want a 4 year age gap and as the longer I leave it, and the easier its getting, the harder its going to be to start again with sleepless nights, nappies, vomit, breastfeeding and a ruined figure.

x-posts with DIY - thats hopefully good news, so will keep those fingers crossed that all is well.

Great news diy, one step at a time. Fx for the next step too. How many digis did you do?

santa, if you ov'd early then fri might not be too early for you after all? Do you think you'll test? Sorry to read you're stressed too and also sorry about missing out on the amazing shag opportunities- what are the chances?!

DIY that sounds like good news. FX is all keeps progressing as it should.

Santa surely that makes it thrice-in-a-lifetime shagging opportunities? (and now I want to know the gory details!)
13DPO doesn't sound too early to POAS? If you get a BFN you can still be secretly hoping that it's a bit early and you'll be sticking within the rules if you POAS again early the next week. Do it!
I'm with you on the setting limits, age gaps getting ever bigger thing. In a lot of ways I'd be much happier now if we decided to give up on the idea of a third, but I think I'd probably regret it in years to come and wonder if we might have succeeded if we'd had that one last try....

guff i had the exact same comment. I told her how much it upset me and she felt really bad .

DIY excellent! Fx that the bloods look good too and you'll be on track.

thunder be strong. look at it in baby steps - only 2 more sleeps and then it's only 1 more sleep until you can POAS. And then if it is a bfn, only a little while to wait for AF

yes santa I'm with tins - want to hear about all these amazing shagging opportunities! Don't think I've ever had one either thunder. Boo.
I also think you should POAS on friday. thunder and tins reasoning is rock solid.

After being all prepared to seduce DH tonight I'm now feeling sick and sore-throaty and generally rotten . But we HAVE to dtd! It's ov day!
had momentary thought that i feel nauseous due to false bfn 1.5 weeks ago but i'm sure that can't be

I had my bfp on cd 25 so it's not necessarily too early! Glad it seems like good news re: scan, DIY. Lol at "omce in a lifetime shagging opportunities!!" not sure I've had any of those, myself...

Hold tight ladies; I'm waiting too but for another reason. Tiny bit of spotting this morning and a lot of aching. Hoping and praying it's all normal.... But time will tell.

Oh the frustration of it!

I know i can't expect AF to be regular its only 3 weeks since erpc but i want to know what is going on with body!!!

Dtd many times in last fortnight so there is a chance that things could be good and i will have no idea! Had first negative 28th march, is there any point to poas inApril?

Glad the scan went well DIY - keep us posted on the bloods.

Blackholes - fingers crossed everything is okay Hun xx

I am going to try and secretly seduce DH tonight but think he will cotton on to the fact I'm ovulating which he doesn't like to know - we DTD on Sunday and Monday so hopeful if the seducing doesn't work we can sneak one in tomorrow!! Xx

DIY good news about the scan and will be thinking of you tomorrow
FX blackholes
littlebairns they should understand, its so hard. The woman who lives opposite gave birth to her second 10 days ago. I can see her with him from my bedroom window, it took all my strength to go over and give some flowers but don't think i'll manage going over at the weekend. There has to be a of self preservation.

I've been reading your posts at work with lots of giggles at all the DTD stories - its SOOO true. DH also prefers to not know, however before this last MC I did tell him and he then went over the top being all romantic and just really made me laugh!

I swear every woman I saw today had a huge bump (on their tummy) - happy for them just want it to be me too!! Actually feeling very frustrated - 8 weeks after ERPC now and still no AF - now wishing we had continued with the OPK and DTD lots but I was finding it too stressful.

Spoke to doctor yesterday for results from ERPC (to see if same problem in placenta from mc at 20 weeks last week - this wasn't the reason for mc...) and there wasn't enough tissue to test on. She said to come into EPAU next Tuesday if AF still not arrived. Feeling a bit anxious that something might be wrong and so frustrated and want to start TTC.
I totally understand what you are saying Guff- also had the same comment made to me .... grrrr...

However not looking forward to the rollercoaster of emotions you go through when TTC - but at least i'd be moving forward - I FEEL STUCK!!!

Keep us posted on seducing DHs during OV days! x

Okay so think I will definitely have to do some secret seduction tonight - I have just done another opk and 2 dark lines appeared almost immediately - I will try and use all my moves and DTD tonight but if not will tomorrow be okay? We DTD Sunday and Monday - I am panicking abut getting the timing right!! X

If its your first positive mummy then you should ovulate in the next 24- 48 hours. So yes tomorrow falls in the window too but it would be great if you could dtd tonight (as well)

I'm saying this as the model thing to do- we never dtd on consecutive nights here! Just do your best without it causing problems!

emki how annoying to be 8 weeks without af- my sympathies for you. I know just what you mean about wanting to move on! Same as you mrs

Fingers and toes crossed blackholes

And thank you for the pep talk on baby steps aly. I'll do my best!

Thanks thunder - it's my second positive - first one was yesterday (is it okay to get 2??) I guess I should DTD tonight then - I'm hoping there is enough there to meet the egg when it's released!! Should the opk gts fainter from tomorrow then? X

You've timed it well already then mummy but yeah go for tonight too if you can. It's normal to get several positives in a row but I understand it's the first one that counts. Of course it doesn't prove you've ovulated, just detects the surge of hormone released as your body gets ready to do so. So it might get fainter tomorrow or not, but go by the first positive. That's why many packs say stop poaOPKs after the first positive as it doesn't mean so much after that.