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Right, that's it! Fabulous Forty Somethings ttc want our bfp's and we want them now! We have waited long enough!
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hopefulgum · 05/03/2013 09:51
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Morien ·
07/03/2013 10:19
Hello everyone, have been reading your news even if I haven't posted for a few days. Thanks for the new thread gum.
Diege, notsoold, remnant, sparkly, Isabeller thinking of you all.
gum, lizard, drwho sorry about AF...
Hello to the new ladies!
Still no AF here, 8 weeks now. Got another appointment with the gynae next week. Saw my osteopath yesterday (follow-up appointment after my back ache a month ago). I told her I still hadn't had my period but I wasn't pregnant, and she said she was really surprised as she'd been sure I was pg last time - when I asked for details she said she just felt it somehow. I don't know that I believe that's possible, but even though she agreed that she must have got it wrong, it's left me a bit 
and I'm back to thinking I might be pg. It's weeks since I tested... But FFS I had an intra-vaginal scan last week, I know I'm not pregnant!
Diege ·
07/03/2013 11:52
Hello!!! Sorry for going awol. I've been struggling full stop to do anything at all this week, and the commute and teaching etc has done me in!
Was great to read your news notsoold, really, really pleased for you
I've not really had a chance to catch up, save the last few posts, but wanted to say I'm thinking of everyone and crossing my fingers for some more bfps.Sickness pretty bad here, and have also had some spotting which threw me a bit (well, pinkish discharge). It's stopped now and not overly concerned as hormone levels obviously high, but will possibly get a referral for a scan just to get the ball rolling and to check all is well. Feel a bit odd contacting the mw just yet!
JBrd ·
07/03/2013 11:54
Great news, notsoold! Fingers crossed it will continue to be a smooth ride.
CBFM experts needed! I'm not sure what has been happening with my monitor, but it has been giving me 'high' readings now every day from CD10 to CD19 (i.e. today) 
Is that normal?! No peak at any time. It's the first time I'm using it, so could it possibly be that it's trying to 'suss me out'?
I'm rather confused, and not too impressed with it so far, tbh... Am I doing anything wrong? Not sure there's much scope for that, when all I have to do is poas...
mumalah ·
07/03/2013 13:26
hello!
Lizard !st cycle of clomid I had a few dizzy spells and headaches, but nothing since.
Im not sure how to add myself and kids aren't home to show me 
so could someone add me?
mumalah 42 ttc dc6 dc 20,19,16,11 and one special angel ds
Thank you!
DoctorWhoFan ·
07/03/2013 13:29
To be fair, I'm not getting any symptoms of menopause, or perimenopause, apart from my advancing age my FF charts look very reassuring...all apart from that elusive BFP, of course 
JBrd ·
07/03/2013 15:38
CaliBee Yes, I use OPKs and I chart, too, it's like a complete geek fest here in the mornings - the alarm goes off, and I am immediately busy taking all the various readings and entering them into FF 
. Thankfully, DH is a very good sleeper.
And it's only the CBFM that's not conforming - I have a beautiful temp chart this month, which is perfectly backed up by the OPK and cm results, so at least I didn't miss OV day. But I would have, had I just used the CBFM. I'll keep trying it, but if I can't get more than lukewarm with it, I'm going to sell it again. Hmph.
calendargal How far along are you now? Have you spoken to your midwife about the spotting? Hopefully, it'll calm down again soon! Fingers crossed it was just a one off and that you can relax again. Easier said than done, I know...
I'm in full-blown 2ww mode, 5DPO here. Temp started to dip a tiny little bit after 2DPO, but shot up again substantially today. Plus, I'm really really cramp-y... Symptom-spotting, moi?!?
CaliBee ·
07/03/2013 18:37
Its so good to be able to read your good news notsoold
calendergal and diege lovely to hear from you...I hope the spotting sorts itself out for both of you. Fingers crossed
jbrd have to say I feel that my cbfm was a bit of a waste of money. I get just as much satisfaction with my smiley faced sticks. If I could be bothered with ebay I would sell it now.
I have just returned from a very interesting trip to see my GP. She was so lovely. Before i even sat down she had a genuine sympathetic look on her face. So nice that she had read my notes before I got in her room. She shocked me by spending time asking how I really was and how was work....she even tried to persuade me to take some time away from work (lots of awful stressful things going on there, but thats another story) which I have refused to do for now. However she was shocked that the fertility clinic had never done tests on my blood sugar and thyroid levels. She said she would have expected that to be standard procedure in a woman of my age with sudden irregular cycles...hey ho, will duly fast and toddle along to be bled tomorrow.
We also had a chat about FSH levels. Now I had been led to believe that day 3 tests were gospel, and that my score last year of 20.5 on day 3 was as poo as it could get. Following mine and drwhofans convo earlier I mentioned that the home fsh tests I took were negative for high FSH. Apparently (she tells me)in our 40's we would expect to see raised fsh levels on day 3...it means our bodies are working in harmony with our depleted egg reserve and producing more fsh in an attempt to mature a good egg. The indicators of early menopause occur when blood taken later in the cycle shows the fsh to still be elevated. So she said that whilst mine was higher than normal on cd3 (although that could also be due to my wonky cycles and my body trying to adjust post mini pill) the fact that my fsh was 4.7 on cd18 of the next cycle makes her think I'm just normal. How relieved was I to hear that?? She also said that given the news that I had conceived first time on clomid she thinks I have a very good chance of a succesful pregnancy. I love that GP ....she has lightened my mood for now.
mumalah ·
07/03/2013 20:16
Not so old Sorry I signed off earlier before id said congratulations, thats lovely news!
calibee After a visit to my gp Im also having the same tests as yours, she also thought the hospital would have done these tests.
greenlizard ·
07/03/2013 21:36
Notsoold that is BRILLIANT news! Yay! I am so thrilled for you and Mr Notsoold. You must be so relieved.
jbrd last cycle was the first cycle I used my CBFM and I started testing at CD6 and it asked me for sticks every day until I had finished a whole box of 20 sticks. I got a high from the first stick until stick number 20 where I got a low!
According to our friend google, it is quite common to get just highs during the first month whilst the machine ?baselines? your hormone levels (or some such thing). Not convinced but have another box of sticks so will be giving it another go this cycle. I will also be using OPK?s ? this month I had very strong results from OPK?s so am not sure why the CBFM couldn't pick up what an OPK can.
diege sorry you?re feeling a bit rough. When will your sickness get better? Both my sisters really struggled all the way until about 20 weeks and then overnight it was gone ? my younger sister (who had her first at 41) then started panicking that she wasn?t being sick anymore . She also had lots of spotting during her early pregnancy and her DS was a robust 10lbs when born. Fingers crossed for both you and calendergal and hope you get to relax a little soon. The whole journey is quite stressful all round isn?t it?
drwhofan I hope your anxiety improves (or you feel ready to get some support for it) it must be quite a struggle for you. How are feeling today?
On CD3 today and feeling so much better now the horrible first two days are over but feel a bit worn out so off to bed nice and early as DP is away and I get to hog the whole bed and duvet to myself.....
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hopefulgum ·
07/03/2013 23:13
Hi everyone.
notsoold, I am really pleased to hear the scan went well. Hopefully it will be smooth sailing from here on in.
Deige and Calendargirl, sorry to hear about the spotting, but it seems so common in early pregnancy, I'm sure all will be well. Sorry the sickness is so awful Deige, but it does mean the hormone levels are high, which is great for you.
Jbrd, glad to hear you have ovulated and you are back in the running. Hopefully you'll get two pink lines at the end of this cycle. As for the CBFM, I think it is probably just trying to suss out your cycle for the first time. I think if it does the same thing next month,and you know you have ovulated, don't keep feeding it sticks - it is just too expensive. Last month,even after a peak,twice, the damn thing kept asking for sticks 9 I heard it asks for them in multiples of 10 - either 10 or 20 per cycle - a marketing ploy perhaps?), so I just turned it off til yesterday. I only have about 8 sticks in the pack left so I hope that will do me this month. I'm loath to order more, I can't buy them in Australia, so I have to order them from the UK, and it is expensive getting them sent over. I've got everything crossed that I won't need it again after this month. Wouldn't that be nice?
Isabeller - any news about your scan? I think it is awful that you have to wait. Hopefully you'll have news soon.
I watched "The Midwives" again last night. I do love that series. I cry every time one of them gives birth. I just so,so,so want to hold my own newborn again.
I must dash. I've been single parenting for the last few days while my DH has taken a group of year 12's to the big city for a geography camp (they are studying cities as well as landforms). I must say, although he doesn't appear to do very much when he's here, I am shattered after doing it all solo. Lots of taxiing my older two girls about, as well as doing everything else and working. At least he shares the taxi duty when he's here. I am glad he'll be home this evening, though I know he'll be knackered.
I think I may order Chinese Takeaway for dinner tonight. I know I won't feel like cooking
HAve a good day/evening/night
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calendargal ·
08/03/2013 10:53
Still a bit of pinkish spotting here - so far just on wiping, it seems. Jbrd, I am 49 days / 7 weeks today. My second pregnancy ended at 48 days and the end started like this, so that's why I'm not holding out much hope. gum, I know spotting does happen in successful pregnancies, but it didn't happen in my one successful one, and it did in my two unsuccessful ones... I suspect I have a problem carrying (never any problem conceiving, so far) although obviously that's a hunch. It's just a waiting game though. I haven't booked in with a mw - I don't think they give you an appt until 8 wks (at least that's my experience). I'm not actually registered with a GP atm so not sure what to do. I suppose I'll just wait it out.
Hope everyone else is OK - thoughts esp with remnant, sparkly, isabeller
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