TTC 10+ months Part 13

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A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

Thanks euro. I know it is a case of try it and see but like you, I was fairly suicidal on the pill, so I am just petrified. I did discuss this with the clinic and if I can't cope, they'll cancel the cycle and try SP instead.

lemon thanks, Cowboy IVF and the ultimate barren! Just shows you never know. And right at the end too. On the planning thing, yes you have to live your life however tough it is to fit it all in. I find myself up shit creek now because we have made some decisions based on not being up the duff and lost options; now we have to make more based on being diffed which will only work if this pregnancy works out (and it's very early days, of course). But what can you do?

X-post euro speaking of home births, you can get a temporary floor for the occasion from BnQ (I read that on MN) Did you read that article I PMed you?
lemon indeed the reaction to the pill may not be a good indication as euro's experience showed.

If only we had a crystal ball lemon. If you hadn't had any success with IUI then my advice would be to crack on with ivf. However, it did work for you once so that makes me think again. A lot comes down to whether you feel ready for ivf, and whether time is a factor. I assume you're not having to pay for the iui? If you were then I would definitely say go for ivf now.

euro my friend is in south east London. She had the same midwife throughout her pregnancy and should have had the same one for her homebirth. However, this midwife turned out to have holiday booked and my friend was overdue so it didn't work out but I think the same midwife throughout pregnancy is quite common.

rabbit I forgot to comment on your GP appointment. I wanted to say, that I'm wary of non-fertility specialists giving advice on treatment options. I'm sorry, that's not very unhelpful is it? I just mean, don't let a GP sway your instincts because although they're doctors, GPs don't always know much about ttc.

Thanks mrsd. That would be good. Perhaps things have improved.

Hi all - just popping on quickly to post a link to this recent thread which contains a link to a scientific paper that apparently shows there is no causal link between emotional distress and ability to conceive - thought it might be interesting for those worried about the impact of stress/distress on ttc.

Thanks artemis

Hello ladies I have never posted on any of these boards before, I'm afraid I am a bit of a stalker, don't worry though nothing to fear from me I just felt that I had to post just this once.

First of all I would like to say thankyou to all of you. I am in the very lucky position to already have a gorgeous little boy (well nearly 6 so not so little), it took us nearly two years to conceive him and I knew nothing about fertility so when we decided to try for number two and it didn't happen I found mumsnet and your thread. Unfortunately we are now 5 years down the line and we never got dc2 (too old now!!!) but in the time I have been reading you have all taught me so much and not just about TTC. Most of all I have learned from your stories how lucky I am to have what I have. I have now come to terms with the fact that more children will not happen but continue to read and cheer you all on in your journey's, I think you are all incredibly brave and strong and wish you all the luck in the world with everything you are going through.

Secondly and the reason for my post. I am outraged by the petty and vicious comments made by that vile, spiteful woman. I truly think that she may be a little unhinged, she is certainly selfish, bitter and has a very nasty mouth on her. Anyway I just wanted to say please don't give up your thread just because of her, remember that you all help countless women that don't post as well as being a community in yourselves. As I constantly say to my son 'don't let one nasty child spoil the whole playgrounds fun!!!'.

Anyway that's all sorry to butt in but I couldn't hold my tongue any longer. Again I wish you all well and have my fingers constantly crossed for all of you.

pipgem friendly stalkers are more than welcome. Very nice of you to comment and tell us your story. Secondary infertility is a bitch and your first was hard won too. I think TTC is different when you have a child I lots of ways but you are so right to have found peace with your situation and enjoy your family. Much happiness to you.

Hi all

art thanks for that link - I can't believe you're 16 weeks already. Amazing - it has shot past. I can imagine you're still nervous, but soon you'll be on the home stretch!

joy I hope you are ok - thinking of you.

doll I think the only thing you can do is to make life decisions as though you aren't pregnant, so it sounds like you did the right thing - even if things are made more complicated now that you are. You can't put everything on hold, otherwise life slips past without us even noticing. You must have an early scan coming up soon - I am so delighted for you. You're already an amazing mum and I am so glad your little family is expanding.

sweetgrouch sounds like a gorgeous hike - it's amazing the effect that being outside in the fresh air always has on my mood. I'm sorry about the upsetting comments from your SIL. I am a PCOSer, but I don't get periods at all - it's great that you're ovulating, and I think it's a quite common condition - there are things that the docs can do, and lots of PCOS women get pregnant without any meds too.

madness glad you are slowly emerging from the tent. I think these things come in waves. What a slog it is! Not long to go now before your IVF, and we'll be here for support.

pout have you started stimming yet? And how goes the craft empire? The fancy restaurant was great - no Bush twins, unfortunately. Curses! But lots of delicious food. I've been off booze for Lent so asked the bartender to make me a virgin cocktail, and he came up with this fab ginger, basil and lemonade concoction. I felt both virtuous and sassy drinking it!

sar how lovely to have you back with that wonderful long post - your empathy and generous spirit shining through. You are going into FET with an open heart. You have everything prepared after your op, and there is every reason for this to be the lucky go. We are all rooting for you, just as you have supported us.

mrsd about making your own coffee after the end of the Regime. Hope you had a lovely weekend.

gin an evening of crap TV sounds perfect. I watched the Oscars last night, wrapped up in a blanket on the sofa - heaven.

lemon I think mrsd's advice about being ready for IVF is spot on. When I think back, I could have done my first round as early as October, but I don't think MrC and I were ready for it yet. I think you'll know when you're ready for it - although I so hope that it's not required for you and SB and you get your baby without it.

midnight lovely to have you back. Romance novels are brilliant - my colleague has just lent me a copy of Jump by Jilly Cooper - I am really looking forward to cosying up on the sofa with a hot chocolate and having a read.

euro I'm excited for your scan - can totally understand the being nervous though.

princess always amazing to see you here - we miss you! Come back more often!

I've missed lots of people - nelly, seaview, free - apologies. Nice weekend here. I had a bit of a blip on Saturday as I had to go to a friend's baby shower - I love this friend dearly and it was a hard-won baby, but everyone was pregnant and it just reminded me of the whole TTC business, which most of the time I try to forget about - and then I heard that MrC's much younger cousin, is pregnant . She's in her early twenties and is engaged to her boyfriend, but apparently it was unplanned. Then MrC reminded me that I didn't want the cousin's entire life, which is true, and I felt a little better - a variant of pout's wise adage that to be jealous of someone you have to be jealous of their whole life, not just one thing. A lovely, chilled out Sunday, with Pilates and then the Oscars to watch, helped cheer me up, too! Happy Monday to all.

xpost pipgems - welcome, and what a lovely post. Thank you for sharing your story with us - it sounds like your little boy is very very loved.

all right ladies. I have managed to grow an egg deemed worthy of getting on with IUI Mark V. I find it very strange when the consultant says, "FINALLY, about time too." I just smiled and replied, that is the way my body is. I mean, it's cycle day 18, is that really SO slow? Anyway, tomorrow's the day. It's the last one according to the plan and our first IVF consultation is in a week on Monday. I'm half sad it's pretty sure IUI won't work out and half glad to be getting on with it in moving to the next step.

Hi viv.

sigh I wonder who eurekajohnsson might be .

The other poster hasn't been vilified. I have a sneaky suspicion you are the other poster lashing out yet again. If not, consider why all of those posts have been deleted... It doesn't take much to work it out.

Pipgems what a lovely post - ignore ignore ignore the other poster.

As someone who has used this thread for a year, I can categorically state that there is no bullying here. Just ladies having a crap time supporting each other. It's a wonderful sisterhood. Not cliquey, but welcoming and warm. A safe place. You are putting people off posting, people who need this space. You didn't get support because you attacked. I've never seen anyone attack / lash out at vulnerable people like this in all my time on mumsnet or in fact in my life. I'm really shocked and appalled, frankly.

Stop trying to ruin this for everyone else. I needed the ladies here when I was having a really rubbish time last time last year - really needed them. I would have been put off by someone like you - constantly wanting attention for all the wrong reasons and maliciously attacking those who just want some support. And worse of all pretending to feel hard done by and keeping on coming back for more. I hope you feel ashamed of yourself. I would have then been left on my own to deal with my pain alone.

Wanders off muttering to oneself...I mustn't feed the troll and will instead report the post

Glad you popped by pipgem, do not worry about certain people. But I am sure you don't. Enjoy your not so little son.

Sorry it has taken such a long time for the egglet to grow free. Fingers crossed for last one lucky.

Sorry you had a bit of an A pg-announcement critter*. You seem to do so incredibly well with the whole coping thing. And thanks for the tip about being ready for IVF.

Right. Post reported. It's nice to see you all today. I would love to catch up properly but have some work to finish off. I'll be back later.

Friendly waves and hugs to all the gang :)

Hullo everyone,

Just a quick note that it's come to our attention that a returning banned poster keeps, er, returning.

Please rest assured that we are aware of it, and doing everything in our power to stop it. As ever, if anything is making you suspicious, please report it.

I finally googled critterpants and now your name will make me smile forever more. There is a whole world out there that I had no idea of. It is a sweet if slightly strange world :)

MNheadquarters is there anything you can do technically to keep this person in check, who's been insulting on our thread 4x with 4 different identities in the past two days. It seems a little excessive and very unpleasant. If this behaviour continues I do think it will threaten our thread, which I think is a shame.

X-post with kate. Glad you're on the case.

MNHQ Kate thanks for letting us know - good to hear you're on it :) I think we're all being vigilant to keep our little corner of MN rosy and safe for everyone, nice to know that you are too

Thanks, MNHQ!

friends, a random interlude? Enjoy Peace and happiness.

Doll if I wasn't a 'fat, pregnant' swan and if I had my own front room to do this in, I would so be learning that routine later Sadly, I'm not sure the in laws would appreciate it and I fear that my ankles are not up to the challenge. Love it!