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TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 13:49

Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

OP posts:
fod27 · 14/04/2013 23:51

seaside thanks for your supportive comments, I hope so too
I too have heard good things about acupuncture, a friend of mine does reflexology and she's helped a few people concieve, it's definitely worth a shot, it certainly can't hurt. I know what you mean about looking into adoption I have had the same thoughts was feeling very low and thought it may never happen Did you know that there are websites that actually show you profiles of children for adoption? Not sure that I titan agree with the whole catalogue idea but I did find it helpful from the other side, my mother is currently adopting so if you have any questions about the process feel free to ask

mummy glad your cake was a success, I usually bake with my two but I tend to go a bit OTT I think if I'm going to wreck the kitchen I might as well make it worth while lol so I make about 50! Rediculous I know! Especially when asda make such beautiful cakes (other supermarkets are also available)
Off to bonk now as I'm ovulating....cross everything for me ladies bar your legs of course
seaside big fat fish slap with a slimy kipper

Mummytothearkbuilder · 15/04/2013 10:09

I've also been thinking a about acupuncture - keep us posted on how it goes. Yes cycles have always been long and really irregular - one was 66 days! Before miscarriage they seem to average out at 45 days so I am hope that even though they are long they are at least regular. I have been reading about PCOS and am convinced I might be a candidate for it so not sure whether to mention it to the doctors or not??? Xx

Mummytothearkbuilder · 15/04/2013 10:10

I've also been thinking a about acupuncture - keep us posted on how it goes. Yes cycles have always been long and really irregular - one was 66 days! Before miscarriage they seem to average out at 45 days so I am hope that even though they are long they are at least regular. I have been reading about PCOS and am convinced I might be a candidate for it so not sure whether to mention it to the doctors or not??? Xx

Mummytothearkbuilder · 15/04/2013 10:14

Sorry about the double post there!! Smile Xx

DIYandEatCake · 15/04/2013 12:46

Hi everyone, thought I'd pop back and say hello. Have been over on the 'graduates' thread but still reading this one - congratulations blackholes! bakingtins I'm so sorry you're having a rough time at the moment and I hope you get some answers. You're so kind to us all on here, I hope some more luck and happiness comes your way soon. I'm still worrying myself silly - had a few days of elation after my bfp then the fear kicked in! Have been getting tummy pain, and no progress on cbdigi tests, so having bad feelings - off to see the doctor later. So sort of saving my seat here just in case...

Thundercatsarego · 15/04/2013 14:39

Just popping in to read through and had to send Thanks to diy, sorry you're stressed hun, and good luck at the appointment.

Yes mummy mention everything to the docs and if they say it can't be a factor then ask them for their reasons why. I don't know much about PCOS, this is just my general approach with doctors. Knowledge is usually power!

fod when is your thigh appointment?

seaside Grin at lonnnngggggggg cake

alyant79 · 15/04/2013 16:45

DIY how did your doc appointment go? How worrisome...

boo liesl for 2nd bfn Sad

fod I hope you had an awesome bonking session.

I'm feeling a bit Envy as another of my friends has just announced a pregnancy. Happy for her of course too, but....

Lieslvontrapp · 15/04/2013 17:07

mummy I totally empathise with the long cycles. I had to wait 10 weeks for af after erpc and now I'm on cd39 of what used to be a 38 day cycle and still no af. I was read under 40 days was ok but I'm worried I'm going to have a crazy long cycle again and who knows if I'm ovulating. Thinking of getting a cbfm if these wtf cycles continue.
Sorry for the me me post

ChristineDaae · 15/04/2013 18:09

Hope your appt went well DIY!
I've decided I need to get myself on here a bit more. Seems like everyone around me in pregnant lately. My sister in law text me today to let me know they're having a girl. She's due 3 weeks before I should have been Sad
Anyway... Hopefully none of us will need to be on this thread much longer!!

YonisLittleBairnClit · 15/04/2013 18:19

Hello everyone been MIA for a bit it's TTC weekend so umm well you know whats been going on! I actually feel quite positive about this cycle, even if the CBFM is showing itself to be a complete waste of money.

In other news I have had a spectacular falling out with my parents and sister, over the fact that I won't go and visit my cousins new baby, they are furious with me and can't see why it's an issue. I don't know why would I not want to go see a newborn baby boy in the run up to my DS due date?!
My sister tipped me over the edge with "We all know your in pain (said in a roll your eyes sort of tone) BUT.... I told them all to leave my house.
TBH I'm not even sure if our relationship is even reparable.
All this going on while TTC and strangely I feel Ok about it. Confused

LittleBairn · 15/04/2013 18:56

Oops forgot to get rid of my yoni name. Blush

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 15/04/2013 19:02

LittleBairn - that's awful of them!
If they "really knew you were in pain" then they'd know why you didn't want to go. Hope it is repairable though eventually.
Fx that the sex festival has worked this time - sounds like you and Fod will be POAS partners in a couple of weeks

LittleBairn · 15/04/2013 19:29

egg what really kicked it off was me telling my sister to stop being so Twee and parroting rubbish she had heard, they clearly had no idea of my 'pain' if they couldn't understand. My cousin hasn't said a word about visiting, I posted a gift, I get the feeling it doesn't need to be said she understands.
I should have known better they didn't quite get the situation, after my dad telling me I better hurry up and make another one because my neice really would love a baby in the family. My DS hadn't even died at that point! Ok we knew he wasn't going to make it but still!

fod yay pee stick buddy. I promise this time no steamy glasses of urine I've got my pee sticks already just waiting for a BFP.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 15/04/2013 20:02

Diy I have everything crossed for you. Xxxxxx

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 15/04/2013 20:07

I have decided to take a stand today. I have started 5:2. I've made it all day on two grapes Confused and I'm just about to inhale a 500 calorie ready meal which I plumped for because there was no calculation involved!
I had some EWCM yesterday, and a higher result on the OPK, although not a darker line. We DTD on Saturday and today so fingers crossed! If I ovulated yesterday it was day 18, so late, but at least something is happening! It's just a long wait now!

Mummytothearkbuilder · 15/04/2013 20:54

Evening ladies - DIY - hope the appointment went well Hun

LittleBairn - how awful of your folks and sister - hope you are okay.

Liesl - the long cycles are soo frustrating - I think I will mention it when I go and see the doctor at the end of May - I will add it to my every growing list of questions to ask them about TTC!!

I think I have had a positive opk this evening - if not it is definitely approaching as the 2nd line was practically the same - I don't think we will be able to DTD consecutive nights as last cycle DH had some "ahem" issues and felt under pressure to perform - will every other night be okay??

Any info / advice / knowledge would be massively appreciated!! Xx

Rockchick1984 · 15/04/2013 21:28

Hi ladies!

Just wondering if its too soon to jump back into TTC - it's 5 days since my ERPC but haven't bled at all - had been planning on using the end of bleeding as my cue but obviously that didn't go to plan! Still getting +ive pregnancy test so I know it's incredibly unlikely I'll fall pregnant yet but DH and I are both nervous about it all and I want to get back in the saddle so to speak ASAP.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 15/04/2013 21:35

Mummy we have been having the same erm... problems. Blush DP is convinced that we are 'at it like rabbits' for one purpose only! In reality we have DTD 4 times this cycle! Confused Trouble is, how do you take the pressure off? Ive really tried, but there is always this big baby shaped elephant in the room!
Im sure every other day will be fine.

Mummytothearkbuilder · 15/04/2013 21:47

Thanks Saggy - he is fine any other time of the cycle but once I get that positive opk he over thinks everything and the stage fright kicks in! Does the days leading up to the positive count? I am cd21 today and DTD cd17 and cd20 so you that count?? X

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 15/04/2013 22:35

saggy/Mummy - I found telling DH it was "too late" or "too early" for ttc-ing made him a but more keen. Takes the pressure off a bit
I also used Pre-seed this cycle which is supposed to help the chaps get up where they need to be. Plus they should last for up to 5 days, which considering DH was away over easter during when I should have ov'd (if CBFM hadn't missed it) must have been what happened. My BFP took ages to show up so can't have ov'd before he left.

Mummytothearkbuilder · 15/04/2013 23:07

Thanks chocolate - we have dtd tonight and I will try again tomorrow but as we dtd last night that will be 3 days in a row so not sure it will happen - if not I will go for Wednesday - fingers crossed.

I'm going to do another OPK tomorrow - should the line get fainter? Xx

LittleBairn · 15/04/2013 23:45

egg I'm also using a gel this cycle. It's called balance activ it's meant to help them swim quicker and I think live longer. TMI warning...I spray it into syring, a thin 1ml and then inject myself best before DTD.

mummy your time table is exactly the same as mine, we are also trying to decide if we should DTD on Wed too.
I'm doing the CBFM and I've got a cheapie OPK, does anyone know when I should use the cheapie? I think they are meant to be done later in the day but can't remember.

The only thing that might ruin our chances this month is that DH has been having his usual hot baths this week due to have a really chesty cough. Otherwise I'm not sure he would have managed to DTD. Grin needs must and all that jazz.

alyant79 · 16/04/2013 07:19

Oh am having the same issues. Due to ov today based on phone app. Should have dtd last night (we did Sunday) but dh made it clear that he wasn't in the mood to " do his duty". Humph. So hoping it'll be ok if we dtd tonight instead. Not hopeful for thurs or fri (he's going out drinking) so might see if we can get wed in as well. Not hopeful Hmm.
Rock I'm sure you can start ttc whenever you feel ready. Just keep doing test for bfn. Strange not to have bled at all?

DIYandEatCake · 16/04/2013 08:05

mummy, dp and I had similar issues and I went to all sorts of lengths to persuade him - massages, candles, nice dinners... Sadly what worked best in the end was saying 'only 2 more days then I'll leave you in peace for a couple of weeks'! Ah the romance. Am hoping not to have to ttc again....

Thanks for the kind words, I'm sure I'm just stressing, but gp sent me to hospital yesterday as concerned about the possibility of an ectopic from my symptoms. Having a scan today to check at least it's in the right place - will be too early to see a baby.

Thundercatsarego · 16/04/2013 08:12

Good luck with the scan diy- really hope that bean is in the right place.

I have similar problems with OH re dtd pressure but we have found a way that works ok for us. He doesn't want to know when the crucial days are so the deal is we just both have to make the effort to do it regularly throughout. Unfortunately we're both a bit lazy and/or busy and knackered so could both do without the pressure!

little so sorry about the argument. That does sound really insensitive of them.