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Laura Ashley/Creme Egg graduates - pregnant after MC

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Bakingtins Tue 26-Feb-13 21:41:37

A place to carry on chatting after a BFP and support each other through the stressful bits. I hope to see many new graduates appearing....

andadietcoke Tue 26-Feb-13 21:52:19

Yay! We just need to track the others down now (and hope for new recruits).

AlmondFrangipani Wed 27-Feb-13 07:33:57

Woo hoo! I was wondering who had 'graduated'! How far along us everyone? I'm 17 weeks. X

Bakingtins Wed 27-Feb-13 07:58:29

Wow Almond time flies! It is d-r-a-g-g-i-n-g for me since I found out. I'm 7 weeks and mostly waiting for it to go wrong. trying to be positive without actually planning ahead at all is a hard act to pull off. Hadn't told anyone apart from DH in real life until yesterday when a friend asked me directly. The next couple of weeks are when it's gone wrong for me previously so it is good to know she'll have the boys if necessary. I'm quite calm though, I think I've accepted there isn't a damm thing I can do to influence the outcome. I found out yesterday that they do £70 private scans at a very local GP clinic. I 'm very tempted to go without telling DH as 12 weeks seems an age away. I have had a positive scan at 8 weeks before then lost the baby at 10, so I don't know if it will reassure me.

BraveLilBear Wed 27-Feb-13 11:47:42

Hello people! It's been a while since I waved in your direction... but the Laura Ashley link was a dead giveaway! grin

Congrats to all of you! It's nervous times I know, first trimester was challenging for me (especially combined with lots of fun problems too) but am now 19 weeks and getting kicked periodically so hoping for the best.

Who else has graduated?!

Bakingtins Wed 27-Feb-13 11:52:35

Hi Lilbear glad to hear it's all going well. Do you have your scan coming up soon?

AlmondFrangipani Wed 27-Feb-13 11:56:38

<Waves to Bear>! I've seen you on the pregnancy forums and thanks for your comments on finding out what we're having! We've decided not to! Got 20 wk scan at 19 weeks so week after next! I can't feel any movement yet...really hope I do soon as it will help me feel like its real!!

Baking - yeah to 7 weeks! I found the first tri very hard. Felt awful the whole time, lots if cramps and felt like the whole time it was going to go wrong. Felt better at 12 week scan but I don't think my fear will go completely until the bambino arrives!! Fx you will be fine! wink

BraveLilBear Wed 27-Feb-13 12:01:14

Hi Baking 20week scan next Tuesday. Nerves haven't kicked in yet, tho found 12-16 weeks very hard with no indications that everything was ok. Now I can feel junior kicking it makes it a lot easier to just go with the flow and try and relax.

It's a tough call about reassurance scans - I was in the middle of panicking deciding about needing one when the sickness really kicked in and I landed in hospital with an unrelated problem (tho was probably caused by being pregnant). I was so ill I was almost too exhausted to consider a reassurance scan.

Once the worst was over the two weeks from booking-in to scan were absolute torture, but I reasoned that some people see a heartbeat before 12 weeks then go onto suffer MC after anyway and in the end I would gain nothing by knowing - and indeed lose a big chunk of money. But that was my choice. If it would help you relax and you can afford it, go for it.

BraveLilBear Wed 27-Feb-13 12:21:22

Hey Almond! I had a realllllly long spell away from MN when ill over Xmas and New Year and felt bad about flouncing back onto the TTC threads so it's lovely to see people graduating over here grin

I think I'm lucky that I can feel junior so soon - started around 16 weeks so I'm guessing I don't have an anterior placenta and can feel it especially when I sit down and at my desk at work - I think there's an Oxbridge summer baby in here yet lol wink

AlmondFrangipani Wed 27-Feb-13 14:57:13

Brave what do the kicks feel like? Mini stabs? Think I might of had one but not sure!! Like you it was sat down at my desk...

BraveLilBear Wed 27-Feb-13 16:20:35

The not knowing is half of the fun Almond but eventually it becomes really obvious. I'd describe it as like someone gently flicking you with a finger like a child would with a bogey, but from the inside. Feels quite 'muffled' at first, but they have got more regular and both harder and bigger - ie from a finger size to an elbow-size nudge occasionally. Took me a week to realise that I wasn't imagining it and it wasn't wind! They can feel quite similar to wind bubbles but there is a distinction... hard to explain!

andadietcoke Wed 27-Feb-13 17:54:43

I'm 12 weeks. With twins.

Have my nhs dating scan on the 8th March and I couldn't wait for it so had a private scan last week. All fine and both the right size and with the right appendages.

We've ended up telling a lot of people even though I regret it now. I'd be so devastated that I'd need people to know anyway. I hate telling people. I feel like I always follow up with a disclaimer!!

BettyFlutterbly Wed 27-Feb-13 20:24:06

Yay it's so nice to hear you all got your bfps! Congratulations!!!!

I'm 16+1 more or less. Got through the first trimester despite being worried all the time.
I've been feeling flutters for a few weeks and got actual movement for the first time today. This is baby number two so it is supposed to be earlier when you feel it.
I have such a bump already and heartburn, indigestion and constipation (tmi?) but so happy to be here and not ttc anymore.

Fingers crossed the next few weeks go smoothly Baking.
And wow twins Diet, how exciting! Do you already have kids?

andadietcoke Wed 27-Feb-13 20:43:19

Betty if everything goes okay then they will be DCs 1 and 2. Veer between worrying about something going wrong with the pregnancy and wondering how I'll cope!

How exciting for you all feeling movement smile

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 27-Feb-13 20:45:58

<waves> I stopped posting soon after I got my BFP...the last thing I wanted after MC was to hear from recently upduffed ladies!

DietCoke, congrats on the twins!

Baking, I would go for the reassurance scan, even if the worst should happen at least it may help to calm your mind for a week or so. I went for a private scan at 6wks just for reassurance, had 12wk recently & still sticking fingers in my ears & going 'lalala' about being pregnant.

16+4 weeks here, been feeling movements for about 4 weeks now & have a proper bump (DC2 for us), low iron so I'm on iron tablets & eating lots of meat & greens.

I read on another board, from a lady who had multiple losses...that no matter how she felt about the pg she always wanted people to know she was pregnant so the baby would feel loved no matter how long she was carrying it for.

andadietcoke Wed 27-Feb-13 20:50:42

GaryBuseys thanks. And thanks for posting that. It made me a bit teary, but it's lovely, and it made me feel a lot better about having told people.

Bakingtins Thu 28-Feb-13 07:18:53

I had some spotting yesterday. Not a lot, but enough to convince me it's all going wrong again sad Serves me right for being positive and starting a pregnancy thread. Anyway, there's not a thing I can do about it, I will have a scan next week if it hasn't obviously progressed to a MC by then. Whatever happens, I'm really glad to see you all reacquainted and chatting again.

andadietcoke Thu 28-Feb-13 07:38:13

Tins massive hugs, but try to stop worrying. I had light brown discharge for about ten days at 6 weeks. I was very pragmatic, and accepted there was nothing I could do to change the outcome. That helped in a way, even though there were lots of tears. Any pain? Pain should come before bleeding if it's going 'that way' apparently. Be kind to yourself lovely, take each day as it comes, and get that scan booked so you have a date to focus on getting to rather than just worrying about the spotting.

Oh, and by the way, you haven't jinxed anything. Impossible. Promise.

Bakingtins Thu 28-Feb-13 08:09:11

I know it can be fine. I've had this with my DS2, and in fact had full on bleeding on and off for about 6 weeks and he's fine, but it has also been the way both my MC have started, so to my mind it's a Bad Sign. I don't really believe in jinxing things, just that I've been trying to ignore being pregnant and then the minute I have to make some plans, it all starts to go pear shaped. I know there is nothing I can do to change what happens, I'm going to carry on regardless. DH is working away today then I have to work the next 4 days so there is no chance of getting a scan before next Tuesday anyway and then only if I go to EPU, so I think I'll wait it out until the Thursday.

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 28-Feb-13 09:50:31

dietcoke, glad it's helped. I welled up just trying to word it properly!

Baking, how are you feeling today? Keeping everything crossed for you until next week.

I've been looking at baby stuff on eBay...trying to feel positive!

BraveLilBear Thu 28-Feb-13 09:59:40

Hey and congrats Anda and GBT <waves>

Twins, wow!

Baking so sorry to hear about the spotting. How are you doing today? It's scary I know but many many women experience spotting of some description, especially around the time they would have been due for AF. If you're really worried, can you call EPU for some advice and reassurance?


Bakingtins Thu 28-Feb-13 11:46:18

Thanks everyone. Hasn't got worse today. I did phone EPU, hoping that since I'm a frequent flyer and already on their system they'd just say I can go in next week, but no, I need another GP referral. I can't go until next week anyway, DH working away and I have school run to do and it's a first come first served thing, if you are not at the head of the queue before they open then forget it - they often send people away after they've waited for the 2 hours they open and tell them to come back tomorrow shock

BettyFlutterbly Thu 28-Feb-13 12:45:19

Can anyone take the kids to school for you one morning Baking?
I've really got everything crossed for you. I told pretty much everone I was pg when I saw them. I found that being open about the mc was easier for me than pretending everything was ok and a lot of my friends with kids have been through much worse so I just told them. I waited to tell my students (I teach English to adults, I live in Spain) until after the 12 wk scan.

Diet I'm sure you'll cope just fine with twins. It'll be tiring at first, as it is with one, but I have a few friends with twins and they are all doing just fine. I'm also wondering how I'm going to cope with a three year old and a newborn but am also just so excited about it!

I can't wait to stop working but still got a couple of busy months to go!!

AlmondFrangipani Thu 28-Feb-13 20:00:25

Baking sorry to hear about your spotting. I really hope that everything is fine for you. It is horrible feeling 1 minute that everything is ok and then to have that.

Betty I am already counting down the months until mat leave!! What is everyone thinking? I have been told I am likely to have a prem baby so I think I might try having 2 weeks hols then 2 weeks mat leave before my due date and hope I get some rest before the arrival.

Is anyone else huge already? I am quite petite (5ft 2) and look massive. I have been eating a lot but I have a big firm bump and huge boobs (I had to buy a size 18 bikini top today for holiday next week blush!!!).

andadietcoke Sat 02-Mar-13 10:55:26

In an ideal world I'd work as long as I could but I have a 2 hour round trip commute so realistically it'll depend on how long I can fit behind the wheel.

I've got some annual leave to carry over from this year so am going to save next year's up and tag it on to my maternity leave so I can get paid as long as possible. I'm really hoping the mw was trying to scare me when she said I might struggle after 28 weeks.

As for bumps - I think I have one, but sometimes I think I'm just fat!

BettyFlutterbly Mon 04-Mar-13 23:31:34

Hi ladies.
Sorry not posting much I never seem to stop!
My sis is coming to visit me on Weds, I can't wait for her to see the bump! I suppose I won't get to UK now before baby is born which is crap.

I am self employed so my maternity leave will be a bit different I think. We only get four months anyway in Spain but with dd I just didn't work much for at least a year and just taught the odd class.

My bump is pretty big now and I have been in maternity wear for ages. Im am just little too at less than 5ft. I was all bump with dd but am already gonna have to buy some bigger knickers this time!!

Are you all sleeping on your side? I'm tossing and turning all night at the moment.

Baking how are you?

Bakingtins Tue 05-Mar-13 03:03:50

Not great. Progressed to full on bleeding and cramping so think it's all over. I'll go to the scan anyway to have it confirmed (holding on to false hope about vanishing twins and the like) but I think I'm out. Don't let it put a damper on the thread though.

Bakingtins Fri 08-Mar-13 19:35:03

Ladies, please don't let me be a blight on the thread, I want you all to keep chatting now you've reconnected.

BumpKitty Fri 08-Mar-13 20:06:33

hi everyone, there's been a few BFPs on the creme egg thread so we're all going to join you.

baking I hope the tests show something that can be sorted and we see you back here soon xxx

GaryBuseysTeeth Fri 08-Mar-13 22:26:41

Baking, I hope the next few months are kinder to you ttc & hope to hear positive news from you soon. x

Almond, I'm 18wks (tomorrow!) and in maternity wear. Didn't get into this stuff until about 28wks with DS. and like you..huge boobs.

Betty, hope you've been having a wonderful time seeing your sister!
Tossing & turning all night here, thankfully leg cramps haven't started yet.

Does anyone feel that, because you've had a mc, you're being a bad sport for complaining about pregnancy related aches & annoyances?

I feel as though I should be enjoy this more than I am, and feel like a selfish cow when I catch myself moaning about something.

Bump, Congrats! I've seen how many BFP's came out today, amazing, look forward to welcoming everyone here.

Hope everyone has a good weekend!

andadietcoke Sat 09-Mar-13 08:45:54

Yes, Gary I start every sentence at home with 'I'm not complaining but...' And then feel bad.

I had my scan yesterday and all was well but they couldn't do any of the measurements (NT or EDD) because one twin was stretching and one twin was all curled up. I'd got into a right state about it, so have been off here for a few days and missed baking's news. I'm so sorry.

Bump congratulations! I can't believe there were three yesterday. I was sat in the ultrasound waiting room deciding it was a good omen smile So looking forward to having you all over here.

Bodicea Sat 09-Mar-13 08:49:49

hey marking my place tentatively on the graduate thread.
Feeling like crap today. Boobs even more enormous feel like they are about to pop and aching everywhere and feeling ratty. Might be the combination of caffeine withdrawal and being pregnant but this feels worse than the last two times I was PG. I suppose that is a good sign.
Got my to little nieces coming to stay with me for the day in half an hour. Hoping I can work up some energy.

Baking hope your tests can give you some help. They worked out a turning point for me so hopefully they will give you some answers too. I am pretty sure if you stamp your feet you can get it on the NHS x

BumpKitty Sat 09-Mar-13 12:38:45

thanks anda will you be having another scan then or do you just have to wait till 20 weeks? In any case I'm glad you got a chance to see your babies grin that'll be the naughty one that was all stretched out smile

Bod good luck with the nieces, you are a very good aunty. I have agreed to have my brother's one year old for a day in April when his nursery is shut and I'm tired just thinking about it - he literally does not keep still!

andadietcoke Sat 09-Mar-13 12:46:17

Yep, another scan on Tuesday. I thought I was going to get an extra one at 16w but I was told yesterday that wasn't the case at my hospital so I'll take any extra scans I can get! Then it'll only be 6 weeks to 20w and the next one.

BumpKitty Sat 09-Mar-13 13:30:43

Oh that's good fx they are more cooperative this time xx

shellshock7 Sun 10-Mar-13 08:49:58

Hi everyone, good to see some familiar faces over here. Just marking my place really, will prob wait to (hopefully) pass a few milestones before joining properly smile

gary I had PGP with DS and hated moaning as I was just so grateful to be PG....I've found myself thinking if this one sticks I won't complain at all...but I know I will! blush

andadietcoke Sun 10-Mar-13 09:49:38

Hi Shell, congratulations! I know exactly what you mean about milestones. Although saying that, when they went out of the window because I'm too impatient and need to talk about things nothing bad happened wink

I'm so superstitious. I've refused to buy the maternity clothes I desperately needed until after the scan, and then last night I had a bit of a panic that the NT measurements would be disastrous and so have hidden all my maternity clothes and all the bounty/Emma's diary freebies.

GaryBuseysTeeth Sun 10-Mar-13 11:51:44

Welcome shell! I stuck my fingers in my ears over this pg until the first scan, so hope you feel confident about joining in properly soon.
Welcome Bod, hope you had a wonderful time looking after your nieces.

dietcoke, I wasn't going to wear maternity until after 20wk scan, but I've been in it since 17wks...good luck for your scan on Tuesday!
It took 20mins to get this one's NT measurment, and she kept on saying 'Just a minute, just need to double check' over again, really thought it was going to be bad news! Grrrrh.

shellshock7 Sun 10-Mar-13 13:39:07

God, I was in maternity trousers at 7weeks last time shock

BettyFlutterbly Wed 13-Mar-13 00:02:15

Congratulatuions graduates!

Baking I'm really really sorry. I hope you'll be here again boasting your next bfp very soon.

When I was ttc I was desperate to have symptoms and now I feel like I really shouldn't complain about them. Tbh I think it is as much working and having a toddler that tires me out.

I'm 18 weeks today. My sis felt the baby kick yesterday, which is so nice as she goes home tomorrow and probably won't see the baby until xmas.

I must get some sleep-dd has just woken up what timing!!

Night x

IBelieveInPink Wed 13-Mar-13 07:19:06

Okay I wasn't going to join in until I more sure. I was just hovering quietly in the background. But I have to pipe up , dietcoke how did your second scan go? smile
I will resume lurking now..... At least until next week (first milestone)

andadietcoke Wed 13-Mar-13 07:38:42

Argh, I forgot to reply to your PM - sorry. It was okay(ish). Both NT measurements were under what I'd hoped for, but one twin was measured at 14w (from OPKs I can't be more that 13+4) and one twin at 12+3 so quite a big difference. I've been looking at the scan photos and the little twin is all curled up and the big one is all stretched out so I think there's quite a big margin for error in there and I'm trying not to be too worried. Have to go back at 16w to check the little one is growing. Apparently it's fairly normal for one twin to be bigger, it's just the size of the difference that has panicked me.

ibip see you in a week wink

AlmondFrangipani Wed 13-Mar-13 20:48:31

Hi Girls,

Thought I would check in. We went to Egypt last week for a last freedom holiday before the bambino! Good job we did as had 19 week scan today (thankfully all was fine) but been told to expect a c-section 32-34 weeks as I have an underlying kidney condition...yikes! I really need to get my head around the baby coming early, having a c-section, baby going into special care etc etc.

Glad to see some more 'graduates'! xx

BettyFlutterbly Wed 13-Mar-13 21:11:01

It must be double the worry having two in there to think about diet!! I'm sure they'll be fine. Was the girl the smaller baby? Girls are usually a bit smaller anyway.

Wow Almond did you know about the kidney problem before the scan? Hopefully with lots of rest and a good diet the little one can grow lots and will be home with you asap. I suppose it's good that you can prepare yourself for it all happening.

I am hoping I can get my mam over here well before my due date (13th Aug) as I really don't want my ils to have dd while Im in hospital. I know it's a bit early to worry but my fil was winding me up the other day saying that he's going to feed dd all the fatty sugary stuff I don't let her have while I'm in hosp. If my mam is here then dd can be happy at home and safe!! Omg they're awful.

Ok sorry to moan, Im going to eat and try to be in bed before midnight for once!

andadietcoke Wed 13-Mar-13 21:21:33

Betty I don't know the sexes yet, but yes, that did occur to me!!

Bodicea Thu 14-Mar-13 19:30:13

Hi peeps,
days are going very slowly. Scan next Tuesday. Will be 5 and half weeks ish - poss just 5 due to long cycle. Just want this week to disappear. Not sure if will se a heart beat but hopefully it will look like a nice sac and I can get started on the clexane.

diet coke don't worry about the sizes - are they separate sacks? - they are allowed a bit of discrepancy as if they are separate eggs they can be slightly different ages - slightly anyway . Plus if one is curled and one not, that probably explains a lot.

GaryBuseysTeeth Thu 14-Mar-13 20:05:12

Lurking on the ttc thread (don't feel right posting)...oooh looking forward to tomorrows POAS-watch!

diet, hope it's not worrying you too much, and you're not googling away!

Betty, your duedate is 3 days after mine, fancy a race? grin

Almond, that sounds slightly scary (early c-section), but 'glad' they're taking it seriously & you'll get to meet your baby safely. Glad you had a lovely holiday envy

Bodicea, I know how you feel! We had an early scan at 6wks...tuesday will drag for you! Morning or afternoon scan?

Not much to report here, 20wk scan is still two weeks away, can feel it kicking away most of the time which is lovely & reassuring.

Bodicea Thu 14-Mar-13 20:49:53

Morning - first thing - and I have to hide from all my colleagues as well as dodge questions as to why I am late starting my own scan list. Just realised today my boss had booked me an extra patient earlier than the scan lists usually start - we are having a baby boom - so had to tell one of my colleagues the deal to get her to cover for me. Such a nightmare they will prob all work it out.

BettyFlutterbly Thu 14-Mar-13 22:27:10

Lol Bodicea that sounds mad!

Gary you're on! Is this our first? It's my second, so maybe it'll come a bit earlier. As long as it waits until my mam arrives I don't mind!! When is your 20 week scan? Mine is 3rd April so I'll actually be 21 weeks. I can't wait!!!!!

Managed to dtd tonight (tmi?) which we both enjoyed. Poor oh is a bit neglected at the moment. I am going to bed far too late and am shattered all the time!

I said bye to my sis yesterday and I won't see her til xmas now when I'll hopefully have a four month old healthy baby in my arms.

Fingers crossed for all of you in your first trimester. Lets hope the next few weeks go quickly. X

BumpKitty Thu 14-Mar-13 22:42:48

Oooh bod I forgot you were a sonographer! Where are you based I'm sure you could sneak us all in for a few crafty scans grin

Bodicea Fri 15-Mar-13 08:08:56

Lol I'm using all my will power not to scan myself. It put me in a very bad place last time. It's so hard though :-(

andadietcoke Fri 15-Mar-13 11:39:25

Yay for all our imminent new graduates!! This Friday system they've got going on seems to be working a treat!

Bod thank you! I'm trying to be rational (first time this pregnancy) and yes, they're in different sacs.

Work is a nightmare at the moment. Have just asked DH if I can hand my notice in. Wonder what the response to that will be...! I'm a manager and my team have been told yesterday their jobs are at risk of redundancy because of changing business needs. Spent most of today and yesterday in tears and just don't want to be here.

Bodicea Fri 15-Mar-13 16:15:10

dietcoke that sounds a horrible thing to have to deal with. Do you think you might consider leaving. Two babies is a lot deal with. Although it might be worth hanging on I there for the mat leave x

BumpKitty Fri 15-Mar-13 19:11:06

Hi all anda might be worth working out how likely you are to go back to that job after the twins are here, childcare is going to be pretty high for two ( maybe bring that into the conversation with DH!) also could you maybe take voluntary redundancy?

Nothing to report here, apart from mega stressful time with sick DH, sick DD and now sick dog, meant to be going away next week for a desparately needed break but looking unlikely that the kennels will take the dog, could anything just be simple ever!

andadietcoke Fri 15-Mar-13 19:35:51

Fortunately I'm very lucky and have a very well paid job, and as I earn considerably more than DH it will always be financially viable for me to go back to work, even with twins in childcare. So predictably, DH said no.

I had been told I'd be able to avoid the exceptionally stressful meetings, but actually the reverse is happening and the CEO is seemingly putting me into meetings that I don't need to legally be in, perhaps to protect other managers that will still be there after I'm on maternity leave? I don't know. So if I can't opt out of meetings, my only option to avoid all of this would be to get signed off with stress which isn't really in my DNA. Argh.

JanieLovesCake Sat 16-Mar-13 15:41:26

hello ladies! just dipping my toe in the graduate thread as i got a BFP yesterday smile in a bit of a daze about it all in that i still can't really believe it!! lovely to see so many familiar faces here though. hope you are all doing well and enjoying your pregnancies! there were 4 BFPs (ncl. mine) yesterday which is awesome!! fx for sticky beans all round! xx

AlmondFrangipani Sat 16-Mar-13 17:10:32

Congrats Janie!! Welcome aboard. Lovely to hear about all the BFPs.

After the shock of being told about the early arrival I am now trying to sort my mat leave out. It's very hard to decide when to go...got 2 weeks hols to take so thinking of having that week 31-32 and starting mat leave wk 33. Feels do early!!shock Decisions, Decisions!!

JanieLovesCake Sat 16-Mar-13 17:57:38

thanks almond! got everything crossed!

bodicea i hope you don't mind me picking your sonographer brains... i am a bit ahead of myself but i'm just trying to work out my due date - ish. all the online calculators seem to measure your due date by the LMP date and base it on a 28 day cycle...although my cycles are 46 days so they're dating me as 6 weeks pg which i know can't be right.

also, did you guys keep up any exercise during early pg? i've been doing 2 spin / body combat classes each week but worried it might be too intense. i was doing it to lose weight and also doing slimming world and i really would like to keep my fitness levels up so i don't turn into a complete slob!! i know weight gain is inevitable but i've done so well to lose 2 stone i would love to try my best so it's easier on the other side (if all goes to plan obv!)

Bodicea Sat 16-Mar-13 18:11:23

Janie at our hospital we take the due date based on the LMP unless there is more than 7 days difference either way from the date worked out at the scan. In which case the scan date trumps the LMP date. I am not sure if it is the same everywhere.
If you are not having any early scans and you are arranging the date for your 12 weeks scan count two weeks back from when your period was due and then 12 weeks from that date. Does that make sense? But only if you are very sure that baby is not a far on as they think as you don't want to miss the window for your nuchal test ( that's if you are having one).
If you get an early scan then that should make things a bit clearer so you can make sure NT/dating scan is at right time.
I am sure that is clear as mud smile

Bodicea Sat 16-Mar-13 18:14:02

Sorry I didnt answer your main question - to work out your due date count two weeks back from when your period was due and count that as your LMP

JanieLovesCake Sat 16-Mar-13 18:20:44

ah thanks bodicea that does make sense, thank you. i'm hoping i might try to get an early scan if possible due to my complications last time when they misdiagnosed with a molar pg after the d&c. it was in fact lots of watery cysts rather than a partial molar so i'm not sure if the gp might take that into consideration if i beg for an early scan. this is still not properly sinking in. one hlf of me is dancing, the other is totally petrified

andadietcoke Sat 16-Mar-13 18:46:26

Yay Janie!! Welcome! I can't believe how many successes there are from the thread over the last two weeks!

Bodicea Sat 16-Mar-13 18:49:54

Janie - I am sure the GP will think that's fair enough as you have been messed around. If not cry and stamp your feet. That usually does the trick for me xxxx

AlmondFrangipani Sat 16-Mar-13 19:00:51

Janie with regard to exercise I was doing quite a bit before I got pregnant (netball/gym). I felt fine until about 7 weeks then the dreaded morning sickness kicked in. I wasnt sick but felt like I had the hangover from hell and on the verge of puking all the time. This lasted until 14 weeks for me sad. So...long story short I would maybe ease off on the non-contact stuff and just see how you feel. I also found from 10 weeks ish my hips had loosened up and I hurt my back by overdoing things. The best advice would be to listen to your body and consider switching to swimming or something less impact which is still good cardio?

JanieLovesCake Sat 16-Mar-13 19:11:13

hey anda hope you're doing well with your twins!! how exciting!! and i think there have been 7 or 8 bfps over the last 2 weeks! there must be something in the water smile

thanks for the advice almond yes i definitely don't want to overdo it. i might start walking on my lunch break...i was thinking about walking to work each morning but if morning sickness kicks in then that's that idea bucked out the window!

off to a friend's tonight for takeaway and ryan gosling movie! she'll be wondering why i'm not having wine! ah well pear and elderflower is way nicer anyway. wine...yuk trying to convince myself

have a good night ladies, xxx

Bodicea Sat 16-Mar-13 19:38:41

Sorry just realised I have got confused. It's 4 weeks back from when period was due not 2 to get lmp!!! Doh !!!!!

BumpKitty Sat 16-Mar-13 22:06:28

Hey janie I was doing slimming world too and I've lost just over a stone in 5 weeks smile I don't particularly want to carry on going as £5 a week is a bit of a waste if your weight is going up! But... I can't seem to go back to normal eating! I know the slimming world diet isn't bad for you but I'm losing 3-4 pounds a week still. Are you going to carry on going?

Big wave to everyone else

andadietcoke Sat 16-Mar-13 22:22:06

bumpkitty I was told at my booking in appt to go to slimming world, and they have a maternity version endorsed by the royal college of midwives. As I've not had the luxury of being that choosy about what I can eat over the last month or so I haven't got there yet, but as the nausea/sickness is subsiding I might try this week. I have it in my pregnancy notes that I've discussed it with my midwife and she's happy for me to go (I think the SW leaders want you to have talked to a HCP about it).

Well done though - a stone in 5 weeks is brilliant grin

IBelieveInPink Sun 17-Mar-13 07:45:44

<<sneaks in door and waves>>
Hey all. Looks like this one may be a sticky one so I am going to stop lurking. Just got my 3+ on a digi and now 5 weeks, so I'm trotting over to join this Fred.
Milestone number 1 passed. Now for milestone number 2 at 8 weeks.
Love that this Fred is here. Am so not brave enough to joing the november Fred (have you seen how big it is?!) so am settling here for now if that's okay.

How's everyone doing? smile

andadietcoke Sun 17-Mar-13 08:25:33

Oh ibip I just got a bit teary! You and those blimmin CB digis! I never got round to doing mine as was too chicken shit but I'm so pleased for your 3+. If only they went higher than that (but then you'd be bankrupt!!).

Hopefully your GP will refer you for an early scan in a couple of weeks and that will help too. If not, the private scan option was great, but wait as long as you can so you get more out of it. DH was shocked at the difference in information between my dating scan and the private scan (for obvious reasons - they don't have the luxury of time and have to report so many more measurements) so was actually pleased we paid for a scan in the end because she showed us the cord blood going in and pumping around and little things like that. So even though it seems like a luxury to ease your anxiety, there are other benefits too.

For now, yaaaaaaaay! Very happy to have you here grin

AlmondFrangipani Sun 17-Mar-13 08:33:35

Yeah IBIP!! So great to see you here!! I couldn't face the other threads either! I had the same milestones, 5 wks, 8 wks, 12 wk scan, 14 wks and now I'm 20 wks! I think it's the best way to approach it. Xxx

IBelieveInPink Sun 17-Mar-13 08:34:23

Thanks dietcoke. Made me a little teary too!

Im actually kinda glad the digis don't go above 3+. I despise clearblue and their profiteering ways (even though I can't stay away from their sticks) so will be happy not to have to give them any more money hopefully!

Gonna go and get pg pack from docs tomorrow. Meep.

I had heard that about private. I would love to just book it in and go for it, but DH is tight careful with money, so will have to wait and see.
And until then, sit very still and think growing thoughts!! smile

IBelieveInPink Sun 17-Mar-13 08:36:27

almond 20 weeks seems like a very long way off! Will get there slowly though. I bet it has felt like ages for you to get there too! smile

Have you had your 20 week scan yet?

JanieLovesCake Sun 17-Mar-13 10:08:59

hi ibip i popped in here too!

and thanks for the pm bod i might have replied twice by accident as i tried on my phone and then on computer as it didn't seem to have sent.

i'll probably keep going to SW for a bit as i don't want to stop straightaway in case things don't work out. but yeah i don't want to pay to put on weight! but if i can get another few weeks out of it then i'd be delighted. my diet was pretty healthy before i started, it was all the wee chocolatey treats etc and booze. haven't drunk the last couple of weekends and managed to lose so maybe that'll keep going! never managed the 3 or 4lb losses though, wish i did. always just 1 here, 1.5 there.

Happy St. Patricks Day from Ireland everyone smile

JanieLovesCake Sun 17-Mar-13 17:57:19

Lordy is it normal for me to be having the most atrocious mood swings? One minute I'm lovely nice calm janie, the next minute I'm being irrational crying super bitch. Poor DH can do nothing right. This is worse than pmt shock

IBelieveInPink Sun 17-Mar-13 18:01:21

I hope so Janie because I am too! Seriously I properly booed yesterday because I couldn't get comfortable on the sofa. Wtf?

JanieLovesCake Sun 17-Mar-13 18:07:01

Oh pink thank goodness it's not me. I just swore at my hair bobble cos it was pulling my hair in my ponytail. Like seriously that's not normal behaviourblush

AlmondFrangipani Sun 17-Mar-13 19:02:28

IBIP, yes 20 weeks has taken a long time to get to! I definitely haven't been an earth mother and neurotic the whole time. I hated guiltily the first trimester as I was moody (see ur getting that), sick, tired, felt fat and and twinges a lot. Felt do wrong to feel like that after all the heartache of the mc but I just did! So 20 weeks feels good! Had my scan last wk and all fine which is helping me relax. We opted for the surprise wink. Just got to get my head around it coming v early now so nice prob got 12-14 weeks left of pregnancy!!

IBelieveInPink Sun 17-Mar-13 19:26:53

Ah just read back a bit almond- wow that's soon! Must be exciting/ scary at same time. Do you know how long you/baby will have to be in hospital afterwards?

Janie- I didn't realise what it was the other day. My friend sent me a pic of the wall art she is putting in her nursery - I literally sobbed. Hysterically. Thank goodness DH wasn't here to see it. Already thinks im mental.

AlmondFrangipani Sun 17-Mar-13 20:44:39

I was a bit shocked at first but think I am getting my head around it now. The bit I am most worried about is not being able to do the 'normal' things straight away (like holding the baby after birth and it going to the special care babies unit). But I guess what will be will be and I just need to be strong about it. It is a bit of a wait and see game so I if the baby comes at 32 weeks it could be in for awhile but it if come at 36/38 weeks it will be less. It also depends on how big it is and if there are any complications.

I was exactly the same with the hormones at first. It has definitely eased off now but I do get irrationally emotional occasionally still!!

IBelieveInPink Sun 17-Mar-13 21:28:21

Wow almond. Fingers crossed everything goes smoothly for you and bub.

Okay, seriously concerned now. Just settled down to eat a few whole bag of my favourite sensations crisps, and couldn't face more than a handful. And don't even talk to me about the guacamole that I was trying to eat with it!
What the chuff is going on?!

andadietcoke Mon 18-Mar-13 07:25:26

ibip [whispers] symptoms! They will drive you crazy. I don't really have cravings yet but have completely gone off lots of favourites! The only craving I did have was sea salt and balsamic vinegar kettle chips because they stopped me feeling sick long enough to get an appetite for dinner. Now I can't even look at the sodding things!

IBelieveInPink Mon 18-Mar-13 13:37:18

Hey ladies.
Okay I think I need a little sense talked into me. Can someone help please?
I am panicking about what I should do next. So am more confident hormones going up now, but what next? When I went to te docs after mc 2- they said there is nothing that can be done. Even when I get pg again. And my doctors policy is that you don't book to see a doctor, you just pop in and get a pregnancy pack from reception, and wait for a midwife to call you.
So, what do I do? Do I try and see a doc anyway, knowing they will probably do nothing at all? Do I wait for a midwife to call me and then panic on the phone to her? I don't think I am really thinking straight, any help with be appreciated smile

andadietcoke Mon 18-Mar-13 13:58:33

Right lovely. Get on the midwife list. She will ring you back to make an appt and you can then panic at her at will on the phone. If your hospital has an EPU you can ring them and ask if they'll do a reassurance scan but I would wait until you think you're 7 weeks because they should be able to see a heartbeat then. Unfortunately, until then, it's just waiting. Eat well, drink lots of water, take your vitamins xx

JanieLovesCake Mon 18-Mar-13 14:03:42

Oh ibip that's a very frustrating position to be in. I think anda's advice sounds pretty spot on.

I'm just on folic acid at the mo, what other vitamins should I be taking?

TMI alert...I had some of that brown stuff when I wiped last night (prob from implantation I guess) today it's gone a kinda khaki colour with little brown specks - only when I wipe, not on knickers. Hopefully this is ok so long as its not blood red?

IBelieveInPink Mon 18-Mar-13 14:10:28

Thank you. That is the sensible talk I needed. smile in just so scared I am missing something that may cause/not prevent another one.
But you are right. Will go pick up my pack tonight and get registered.

Janie- it sounds okay to me but how annoying and worrying for you sad why ist mother nature being kind, have we not been through enough?!

andadietcoke Mon 18-Mar-13 14:14:40

Janie I had 'brown stuff' for the best part of ten days from about six weeks. Ended up getting scanned at the EPU because I had pain too I think now it was trapped wind pain but they said it was just from bedding in. Brown is normally okay. No pain is very good.

Vitamins. I feel like I should be rattling. I'm on high dose folic acid, vitamin d, ferrous sulphate and aspirin. Vitamin D is my only recommendation if you're already on folic acid. The midwife told me to take it but I was already on it, as I'd found stuff on the Internet linking vitamin d deficiency to miscarriages so I thought it was worth a go. I get 25ug from Boots.

shellshock7 Mon 18-Mar-13 14:25:00

pink I on the other hand have just munched my way thru a whole giant bag of sensations while DS is asleep next to me blush. We don't see MW here till 12 weeks either so am gonna speak to GP abt reassurance scan smile

janie what a nightmare, brown is good tho and no pain is even better smile

IBelieveInPink Mon 18-Mar-13 14:39:18

Shell - jealous. DH ate ALL my crisps. Not that I wanted then, but still.
How's mini shell doing?

Just googled early scans. £70 where I am. And there is a date that I could get off work which is when I would be 7+5. Tempted.....

shellshock7 Mon 18-Mar-13 14:44:06

He's still very poorly, but we got some smiles this morning which really cheered us up smile

I would do it, with DS I had to have that scan I couldn't cope with the worry....this time I have surprised myself by saying to DH last night that I think the stress of going for the scan might be worse than the wait for 12w...does that make any sense?!

IBelieveInPink Mon 18-Mar-13 15:28:45

Kind of. Yeah. Already getting myself worked up thinking about it and clearing the weekend after in case it bad news!

At what stage did you go for scan with your ds? Is 7+5 far enough along?

shellshock7 Mon 18-Mar-13 15:41:35

Went at 8 weeks as that's when the MMC had actually stopped growing, you could see heartbeat etc. but still looked like a kidney bean not a baby like at 12 smile

shellshock7 Mon 18-Mar-13 15:42:34

Also if you didn't ovulate on CD14 I'd adjust to make sure you are 7+5 not earlier iyswim

IBelieveInPink Mon 18-Mar-13 15:48:10

To be honest, I just want to go along and see a heartbeat. Both mcs have stopped at 5 weeks, one the sac carried on growing, the next it didn't. So I kinda just want to see that there is something with a heartbeat, and my body isn't growing an empty sac again.

shellshock7 Mon 18-Mar-13 16:09:26

If you can afford it go as soon as you can then, you could always go again later smile

IBelieveInPink Mon 18-Mar-13 16:42:03

Ha no! DH will only allow me one. Will see how long I can hold out smile

JanieLovesCake Mon 18-Mar-13 18:06:53

thanks for the advice on the wipage girls. fx it's all fine and dandy. i think i'll defo try to get an early scan. i'm hoping i might be able to get one at epu following my last issues post mc but maybe that's wishful thinking. otherwise there's only one private clinic here that offers it (£100 gulp). if i can afford it then i'll get it.

MrsExcited Mon 18-Mar-13 18:52:11

Just wanted to wish you all the very best of luck, have just got off the October bus (very chatty) I would like to join this one soon.

BumpKitty Tue 19-Mar-13 07:17:33

Hi all, how are you all doing? I'm having a bit of a wobble, just don't feel very pg sad I was getting a few stretching twinges and sensations going on in my womb but now nothing at all and only 'symptoms' are being tired and constipated which could be non pg anyway, it's do crap thinking if this one isn't going to go well the only option is going through all of this again sad sorry to be so depressing x

andadietcoke Tue 19-Mar-13 07:30:26

bumpkitty enjoy it. It drove me mad when people said that to me, but it's true. I was desperate to feel awful and was jealous of people throwing up and feeling like crap. Truth is, there are lots of people on my September thread that got to their 12 week scan thinking they'd imagined their pregnancy. My nausea kicked in about 7 weeks, and the vomiting from about 8 weeks. By week 9 I couldn't imagine why I'd ever wished for morning sickness. Oh, and then you worry again when it goes!!

shellshock7 Tue 19-Mar-13 08:07:38

bump snap! I too have constipation and that's it really, was nauseas at first but that's gone so don't feel PG at all really now.....but it was like this with DS, got more symptoms with the MMC confused

IBelieveInPink Tue 19-Mar-13 09:13:09

Ah bump I feel like tht too. Every morning I wake up and manically poke boobs to see if they still hurt.
I had a nightmare last night that I lost this one too. They hospital (in my nightmare) told me it was because the foetus had contracted pneumonia! Woke up hysterically crying which was lovely. That is just my paranoia isn't it, it doesn't mean bebby has gone again?! Argh!!!!

andadietcoke Tue 19-Mar-13 09:28:11

ibip it definitely doesn't. I've had 3 or 4 mc dreams. Really graphic horrid things. In my most recent one I had two mc dreams in quick succession in the same night but in the second one i knew that the first one was a dream. By the time I woke up I was extremely confused and very surprised to still be pregnant!

It's just your sub consciousness expressing your fears. They are horrid though, and have really freaked me out xx

BumpKitty Tue 19-Mar-13 16:21:49

Ah I'm so pleased we can all be jibbering wrecks together! No one in real life understands. Sorry about the bad dreams ibip and anda xx

AlmondFrangipani Tue 19-Mar-13 17:38:58

Hi all

Sorry you are feeling worried. If it makes you feel any better I had a lot if twinges early on and the pain at 6 weeks. I instantly thought it was all over and got referred to the EPU for a scan. Things were fine but it didn't stop me worrying. I was like that up to recently to be honest. I just tried to tell myself positive mind = positive body but I know easier said than done! Still knicker checking now...

IBelieveInPink Tue 19-Mar-13 18:48:08

The knicker checking goes on?! Oh balls! In sure everyone at work thinks I have issues as it is, we have 1 toilet at work so everyone probably thinks I have issues right now!

To update, I did the sensible thing as instructed and got registered with the midwife. Just waiting for a phone call for appointment now so I can request a nice early one, and perhaps an early scan at the same time. The woman behind reception at the doctors said anything up to 10 weeks! I cannot wait that long!!!!

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 19-Mar-13 19:09:23


MrsExcited, sorry to hear you've been kicked off a bus...hope to see you here very soon.

Shell, I went for a scan at 6+6wks, there was a blob & the flicker of a heartbeat...good luck for yours (when you decide to book one in).

I'm 19wks & still knicker checking, and the doppler is getting a proper workout. Betty, my scan is next week & we're hoping to find out the sex. 2nd baby for us too, although DS was a 37wk induction so I have no idea what the start of a natural labour feels like!
Next milestone for me is a good scan next week so I can order my 'count the kicks' bracelet....still haven't told many people in real life!

Janie, any update on your wiping situation?

JanieLovesCake Tue 19-Mar-13 19:14:19

oh those dreams! i've had the - 'had a baby and not able to look after it properly' dream and also a dream where my mum was looking after the baby and brought it back in the pram, but the baby was actually my cat with it's eyebrow pierced WTF?!?!?!?

ibip i was the same with the work loo today - i kept thinking i was a bit 'squidgy' down there and panicked so kept running to the loo to knicker check.

i've got my doctors appointment on thursday afternoon to get registered. no sore boobs here, but i do have a weird metallic taste that i read is a symptom so hopefully that's good.

i'm off on a 2 night hen do this weekend, don't want to tell any of the girls that i'm pg as waaaaay too early so i'm not sure how i'll do the whole 'not drinking' thing. i was chatting to the hen today and told her i had a docs appointment n thursday as i had crampy tum she knows about my last mc) so maybe i can play the 'on medication' card.

JanieLovesCake Tue 19-Mar-13 19:15:45

hi gary so far so good on the wipage thank you! it seems to be gone now so fx it's all good!! xx

GardenWorm Tue 19-Mar-13 19:41:28

Hello <tentative wave> was lurking but sod it I want to enjoy this pregnancy (today I am pregnant and all that posifrickintive!) so am sticking my head above the parapet at 4+2! Ha! How ridiculously early....

Janie you will have to use the antibiotics line me thinks smile

IBelieveInPink Tue 19-Mar-13 19:42:17

Ooh Janie I have one for that! DH came up with this one!
We are going for a meal next week for his birthday with all his friends, most inconvenient!
So, we have bought a bottle of weight watchers wine and non alcohol wine. I am going to pour the ww wine away (it's vile anyway) and fill it up with the non alcohol! Will look just like I am drinking, and no one will steal any as it is special fat free wine!!!
Of course this only works with drinking at home or byo restaurants but it may help?!

JanieLovesCake Tue 19-Mar-13 19:50:49

hey garden i was just asking after you on the ttc thread!! i couldn't resist. TODAY I AM PREGNANT YAAY!!

pink you are a genius!!!!! (or should i say mr blue/pink is!!) that may well be the best i've ever heard! i have never been known to throw wine away but i think i could chuck ww wine away as i tried it before and it's properly rank! we are staying in apartments and we're having tea and games there on the friday night so it's a byo night. ok so a couple of girls are on weight watchers...do you think they might want to try it? does non alcoholic wine taste of wine?

andadietcoke Tue 19-Mar-13 19:52:15

Whaaaaat?! The knicker checking doesn't stop?! This is bad news, bad news indeed.

I've got a new obsession though...movement, and worrying about the twin which isn't moving as much as the other one. In fact, at only 15w, this 'movement' might be completely imagined anyway. Oh well, 16w scan on Tuesday, and still got all sorts of work shit to contend with (one to one consultations tomorrow) so maybe that will distract me!

Hello gardenworm welcome to a hot bed of neuroticness! wink

BumpKitty Tue 19-Mar-13 19:52:49

Ooh that's sneaky ibip smile one of my friends is pg and didn't want to tell us too early so at our Christmas get together she pretended to have fallen down the stairs and be on strong pain killers, she was entirely convincing!

GardenWorm Tue 19-Mar-13 19:53:55

Sneaky! But now if I see someone with weight watchers wine I will always think they are pregnant!!!!

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 19-Mar-13 19:57:18

Janie, glad to hear everything seems to be better! Fingers crossed.
I like IBIP's suggestion of the nasty WW alcohol.
You could always have a blood test/followup at Drs on Monday and don't want to have an abnormal result due to getting smashed at the weekend?
You can't give blood if you've had a drink in the last 24hrs.
Urm, just volunteer to be the designated sensible one?

<waves> at Garden, welcome!

GardenWorm Tue 19-Mar-13 19:58:36

Hello Janie and Anda grin - am so up for this I've got every symptom going however clearly I can read into this in a negative way as with DC1 I had none! Argh!!!

GardenWorm Tue 19-Mar-13 19:59:47

Ooh and Gary (clearly moving too quick for me - another symptom; baby brain!)

IBelieveInPink Tue 19-Mar-13 20:05:12

Janie - perfect for the Friday you can do garys and Saturday use the blood test excuse! If they ask to try it, say yes, but unfortunately they cant have a glass as you have only brought one bottle and you want to know how many points you are having! smile

Hey garden! Good to see you here.

Dietcoke, wow that's gone quick! 16 week scan? Yaay.

Mr pink is very smug that you all like his idea. smile

JanieLovesCake Tue 19-Mar-13 20:10:23

god you girls are so good! gotta love the blood tests! i did in fact have to go for fortnightly blood tests for months after my last mc and the hen knew so maybe she won't ask too many questions as it's pretty sensitive. dammit i bet no one on the hen party even gives a toss haha!! just hope the shots don't come out!

i just read another one online... bring some bottled beers, let everyone see you opening it and tip it to your mouth (without drinking) to make it look like you're drinking. then go to the loo and tip it out and fill it up with tap water smile drink away!!

shellshock7 Tue 19-Mar-13 20:15:34

Oh the Doppler gary roll on 10-11 weeks it was a god send till I felt DS move regularly grin

Hi to everyone else smile

IBelieveInPink Tue 19-Mar-13 20:26:04

Dopplar? What is one of these? And how do I use it? Is that what you listen to bebbys heartbeat with?

andadietcoke Tue 19-Mar-13 20:35:35

ibip yep. I both want one, and don't want one, simultaneously. I think it would make me even more neurotic than I am already trying to find two heartbeats!!

shellshock7 Tue 19-Mar-13 20:39:36

I got the angel sounds one from amazon (you need some jelly too) and it was the best thing...I rationed myself to once a week unless I had a real symptom to worry abt, so I wouldn't get obsessed and it was such a reassurance after the MMC.

People say that it can cause more stress if you can't find the heartbeat but I drank a pint of water and waited till I was desperate for a wee and always found it within a coupla minutes smile

Bodicea Tue 19-Mar-13 20:45:12

Hi everyone.
Big hello to garden - yay glad to see you here

So had my scan today. It was good, in that there is a nice sac and nice yolk sac and it looks fine. Tiny blip of a fetal pole but no heart beat yet. Bit disappointed but I knew it was a probably a bit too early due to my longish cycle. Just annoyed as I think even a couple of days later and I would have got a heartbeat. So I now have another week of stressing as being scanned next Tuesday. However they put me straight onto clexane so that's a good thing I had the scan so early I suppose. Midwife made me do it and found it harder than I thought. Just had to seriously psyche myself up to stick the needle in and balked the first time. Anyway did it and it stings like a bitch!!! and got a nice bruise and blood blister there now. Hopefully will make a better job of it tomorrow but might get hubby to "have a go" Feeling a bit sorry for myself at the thought of doing this for a year. Might order myself some swimsuits for holiday in may as thinking my lovely array of bikinis aint gonna look so hot with a tummy full of bruises :-( Please excuse my self pity party.

Pink I had a nightmare that I had MC too and I also squeeze my boobs too every morning - and throughout most of the day come to think of it. Guess all of this is natural for us.

As for symptom spotting got my first wave of nausea - ever (like in any pregnancy) this morning. Also been getting that metallic taste in my mouth ( so glad on a par with jane - must be a proper symptom then) and feels like it fills with saliva more then usual (sorry TMI).

Sorry for the long post xxx

andadietcoke Tue 19-Mar-13 20:57:45

Bod!!!!!! Yay for a successful scan. And Tuesday isn't far away at all (or so I keep telling myself!). So pleased for you that everything's on track. The injections sound delightful, but all for a good cause, and as you say, the earlier the better grin

Ps 6 more sleeps wink

shellshock7 Tue 19-Mar-13 21:07:33

That's great bod and the needles will get easier as time goes on smile

IBelieveInPink Tue 19-Mar-13 21:09:48

Bod- my friend has had to do that all the way through her pg. she gets scared too, but keeps thinking of the result at the end of it!
Yay for a good scan. smile

Dopplar sounds interesting!!! Hmmm.

Ooh I want a scan!!!

BettyFlutterbly Tue 19-Mar-13 22:14:54

Just popping in to say hi and goodnight.

Far too tired to comment on much, I seem to have missed loads!!

Baby is having a little kick about which makes my exhaustion seem worth it!

19 weeks today yey half way there!!!

Sleep well ladies, we deserve it.

JanieLovesCake Tue 19-Mar-13 22:20:16

Ooh bod that's great that your scan went well! How many weeks are you now? And now that you mention it, I know that saliva thing you're having...I think...unless I'm now imagining it too!! Good luck with the needles, I hope it gets easier each time smile

Just watched the new series of the syndicate, was really good. If only we could win the lottery, I think I'd buy a time machine to 12 weeks smile night night all, x

JanieLovesCake Tue 19-Mar-13 22:22:58

And I really shouldn't be googling dopplars (they look amazing!)...or maternity dresses for a July wedding...or maternity pyjamas. Getting a bit ahead of myself here!!

Yay Betty, sounds like you deserve a good nights sleep smile

shellshock7 Tue 19-Mar-13 23:09:35

I asked my mum for maternity Pjs for Xmas when I was PG in December...I'm sure she has them somewhere ready to give to me if this works out hmm but ill bring some posifrickintivity over from our other thread and say its good cos I'm defo gonna need them smile

Nice one betty love them kicks smile

bunchofposy Wed 20-Mar-13 10:42:14

Ooh hello, I've just realised that I am a laura ashley graduate! Marking place and will have a scan through. I haven't posted much since I got my BFP as I wasn't quite sure where to go. Lovely to see some friendly nicknames. x

Bodicea Wed 20-Mar-13 11:15:08

Thanks guys for being So nice. i am sure will get used to needles soon.

Waves to posy how far along are you?

Can I just recommend that everyone stays away from the dopplers they are v bad!!!

janie can't really date it yet but looking more like my mumsnet date of 18th than lmp date of 16th which is a I expected.

shell what are maternity pjs like. I've got some cotton nightys is with a support bit in the boob area from bravissimo they are super comfy and think will be great later on as I imagine won't want any kind of waist band near the bump.

So gettig ahead of myself and thinging about later on. my friend is getting mArried in October - not sure of exact date yet and hen do is some time in September. Hen do About a 3-4 hour drive away and wedding more like a 2 hour drive. That's doable right?
Also was planning a week away on south coast in September. Is that a bad idea now. Should I do it earlier - was trying to avoid school hols.

bunchofposy Wed 20-Mar-13 11:32:36

Just done a bit of reading back, so before I forget everything:

Bod congrats on the scan! I would be dreadful if I had a doppler on hand. When is the baby due? I declined a hen do at about 36 weeks last time, and didn't go to the wedding as it was 5 days after my DD was born. But I probably would have been fine with the hen do tbh, in retrospect.

diet congrats on the twins! Wow. How far along are you now? Has it sunk in yet? (apols if it's old news!)

almond glad all is going well - maternity leave is in sight now! Sorry to hear about your kidney problem. Hope you can hold off the c-section for as long as poss, but I am glad that it's been spotted and that you have a plan in place.

I can't remember who asked about exercise but I have just been trying to walk a lot and have done a pregnancy dvd a few times. But last time I was pregnant I did too much early on and developed bad hips, so I took it easy in the first trimester (when I felt dreadful anyway!)

I also wondered about slimming world. Can you actually join when you are pregnant then? I just don't want to put on too much weight as I have also lost a lot since having DD and don't want to go back to square one!

Betty whereabouts are you in Spain? (jealous!)

Nice to 'see' you all smile

GardenWorm Wed 20-Mar-13 13:57:57

Bod great scan news, I really think the injections could become second nature in a few weeks. I say do anything and everything you can fit in before due date. You'll need things to look forward to otherwise the last slog can drag! I worked pretty much right up to due date with DC1, and then drummed my fingers just waiting as she was a week late. Your body will let you know if you can't do it grin

IBelieveInPink Wed 20-Mar-13 14:04:05

Bod - I agree with garden. You can always pull out nearer the time if you can't face it!

Just got my midwife appointment through. Not for ages! 11th April. What's more I asked the lady on the phone if I could have anything it the way of a scan sooner, 2 mcs etc etc. not a chance. Pah. So looks like I will be going private unless I go crying to docs. Hmm not sure what to do now.

BumpKitty Wed 20-Mar-13 14:36:40

Oh ibip sorry the mw was so unhelpful, is the private option doable for you? It's £79 near me but I'm more worried about the fact it's not a dr doing it just some amateur set up. Hmmmm

bod I went to a hen weekend in oct when due with my DD in Dec, it was fine but someone else drove me. The more interesting bit was the wedding itself, I was 6 days overdue and decided to go anyway, my waters broke during the ceremony but I had DD the next day. I probably wouldn't do that again!

GardenWorm Wed 20-Mar-13 16:01:04

Ha ha Bump grin. Pah to your MW ibip - I've pretty much resigned myself to fact that I will be paying for a scan. Don't want to make a midwife appt as last time I had my MC the next day - silly I know. I have found a place in Kent that has an ex NHS consultant doing the scan, costs about £90 but I figure if there is something wrong he may at least throw some free pointers in as to what I should do next.

shellshock7 Wed 20-Mar-13 16:35:49

bod last time mine were strappy vest tents tops with extra boob support and the pants were under the bump...could just wear normal PJ bottoms I suppose smile

I did loads when massively PG last time...went to a gig at 38 weeks, it's up to you really smile

Sorry abt your MW appt pink that private scan is looking more likely then?

Ha ha bump I bet that was eventful!!

garden I know what you mean, it's like tempting fate....I've got a wedding on Sat and booked into an £80 hotel room, gonna cancel and drive but not until the last minute just in case it all goes wrong before then and I'm sure to want a drink confused

Bodicea Wed 20-Mar-13 18:26:48

PinkI can't believe they won't give you a scan after 2 mc's. that is ridiculous, talk about postcode lottery. Soft at our place, scan for anything and everything. Just tell them your bleeding ( don't say I said that)!

bump that is hilarious. Hope you didn't upstage the bride.?! My issue with hen do is no one to drive me - token northerner going to see southern Uni pals. Hmmm may look a trains. Actually just looked will not be a far as thought. Should be ok. Talk about getting ahead of self!

JanieLovesCake Wed 20-Mar-13 19:04:34

bump i'm sorry i had to laugh! that must have been eventful to say the least!

that's annoying about your mw appointment pink. how mant weeks will you be by then?

<waves> at posy! welcome! how far on are you now? it was me that was talking about excerise and sw. i'm not sure about joining when pg. they have a 7 day plan on their website which might be worth a nosey. basically it's just about cutting out the crap and cooking most stuff from scratch using health ingredients. i don;t think i'll tell them i'm pg just yet...i think i'll buy the 6 weeks for the price of 5 next week just to keep me going for a while, then i'll play it by ear if it's worth carrying on while pg (and if this bebby sticks of course). let me know how you get on if you do join, would be interesting to hear what they say.

bod trains are way more fun - you can read cheesey magazines, sleep, eat and there's a loo!! but nice to drive too so you can just head off when you feel like it.

IBelieveInPink Wed 20-Mar-13 19:06:01

Well I did it. Talk about going the whole hog. Just phoned up to enquire how busy they are and ended up booking an appointment! Oops smile

So early scan date set. 12th apr, day after mw appointment.

Garden- I know what you mean I mc 2 days after mw appointment on the 1st mc. But I want to make sure I am definitely 'in the system' if that makes sense. They seem to be quite strict here on the no help before 3 mcs thing, so of it does go wrong I want them to know about it!!!

Bod- I know right! I would- but I am silly and superstitious about that kinda thing, so don't want to make it up. Besides, £70 is a lot but not the end of the world. I have spent more on a night out before!!

Bump- please, more info about waters breaking at wedding. Was it as amusing as it sounds? smile

IBelieveInPink Wed 20-Mar-13 19:07:52

And Janie - hi! Will be 8+4 at mw appointment, and 8+5 at early scan. So both will be beyond 8 weeks which is the furthest I have got to before! Eeek.

bunchofposy Wed 20-Mar-13 21:19:11

Hi Janie thanks for the tip about the 7 day plan, will have a shifty!

I might ask my midwife about it too. She knows I am trying to keep my bp down so maybe she'll endorse my joining. Some good advice my midwife gave me was to keep healthy snacks on you during the first trimester to curb the nausea, like crackers and dried fruit or a sandwich. I tried to do that but also raided the cheese at times I'm 19 weeks now so my nausea has gone and I am eating a bit more normally.

Glad you've a scan booked pink. It's good to have milestones to aim for!

shellshock7 Wed 20-Mar-13 21:42:25

pink well done for booking your scan smile

Hi everyone else smile

BumpKitty Wed 20-Mar-13 22:19:06

Ok, so as I say I was 6 days late, drove 1.5 hours to ceremony, all sat down in lovely stately home, official says all stand for the bride I stand up and gush all over my tights, quietly say to DH ' I think my waters have broken' he looked terrified and said are you joking and I said no. We actually stayed for the ceremony as there wasn't that much waters! Then I shuffled out and changed my tights and called the hospital, as there wasn't any contractions they said it wasn't too urgent but to have something to eat then pop in in the next 5 hours. So we stayed for the photos and meal all the while strangers asking me about my waters, then the snow started so we drove to the hospital ( contracting by now) arrived with DH in his posh suit and me in my heels much to the staff's amusement. Checked over and sent home, went back in by 8pm ( serious blizzard by then) and had DD at 2.57am smile
And to think, I was meant to be a bridesmaid grin

IBelieveInPink Wed 20-Mar-13 22:27:37

Bump- that is a brilliant story! How are you going to top that for the next one?! smile

BumpKitty Wed 20-Mar-13 22:32:09

I know, I should go to take a break and get some cash smile maybe I'll get stuck in a lift for this one?!

BettyFlutterbly Wed 20-Mar-13 22:33:58

Hi Posy. Congrats and welcome. Long time no see! What is you dd? I'm pretty sure you can join in with me and Gary in our race. I'm due on/around 13th Aug.

I think lots of regular healthy meals/snacks is the best thing you can do. I've been carrying lots of fruit and wholegraun biscuits with me so I can't pig out on crisps etc. I am getting terrible heartburn now and feel like everything I eat has been dipped in bleach. That'll help me not to overeat!! I bf dd until she was 29 months (the month I got pg and it stuck) and that definitely helped me lose all my baby weight (that wasn't my reason for extented bf).

Haha Kitty what a story!!

Anyway nught girls x

JanieLovesCake Wed 20-Mar-13 22:58:13

Ha bump that's awesome!! Hope you didn't ruin your pretty dress!! Fair play to you for staying on fur the rest of the wedding! Please don't do the stuck in a lift trick this time!! I'm getting claustrophobic just thinking about it! My friends waters broke in sainsburys last month when she was on her own (a week early!)

shellshock7 Thu 21-Mar-13 08:21:26

OMG i'd forgotten abt the wind blush

IBelieveInPink Thu 21-Mar-13 09:49:01

Ha shell! I had that last week. Appears to have calmed down this week starts panicking at lack of wind

shellshock7 Thu 21-Mar-13 11:34:40

God pink it's bad how your mind goes, the constipation is giving me right pains and my shoulder hurt in bed the other night so im googling ectopic like mad blush

IBelieveInPink Thu 21-Mar-13 12:20:08

I know! I am in a complete state all the time. Everything makes me panic. I cramp, I panic. I dont cramp, I panic. Seriously I do not know how I am going to get through the next 3 weeks. Would like to hibernate. Like a Bear. That would be good.

shellshock7 Thu 21-Mar-13 13:23:14

I'm just thinking 6 weeks now so half way to 12 weeks...and also only April to go and I'll be 12 weeks smile

andadietcoke Thu 21-Mar-13 14:46:07

I'm so glad I have you lot. I thought I was a neurotic mess and went through it all on my own - clearly 'normal for us'!! I worried so much about the cramps, and then worried when they stopped, because that clearly meant the babies had stopped growing!! Now I'm on bump watch, and trying to feel movement I can't feel, then worrying it's one twin and not the other!!

Posy I found out at 7/8 weeks after weird brown discharge and a scan at the EPU. Was a bit of a shock, especially as I was on my own. Now it just means I have twice as many babies to worry about (although it has meant I won't buy a Doppler so I see that as progress!!).

GardenWorm Thu 21-Mar-13 15:57:03

<wistfully in direction of shell> oh to be 6 weeks!

IBelieveInPink Thu 21-Mar-13 16:40:18

Haha, garden, I was thinking that too!!

GardenWorm Thu 21-Mar-13 19:26:50

Well randomly I appear to have advanced - bought a twin pack clear blue digi so I could get a 2-3 this week and a 3+ next and it's already come up 3+????! Maybe I'm super producing the hormones this time. I got the first +ve opk on a Friday and then again on the Saturday so thought I'd ovulated Sunday or Monday but maybe it was the Friday after all - either that or I have discovered the clear blue time travel test! (copyrights immediately) grin When do you guys think you ovulate in relation to clear blue smiley opk face?
Now getting paranoid as have a spare test. Aa aargh!

IBelieveInPink Thu 21-Mar-13 19:39:47

Good work garden! I think everyone's hormones increase at different rates, and when I did all my manic research, 2-3 weeks is only 75% accurate. So you could still be that, but have slightly high hormones and be high enough in a cb digi to cross the boundary. Does that make sense?

AlmondFrangipani Thu 21-Mar-13 19:53:25

Posy hi! Welcome!! Lovely to see you here.

Glad everyone else is doing well. Cant remember who said this but metallic taste was one of the first things I had! Annoying but a symptom at least!

shellshock7 Thu 21-Mar-13 20:03:10

garden I'm testing for my 3+ on Sat and am bricking it!

Mega symptoms today and the bump has arrived! I know it's bloating and will be gone in the morning but it's lovely to see tonight, making me feel all PG and everything smile

GardenWorm Thu 21-Mar-13 20:41:27

Ooh a bump! Eeek! <climbs onto her clear blue digi t

GardenWorm Thu 21-Mar-13 20:43:16

Oops <climbs onto her clear blue digi time machine test and fast forwards 4 months!>
Retardation. I have that as a symptom at the mo.

GardenWorm Thu 21-Mar-13 20:49:56

Meant to say; yes pink makes sense but won't help with the sales figures for my time travel machine

shellshock7 Thu 21-Mar-13 21:24:41

I was massive with DS and sadly also with the MMC I had quite a bump, everyone at work could tell so it was tough...gonna have to be a smart dresser as not telling anyone at work this time till that 12 week scan!

JanieLovesCake Thu 21-Mar-13 22:33:13

Anda I'm with you, without all you guys I'd be going shit crazy!!

And garden happy days with the 3+ grin your post convinced me I should use my other cb and I got my 2-3 yay!! Defo going to have to buy a new one fur next week ffs, why don't we all start a pg test company!! We'd be millionaires! How are you feeling? Any symptoms? I didn't use the cb opk, I'm a cheapo kinda gal so not sure about the smiley faces etc

I had my dr appointment this avo and i asked about the possibility of getting scanned earlier than 12 weeks. I used the line of ...my periods are so irregular I don't know how far on I am and also that I had been misdiagnosed with the molar pg last time. She had to write to the hospital and she said she'd mention it but its up to the hospital boooooo.

Heading off on the hen do in the morning so I'll be AWOL til Sunday night. Hope you all have super weekends! I've decanted the non alcoholic wine into the WW bottle, still think its the best idea (thanks again pink!!)

Night night xxxx

Heading off on the hen do tomorrow

JanieLovesCake Thu 21-Mar-13 22:36:59

Oops just realised I wrote the hen do thing twice oops!

Forgot to mention the doc said my blood pressure was quite high but she wondered if it was because I was excited!! Have to go back next thurs to get it tested again and if its not down then she needs to investigate. Not sure what that means eek

JBrd Fri 22-Mar-13 08:54:43

Hello, can I join you? I recognise quite a few names from the conception thread <<waves>>, but only just found this one here!

I'm 4+5 today... and on an emotional rollercoaster! Constantly thinking about what could happen, and I guess it's only going to get worse the closer I get to 8 weeks, when my bleeding started last time. Not looking forward to that. I would really like to be happy about this pregnancy, but I'm struggling to relax - poor DH and DS are constantly being snapped at at the moment confused

How is everyone else?!

JanieLovesCake Fri 22-Mar-13 09:11:56

Hey jbrd! Lovely to see you smile It's hard not to be scared isn't it, I keep thinking its just a game of luck, but I'm trying to stay positive. Posifrickintivity = good for the body and soul! Have you got any symptoms as yet? I keep reading about sore boobs but I'm not feeling that...well I have one sore ish nipple but that's it!! Also, I'm usually a really good sleeper but I haven't been sleeping that well over the last week but maybe that's because I'm thinking too much?!?

JBrd Fri 22-Mar-13 09:15:42

No, no symptoms, nada! No sickness, no sore boobs, no metallic taste - maybe a slightly increased appetite, but I really don't think that's got anything to do with it, I do like my food grin

The only thing I noticed is that I currently wake up every morning drenched in sweat, yuck.

IBelieveInPink Fri 22-Mar-13 09:19:21

Jbrd- snap! To a number of things! I also mc at 8 weeks, 5+5 today. And DH is away for a stag do the weekend when I will be 8 weeks, do was thinking of hibernating all weekend watching Disney and ignoring the world!
Also, yes to the waking up drenched in sweat! Gross- I am in my summer Pajamas now to try and stop it so much! How weird, didn't realise that was a symptom!

shellshock7 Fri 22-Mar-13 10:29:16

Hi Jbrd, we'll all get thru 8 weeks together smile

Well so much for the posifrickintivity of yesterday, what a bad night...kept waking with cramps which led to a knicker checking frenzy and bad dreams abt MMC at scans hmm Internet cheapie line was as dark as control this morning so a bit reassured (nearly out of them now so will have to stop POAS hmm) and felt sick all morning which has helped. What a roller coaster this is, can't wait for 12 week scan confused

Bumps is still here as well, tho only tiny...I put on 4st with DS and only lost one after the birth blush So did WW once I finished BF, since then I weigh myself every week and am currently 1lb under my target (lost 1/2lb this week) so it MUST be a baby bump right?! grin

JBrd Fri 22-Mar-13 11:05:06

IBelieve Well, I'm currently going by if it's not what I usually have, then it's a symptom, right?! grin

shell Glad to hear I'm not the only one still poas - did one last night, and it came up really fast and very dark, yay. I'm almost out of tests as well, so guess I'll have to stop confused. Saving my last FR for the weekend, a little Sunday treat (I am a sad sad person).
I also do a lot of knicker-checking, it's crazy.

DSiL is getting married when I'm 8 weeks - it's either going to be a nice distraction, or a complete nightmare. I don't want to tell anyone yet, but stupid DH told his parents already (without asking me first, grrrr angry), so I guess we should really tell the rest of the family. Fortunately, his parents are very discrete, so they won't tell anyone, not even close family. Not like my mum, who blurted out to everyone last time that I was pg angry.

Is any of you thinking of having an early scan? I can't make up my mind...

shellshock7 Fri 22-Mar-13 13:11:32

JBrd I've got my last clear blue for the weekend, hoping to get 3+ weeks but I have a feeling I'm gonna be chicken and not be able to do it blush

I have a wedding tomorrow with a very boozy crowd, I've just said that DS is poorly so wanna get home to him and I think people have believed that.

Still undecided about an early scan, I get so upset on the lead up to it DH thinks that will be worse for me than the worrying if I don't have one...I'm coping okish so far, well a lot better than with DS so gonna try not to have one...what are you pros and cons?

andadietcoke Fri 22-Mar-13 14:46:12

I love the idea of the FR 'treat' but be careful! The morning I went for my early scan after bleeding at 7.5 weeks I did an FRER and it was much fainter. Scan an hour later showed twins!!

IBelieveInPink Fri 22-Mar-13 14:48:18

Jbrd- I am having an early scan. Booked for the 12 April. I can't not, I am driving myself crazy worrying.

IBelieveInPink Fri 22-Mar-13 15:46:41

Nope, can't do it. Panicking now. Keep getting crampy pains. All down one side. Normal? Not normal? Argh!

andadietcoke Fri 22-Mar-13 16:00:08

Crampy pains normal. And most people's uterus is tilted one way or the other so pains on one side are normal. Mine are all on my left at the moment.

You will worry about not having crampy pains when they're gone. Promise.

IBelieveInPink Fri 22-Mar-13 16:13:07

Yes. I know this. Why am I panicking, I know this!!! I think it has been a long week and I have too many hormones and much tiredness. Thanks dietcoke. What would I do without you girls!

andadietcoke Fri 22-Mar-13 17:48:15

It doesn't matter if you know it or not! Although saying that, expecting the worse all the time has definitely been a good coping strategy this pregnancy - I get to the end of every day pleasantly surprised that nothing has gone wrong (yet wink)

GardenWorm Fri 22-Mar-13 17:55:45

Hola! Symptoms flippin symptoms! Firstly I had none with DC so that to me is normal. With MC's and this time I've had some. Boobs have been tingling now for a week or so, thing is when it stops I get paranoid. Will deff be having an early scan. Just got a print out of my blood test results which receptionist say are 'normal' (guess what I will be googling tonight?!) Any thyroid experts on here?

JBrd Fri 22-Mar-13 19:48:56

shell My pros for an early scan would be...peace of mind that there's something there and it's of the right size/at the right stage.
Cons...the fact that even if it's all looking good, it'll be no guarantee that all will go well after the scan. With my mc, I had a scan at what would've been 7 weeks - they only saw an empty sac. Went back for another scan a week later because my hCG levels were still going up, they found a heartbeat! But I was measuring two weeks small than what I should've been. And then, just when I started to believe all would be OK, I miscarried.
So I'm not sure if for me, an early scan will be that reassuring...but I'm still thinking about it. Maybe if DH says he definitively wants one? Oh, I don't know.

GardenWorm Fri 22-Mar-13 20:38:41

Hmm it's difficult isnt it JBrd I think I just want an early scan because although I am trying to be positive I still don't believe that my BFP=baby in fact I'm more towards the BFP=mc and if it does I want to know as soon as possible! Even contemplating being greedy and having 2 scans! Too long to wait!!!!

shellshock7 Fri 22-Mar-13 20:58:49

Oh pink we are hopeless aren't we! Hope you can think of the cramps as positive like anda says smile

jbrd that must have been such a roller coaster sad. Think I'd be gettin an early scan in your shoes if I could afford it?

garden if it will help and you can afford it go for it, I had to with DS I worried every second of every day so I know how you feel.

Felt sick all day, just what I needed after last nights events grin

BumpKitty Fri 22-Mar-13 21:06:48

Hi all, hope you're all ok. I'm back from my holiday it's was lovely but really hard too as all the time I had to not do things because I'm pg, of course I don't mind not drinking or going on water slides or in saunas etc. but it just made such an issue out of the pregnancy every single day when I'd rather have my head buried in the sand! My friends got the hint and only mentioned it when I wanted to but I'm relieved to be back home.
So.. Early scans, I'm pretty sure I will have one, as I had empty sac which had only grown till about 6/7 weeks and I went to 12 weeks before bleeding I just want to see if there is a baby this time. I think I will phone tomorrow. Eeeek, the scan place is about 2 minutes down the road from me in a big old mansion - how weird!

Higg Fri 22-Mar-13 21:37:05

Hi I'm new here,
I'm nearly 5 weeks pregnant, due 23-11-13. been to my gps today to fill out the form and due to late miscarriage of my twin boys in october, I'm going to be consultant lead for my ante-natel care and labour, I'm on tender hooks all the time every twinge cramp I get, Ibkeep thinking the worst I know I need to relax but it's so hard. Congratulations to everyone and here's to our November bundles of joy

JBrd Fri 22-Mar-13 23:33:46

Welcome, Higg, sorry to hear about your ordeal, thar must have been awful. Fingers crossed it all goes smoothly this time.

Bumpkitty your holiday sounds lovely...in spite of having to be careful.
Are scan facilities always in old mansion houses?!? It's the same where I live (or maybe we live in the same place...? Who knows!)

IBelieveInPink Sat 23-Mar-13 07:07:18

Hi high, welcome. Sorry for your losses.

Bump, sorry you couldn't enjoy your hols properly. I'm a bit like that at the moment, can't enjoy anything because I am so busy worrying about things going wrong! It really does put your life on hold doesn't it!

shellshock7 Sat 23-Mar-13 08:05:40

Hi bump bad timing on your hol but it'll be worth it in the end smile

Hi high how awful hope you're ok, glad you've got good care this time round.

I've got my 3+ and I feel sick as hell...woop woop woop grin

IBelieveInPink Sat 23-Mar-13 09:20:01

Yay! Shell thats fab news I so pleased for you! Woop woop!

JBrd Sat 23-Mar-13 09:22:21

Yay, shell, I guess hmm grin

I also poas again today, and the line came up almost faster than the control line, within seconds, and very dark. I guess there is no denying I'm pregnant wink.
No sickness, but I feel hungry all the time - or rather, my stomach feels empty, even after a big meal. Had this last time, so I guess it's only a matter of time until the sickness kicks in...

Lots of snow here, have to try now and get to Morrisons, ugh.

GardenWorm Sat 23-Mar-13 11:40:53

Whoop Shell - here's to feeling sick too grin and Whoop Jbrd

Hello Higg stay positive X

Bodicea Sat 23-Mar-13 13:42:19

Hey people.

Woop to shel and j bird for good stick peeing.

And welcome to hig there is lots of love on this thread.

Symptoms well and truly kicking in now. Feel like I've got a hangover every morning at mo. weak, feeble and ratty. Didn't have time to get hubby to stab me as we went straight out after work for tea andcomedy club. My friend had a glass of prosseco waitng for me when I got there. Eeek. So the cat was out the bag. Am a shit liar! Anyway got back and had to get drunk hubby to stab me - I really can't cope doing it myself. Queue me crying and screaming to get it the fxxk out of my leg as he was a bit slow. I am so soft!

BrieMonster Sat 23-Mar-13 14:36:30

Found you finally!! I wish bakingtins was still here.

22 weeks today. Moody at hell. Excited too. And a bit in awe of dietcoke's twins!

andadietcoke Sat 23-Mar-13 16:02:05

Hi brie lovely to hear you're doing well. I'm in awe of the twins too - spend all day every day in a constant state of anxiety. I wondered today if I'd still be finding things to worry about if there was just one though!! Scan #5 on Tuesday for 16w so at least that will appease me a little bit (if everything's okay).

IBelieveInPink Sat 23-Mar-13 16:53:19

Hey Brie! Nice to see you here!

Okay ladies, I'm really sorry, I know I keep going on but I so scared. Have spent most of the day crying, and DH said - why don't you ask those nice ladies on your forum, so I'm here again.
All day and since yesterday, I have had pretty much constant aching on the left side. It's less like cramping, which is short and comes and goes, and more like an ache which is always there, feels a bit tender but not necessarily really painful. It gets worse when I move around so am just lying down! I am in full on panic, and have convinced myself that this is going to end badly. Does anyone know what I'm on about? I know i keep moaning, I'm sorry!

shellshock7 Sat 23-Mar-13 17:35:50

At a wedding so can't answer properly but couldn't read (while weeing!) your message and run pink I don't know the answer but I had many days like that with DS and would be totally convinced it was all over and he is here now so fingers crossed its nothing, hope you're ok x

andadietcoke Sat 23-Mar-13 17:48:34

ibip don't apologise. We're all going through the same thing. Early on my aches would last 3 or 4 days. I would lie in bed sobbing, googling, waiting for the bleeding to start and trying to convince myself it was wind. I got through the worst days with paracetamol - it helped with the pain but also allowed me to think about other things if it wasn't all I could think about. I still get aches but they're milder now - nothing like what they were at 6-10 weeks. Everything inside you is stretching, and that hurts. It's a good thing (and this time next week you'll be worrying it's stopped).

andadietcoke Sat 23-Mar-13 17:51:00

Oh, and the other thing I had was some kind of cyst (corpus luteal I think) which was 7mm and could have caused some side pain and are very common. It was seen on the scan at 7.5 weeks but has gone now.

IBelieveInPink Sat 23-Mar-13 18:01:20

Aw thanks ladies. Shell, thank you for taking the time to answer. Hope you are having a lovely time at the wedding!
Diet coke, you have just described exactly how I have been. I feel a little better knowing I am not the only one. And seeig how well it is going for you now (fingers crossed for scan on Tuesday too) gives me hope. Thank you again for taking the time to try and chill me out!

BumpKitty Sat 23-Mar-13 18:54:23

Hey all * jbrd* I'm west midlands , are you?
ibip sorry you're having such a worrying time, if the pain doesn't stop you could call the epu and describe it to them. I remember when I was 16 wks with DD and walked too fast to get back for the car park and I had this pinging sensation in my womb like an elastic band had snapped it was such a horrid feeling but was apparently round ligament pain - so if any of you feel like you have snapped something that is normal!

Lucky13ForBaby Sat 23-Mar-13 19:42:57

Hi all, I found you all today and have been lurking. Shall continue to lurk a little longer but just wanted to say to pink that I have had days of low down pain on the left side. Today mine has gone so now panicking about that!

Lucky13ForBaby Sat 23-Mar-13 20:10:49

I'm also another West Midlander !

Bodicea Sat 23-Mar-13 20:31:59

Hi I ibip yeah it could be corpus lutem or a slightly larger cyst like people said or your uterus is tilted to the left and just stretching (mine tilts to the left). However if the pain gets any worse I suggest you give epau/ gynae ward a call. They might suggest a scan to rule out an ectopic pregnancy - v unlikely by the way - especially if you are not having any bleeding.

GardenWorm Sat 23-Mar-13 20:33:31

Waves to all and hopes Bods husband has been forgiven for his useless drunken stabbing that is one lose lose situation he was in grin

IBIP from your description and my experiences with DC and mc I also think it sounds like what the others have said; the uterus stretching. Totally understand you getting so upset about it, it's flippin stressful this preggers malarky!

Hello lurking Lucky glad you are here smile

IBelieveInPink Sat 23-Mar-13 21:09:21

Aw thanks everyone. What would I do without you all! Honestly I don't know how I'm gonna get through the next few weeks!
I have kinda got to the stage of assuming the worst. Which if it does end up working out will make it a much happier surprise!
We have lots on over the next week which will help time pass. Although will not be helpful if things have gone wrong and all start happening! Argh!

I just keep thinking, all those years of desperately trying NOT to get pregnant!!!! Wow.

AlmondFrangipani Sat 23-Mar-13 21:19:19


I had exactly the same for the first few weeks. It was mostly on the left side too and I was convinced the bleeding would start soon after. I got so wound up I went to the doctors and they sent me for an early scan at 6.5 weeks. Nothing bad showed up on the scan but I continued to have the pain right up to 12 weeks although it subsided. I had to book a private scan at 12 weeks ish as the NHS couldn't do the Downs test as the baby was in an odd position and they ran out of time. We really wanted to know so I had one at a private hospital and a Consultant Gynaecologist did the scan. I mentioned it to him and he said it was more than likely the ovary where the egg had come from and it may have been a cyst. Again nothing showed up on the scan but he put my mind at ease saying it was very common.

I found the first trimester so hard. With the pain, worry, knicker checking, getting fat and the morning sickness!! It is much more enjoyable now...promise!!

andadietcoke Sat 23-Mar-13 21:21:53

ibip that strategy has been quite successful for me so far!! Try and stay away from google. I've decided that knowledge is not power, and I just get myself worked up. Today I've decided that something has happened to one or both of them because my bump went a bit flabby. At least I have a scan on Tuesday, so if something has happened I won't have to wait for 20w scan to find out.

Bodicea Sat 23-Mar-13 22:48:34

Just had a quick peak at the November 2013 thread. Wow it's big. Think I want to stay over here where it's nice and safe and comfortable and there are lots of people in the same position as me. Can we keep our little club going here through to the end ? X

IBelieveInPink Sat 23-Mar-13 23:16:25

Please yes! I can't handle that many people! smile

GardenWorm Sun 24-Mar-13 06:17:22

I'm in smile

shellshock7 Sun 24-Mar-13 10:50:38

It hadn't entered my head to join a different thread smile

How are you today pink?

IBelieveInPink Sun 24-Mar-13 11:29:17

Hey shell. Am okay. Cramps have stopped. Then had a panic because not only did they stop, everything else did too. I just don't 'feel' pregnant any more. To be honest I am assuming the worst, but I have no 'real' reason to suspect that at the moment, I.e no massive pain or bleeding. I think it is just a case of waiting for time to pass!

How are you? How is mini shell doing now, is he all better?

JanieLovesCake Sun 24-Mar-13 16:54:38

Hi girls! Well I'm back from the hen weekend! The WW wine trick was frickin awesome (thanks again to me pink!), totally saved the day!! So tired now though zzzzzzz

I'm totally staying in this thread, too many people on the November one!

Pink I have had that exact pain. Your bowel is in the lower left abdomen so I'm hoping its because of it being a little 'blocked up'. I've had moments of really needing to get to the loo immediately but also slightly constipated on other days. When I asked the doc last time she said it was probably hormones causing bowel to be a bit up the left. Hope it goes away soon, it's really uncomfortable not to mention worrying xx

shellshock7 Sun 24-Mar-13 20:02:40

Thanks for asking pink DS is better we just have to build his appetite back up now, get his weight back on.

janie I had a wedding yesterday and it was tough! Think I got away with it, we'll no one asked me so that will do grin

I never really had MS with DS, I had nausea which went if I ate but this is different, not being sick but feeling like it all day and so tired! Defo know I am PG grin

GaryBuseysTeeth Sun 24-Mar-13 20:02:51

Welcome Higg, sorry to hear about your loss.

Awesome Janie...and well done MrPink!
I look through all the antenatal threads, and I can't believe how massive the Sept+ one's are.
I guess (hope) things are starting to look up for people financially so it means more babies?

Pink, glad the cramps have stopped.
I'm 20wks today & if it wasn't for the belly or movements I wouldn't know I was pregnant, so keeping everything crossed for you.

<positive vibes> dietcoke, hope you're feeling better by the time you read this...and good luck for your scan on Tuesday.

garden, shell, congrats on the 3+!

Brie, good to hear from you, can't believe you're 22wks already!

20wks+1 (looking forward to getting past 26wks), scan on Weds, hoping to find out the sex...but hoping for everything to be healthy & perfect with it more, next two days will drag for me!

JBrd Sun 24-Mar-13 21:14:32

Bumpkitty No, I'm in Cambridgeshire, but we do have a Morrisons here!

Pink Hope you're feeling a bit better! If it's any consolation, I don't feel pregnant either! I poas again this morning, my last FR test - all good smile. I think it's such a shame that we can't really enjoy pregnancy anymore, like you should... When I was pregnant with DS, I worried a lot until my 12-week scan, but nothing compared to what it's like now that it actually happened to me.

Ladies, those of you that are further along - does the worry stop/get better? Do you ever get to enjoy a pregnancy after a miscarriage...?

I'm 5 weeks today - only 35 more to go....Argh! Today was a wash-out day, I have been so incredibly tired. Not sure if it's pg related or the aftermath of my job interview on Friday and all the stress that led up to it. All I wanted to do is sleep! DS was very good, entertaining himself while I zonked out on the sofa. And when he went for his nap, I did the same - he slept for 3 hours, I did 2 1/2! Still very tired, though, it'll be an early night for me!

BumpKitty Sun 24-Mar-13 22:15:03

Good luck for the scans anda and gary , I can't believe you are 20 weeks gary I remember your BFP grin

Janie and shell well done on the event attending grin I went to a first birthday party today and was handed a glass of cava, i did a pretend swig which nearly choked me then secretly tipped the rest down the sink smile I am the model of discretion!

Is anyone else mega hungry? I went out for dinner last night with some friends and I woofed my dinner up in about 3 minutes, I only noticed when I looked up and everyone else's plates were still full blush also having slight nausea but that may be from the amount of crap I ate over my holiday smile

JBrd I'm right with you on the naps, we had a family sleep from 3pm - 5.30pm smile it was lovely.

shellshock7 Mon 25-Mar-13 08:49:57

Hi everyone, how are you all feeling? Hope we can start the week positively!

I'm off to tell the doc this morning, not gonna push for an early scan but will see what he says smile

Bodicea Mon 25-Mar-13 08:50:51

Bump I am with you on the hungry. I inhaled an entire bag of mini eggs last night and that was after a big pub lunch. Plus not interested In excercise at mo. not a good combination. On holiday in may And know I am just gonna look podgy rather than pregnant

JBrd Mon 25-Mar-13 08:58:05

Morning everyone, I agree with shell

Just waiting waiting waiting now, it's nerve-wrecking! My midwife hasn't even contacted me yet, and I wouldn't see anyone before 8 weeks anyway.
However, I do have an appointment with the consultant haematologist next Wednesday, to discuss my blood clotting issues... I suspect that I will have to start the heparin injections there and then - in fact I hope I do, as it'll be one less thing to worry about (I have a history of DVT/pulmonary embolism).

Also waiting to hear back from the company I had an interview with last week, I so hope they will offer me the job!

Bodicea Mon 25-Mar-13 09:27:20

jbird my sympathies. I am on the clexane injectins and hating them. I think heparin is similar. Will have to have joint moaning. Got a massive lump under my skin from one that went wrong - think hit a blood vessel. Hope haematologist sorts you out x

JanieLovesCake Mon 25-Mar-13 09:29:47

Morning all, I'm on for the positivity toosmile although my throat feels like its been cut to shreds and my head feels like its been kicked around under water...pretty sure there's nothing I can take for it boohoo. I'm just waiting to jump on a flight to go visit my best friend and her new baby, I'm trying to prepare myself, I can guarantee some little tears of joy and fear!!!

Jbrd fx for good news re. the job! I have an interview on Wednesday when I get back, my head is in no place to prepare for it right now so I may well be wasting my time and theirs!! I've been in my job for neat 11 years and we get paid weekly by cheque, one girl is still waiting on some maternity pay and her child just turned 3...hence the need to move on! I'd lose my house if I didn't get the money!

JBrd Mon 25-Mar-13 09:54:58

Janie Oooh, I feel for you - having a sore throat when pg is awful because you can't take anything! I think I ate a whole jar of Manuka honey over a weekend when I was pg with DS and had this. Lots of hot drinks, and you can take paracetamol (although that's not too helpful with the sore throat, unfortunately).

Glad to see I'm not the only one aiming for a new job whilst being newly upduffed! But I need to get out of my current one, it's just no good staying here. The thought of having to come back to this would stress me to no end, not to mention the idea of having to stay for another 8 months. Ironically, money-wise I'd be better off, they have a very decent maternity package here at the university, but I just can't do it. Fortunately, DH is very supportive, always saying 'We'll manage' and 'It'll be alright' when I start to panick.

bodicea Yes, I'll also be on clexane. I don't mind the injections, but then I have quite a large area on my tummy which is still quite numb from my c-section 2 years ago, that makes the injections more bearable. I get spectacular bruises, though. But whatever helps!

Right, I better go and do some work...

BumpKitty Mon 25-Mar-13 13:43:57

* janie* sympathies on the sore throat, I found getting the soluble paracetamol helped as it has direct contact with your throat iyswim!

IBelieveInPink Mon 25-Mar-13 14:25:36

Oh Janie that's no good! Maybe try a salt water gargle? That won't make it feel better but may help it clear up quickly. And as for headache, if it is a stuffy type one, maybe smelling Olbas oil to clear it up? or a little bit I lavender oil rubbed into temples can help too.

JanieLovesCake Mon 25-Mar-13 15:17:56

Thanks for the tips girls smile I've got some tiger balm to rub on my temples and under my nose. I'm thinking its maybe a positive (but annoying) symptom, my mum had this the whole way through both pregnancies. Off to get some salty water! Xx

JBrd Mon 25-Mar-13 15:32:21

Janie Not to frighten you, but be careful with aromatic oils and balms, some of them are not recommended in pregnancy...
Salt water is great, if you can stomach it grin

I've just realised that I'm not completely symptom-less... I've started to wake up with a very blocked nose now, which I remember all too well from my last pregnancy, only then it started much later! It's really annoying, I think it's called pregnancy rhinitis, you just end up constantly blowing your nose!

However, I'd rather have that instead of ms...

It is amazing how much you forget! DS will be 2 in May, but looking back now, the pregnancy all seems a haze... The more I think about it, the more I remember the details, and I have to say, not all is good hmm.
I do look forward to being able to ask for lots of back and foot rubs from DH grin

GardenWorm Mon 25-Mar-13 15:33:01

Janie Hot water, dollop of honey, squeeze some lemon in and chuck a couple of paracetamol down your neck! My DH has something similar, I am psyching myself up for the inevitable catching of the germs....

BoyMeetsWorld Mon 25-Mar-13 18:54:09

Hey all. I'm back, unexpectedly pg (we weren't exactly trying as had persuaded ourselves it was bad timing & I'd had a great job offer to start sept hmm) of course it's fantastic though but I'm completely terrified. Last mc was dec. so scared & bad tummy pains which don't bode well.

andadietcoke Mon 25-Mar-13 19:10:03

Hi boymeetsworld congratulations!! Being scared is normal, as are tummy pains. I'm 16w tomorrow and have had awful pains the whole way through, from the day I got my BFP to today. They come and go, and you'll worry they're gone when they're gone wink

Higg Mon 25-Mar-13 19:23:06

Hi everyone
Thank you for the kind messages has been a tough time and all I wanted was to get pg again now every little thing I'm thinking is all over but poas this mornin.g and CB said 3+ so it has risen it did put my mind at ease slightly just can't wait to here from the consultant to have my first scan, felt ill as envy thing since sat morning got a real stinking cold and sore throat but I'm just getting on with it and sleeping a lot, also had a very boozy wedding on sat was asked a could of times why wasn't I drinking I used the old white lie I'm on antibiotics hehe.
JBrd I was 5 weeks yesterday so we have the same due date smile
Hope everybody is good and had a good weekend

JanieLovesCake Mon 25-Mar-13 19:25:04

Oh thanks for the advice girls. jbrd, ill maybe give it a miss to be on the safe side, I have the white tiger balm not the red one, maybe I'll just get some olbas hankies instead. God we really do have to be so careful! Last time I was pg I asked the pharmacist if it was ok to take paracetamol in early pg and he was very wary. Now I'm scared to take anything sad think ill just grin and bear it and hug a mug of honey and lemon instead!

Hi boy, and congrats!

BoyMeetsWorld Mon 25-Mar-13 19:38:13

Thanks Coke that makes me feel a little better. Do they only give 'extra' care, scans etc after lots of mcs in a row? Think I may try & pretend it's not happening for a while

BettyFlutterbly Mon 25-Mar-13 22:52:53

Hi girls. Too tired too read back through all the news I've missed. Just want to day hi and will be back tomorrow (will be 20 weeks yay!!)

Night girls and bumps x

IBelieveInPink Tue 26-Mar-13 07:16:56

Morning all!
Dietcoke- just wanted to say good luck for your scan today. Let us know how you get on smile
Janie- how is the sore throat?
Boy- from what we have established it really depends how many miscarriages and where you live! Hope you are feeling a bit better today

andadietcoke Tue 26-Mar-13 07:19:57

ibip thank you. I'm lying in bed refusing to get up. Bad news can't get me in bed. At least the scan's early - small mercies!

Bod is it your scan today too? If so, good luck!

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 26-Mar-13 07:25:11

Morning everyone. Slightly less in shock today. Slightly.

How are you all feeling today?

IBelieveInPink Tue 26-Mar-13 07:31:07

Haha! Small mercies indeed, I booked mine for 9am. No spending the day stressing for me! Now. Only 2weeks 3 days and 2 hours to wait!

andadietcoke Tue 26-Mar-13 07:52:04

It'll fly by. Ahem.

I'm still refusing to get up. DH has just told me I'm being pathetic and immature. I know this, but I'm not ready to take on today yet!

GardenWorm Tue 26-Mar-13 08:09:53

Good luck Anda xxx

JanieLovesCake Tue 26-Mar-13 09:05:42

Ooh good luck anda!

My throat seems a little better and head doesn't feel as bashed about phew! I think a good long sleep worked pretty well. I woke up not feeling very pg though sad

JanieLovesCake Tue 26-Mar-13 09:09:12

And pink how are your tummy pains? C

bunchofposy Tue 26-Mar-13 09:25:02

Hello ladies

Congratulations to all the BFPs!

Delayed response Betty as have been away for a belated birthday break - bliss. I am due 11th August though, so snap! Gary what date are you due? Brie <waves> and Almond are you also due around then then?

I have my 20 week scan this morning. Feeling more relaxed about it than I was about the 12 week scan, which I built myself up into a state of massive anxiety about, and made myself quite ill. Mc really does mess with your head doesn't it?

Good luck to the job seekers. I can completely relate to hating my job! Currently trying to decide whether to leave for mat leat at the earliest date ie 29 weeks - I've seriously had enough now!

Hope you're all well. x

shellshock7 Tue 26-Mar-13 09:37:26

Good luck anda and posy smile

Is there any reason I can't have a menthol sweet? It says it contains no medicine or active ingredient? My throat is so sore hmm

Also, is there a point that a PG test stops working, I know that you can get a false negative if you are too far along so was just wondering of anyone knew what point that would be? I've got 2 left so was gonna keep them in case I have a big panic but wouldn't wanna get a false negative cos I'm too far along confused

bunchofposy Tue 26-Mar-13 09:57:30

Good luck dietcoke! Hope it's going well.

Shellshock I wouldn't test again personally. Well it would mess with my head to do so anyway, as even if it was positive I would be analysing the line or number of weeks and finding reasons to get paranoid! I'd get your DH/DP to hide them far away!

Not sure about menthol sweets - I can't see why not though? I also like the soluble paracetamol tip from earlier. I have had a permanent sore throat for the past month or so so sympathise. The joys of a crappy immune system!

bunchofposy Tue 26-Mar-13 10:01:44

ps having said that (and realising I haven't answered the question!), I think the hg rises til about 12 weeks doesn't it, so I reckon til then a false neg would be v unlikely. Not sure about afterwards. Interesting q! x

IBelieveInPink Tue 26-Mar-13 10:33:18

Janie- glad to hear you are feeling better. Cramps have calmed down a lot now.

Posy- good luck for your scan too!

Shell- I thought the test starts going backwards from about 7/8 weeks. Could be wrong though.

JanieLovesCake Tue 26-Mar-13 10:51:17

Oh that's good pink, it is such a petrifying time. Cramps mean panic, no cramps mean panic too aaarrrggghhh! I'm currently in the 'no cramps' team and scaring myself silly.

IBelieveInPink Tue 26-Mar-13 11:01:38

This morning I was 'no cramps'. Now I am 'cramps'. I have literally given up, am just keeping myself as busy as possible and waiting to see what happens. And living through the excitement of everyone else's scans! Let us know how you got on ladies smile

andadietcoke Tue 26-Mar-13 14:25:51

shell STOP TESTING. I think I might have mentioned this before but I used my last frer at 8w when I'd had bleeding and pain and it was much much lighter. Properly freaked me out, but saw two heartbeats 90 mins later. No good can come of it. You're pregnant. Promise.

Scan done. Two little babies, both about the right size for 16w (and even more the right size for the dates I think I am - 15+4). Both femurs, heads and ventricles are right, and we saw the stomachs, bladders and the blood flow in the hearts. BP still normal and urine okay (despite being 90% sure I had some kind of infection). So all good here (so far). Next scan in 4 weeks, so will start the countdown again!

Oh, and I'm also in Team Cramps. Except I've come to love them, because it means the babies are growing grin

andadietcoke Tue 26-Mar-13 14:26:39

Oh and good luck posy smile

IBelieveInPink Tue 26-Mar-13 14:34:49

Oh dietcoke That's so exciting! Yay! I literally just welled up at my desk! You must be so pleased, you sound much happier! Congrats. Is it starting to feel real now? smile

bunchofposy Tue 26-Mar-13 15:18:43

Yay, so lovely dietcoke. Am so pleased everything looked fine. Are you scanned more often when you have twins then?

My scan also went well. Mind you, I don't know how you kept up with everything on a twin scan. I was exhausted just looking at one - how they work out what everything is so quickly is beyond me!

We stayed team yellow, but I could have sworn I saw a tiny willy!

bunchofposy Tue 26-Mar-13 15:20:52

ps am so in awe that you have two in there by the way!! Amazing.

GardenWorm Tue 26-Mar-13 15:28:06

Big YEY to the scans - made me smile smile. I have a cold too now. Pah! No cramps here, no anything really. Looked at possible viability scan dates around work and shifts etc can either do 8wks or 9wks but 8 wks is other half's bday and that would be a shit day to get shit news wouldn't it?! 9 wks seems so far awaaaaaaay!

JBrd Tue 26-Mar-13 15:42:35

How lovely, andadiet! That is great news, you must be so relieved! Will you get scanned every 4 weeks throughout the whole pregnancy?

shell stop testing! I did (because I ran out of tests grin ), and it's fine, I promise. We are pregnant.

I can't make up my mind about a viability scan. It'd be great to have the reassurance, but it's not a guarantee that everything will be OK... And if, heaven forbid, they don't find a heartbeat, I will have to wait until 11-12 weeks before the EPU will agree to do any procedures, it was like that last time. Not sure I can take that again, it was torture. Decisions, decisions. I might leave that one to DH...

Sooo, I have a follow-up phone interview in 20min, with the director of the company I interviewed at last week. That's a good sign, right?!?

GardenWorm Tue 26-Mar-13 15:47:53

Ooh yeah Jbrd throw in the odd 'posifrickintive' bound to get the job!

Contemplating eating a bag of mini eggs daily to give myself morning sickness! Nuts!!!!

JanieLovesCake Tue 26-Mar-13 17:09:10

Yay fir the good scans!!! And how the hell do they know what all the fuzzy blobs are! It baffles me!!

How did the phone interview go jbrd? Fx for you!! I've hot my interview at 2pm tomorrow but I don't even have the energy to think about it!!

andadietcoke Tue 26-Mar-13 17:10:56

Yay posy glad it was okay. Know what you mean. I was in there nearly am hour as I had a trainee sonographer. DH nearly dozed off at one point!!

Yes, we have scans every 4 weeks. Normal anomaly scan at 20w and then serial growth scans every 4 weeks and consultant ANC appts. Invested in a hospital car park permit today wink

I guess it's good that I have so many scans but I get so worked up before them!!

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 26-Mar-13 17:25:36

Aww how lovely about the scans

Anda - are you scared about twins? Were you expecting that as a possibility? Double loveliness smile (& double worry in pg!)

Jbd - are viability scans done on nhs or private only? I'm also debating whether id rather sit tight and just not know until 12wks at which point either something can be done straight away or all will be a teeny bit 'safer'. So tricky!!

andadietcoke Tue 26-Mar-13 17:53:58

Boy I had an early scan at the EPU and then a private one at 10.5 because my dating scan wasn't until 13w. Both calmed me down for about 24 hours before I started worrying again, and I was obsessed with miscarriage statistics after seeing heartbeats at 'x' weeks. Saying that, don't think I could have gone until 13w without them.

Wasn't expecting twins at all. Have since found out they're in my dad's family but my granddad doesn't speak to any of his family so we've never had anything to do with them so didn't know! Was completely floored at the scan at 7.5 weeks. And I was on my own so had to break the news to DH!

BumpKitty Tue 26-Mar-13 18:39:39

Brilliant news from the scans smile I've been checking in all day to make sure you're all ok!
Now what is this about them not doing anything till 12 weeks if something has gone wrong? I only found out at 12 weeks last time but i assumed if I'd have found out earlier I could have had an erpc earlier, is that not the case?

IBelieveInPink Tue 26-Mar-13 18:43:14

Bump - it is the case as far as I am aware! I found out about my mc at 8 weeks and had an erpc at 9 weeks when they had 'confirmed' I hadn't got my dates wrong.

Now. Only 2 weeks 2 days and 14 hours til my scan smile

Bodicea Tue 26-Mar-13 18:46:08

Hi diet and posy congratulations on the successful scans.

I had my scan too today and got a lovely heartbeat, hurrah! 6 weeks today. Date from scan is 19th November. Hopefully they will use my lmp date officially which is 16th - although I suspect scan date more accurate.
Feeling much more relaxed especially as I got a bit of spotig this morning which sent me in a tiz!

Hops interview went ok today jbird

On another note a seem to be burping a lot at the moment! How lovely

JanieLovesCake Tue 26-Mar-13 18:52:27

Yay bod!!!! If my dates are right I will be 6wks on Thursday eek! Thinking of booking a private scan too, only one place does it here though and it's £100 gulp. Omg my burps are quite spectacular at the minute, thank god I'm not alone! Always feel much better after it!! How are you feeling? Any other symptoms at the mo? X

Bodicea Tue 26-Mar-13 19:01:40

Lol, janie glad it's not just me. Just getting waves of nausea and a bit of reflux at the mo. not actually been sick though. I seem to mostly get it when in a car.

I think it's a personal choice about the scan. I feel better for seeing it as does dh. Feels more real to him now x

IBelieveInPink Tue 26-Mar-13 19:18:55

Oh bod how lovely! Yay for exciting scans! Little jealous I have to wait so long for mine!
Janie it is a lot, but I viewed it as I'm not going out at the moment as much, so am saving money which can therefore be spend on scan. I definitely couldn't wait until 12 weeks!

andadietcoke Tue 26-Mar-13 19:39:17

Yay Bod that's brilliant. Enjoy feeling a bit better about everything smile

Oh, the burps, don't miss them at all!!

BumpKitty Tue 26-Mar-13 19:42:53

oh good ibip one of the main reasons I want a scan is because I don't want to get all the way to 12 weeks again and realise things went wrong ages before.
How many weeks will you be for your scan? I'm unsure about when to book mine, from lmp I'm 8 weeks on Easter day but I think I ovulated either 2 or 4 days late so may go for latest date and book scan around then
bod that's fantastic grin

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 26-Mar-13 19:54:24

Hurrah for your scan results Bod, Posy & anda! grin

<waves> at Boy, I can't remember if you were on the same TTC thread as me before I nc, but I remember you (t'was horse before this name)!
So glad you've graduated again so quickly!

JBrd, interview sounds very positive! Fingers crossed for you.

Jaine, good luck for your interview!

20wk scan tomorrow, will hopefully find out everything is fine & then we can announce it to the world (have only told PIL, my mum & a few friends so far).
We're hoping to 'celebrate' by buying a nice outfit for it (I'm 100% it's a girl, so I've been looking at dresses) after the scan, but now all I can think about is the million & one things that can be bought up at the 20wk scan.

If any of you are One Born Every Minute viewers, tomorrow's episode is going to be a very sad one, so just a heads up.

IBelieveInPink Tue 26-Mar-13 20:03:57

Bump - I will be 8+5. I would rather have had it slightly earlier if I honest, but with stuff we have on around then that was the easiest date to get off work. When are you thinking of booking, next week?

Gary - how exciting for scan! Have you managed to keep it quiet up until now then? Well done!
Ooh. I am an avid one born viewer. May have to give that one a miss.

AlmondFrangipani Tue 26-Mar-13 20:24:22

Evening Girls!

Posy I am due 7 August but I am having the baby very early due to a kidney condition I have. They have told me to expect a c-section at 32/34 weeks...eeek! So I will probably have it is June or July if I am lucky. I went it to panic mode 2 weeks ago and bought everything you could possibly need for a newborn! Our credit card is smoking now and I have developed a baby grow buying obsession!! We are team yellow too although I thought I might of seen something at our 19 week scan!

Gary good luck tomorrow at your scan! Cant wait to find out what you are having!!

Anda phew on your good scan result too!

I have an unexpected consultant appointment tomorrow afternoon as I had some dodgy blood results. As I am already seen under a kidney specialist I have this special website access where I can login and see my results. I have since diagnosed myself with liver failure (one of the liver function results was 150 when 'hi' is 50) so completely freaked out and called the antenatal clinic. So they are seeing me tomorrow. Really hope it was just a blip and trying not to worry...

shellshock7 Tue 26-Mar-13 20:44:21

Ok people I hear you, no more tests grin Am 7 weeks tomorrow so they may go backwards from then and I don't need that stress!

Great scan news everyone, it is so good to read really pleased for you all smile

Good luck Jbrd and janie with the job interviews smile

anda I'm with you on the stress of scans, I hate them get so worked up for a coupla days beforehand....the MMC has made sure of that hmm

gary look forward to hearing abt your scan tomorrow smile

almond hope it is nothing to worry about, try not to worry too much tonight.

I'm on the fence still abt an early scan too, I want to know but it's still not a 100% guarantee and I get so worked up...but found a place only down the road that does them for £55? Tempting confused

BumpKitty Tue 26-Mar-13 21:05:08

ooh shell that's a bargain! where do you live? smile

ibip yes next week, need to wait till pay day to book it as I have to pay a £40 deposit and it's been a tight month! I think I'll try and get Thursday which would be 8+4 or just 8 if latest ovulation date is correct. Will have to take DD with us which is not ideal if it's bad news.

gary good luck for the scan and happy shopping grin very impressed that you have got so far without telling people!

almond hope the appointment goes well, surely if it was anything worrying they would have spotted it and called you in?

BettyFlutterbly Tue 26-Mar-13 23:33:03

Yet another late night for me and the bump.
I seem to have missed a lot over the last few days, I just never seem to stop!

Great news about all the scans today, good luck for tomorrow Gary and Almond.

I have my 20 week scan a week tomorrow when I'll actually be 21+1. We are definitely finding out the sex once we know everything is fine with the baby. I am convinced it's a boy and oh says it's a girl. I'd love another girl but we'll see what happens.

I've just discovered I can get OBEM on youtube (I don't get English telly living in Spain, I'm in Galicia, north-west coast btw, I know someone asked which part a while ago). I am going to become birth obsessed if I'm not careful.
I've just ordered the Mongan method cd and book to see if hypnobirthing will help me deal with the pain this time. I had a twelve hour labour with dd and no gas/air or anything and hope to do the same this time only with a bit more control over coping with the pain!

I know it seems far away and we're all at different stages so labour isn't on all of our minds yet. I can't wait for us all to start telling our birth stories. Fingers crossed we all get there safe and sound.

Have a good week ladies, we're off to Oporto tomorrow for a few days in a spa hotel, it's only two hours drive away. I need a holiday so badly, dd is so exctied to be staying in a hotel, bless her she's not even three yet and she's getting a taste for luxury haha!

Happy Easter x

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 27-Mar-13 07:56:51

Good luck Gary and Almond!

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 27-Mar-13 07:56:54

Good luck Gary and Almond!

andadietcoke Wed 27-Mar-13 08:06:32

Good luck with your scans Gary and Almond. So many measurements!!!

JBrd Wed 27-Mar-13 08:58:53

Good luck with the scans today!

Am very envy, wish I was that far along already. May seems such a long time away... And I still haven't heard from the midwife re booking appointment (but then again, I'm only 5+4, argh!).

Soooo - I got offered the job! They called yesterday, the formal offer will go in the post today smile . So so happy about this, although I will have to try and negotiate a better salary, the one they are offering is really not great confused
But I'm pretty sure that I'll take it, it's too good an opportunity to let pass by.

Now worrying about things like handing in my notice, starting a new job when pg, implications for mat leave and pay.... The worry never stops!

JanieLovesCake Wed 27-Mar-13 09:45:07

oh jbrd that's brilliant!!! congratulations! i bet you;re over the moon! i have my interview at 2pm today, beginning to get nervous, but not as much as i thought. i think i just have too much other stuff going on (i.e. a wee bean in there!) to distract me! if i was to get it i would have to take quite a pay cut, but there's more scope for moving up the ladder...my current job has no prospects at all.

well done again!! x

IBelieveInPink Wed 27-Mar-13 10:06:04

Congrats jbrd well done!

Good luck for scans today ladies smile

bunchofposy Wed 27-Mar-13 10:28:20

Congrats Bod! I had a bit of spotting at that point too. Freaked me out but everything was ok.

Almond don't stress too much, I reckon they would definitely have called you if you had liver failure. Maybe it's something to do with your kidneys? I would have done the same though ref self diagnosis! I hope everything is OK - fingers crossed for you. Let us know how it goes today.

Gary good luck for today! Lol at you dress browing already. Hope it all goes well. Thanks for the heads up re. OBEM. I can't bear sad news at the moment so think i'll give that one a miss.

JBrd congratulations!!!! You'll be able to get a year's mat leave like the normal, and 9 months maternity allowance, so don't worry about that. The only hassle is having to apply to the government for it, rather than your employer sorting it out for you (happened to me last time).

Janie good luck today! What job is it?


BumpKitty Wed 27-Mar-13 12:40:22

Omg I am so hungry! I hope there is a baby in there to justify the amount of food I just ate!
jbrd yey for the job smile good luck with the negotiating.
janie good luck for the interview, fingers and toes crossed smile

Right, scan booking has not proved as straightforward as I had hoped, first time they can see me is Monday 8th currently working out if I can leave work early and pick up DD late - don't need this stress.

IBelieveInPink Wed 27-Mar-13 12:51:39

Ah bump that's so annoying! My place was really booked up too. If we are in the same week though we can be brave terrified together?!

Janie - good luck!

Vocalista86 Wed 27-Mar-13 14:02:03

Hi everyone,

can I join you? I got my BFP nearly a week ago quite early on, I'm now only 4w4d and really finding it tough. I had a MMC at 7w3d but only found out the day before my 13 week scan last time (NY eve.

I've had quite a bit of nausea but today it's not as bad, which is obviously stressful as I know it's common to analyse every change in symptom and I want my symptom back!

Really I know that what will be will be but that is not helping me right now... sad

JanieLovesCake Wed 27-Mar-13 15:46:13

thanks everyone for sending the lucky vibes! interview went ok....usual crap of being given scenarios and having to tell them of a time you were in that situation and how you got through it and what t he outcome was (about 8 of them ffs!). i was so starving after i drove straight to mcdonalds and hoovered a big mac meal. i think the hunger is setting in.

hope the scans went well today girls! almond, how did you get on? hope all is ok?

and hi vocalista good to see you here - i remember you from the posifrickintivity ttc thread smile i'm only slightly ahead of you (i'm 5+6 i think) and also panicking on and off. i did another cheapo test earlier and it came up super dark before the test line so that'll be me happy for about 5 hours. ha! keep up the posifrickintivity spirit x

Vocalista86 Wed 27-Mar-13 15:53:09

Janie hi, and yes that was me, not sticking to the fertile Friday rules...

Hope you get good news from your interview!

I've got 1 spare test left, but last time I tested possitive at 8 weeks despite mc at 7 ish so even a BFP won't help me this time. Argh!

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 27-Mar-13 16:20:11

Welcome Vocalista, good luck on getting your symptoms back.
I had really strong symptoms with mc pregnancy but nothing with this one until I was about 9wks.

Congrats on the job JBird.
Congrats on the Big Mac Janie, now you've made me crave one envy hope the interview gives a positive result!

Enjoy your minibreak Betty, sounds lovely!

Almond, how did the apt go? Hope it's nothing too serious.

Scan went well...and...I don't trust my body! We're having another boy grin
Really happy, but still a bit shocked as I was so sure it was a girl!
Told DH we'll have to have a 3rd, just to see if I could guess best of 3!
Hope all went well with you Almond

AlmondFrangipani Wed 27-Mar-13 16:31:57

Hi girls,

Just a quick update from me. Apt went fine thank goodness! They think I've got an underlying virus which has caused the spike on my liver function tests. That will explain why I've been so frickin tired too! The've taken lots more bloods to check for viruses and more function tests to double check but my kidneys are doing well and that's the main thing!! Big phewgrin. Bambino has been kicking a lot today so making me relax.

Celebrating with an Easter nest cake nom nom nom!

Lucky13ForBaby Wed 27-Mar-13 17:26:05

Hi all. Congrats on all the scans and positive test results. Ahh how lovely a kicking baby almond smile I have a scan booked through the early pregnancy unit next Wednesday. Think I will be about 61/2 weeks. Who else is having an early scan / had an early scan. Is it totally safe ? Am worried about it starting another Mc. These early days are such a worry!

Bodicea Wed 27-Mar-13 20:35:04

Totally safe lucky. Just sits in vagina. Doesn't go any further, like a smear would x

Bodicea Wed 27-Mar-13 20:40:21

Janieglad to hear interview went well. Don't envy you. Not had an interview for years. Wouldn't know what to do now!
The burning is off the scale at the moment. What on earth is that about?!

MissLolita Wed 27-Mar-13 22:37:04

Hi ladies, can I come and join please? I'm 7+3 and had a MMC on NYE at 13 weeks. This pregnancy is so desperately wanted and we're thrilled that it has happened so quickly after the miscarriage but I'm in pieces about everything - a complete wreck in fact. I went to my GP last week and he has referred me for an early scan but the hospital have refused to see me before 9 weeks so I have to wait until 9th April which seems an eternity away. I feel tearful about everything and I have this overwhelming sense that something is wrong, which I know is irrational. Can't stop it though sad x

Bodicea Thu 28-Mar-13 07:11:56

Congratulations * Lolita* We are all neurotic and worried here so you are in good company. Just think if you have a scan at 9 weeks and it is fine you won't have as long to wait till your dating scan and scans at 9 weeks are so much more rewarding than at 7 which are just blobs! But if you are truly worried could you afford a private scan a bit earlier?

JanieLovesCake Thu 28-Mar-13 08:24:24

Hi Lolita smile congrats on your pg! I haven't heard from the hospital about when my first scan will be, wish they'd hurry up!

My sore throat has turned into a horrid cough, I'm actually worried I might dislodge the bean with all the coughing.

Off to get my blood pressure checked today, it was higher than it should've been last week when I went to the dr to register my pregnancy so they want to recheck.

JBrd Thu 28-Mar-13 09:33:21

Hi Lolita, and welcome! I'm with you on the being a nervous wreck - I also had a mc over Christmas/NY, and then got pg straight away in my first cycle afterwards. So happy, and so scared at the same time. Thinking about getting an early scan, but can't make up my mind...

Janie congrats on your interview, I hate the scenario questions! When will you find out about the outcome? Hope your cough gets better, have you tried honey straight from the jar?

Glad to hear that you're OK(ish) Almond

Time is crawling... Wishing the weeks away, I just want to get over the 8-10 weeks hurdle, when it all went wrong last time. 5+5 today.
My sister is coming to visit over Easter, and we'll tell her. Not sure if I want to tell the rest of my family yet, my mum would worry a lot. Fortunately, my sister is very reliable, and as all my family are abroad, it'll be easy to keep it secret from them a bit longer.
DH, the blabbermouth, already told his parents angry. Apparently, his dad asked him if we were ttc again, and DH felt he couldn't 'lie' to him... I have a different opinion on that, but hey-ho.
Oh, I can't wait for the long weekend - I only work half day today, and then it's off until next Thursday! And then I'll hand in my notice, sweet grin

BumpKitty Thu 28-Mar-13 09:46:17

Hi lolita I'm 7+ 4 today and early scan booked for the 8th of April so you can be my buddy smile is this your first pg or do you have DC already?

janie hacking cough here too and throbbing head sad I might try some steam inhalation, can we use Vicks? DD has the cough too so I'm going to get some today for her.

I still haven't told my GP or midwife, have you all told them? I just want to see the scan before making it official but maybe this is a bit silly as they may not be able to book my 12wk scan at the right time if I don't tell them soon...

JanieLovesCake Thu 28-Mar-13 09:56:51

Hey jbrd, they said it could be as soon as today I'd they agree in a job winner but could be next week otherwise.

Sorry to hear you've got it as well bump, I'm not sure about Vicks, I'm scared to use anything now!!

I have a little bit of brown spotting today, (tmi alert) kinda watery browny/yellow colour when I wiped...I'm 6 weeks today, got panicky when I saw it. Don't know if I should be worried?

JBrd Thu 28-Mar-13 09:58:29

Bump The GP and midwife were the first people I told! I'd tell them if I were you, so that you can get in the system! Booking in usually happens around 8 weeks, so you're almost there already.
With DS, I had to chase up my scan appt, in spite of having my booking appt at 8 weeks. The NHS can be so slow...

JBrd Thu 28-Mar-13 10:04:41

Janie Not sure if this helps, but your spotting doesn't sound as if it's anything to worry about... But you probably are anyway! As long as it's brown, i.e. old blood, I think that's very common in early pregnancy. But of course we have a history... Try and take it easy, and maybe call the midwife, if you worry too much?

Lucky13ForBaby Thu 28-Mar-13 11:13:59

Morning all. Thanks for the scan reassurance Bod smile Janie in 6 weeks today as well. I've been having lots of yellow discharge when wiping. Sorry tmi! Have you been in contact with the early pregnancy unit at all? I contacted them after a rubbish trip to see my gp and came out very upset. They offered me a reassurance scan .

shellshock7 Thu 28-Mar-13 13:13:44

bump its with these guys www.lifethroughthelens4d.co.uk/ I told the GP on Monday, wanted to get passed my first milestone (the MC) before I bothered them really sad Now just gotta get passed second one (MMC)

Jbrd congrats on the job smile

Hi vocalista I had some strong symptoms (very sore boobs) with MMC, none with DS and have some with this PG so they are all different.

Congrats on your scan gary thats amazing news, you must be so happy smile

almond glad all was good at your appt.

hi lolita sorry you are struggling, hopefully all is well and with Easter etc. the time to your scan should fly by.

janie snap with the sore throat / cough...everytime I cough now I get twinges in what I presume are my round ligaments....panic mode or what?! Sorry you are having spotting, I know you will worry like crazy...now you are passed 6 weeks the EPAU may see you?

So can I ask a question for those with MS, I never really had it with DS (just had to eat as soon as I woke up then was fine) but I feel really sick some days, its all or nothing really...either no sickess (panic mode again!) or feel sick all day. I haven't been sick yet and was wondering how this may progress. I am 7+2 by LMP and 6+5 by Ovulation date so wanted to ask when you all started being sick, does it get worse in a couple of weeks or could this be how it is going to stay?

I must be mad tho as I am quite happy about it, I even kinda want to be sick as I think it would make me feel more PG iyswim...I know you will say I say that now but it would change if it gets worse!

BumpKitty Thu 28-Mar-13 15:07:05

Hmmm shell I'd be interested in that too, I have all day nausea which is like when you are so hungry you feel sick, but like you I haven't been aick yet. I threw up a couple of times when pg with DD but wouldn't have said I had MS, no sickness at all with the mc. I'm currently chain eating toast o keep it at bay smile

andadietcoke Thu 28-Mar-13 15:53:34

shell and bump I had nausea from about 6/7 weeks on and off - not every day. Then from about 7.5 weeks I started throwing up two or three times a day, and that lasted until about 11 weeks. Now I'm sick about four times a week (sometimes morning, sometimes evening) at 16w. That's just me though - everyone seems to be completely different - girls on the September thread have varied wildly.

IBelieveInPink Thu 28-Mar-13 16:08:47

Urgh! I'm here to have another moan! On top of everything else I have now come down with the cold that seems to be flying around everywhere! Just in time for bank holiday weekend! Wonderful!

Morning sickness- I seem to have nausea all throughout the day, getting worse where I haven't eaten enough, or when I have eaten too much. And of course, is worse in the evenings!
Didn't have any at all with either previous miscarriage, so this is encouraging in a way as it is so different. I know it doesn't mean things are going right, but fingers crossed!

BumpKitty Thu 28-Mar-13 16:10:24

thanks for the info smile

jbrd i think booking in is at about 10 weeks in my area, I definitely do not want a booking in appt till I have seen a scan! I don't want a green folder of pg notes till I know there is a baby in there. Though as my scan is now going to be after 9 weeks you are right I should get in the system! I have called up (you call the Children's Centre here) and they have taken all my details and someone will be in touch. They gave me the number for the EPU too just in case I need it.

I have been sent a load of questions from the private early scan people, its a bit daunting.. relevant medical history, what are your symptoms, etc. I feel a bit weird about it all.

lucky I get the yellow discharge too, I read (maybe on here?) that it's the cervical plug forming so all good smile

shellshock7 Thu 28-Mar-13 16:17:16

Thanks everyone smile

I'm eating to try and stop it as that worked with DS but it doesn't make a difference....and weirdly I'm losing weight each week even tho I'm eating loads (lost 1/2lb again this week?) so all a bit strange?! Just gotta wait and see what happens I know smile

And yes yes to the mega amounts of yellow discharge, don't remember this from previous PGs either?

IBelieveInPink Thu 28-Mar-13 16:32:54

Omg! I thought the yellow discharge was from the pregnacare pills I taking as they turn my pee more yellow anyway, but I guess that's another symptom! Wow smile

JanieLovesCake Thu 28-Mar-13 17:04:20

I'm so pleased that I'm not the only alien with yellow wipage ha!!! Hopefully that's what this is then!! Honestly I woujdve checked myself into a&e if it wasn't for you guys <3

bunchofposy Thu 28-Mar-13 20:13:29

Gary so glad the scan went well! And that you didn't buy too many dresses beforehand! Lovely to have a little boy. Did you say you have another boy too? I think I might be on the same team, from the very willy like thing I spotted!

Almond glad the appt went well! What a relief. I've got an underlying virus too I think. Sore throat for months now. I think our immune systems are really crappy now we've little parasite zapping all the good stuff!

Hope everyone else is OK. xx

JanieLovesCake Thu 28-Mar-13 21:23:16

Oh girls I twisted round on the sofa to say hi to DH and I had a mega tweak. Now it's a bit throbby...panicking I've dislodged the bean...is that possible? Oh god when will the panicking stop sad

BumpKitty Thu 28-Mar-13 21:31:59

janie I bet it's one of your ligaments stretching too quickly - nothing to worry about but not very pleasant smile

shellshock7 Thu 28-Mar-13 22:33:55

janie snap (no pun intended!) having lots of sharp pains making me worry like mad...after a day of posifrickintivity cos of MS confused such a roller coaster

MissLolita Thu 28-Mar-13 23:04:03

Hi everyone, thanks for the lovely welcome and great to have a scan buddy BumpKitty!
I have a dd who is 20 months old and my pregnancy with her was blissfully dull. I bounced through the whole thing with no symptoms at all (I imagine I was actually quite irritating to other pg ladies at the time!). I've had no symptoms with any pg so I'm almost wishing I had some this time - it would be 'evidence' wink
Hopefully the time will fly between now and 9th. I did look to see if I could get a private scan last night but nowhere remotely local has any appointments free until 8th so it would be a bit pointless - I hadn't realised private scans were so popular...!

JanieLovesCake Fri 29-Mar-13 10:01:45

Thanks for the tweak reassurance girls! Had a giggle at 'snap'!!!

The posifrickintivity is in the house. Today I feel pregnant. No particular reason, just do, and long may it last smile

Got 8 in laws all coming tonight for dinner, better get on with deciding what to make!!

shellshock7 Fri 29-Mar-13 12:52:04

Can I have a gentle fish slap please...my PIL have not been very nice to me since DS arrived and I get upset every time I see them so DH and I agreed I wouldn't see them till after the 12 weeks scan so I wouldn't have the stress...they don't understand at all and keep trying to upset me anyway, even tho it's for the health of their GC. So he has took DS to see them today and I'm sat here feeling blue imaging all sorts of bad things cos of the twinges, it's so stupid but I'm convinced its all going wrong hmm Help!

Sorry abt the me me me, hope you are all ok smile

IBelieveInPink Fri 29-Mar-13 13:13:50

Oh shell. Sorry you are feeling sad, no fish slap for you, just a hug.
That's horrid, why are they being nasty? No need, especially like you say, for the good of their gc and your dp?!

I am also twinging today. No nausea, but possibly just because I am feeling so ming with my stinking cold!
Remember, twinging is good, means something growing in there! smile

shellshock7 Fri 29-Mar-13 13:29:08

Their other DIL just goes along with everything they want (and then slags then off to all and sundryangry) but me and DH put our family first and do what's best for DS and they blame me for this (not their precious son!) and are quite mean to me really, slag off my parenting choices etc. so it's stressful times when we are together....feel so sad for DS that they can't just see we make different choices but just accept it and be nice?

And I'm talking abt daft things like we asked them to keep him in the shade when he was a new born, not outrageous requests!!

So your seeing the twinges as positive, keep that up!! I know that too just having a bad day smile Hope your cold goes soon, mine was only bad a coupla days this time

JanieLovesCake Fri 29-Mar-13 14:47:15

oh shell that's horrible. you poor thing, i'm not surprised you stayed at home sad

nothing new with me...still got some brown wipeage, trying not to panic. wish i could have some morning sickness (and yes i mean it....i'm sure you understand!). just mega sleepy at the minute, mainly during the day, then when i get to bed i'm wide awake. oh and i'm still an irrational cow...screaming at dh for not cleaning the bathroom for the inlaws coming tonight...yes they aren;t coming til 7pm but it needs done NOW!!!!

BumpKitty Fri 29-Mar-13 20:21:41

Oh shell I hope you managed to enjoy some of your day. At least your DH is supporting you in not seeing them but he may need to step up a bit more when they are nasty to you and explain that you both agree about your choices for DS and they can sod off smile maybe not the last bit!

Now on to me... I'm feeling SHITE, I cannot believe someone can feel like this and everything still be ok sad the low level nausea is now like full on motion sickness and nothing is helping. Lying very still works but I don't get much chance to do that. I've also had a couple of real cramping pains which has scared me a lot. Also I used to get twinges when I sneezed or coughed and these have stopped now, I'm not sure if I've just stretched everything already or if it's bad... And I feel like now I have paid my deposit for my scan I am bound to mc before it. All in all a big misery fest. I don't even feel like chocolate shock

JanieLovesCake Sat 30-Mar-13 12:01:04

oh bump i'm sending you a big hug. i can mirror everything you are saying...except i don't have proper ms yet, i get little waves of wooziness, mainly when i'm standing in the shower, but not enough to keep me happy (how odd does that sound?!). have you tried the little wristbands to see if they help? i used them in my last pg and they worked really well for the few days that i got ms. although that pg didn't work out so not sure how the work longterm, but they really do work for motion sickness too (for me anyways).

i'm trying to gather ideas of what i like to have when i had a really mega hungover as it's kind of similar to ms.... chopped up melon, salty crisps, flamin hot monster munch, satsumas, fat coke. i got a 5 pack of salty kettle chips in poundland so i'm keeping them handy for when it starts.

i woke up this morning really wanting the egg part of a cadburys easter egg. i wasn't actually going to have it for breakfast, just fancied the idea. i stupidly mentioned this to DH who then proceeded to tell me that i need to be careful with my eating as i've stopped going to my spin classes, i don't want to be letting myself go just because i'm pregnant. angry cue the tears. i felt like tearing his head off. i have always struggled with my weight and defo don't want to 'let myslef go' but sometimes a girl's gotta eat what a girl's gotta eat. ut me in a bad mood for the day grrrrrrr

andadietcoke Sat 30-Mar-13 12:26:50

bump you have my sympathies. The bands Janie suggests are supposed to be very good. You could also try a vitamin b complex.

janie 'D'H called me fatty mchatty yesterday. Charming. We've booked emergency exit seats for the flight tomorrow and have just found out you can't sit in them if you have to use an extension seatbelt so hopefully I'm not that big! I find it a bit funny at the moment. I'm 16w and I can't see my feet. The bump's all in front - thankfully so far I haven't put weight on on my bum and hips (they really couldn't stand any more weight on them!!)

BettyFlutterbly Sat 30-Mar-13 20:00:16

Hi all. Welcome and congrats to the bfps. I was a nervous wreck the first trimester and was wishing for symptoms. I was so bad with ms with dd and had hardly anything this time round but have made it to 20w. I have my scan on Weds and am starting to get nervous again!

Glad scans went well this week, Gary I'm sure I'm havig a boy this time but am really hoping for another girl!
Almond I hope you get rid of the virus and feel a bit better soon.

I have heartburn and am hungry all the time! It's driving me mad!! Now I'm happy not to have symptoms and just to feel the baby kicking. I feel like moaning but better not as dh just reminds me how much I wanted to get pg.

I'm going to help dd eat her chocolate eggs tomorrow yay!

IBelieveInPink Sun 31-Mar-13 00:32:34

Hey all! Just a quick one as it super late, but anyone staying in a premier inn who is in any way panicky, please note that the recycled toilet paper they use has red flecks in it which look very much like spots of blood! I just almost had a heart attack, full panic and then realised what was going on! I feel like I should write to Lenny Henry about this one!!

Hope alls well, bump sorry to hear about your sickness. Janie I am the same as you at the moment, just woosy, kinda wishing for more in a very wrong way! I'm sure I will regret saying that!

andadietcoke Sun 31-Mar-13 08:31:17

ibip that made me laugh out loud. U know exactly the kind you mean - we had it in our downstairs toilet.

2nd toilet paper related lesson. If you have pregnancy rhinitis don't blow your nose while sat on the loo and then without thinking use the same bit of loo roll to wipe (after folding it over etc). I didn't realise I had a bit of a nose bleed...

IBelieveInPink Sun 31-Mar-13 08:48:07

Haha! Diet coke, all these things that we don't even think about yet cause the most panic ever! So not fair!
We are with family this weekend. We were trying to keep it hidden for a bit longer this time, mainly because I don't want to disappoint people again. But my sil who is probably the most direct person ever just came straight out with 'so, are you pregnant'. Tried to bluff my way trough it but she didn't fall for it in the slightest. Quite annoyed now as so much more pressure! Argh! Still. 7 weeks today. Hopefully.

Lucky13ForBaby Sun 31-Mar-13 08:54:03

Diet coke I did that last week and had a minor panic! Lol ibip glad all the panic was for nothing. Lenny must be informed. I am really hoping for more symptoms such as sickness and sore boobs as the lack of is worrying me sad getting scared for the scan Wednesday. Does anyone else have one this week? I have been much more cautios over everything this time round. Not even worked out a due date. My should be due dates are approaching in April and may which is sad sad

Lucky13ForBaby Sun 31-Mar-13 08:54:49

Ou happy easter everyone grin

JanieLovesCake Sun 31-Mar-13 11:08:19

ha!! ibip you should leave that comment on tripadvisor!! glad it was just the fault of the loo roll!! and anda you poor thing, that sounds scary, glad both of your fears were not real!

lucky still haven't booked for my early scan, i haven't heard from the hospital yet about my first scan with them, and i'm secretly hoping that they will ask me to come in for an early scan. you and i are both 6+3 today i think?

i visited a friend on friday who was 8 weeks ahead of me before my mc, she now has a 2week old baby (who is totally scrummy), but it only hit me while we were chatting away that i should've been due in 6 weeks, well actually earlier as i was expecting twins so could be less than that sad

but i'm trying to stay positive now, there isn't anything we can do about what 'could have been'. it is sad, reaaaally sad, but don't forget TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT and we are all doing everything we can to have a healthy pregnancy smile sending you a big comforting hug, and some chocolate smile xx

shellshock7 Sun 31-Mar-13 14:08:54

janie sorry abt the brown stuff...just gotta stay positive as its more than likely to be fine smile And yes yes re doing the bathroom when you want not when DH decides...that's a regular argument here too grin

bump sorry your feeling so rubbish, symptoms are good tho so try and take some comfort from that?!

anda I've done that in work and burst into tears before realising blush

So after Friday being the shittest day and then having a lovely day at the zoo yesterday but still having that niggling feeling something was wrong, I've booked (well sent the online request) a reassurance scan for a week on Monday...will be 8+5 by LMP and 8 exactly from when I think I ovulated...I hate scans I'm gonna get into a right state before but I need to know so just gotta get it done confused

squizita Sun 31-Mar-13 18:19:34

Hi everyone mind if I join this thread? I am 5 weeks in (1 week since BFP) on my 3rd pregnancy, sadly the others ended in early MC. As you can probably imagine I am a bit stressed out by it all.

On the one hand it all seems to be OK, on the other because I've never had a pregnancy that worked even the normal symptoms scare the hell out of me (e.g. I have a dull tummy ache - probs wind or my insides stretching etc' but I keep thinking is it the start of a MC, why are my boobs just a bit tender not very does that mean I'm not pregnant enough - same with morning sickness, just a bit nauseous once a day etc'). I also have a mental terror that as this is my third if it doesn't work there is 'something wrong with me' even though I know this is just the usual time they do routine tests and it might just be bad luck or even if I have got a problem it may well be something they can fix. Argh!

IBelieveInPink Sun 31-Mar-13 18:48:17

Ooh shell that's good. Yay for more scans. I wish mine was sooner!

Hello squiz. Congratulations. I am in the same position as you - 3rd pg, other 2 ended in mc. Also panicking about everything smile you are among crazy friends.

To those with pg rhinitis , I have had it for a while, non pg related. I don't know if it will help, but it has really helped me to understand tht when you feel like your nose is blocked, it isn't because there is goo up there, it is because the inside of your nose is swollen. Blowing your nose creates more swelling and more goo! I know how annoying it is, believe me (3 years on and off now) but it actually helps if you blow your nose less. Tends to make the swelling go down quicker if you see what I mean...

IBelieveInPink Mon 01-Apr-13 10:14:54

Hello ladies, hope everyone is having a lovely Easter.
Quick question if you don't mind, my neurotic-ness is coming out again!
What symptoms do you have? This one is particularly for the early on ladies, but any further along ladies- what symptoms did you have at 7 weeks?
Having my usual panic and doing the productive thing of researching rather than sitting and crying about it grin

squizita Mon 01-Apr-13 10:34:59

I am only 5 weeks, mainly I have had tiredness, very mild tender boobs, mild itchy boob, odd moment of queaziness, some smells are stronger not all - was v worried this is 'not enough' but several mums I know mentioned they certainly didn't have all the symptoms all the time. My own mum carried twins with few symptoms- she only figured it out 10 weeks, she even had mini periods. Also I work with a woman about to pop who LOVES her coffee allowance far from finding it disgusting. I think 'expecting' symptoms, thanks to the web, can be scary!

andadietcoke Mon 01-Apr-13 12:56:11

ibip thanks for the rhinitis advice. After a five hour flight yesterday I felt awful. However, Cyprus is lovely and warm although I need to make sure I drink enough while I acclimatise!!

Symptoms at 7 weeks... Sore nipples (but only when I pinched them. Hard wink), very occasional nausea, and I think the burping had started. Nothing else at all. The one thing I've found from pg friends and the September thread ladies is that everyone is different. One of my best friends didn't have ANY symptoms at all until she was about 8 months - I remember seeing her and her telling me it was the first week she'd felt pregnant. She has a lovely healthy 10 weeker now.

ION we were asked to be godparents for our friends' brand new little boy. I'm so touched.

GardenWorm Mon 01-Apr-13 15:59:12

IBIP no word of a lie I had NO SYMPTOMS other than fatigue (but i was working 12 hour shifts days an nights) with DC1 please stop googling it doesn't help!!! (but you know this though don't you ;o)) X

Bodicea Mon 01-Apr-13 16:32:43

Feeling a bit stressed out today as had a bit of bleeding last night. It's only a bit and I know it's common but the feeling of dread is returning. Spent the morning surrounded by friends and relatives with kids and feel totally miserable now. It feels like my lifestyle is set up for kids, most of friends have got them, we waited worked on our careers and got married ,moved to a lovely house in suburbia that is just aching to be filled with kids. Did everything right and feels like the babies thing is just not gonna happen as some sort of weird punishment for doing it all in the right order. Like I can't have everything. Sorry for feeling sorry for myself. I am a bloody mess at the mo.

IBelieveInPink Mon 01-Apr-13 16:47:59

Oh bod, poor you. If it was only a little, don't stress too much, but equally I know what I would be doing. Are you going to the docs tomorrow?

Thanks for the reports on symptoms. <<steps away from google>>

Diet coke, I am so jel you are in Cyprus! I have been daydreaming about a hol. Hope you have a lovely lovely time!

Bodicea Mon 01-Apr-13 17:05:29

Might get one of my colleagues to scan me tommorow. Using all my effort not to sneak in today and have a look myself!!

shellshock7 Mon 01-Apr-13 17:08:47

Welcome squiz congrats on your BFP smile

How long till your scan now pink? Btw I had the least symptoms with DS than with any PG smile

I went to Cyprus anda when I was 16w with DS was a perfect holiday, enjoy!

Really feeling for you bod how far along are you? Can you get to the EPAU?

shellshock7 Mon 01-Apr-13 17:12:19

Doh I forgot you are a sonographer, you have more will power than me...how badly are you stressing is it worth goin today or will you sleep tonight?

Bodicea Mon 01-Apr-13 17:19:02

No not gonna do it. Plus I think I still need an internal scan to see it as am 7 weeks and the scanner I can get access to doesn't have a tv probe so I might get myself in more in a tiz if I can't see properly.
Brig a sonographer is a bloody curse!

shellshock7 Mon 01-Apr-13 17:40:25

I imagine that way madness lies bod no way you should attempt it yourself...I was just wondering whether you would go EPAU the same way anyone would if you know what I mean. Hope you're feeling ok anyway, try not to stress too much smile

GardenWorm Mon 01-Apr-13 17:44:41

Hey Bod no point telling you not to stress because I know I would be but your post sounds quite positive to me as you said it was only a little and you know it can be normal. Stay positive, try and see your job as a good thing: you know you can get a scan tomorrow X

JanieLovesCake Mon 01-Apr-13 18:04:58

Oh bod I'm sorry to hear that, I hope it's nothing to worry about but I'm sure it's a real worry for you. Got my fx for you x

Anda, hope you have a lovely holiday, lucky duck!

Pink I'm 6+4 today (I think) and really waiting for some symptoms to kick in...do far I'm sleepy, burpy and a bit narky now and then...oh yeah and I might have felt a bit woozy but no proper sickness yet, although I did burp and have a bit if acidy kinda sick in my mouth (yes, delightful i know) yesterday and today. Mmm the joys! But that could've been from eating a bit too much.

Bodicea Mon 01-Apr-13 19:12:39

Thanks guys,, I am feeling a bit more positive. No more bleeding so probably is nothing. Just want to fast forward time to 12 weeks.

Janie I have all the same symptoms as you. Burping all the time. Good job been with dh a while as not very attractive x

IBelieveInPink Mon 01-Apr-13 20:01:43

You see all the stuff dr google tells me about 75% of people have sickness isn't really true is it? (I don't know why I am fixating on this by the way!)

Bod- completely agree with the wanting to fast forward sentiment. Am wishing each day away- shame we can't enjoy it!

Shell - scan is now 1 week 3 days and 13 hours. Can't go quick enough! Next milestone is 8 weeks, the point at which I mc one of the times before. That will be Sunday. Planning an entire weekend of not moving on the sofa!

jmf294 Mon 01-Apr-13 21:03:16

Hello there, may I join you.
I was on the Creme egg thread.
I had a MC at 8 weeks in January- I was in the September thread briefly.
I had a ERCP and physically recovered but have been feeling really quite sad the as few months.
I was using OPK this cycle and according to them I didn't ovulate but last week when I should have been on day 24 I got a positive OPK so did a cheap honest which was positive.
Finally did a clearblue today and it was positive with 1-2 weeks, hate the conception indicator but as I just want the 3+ weeks result now!!
I'm 4 weeks tomorrow so it's early days and I am waiting for it to go wrong and have little hope but for today I'm pregnant.
I have 2 DC already and they really want a new sibling so hoping this one is here to stay.

I recognise some of you from the Creme egg and September thread- hope you have all had a lovely long weekend.

BrieMonster Mon 01-Apr-13 21:40:00

Congratulations jmf!

BumpKitty Mon 01-Apr-13 23:06:11

Welcome jmf smile congrats on the BFP

ibip I think with DD I had pretty much no symptoms at 7 weeks, maybe a bit tired, deffo no sickness. I had to have a scan at 10 weeks due to a bit of spotting and was one of those people who was amazed there was a baby in there. Then with the mc I 'knew' I was pg straight away, then As the weeks passed i started feeling really odd about it all, no sickness, was tired but do have a toddler! Then this time horrid nausea from about 6 - 8 weeks, so who knows what is going on! I really don't think we can judge anything by symptoms. Love scan countdown!

bod hope the spotting is nothing, as you know it often is xx

My nausea has got a bit better so that's worrying good!

IBelieveInPink Mon 01-Apr-13 23:55:04

Hey jmf, nice to see you here smile

Haha bump, it's so the way isn't it. I think I am finally shaking off my cold, and a few symptoms seem to be reappearing. So maybe is my body's way of dealing with one thing at a time?!

On the bad side, cold has turned into a cough, which is freaking me out as I now keep thinking Im going to cough the baby out. I know this is not possible, but I am officially mental.

JanieLovesCake Tue 02-Apr-13 10:39:00

Hey jmf!! Good to see you over here joining the crazies smile

Pink I said the exact same thing to DH last night!!!!! I was sure I was going to dislodge or cough up the wee bean!!! He actually looked at me and I think he was going to call the men in white coats to cone to get me!! But the coughing is so vigorous!!! And the sneezes come from my toes and could blow the roof off!

squizita Tue 02-Apr-13 11:06:09

Hi JMF - congrats on the test!
Bod hope all turns out OK! Thinking of you!

I am getting a nausea feeling when I get up the last few days. Not much more. My boobs felt tender this morning but nothing extreme. I have my 1st doc appointment today, gonna ask for a reassurance scan and maybe bloods (both my MCs were early suspected 'non viable' so this would make sense) but we will see! I could do a private one anyway if they say no. But they are quite nice in my GP and EPU.

JanieLovesCake Tue 02-Apr-13 12:33:57

eek i just got home and have a letter from the hospital with my scan appointment! 16th april, only 13 days and 21.5 hours to wait! so i will be 8+5 (i think). my lovely gp must have written a sympathetic letter phew! 8 weeks was my mc time, so i'm already nervous.

hope everyone is doing well today... bod how are things with you? did you get a colleague to scan you? fx all is still ok x

i seem to have more symptoms at night... i had sore boobs for the first time last night (yay!) and also had the dizzies before dinner.

IBelieveInPink Tue 02-Apr-13 13:04:03

Ooh Janie that's how far along I will be at my scan too! I'm so scared. Every day is becoming a massive struggle just to stay sane now. And work isn't helping, is quite stressful at the moment which is just making it worse.

Yay for more symptoms though Fab news. It is making you feel any better?

Feeling a little more sick today. Not sure if that is due to the sheet amount of snottyness at the moment, which makes me feel sick anyway! Sorry way tmi I know!!

IBelieveInPink Tue 02-Apr-13 13:05:19

And bod- thinking of you. Let us know how you are doing x

Lucky13ForBaby Tue 02-Apr-13 14:29:30

Hi all, sorry to hear of all your colds. I just got over a nasty on last week and had the same thoughts as you! Bod how are you?
I'm having a low day and a panic. Having low down back pain on the right side almost in my bum . Am so scarred of miscarriage again sad my scan is 2mor and petrified sad my dr has signed me off work today for a few weeks as am not coping emotionally at the moment and my job is intense and stressful. Feeling very emotional right now. Need your support ladies DH is tries but doesn't really get it!

Lucky13ForBaby Tue 02-Apr-13 14:30:30

* correction pain in left side of back low down. Anyone else got this?

IBelieveInPink Tue 02-Apr-13 14:46:55

Oh lucky you poor thing. Erm, someone said left side pain may be wind? Or digestion issues- with out being too personal- how are your poops? blush
Sounds like you have a very good gp- and scan tomorrow. I know that it scary, but just think how much better you could feel tomorrow. Not long now. How far along are you?

My DH is useless. He actually said to me the other night, when I was stressing again and saying I can't do this, I can't wait another 2 weeks for scan, he just said - well, you will won't you. It's not like you are going to die!!!!
True, I'll give him that, but not what I needed to hear! Queue temper tantrum.

Lucky13ForBaby Tue 02-Apr-13 15:07:34

I just don't think men get it! One day is an age never mind one or two weeks. Pink I am 7 weeks this Thursday I think. I have had a little constipation but have been today blush I am so scarred I'm going to loose another one sad

IBelieveInPink Tue 02-Apr-13 15:31:58

Lucky cramps are so normal. I am sure it is just things moving around in there. But either way you will find out tomorrow, so not long to wait now. What time is your scan? Oh, I wish mine was tomorrow!
If it helps, I had lots of cramps around week 5, they calmed down around week 6 then picked up again the last few days in week 7. So I think anything goes really!

GardenWorm Tue 02-Apr-13 15:36:37

Lucky not sure I can say anything to help the panic but I agree with IBIP at least your scan is tomorrow so you don't have too long to wait. I know it seems an age away but my Drs aren't so scan generous and made me wait days last time. What time is your scan? Do you think it could be a stress thing? You sound pretty fraught as it is with work too. My fingers are crossed and for Bod too X

squizita Tue 02-Apr-13 16:06:18

Lucky - I get low back pain anyway and it really played up when I was pregnant before, I was told it was muscles softening. I've had aches and pains, the Dr doesn't seem concerned by them.

MissLolita Tue 02-Apr-13 17:05:25

Hi everyone, hope everyone is doing ok? smile
Nothing to report over here - still symptomless but I am now less than a week away from my early scan! It actually feels like I can count down to it now! I've even had a confirmation letter grin
And the sun is shining too!

Lucky13ForBaby Tue 02-Apr-13 18:02:28

My scan is 1.30 I think. I phoned the early pregnancy unit as I've had recurrent mc and they offered me one after a rubbish visit to a junior dr a few wks back xxx

Bodicea Tue 02-Apr-13 18:45:48

Hi sorry nt much signal at work.
Panic over. Got a colleague to scan me first thing and even on top of tummy got a heart beat. Phew. I sort of knew would be but after two mcs I am a wreck. Anyway I guess I should count my blessing I am in the job I am in really. Thanks everyone.

Good luck with scan tommorow lucky. I won't say don't worry coz we all do. Midwife that did my scan before I got the heartbeat last week said I looked like 7 shades of shit before it!!!! Gods job she is a friend! And junior doc are shite but epaus are much better as they are staffed by lovely midwives and sonographers who deal with us neurotic lot day in day out.

jmf congrats on the BFP x hooray for cream egg thread

squizita Tue 02-Apr-13 18:49:12

Argh got myself utterly paranoid. Convinced I can see tiny, tiny microscopic almost pink 'spotting' last time I wiped. Could be dots in the loo paper or even my imagination but now I am completely freaking out and blaming myself for even going to the Dr and daring to say I was pregnant to her and organising a scan like I've jinxed everything!! sad I also have a pain I've had on and off (even when not pregnant) which is probs wind but on the verge of tears.

jmf294 Tue 02-Apr-13 19:04:28

Good luck with the scan tomorrow Lucky!
Hope everyone else's scan come round quickly.

Thanks for the congratulations and welcome but I feel a real fraud as its not sunk in yet!
It's horrible we are all feeling so anxious and paranoid.
I am doing the constant knicker checking thing expecting to see blood!
I'm even too nervous to POAS incase it hasn't gone up to 2-3 weeks yet on the clearblue.
For now want to get to 8 weeks as that's when I MC last time.

Bodicea Tue 02-Apr-13 19:06:40

Oh squizita hope you are ok . I know you don't need me to tell you that microscopic dot s don't count as bleeding. And we get all sorts of pains in early days. What did doc say? Are they organising an early scan for you ? X

GardenWorm Tue 02-Apr-13 19:25:35

Great news Bod!

Lucky less than 20 hours to wait (some of which you will hopefully be sleeping), it's really not that far away until you get some answers. Just do your best to stay calm, this journey we are all on is totally out of our hands, you yourself are not doing anything wrong, hold tight and try to stay positive. Big hug X

GardenWorm Tue 02-Apr-13 19:27:51

Squiz that applies to you too X

...oh and you haven't got premiere inn loo roll have you? (IBIP says its tinged with panick pink) x

JanieLovesCake Tue 02-Apr-13 21:02:41

aw squiz i feel your pain. i've had brownie/pinky watery wipage since friday i think...panic stations but research seems to say it's entirely normal. i hope it is just mother nature being a meany. if it gets any worse then might be an idea to call the gp in the morning to see if they will refer you to the EPAU x

great news bod delighted it went well for you smile

lucky i hope you are ok, could it maybe be your kidneys? if so it could be a urinary tract infection. i'm no doctor but have had one before and i think it might have been sore there. the doctors tomorrow will maybe do a urine test to check for you. i hope it isn't anything to worry about. i've been having tweaky cramps for the last couple of weeks... fx for you tomorrow, let us know how you get on x

hope everyone sleeps well, my boobies are sore tonight. just thought i'd share that.

trying to sort out our money situation tonight....DH is really careless with money and i'm trying to get it sorted so we can be comfortable if the pg works out and a baby comes along. should have done this years ago. it's very difficult to get him to listen though which is worrying me... we have a joint account but don't use it, but i think we need to start. HELP!

shellshock7 Tue 02-Apr-13 21:07:05

That's brilliant news bod bet you'll sleep well tonight smile

Hi jmf and welcome, hope you aren't stressing too much!

pink when I had my cough it made what I assume are my round ligaments hurt...I was so panicked confused

Hope you are being kind to yourself lucky good luck for tomorrow smile

Aaaggghhh squiz it's awful isn't it and nothing is gonna convince you otherwise until some mega symptom hits you...we've all been there, just gotta ride it out I'm afraid confused

So my nausea has gone, nothing today at all WTAF my body hates me sad. Trying for a scan on Monday, can't come bloody quick enough blush

IBelieveInPink Tue 02-Apr-13 21:30:25

Oh shell. Don't worry mine has been coming and going constantly.
I actually <<whispers>> had a little chat with baby yesterday. I said to it, you haven't been giving me much hassle. Don't try and be polite, if you need to make me sick, or crampy, you do it, just grow big and strong!
Today, I am crampy. I think baby listened. <<or I have actually lost the plot now!>>

Janie. Good to hear your boobies are sore smile

shellshock7 Tue 02-Apr-13 21:44:05

Aw that's lovely pink since I've been PG I've had a strong pulse in my tummy and I tell myself it's the babysitting me know its ok I'm not crazy honestly smile

shellshock7 Tue 02-Apr-13 21:44:33

Was meant to say baby letting! confused

BumpKitty Tue 02-Apr-13 22:40:45

ah you guys talking to your babies smile today I had a little nostalgic think about what baby kicks feel like. It was inspired by the hand dryer at work (!) it's one of those super loud ones and I always thought it would startle the baby when I used it and it came back to me today. Only allowed myself a bit of gooeyness though then head straight back in the sand grin

bod i'm so pleased all is well, you must get better signal at that hospital I have been checking up on you all day! xx

lucky sorry you are having pain and worries, I know we're all saying it but it's all likely to be normal stuff

GaryBuseysTeeth Tue 02-Apr-13 23:04:12

Great news Bod!

Welcome & congrats jmf!

Janie, if you've got credit cards transfer them to a 0% if you haven't already.
Work out how much you need to spend each month on bills/rent/petrol etc & see if you can cut down (transfer phone/gas/etc).
Both put a certain amount into the joint a month (eg. £150 each) which is for food/household bits (& saving towards baby stuff) & don't spend more than that.
My DH is terrible with money, so he keeps track on everything on the PC..if he won't listen to you, present all the facts (your incomings v outgoings) and let them do the talking.
Our food shop is £35 a week for 3 (plus 2 rabbits!), when I first moved in, he was spending £200 a week as a single bloke in the supermarket & £15-25 on lunch a day....and he wondered why he ended up in the red every month hmm
The Credit Crunch board on here is full of tips & people who make me seem less passionate about the whole thing.
Well done on having sore boobies! I have milky boobs!

squizita, how is the spotting today? Hope you're ok. x

Lucky good luck for tomorrow.

<waves> at everyone, hope you all have a lovely, stressfree (as possible) week. x

squizita Wed 03-Apr-13 07:15:19

I don't think it was spotting, so far been to the loo twice today no probs. [Blush]

GardenWorm Wed 03-Apr-13 07:41:52

Gary £35 a week????? How? I'm amazed and in awe!

Lucky not too much longer to wait, thinking of you today X

Lucky13ForBaby Wed 03-Apr-13 08:05:30

Morning all. Glad wasn't spotting squid smile I'm having another panic! I looked on the November thread to see if anyone having back ache like me and someone has posted on the dangers of scans and dopplers. Am really worried now about going. Also looked on dr google and some sites say can irritate the uterus and cause bleeding. sad don't know what to do now. £35 a week on food for 3 smile totes amaze smile

JanieLovesCake Wed 03-Apr-13 08:25:39

Aw thanks Gary, that's fab advice. I did up a spreadsheet last night (I do love spreadsheets! Even have a mug saying do!!) going to print it out later. I'm thinking after we put money aside for food etc that we should give ourselves 'pocket money' each month/week and we just have to stick to it, don't take cards out etc. I'm going to try the £35 shop. And I'll also have a look at the money forums on here for extra advice. Thanks again Gary x

Lucky I'm not sure what to say, only that I'm sure scans wouldn't be done if there was a risk? Maybe let the consultant know your concerns and they'll be able to explain better? Try to stay calm about it all (easy for be to say I know) xx

shellshock7 Wed 03-Apr-13 11:47:25

I posted a couple of hours ago and it's gone?!

Think I said good luck to lucky and glad you're not stressing anymore squiz smile

I am a bit upset as scan people can't fit me in till a week Sat...am on cancellation list tho. Wish I hadn't booked and tried elsewhere but I've paid deposit now hmm

IBelieveInPink Wed 03-Apr-13 12:06:04

Aw shell that's so annoying! Still, you may get a cancellation, it probably happens a bit unfortunately. Can you not call round an then cancel if you find something? What is their cancellation policy?
I am literally counting the hours now until scan. Still freaking out regularly, had to leave the middle of a phone call earlier as was convinced I felt dampness! I didn't.

Am also finding it really hard - I am really really close to my parents, but after how disappointed they were the last 2 times I haven't wanted to tell them again until we are sure there is a bebby growing, but it means that I am not speaking to them as much to avoid letting something slip!
So hard- I wish time would speed up!!

shellshock7 Wed 03-Apr-13 12:18:58

I lose £35 if I cancel hmm. Just feel stupid as I wasn't sure I needed one and now am desperate and have to wait!

Snap, in toilet now for a knicker check myself..pleased to report all clear smile

That's tough with your parents, we have taken the view that we would rather tell people I've had an MC than am PG then have tell abt the MC...but no way my mum wouldn't work it out (my bump is obvious to me/her/DH) and I see her all the time as she has DS when I'm working so we told her...will you tell them after the scan or wait till 12 weeks?

squizita Wed 03-Apr-13 12:34:44

I told my mum quite early days, I want to make her aware of why I might/might not do things out of the ordinary! I don't think she's told my dad, he has no idea about 'womens' things' and can be quite blase and judgemental without meaning to.

I've still been a bit check-e today too. Keep reminding myself that tiny specks of all colours mean nothing and are probably dust from the bathroom or particles in the look roll. Also have a pain low left side (almost deffo wind) and keep poking my boob to check it still hurts haha.

IBelieveInPink Wed 03-Apr-13 13:29:02

Planning on waiting until after the scan. No way I could wait til 12 weeks, is already making me sad not being able to talk to her as I usually would.

Today is such an effort. Ugh.

Vocalista86 Wed 03-Apr-13 14:44:35

Hi all,

I got a really good letter from my new hospital last night (new because I asked to be referred to another nearby hospital rather than the same one as last time where I had the MC) offering me two scans... a re-assurance scane, 2 weeks today, when I will be 7w4d and a second when I will be just over 12 weeks. I was so pleasently surprised that they've offered me two! I was supposed to be away for work, but I'm putting this first and will be definitely making time for this appointment. It also means we can cancel our private one.

Can anyone advise on risk of MC after seeing a heartbeat at 7w4d? I think last time we only got to about the same time but I suspect there was never a heart beat!

My symptoms are making me less panicky about everything. I have enough feeling sick, tired and weird crmaps/pains/going to the loo to keep me sane and to convince me it's really true.

JanieLovesCake Wed 03-Apr-13 15:20:00

Wow vocal what a lovely letter to get!! If only all hospitals were as lovely!! I'm wondering I'd they sent me my date because they think I would be 12 weeks...my lmp was 27th January but my cycles are 46-50 days so they might not know in only going to be 8+5 on the day. I won't be letting them know otherwise though, is that bad if me?

Lucky, hope you got on ok xx

Vocalista86 Wed 03-Apr-13 15:28:15

Janie, they will probably offer you an additional scan at 12 weeks too, so you will have had two! Will you have had your booking in appointment by then? As they will ask you about dates then I think?

Lucky13ForBaby Wed 03-Apr-13 16:36:59

Yey vocal that's fab smile I'm feeling pretty low right now. Had a panic at my scan appointment after reading risks on dr google and the nov thread and the lady thought it best to only do the external scan. She assured me that it was perfictally safe but it was just best to wait for 2 weeks time And do another external one. Now I'm in limbo as she confirmed a pregnancy in the right place but was measuring small and no heart beat. She said I also have an introverted uterus which makes it hard to see. So more waiting and stressing for me until 2 weeks tomorrow! Pink - I havnt told my parents yet as they were so sad last time round. I would say I'd I Mc again but at least they wouldn't get excited first! Please let things be ok this time (crossed fingers , legs etc!)

JanieLovesCake Wed 03-Apr-13 19:26:12

that's a shame lucky but you are still early for an external scan so fx the next 2 weeks go quickly for you (and me too...mine is 16th and we're the same dates i think)

vocal my letter said i would be having an appointment that would last approx 2 hours and would include a scan... i'm in belfast so maybe this is my booking in appointment.... when i asked the gp what would happen next she said i would get a letter giving me the date for my scan so i just assumed it was this... ah well at least the ball is rolling smile

pink i did tell my mum and dad last week...i'm also very close to them and over easter we had a big boozey lunch so it would be mega odd if i wasn't drinking. although my mum is not mentioning it at all...i know she's just trying not to get excited as they were really sad last time. i asked her not to tell anyone except for her friend who is a private gyn/ob consultant (who did my d&c back in october) and she has offered her services throughout my pg. not sure what to do now eek. shes based at a hospital about an hour and a half away as opposed to my local hospital 15 mins away.

GardenWorm Wed 03-Apr-13 19:44:00

Lucky sounds like earlyness (for external scan) and your introvert uterus not wanting to play ball and show the bean were conspiring against you today! Bah humbug. But at least they have said its in the right place which is a good thing. Just the 2ww....annoying!

Janie personally if I had the option of private care with a family friend I would bite their arm off even if hospital is an hour away. During the early stages as long as you are ok getting there personally I don't think it really matters how close it is.

IBelieveInPink Wed 03-Apr-13 19:49:54

Oh lucky, that's so annoying. But good that is in right place.

Janie- I second garden, I would be using everything I can get. Does the friend have a scanner?!

IBelieveInPink Wed 03-Apr-13 19:51:37

Oh and spoke to my mum again this evening, had a good chat and manage not to mention it. It isn't helping that 2 of my cousins are pg at the moment and I think she wants to join in the fun with her sisters being granny's! Ugh! But for the same reasons, I am not saying anything until I have a scan and a heartbeat. smile

JanieLovesCake Wed 03-Apr-13 20:09:27

well done for not saying pink! my mum is the same, all of her friends are grannies already so i think she is feeling a bit left out. i'm her only hope right now, my brother is older and single so unless he manages to upduff a one night stand...!!

and yes i will defo take her up on the offer, i don't want to cancel the 16th april hospital appointment until i know what she wants to offer... my mum didn't even know how far on i was so won't have told her i want a scan NOW!! god ...how ungrateful does that make me sound blush

shellshock7 Wed 03-Apr-13 22:03:56

What a shit day, of to bed to get rid of it and start again tomorrow hmm

Hope your ok lucky

We do booking in after 12 week scan here and that's the first time you see the MW janie...appt is abt 2 hours yeah. I think it's best as you dont have to go thru it all/blood tests etc. if you've had an MMC

MissLolita Wed 03-Apr-13 22:24:29

Hi everyone, sorry about the bad days but wow, what a lovely letter! Much better than my hospital - when I phoned to chase my scan referral the lady told me they wouldn't see me until after 9 weeks and she started to say it was because 'things have often happened by then' and trailed off. It made me feel even worse.hmm

I heard some terrible news today. There is a lady in my dept at work who announced she was pg just after Xmas while I was still off after my MC and we would have had the same due date. I didn't say anything to her as I don't know her very well and I wanted as few people as possible to know anyway (only my boss knows). Anyway, I've been pleased for her but it's been pretty tough looking at someone who was the same stage I would have been at every day.
Anyway, she wasn't very well before Easter and hasn't been back and then today my boss had to sit me down and tell me that she lost the baby on Easter Sunday. It's so awful. She will have to deliver the baby as she is 26 weeks and I just feel so upset for her. My boss was terribly upset and I sort of froze and couldn't look at him. I think he might think I'm a heartless cow but I'm not, I just couldn't take it in - I was in total shock until I got home.
I know that you are never really 'safe' but by that stage you sort of think things will be ok. Feel so desperately sad for her.
Sorry to dump sad news but my oh was totally nonplussed by how upset I was - he figures that I don't know her very well so why am I upset. hmm

JanieLovesCake Wed 03-Apr-13 22:35:15

oh misslolita that's so terribly sad, i'm not surprised you are so upset. the poor poor girl. words just can't describe how awful mother nature can be sometimes.

shell i hope tomorrow is a better day for you. it's nearly the weekend which is what's getting me through. xx

MissLolita Wed 03-Apr-13 22:37:36

Thanks Janie. I know her baby was desperately wanted too which made it easier for me at the start. Mother Nature is very, very cruel.

Bodicea Wed 03-Apr-13 23:11:41

Evening ladies,

Lucky sorry your scan didn't help give you some answers. Hopefully the next few weeks will pass quick for you.

Hope your day is better tommorrow too shell

Gosh you are all so good nt telling people. Told my mum ages ago when she had to come rescue me as I had stupidly run out of petrol nd also realised left phone in a changing room. She got to me in a fit of sobbing and snivelling. Just blurted it out. Told loads of people really. Not superstitious about things like that. They are my support network who helped my get through my last two mc's so don't See a reason to keep my good news from them.

Anyway have to get stabbed with a needle now. Was hoping dh might not notice not had clexane tonight but alas no. Nothing gets past him!

andadietcoke Thu 04-Apr-13 07:42:05

Hello! Just checking in. So pleased to see jmf grin

Loving having very little Internet access and Dr Google it feels like even more of a holiday.

For those of you wondering about telling/not telling... I got myself so worked up every time I told someone before I thought I should (after 12w scan and NT results). Was convinced I'd jinxed it every time. I didn't tell my mum until 9w and then most other people at 11w when I had a private scan. I posted about this on this thread and someone shared something they'd found on another thread where a lady who'd had lots of losses said that she always tells people about her pregnancies because regardless of how long they lasted she wanted her babies to know they were loved. That really helped me, so I wanted to pass it on.

jmf294 Thu 04-Apr-13 07:49:52

Thanks dietcoke- I was surprised to find myself here this month.

Lucky- hope your scan comes round soon and baby does lots of growing in the meantime.
Lolita - that is so sad, poor lady sad

I got a 2-3 yesterday on the clearblue so going in the right direction. When I came home from work I found the pod urine I had used to test still next to the toilet, the cleaner had been so that is really grim!!
Still very worried but I know this wont change as the worry will move onto the next thing.
Watched OBEM and cried again!!

Lovely thought diet coke about wanting to tell people- for the moment only my husband and I know plus a few friends from my last online antenatal club. I like it being a secret but the way I am eating I think people will think I am getting fat quickly!!

Bodicea Thu 04-Apr-13 08:02:02

Jmf - glad its nt just me. A woman at work yesterday said she could tell I was pg because I was fuller in the face. Not sure if that's pregnancy weight or just coz of recent scoffing out !

JBrd Thu 04-Apr-13 09:54:17

Hello all, resurfacing after the Easter break... Had a couple of extra days off because my sister was visiting. It was really nice, spenidng time with her, and we have now told her and my closest family about the pregnancy. On DH's side, only his parents know, we'll probably tell his siblings next week - family wedding, they'll all be in one place wink. But apart from closest family and a couple of my NCT friends, no one will be told at least until the 12 week scan. I'm hoping to be able to keep it under wraps as long as possible.

Still not sure if I want an early scan, going off the idea a bit at the moment - I don't think it'll reassure me, even if they do find a heartbeat and everything, it's not a guarantee that all will be fine. Just had news from a friend who's had a mmc and found out at their 12w scan... It's so scary.

Is anyone else getting dizzy spells? I felt really rough on a few days over Easter, and I was getting very dizzy on a number of occasions - never had that with DS, it's a bit disconcerting. Went to the gym last night, and had to be very careful about getting up from lying down etc.
But I guess it's a symptom, so I'm not complaining too much! Still no sickness, just a general 'bleurgh' feeling that mostly lasts a few hours, and then I'm fine again. I can live with that!

Sorry for not name-checking, need to read the pages and pages of the recent posts now

JBrd Thu 04-Apr-13 09:56:21

Oh, Bodicea, meant to say that as of today, I'm joining you with the daily injections grin Saw the haematologist consultant yesterday and got the fragmin now. Managed to get blood all over my knickers this morning already, great start (sigh)

shellshock7 Thu 04-Apr-13 10:05:52

That's horrible news lolita seem to be hearing of late losses a lot lately hmm

bod people keep looking at me funny and I'm sure it's just politeness stopping them asking ha ha I finally put weight on this week (2lb!!) instead of losing so looks like it's only gonna get more obvious from here! Boobs have grown loads last couple of days too wink

Hi anda sounds like you're having a great time smile. That's a lovely sentiment, I just don't want to upset people and have them worry abt me if they don't need to iyswim.

Great news on the 2-3 jmf smile

jbrd I was the same as you re early scan and now I want one I have to wait as they are booked up so be careful....also yes re dizziness have been like that since my BFP, I didn't get it till much later with DS either

squizita Thu 04-Apr-13 10:43:31

Bodecea and Diet Coke - yep I am the same. I almost feel it's more jinxed if I don't tell my close F&F, so they know to support me. Also a phonecall "I'm in hospital having a MC' out of the blue seems worse than if there was an inkling. I wonder if it's because I don't dare feel they're 100% BFP until one day I pass 12 weeks?

Horrid to hear of the late loss. sad Gosh it even makes you feel lucky in a strange way; a MC is so different to a stillbirth. I can't even fathom how awful that must be.

I am bricking it today, it's the day I had my 1st MC. No bleeding, tender boobs, bit queaze... but you know how it is!! shock

Jbird- I'm only 5 1/2 weeks and I feel dizzy more than sick - basically a bit frail, not like me at all!

Vocalista86 Thu 04-Apr-13 12:30:00

Squitza, we must have a very similar DD (I'm 30th Nov) as I'm 5 and a 1/2 weeks too. I'm getting more and more queezy throughout the day as time goes on, but at least that means our hormone levels are hight, right? Hope you manage to ge through today ok... thanks

I'm really munching quite a lot at the moment, I find that the unhealthy things, eg buscuits calm the sickness down a bit, better than carrot sticks or other healthy snacks. My waistline is definitely expanding - and all this even though we are told that we aren't supposed to be eating for two!

Jbird I read on google yesterday that at 8 weeks (I will be nearly that for my first scan) that if there is a heart beat, the risk of something going wrong is reduced to only 2%, so I am keeping that in mind as otherwise there is no point in having a reassurance scan at all..and I really need one.

We have told quite a few people, who knew how unwell I was with the MMC over NY, I just feel our chances of everything working out aren't any difference because of what happened before, I feel pregnant and therefore we should be happy and celebrate. Also, we waited until after 12 weeks last time and then we found out about the MMC so, 12 weeks for us, isn't really a milestone anymore. I think the 20 weeks scan will be when I start facebooking etc

squizita Thu 04-Apr-13 13:02:56

Yes we have the same DD, what a coincidence! I am glad that I'm queazy enough to feel pregnant but thankfully not upchucking!