TTC 10+ months Part 13

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A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

Evening ladies,

Have been awol for a while with a busy work week and then a trip to the in laws with a broken phone. I was not going to be logging on to mumsnet in fil's house .

Have had a quick look through masses of posts but will have missed loads.

Well done to joy and euro for managing all of this so well. I so wish that we could make it all go away in an instant.

sar I would be amazed if this 2ww wasn't causing you to mental like crazy. It would take an iron will to ignore it and carry on as normal. The others have all given good advice. Take it one day at a time xx

Strangely happy for the arrival of several af's but boo to cycles being cancelled .

As for me, we are doing well. A sad weekend with in laws for reasons that I can't go into, but home now and snuggled up on the sofa with MrM. AMH results on Tuesday so trying not to stress. MrM very nervous about first hospital based sample but we've spoken about the fact that it's nothing special to the staff and anybody he meets in the corridor in the clinic will have to do the same. Still some serious performance anxiety.

Big waves to all and a promise of a good catch up tomorrow.

Hi

Just wanted to join the thread. TTC for over 8 months now. AF just arrived yesterday marking the beginning of CD9. I'm going to see the doctor tomorrow, I know you are meant to wait 1 year but I'm sick of hearing about friends and family getting BFP's within a couple of months of trying and it not happening for us. Can't keep being positive with no end in sight!

joy I will be thinking of you tomorrow, take time for yourself, big hugs

pout good luck for EC tomorrow

sar big hugs

euro sorry you feel low today

madness sorry about the sad weekend, hope you get good results this week

angel welcome

Just a quick one to say i hope everything goes smoothly tomorrow. I hope it will be quick and painless. You have been through a lot. I will be thinking of you. All the best.

Sar - perfectly normal to feel like that. It's an anxious time. You have out a lot into this and it's only natural to feel emotional and tearful. I really hope it works. When is your otd?

Free - not long till your test date on Tuesday. I'm sending positive vibes your way.

Euro - i hope you are feeling better. I feel for you. It must be so hard. I'm thinking of you and really hope it will be as painless as possible for you.

Not sure why buzzy and sar think my job is interesting. work for myself so in that respect it is. My work is quite varied so i do feel I learn a lot and it keeps me engaged.

joy my thoughts are with you today
you too euro
hang in there sar
Monday waves to all.

Have had family here this weekend so no cuntryfile catch up. Joy, I'll be thinking of you today. Big loves to euro, hang in there sar and pout hope it's all going well.

Madness I'm wetting myself over getting my fsh tomorrow so good luck.

Will try catching up properly after work.

Just a quick train post...

joy I am thinking of you today and hope everything goes as well as it can

And pout good luck with EC! Enjoy the lovely sedation drugs and also the fact you don't have to do any more stabbing yourself. Am keeping my fingers crossed for a good crop.

sar please don't beat yourself up about a bit of menkuling! You have managed to keep so so calm for most of this cycle, a bit of worrying at this stage is v normal and v much allowed. I am so so hoping this works for you but do you have a plan b? My friends who are doing ivf were recommended by their counsellor to work out next steps for after each cycle, as a way of helping to deal with it all. I've found it's helped my in the 2ww to know what I'll be doing next. However, I am sure you won't need plan b.

Hugs to euro in this shitty period and waves to everyone else. I'd def be up for a meet up either in London - nellie I'm London based, or 1 hour north of London sar. It'd be lovely to see you all again/meet some of you for the first time.

Gotta go. I look like a mental Michael Jackson, typing on my phone with just one glove on...

Ps I can't believe the bloody FB button has reappeared at the top of the Fred! Am terrified I'll accidentally post my entire ttc history to my newsfeed.. Is there any way of complaining to them about it?!

Good luck today pout. If it was like mine you'll be done already!

I will keep you posted about the London dates then, yay!

Hope things go ok for those of you with shit to deal with this week. Thinking of you all xx

Sorry for being so rubbish at keeping up. Trying out an ostrich technique re TTC.

Gin - re the FB thing, report your own post maybe? ( that's meant to be the confused face but I can't tell the difference on the phone app!) I hate it too. I would be mortified beyond belief.

oh pout good luck today. I hope you are soon back at home resting up.

Good luck to pout and joy today. I will be thinking of you both.

rabbit I'm sure your FSH will be fine. x

yikes gin can you imagine how mortifying that would be? That would be my worst nightmare. Perhaps if you report the thread then they could remove it.

pout wishing you good vibes today. I wonder what your haul will be?

joy massive hugs and general support for you today. I hope it goes as smoothly as it can and you're soon home snuggled up and taking it easy.

sar it's too early to know anything yet, mentalling is normal. I know I'll be a mess during the 2ww.

gin coming up with a plan b scares me. We don't have one. Adoption isn't an option for us right now. Perhaps if we move back to the UK it might be but that's some years away. So, ivf feels like the only thing and if it doesn't work . . .

Waves to everyone. Must make an effort and do some work at work x

mrsd there's really no reason why IVF shouldn't work for you. You know what your issue is - male factor. The ICSI process will bring sperm and egg together to overcome that problem. You are young and healthy. It should work for you.

The FB thing is shit. I'll post on site stuff.

I've posted here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/1701955-Why-is-there-a-tweet-button-on-all-my-threads?msgid=37755804#37755804

Also, since I have posted I've found customise. I was expecting it to be under the profile section but it's actually just above the Active bit on a PC. I've taken off the tweet and FB buttons now.

that's nice of you to remember sea but I'm feeling a lot of PMS symptoms so I expect AF shortly. lunchtime in a minute, maybe I'll go out and get a test for tomorrow, just in case. I'd share my FF chart with you if I could work out how to link it.

How did it go, pout?

thanks euro you sound like my DH he is the eternal optimist and is confident icsi is going to work for us. On paper I know it should. But, I have lots of nagging doubts. We don't really know if the few sperm that DH does have are damaged or not.

pms symptoms can also be pregnancy symptoms free

Thanks ladies. All done and currently on sofa under duvet. Have been bleeding quite a bit and am pretty uncomfortable but more like bad period cramping. Have taken some extra strength pills. I very nearly threw up a few hours ago. It's such a horrible feeling but I wonder whether it was the pills mixing with pregnancy hormones. I hope all this normal.
No tears but I have a feeling the next week or so will be hard.

Pout - hope EC went ok today.

Madness - sorry to hear you have been down.

Waves to everyone.

I'm a pessamist for myself, mrsd, but an optimist for others!

joy I'm glad you are at home and under the duvet. I think the throwing up could be due to the GA. It's a pretty common reaction. I'm sure the tears will come down the line. I had lots of tears for about 3 days after my first bad scan but none at all since. I just feel flat and empty. But I am sure I will break down again at some point. One thing my acu lady said was that I shouldn't feel like I have to react a particular way. I am feeling very "forward looking" at the moment and just want to get on with the next cycle.

/joy rest up, big hugs

pout hope all went well with EC

euro you are an amazing person

nelly I am in the greater london area, so might be able to meet up :)

rabbit don't worry about tomorrow it will be fine

sea I just have this image of you in a lab, a bit like a mad scientist but in a good way

Joy glad you are home and tucked up on the sofa. Allow yourself to just 'be'. If the tears need to come, fine. If they don't, that is fine too. Hope you have some good box sets and sending over some sticky iced fingers. Hugs hugs hugs.

Euro -sorry you have been a bit down. Your acu sounds wise.

Den -for now allow yourself to believe and enter in to the dream of your baby appearing soon. You have excellent chances.

Free - how interesting. Will be watching this space.

Rabitt -is it the blood test or test results tomorrow?

Pout - hope you are well and all good with ec?

Im not as sobby today but being busy at work helps. I have never felt so unpregnant in my life......but I know it is too early. Gin - I think we may already be on plan b unfortunatley. Adoption isn't an option as wouldnt be able to have baby / todler and hearts not in it. I guess another round of privatley funded ivf could happen but our failiures are bizzare based on embryo quality so not sure how useful it would be. Dh isn't keen for more ivf but would if I wanted. I thought my natural conception chances were a little better after the right tube was freed during surgery. But my consultant thinks not. Logic makes us think she cant be right but she is the expert. So I guess I am preparing myself for a bit of no mans land.

Waves and squeezes all around. This is a tough road we travel.

Well done on being tucked up at home joycep. Feel free to do whatever is right for you. I hope you feel better physically soon. I totally concur with you acu euro that you shouldn't be worried about what the right feelings are, but accept them as they come. Forward-looking, wailing, angry, resigned, happy (it will happen again) etc. Many squeezes to both of you.

Sar a huge one to you as well. I just hope these two are very sticky and there is no need for plan B.

How was EC pout? I hope you're okay!

Fingers crossed for test-day free. I felt nothing when I was diffed either. So...

Evening ladies

joy I am glad that you are home and under a duvet. Sorry that you are feeling sick. I'm sure that nerves and the emotions will be contributing to the sickness. I am thinking of you and send you love.

euro It's good that you are looking forward but we are here if you have a slump.

rabbits Any news on your FSH?

Free I really hope that you are wrong and you get a lovely surprise.

Sorry for not properly namechecking but I have skim read and want to thank you for asking after me today. It means so much. Well I'm home, arrived home mid afternoon. I feel a bit sicky and really quite sore Big Dog standing on my right ovary didn't help I think it was the GA. Am bleeding a fair bit and it hurts to wee BUT apparently they collected 14 eggs which to be honest I am astounded by. On Friday's scan things didn't look all that with many small follies & I had to do an extra shot of GonalF at a higher dose. So I wasn't expecting much today so was pleasantly surprised. Makes my battered ovaries feel worth while

I will update properly tomorrow.

love and waves X

Wow, well done pout. That is a very good number. You get rested and keep big dog of your ovaries! They have done very, very well!

wow well done pout rest up now if you can.
joy glad you got threw it, I'm sure you will feel physically better after a good nights sleep. Everyone is here for you.