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Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 3)

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Bunnygirlie · 23/12/2012 23:28

Hey ladies, we're over here!

bunnygirlie, 32, TTC since June, AF coming around New Year!
Twinklestar 2, TTC1, cycle 16, BFP was due 19/12
BraveLilBear,TTC
Lolcbcb,TTC
Aquarius,TTC
Happylass 34 cycle 4 BFP due Jan 1st
Navis176, 35, TTC #1, cycle 3 (this time around), bfp due around 19 Jan (I think?)
Neshie, 31, TTC #1, on cycle 9, after stopping the pill 18 months ago (took 10 months for AF to return!) BPF due 12th January Fx
MotherOfCleo TTC#1, cycle 3, 5dpo, BFP due New Years Day.
Viviennewestwould, 41, childless hag, TTC one year (mmc in March), on Clomid, ovulating today!
Pipbin 37 cycle 16 BFP due 26/12

Zombies, 32, almost 3 wks pg (by my calculation)- per standard
measurement from LMP, 6 weeks pg, PCOS.
MeanMrsMustard 31, 5 weeks pregnant.
Quod,33, PG
Purplemonster, PG
Janey 38, 12 week scan on Christmas Eve
HazleNutt, due June 21st
Rach, 34, 13+4 pg, due 26th June

Apologies if I've missed you or got something wrong

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happylass · 13/01/2013 20:29

Did you have a good weekend away Bunny??

I too am thinking of visiting the GP soon. Can I ask how long did you all wait before first seeking medical advice? It's only been 5 months but am getting impatient. Given that I always get a positive OPK and temp dip on cd11, temp rise and OV pains on cd12 and my luteal phase is always 14 days what are they likely to do first?? DP has already been tested and given the thumbs up.

viviennewestwould · 13/01/2013 20:41

Happy, even if I was as young as you, at 34, I would lie to my GP about how long I've been trying. Five months isn't a long time but if you leave it 18 months and then start investigations, before you know it you'll be 36 or 37. Again, this shouldn't be a problem, theoretically, but you will kick yourself hard if you find, at the age of 37, that you need assistance. Your GP will first of all order day 3 blood tests (FSH, LH, etc) and day 21 (progesterone confirms ovulation).

I start my voluntary work with Manchester's addicts tomorrow. Wish me luck.

Pipbin · 13/01/2013 21:27

I agree Viv, Happy lie about how long it's been. The only problem is if you were using prescribed contraception and then they would know.
And Bunny it's a long time before you get as far as me. I'm not sure when we started with the GP but I know that DH went for his SA last New Years Eve.

The doctor held his pen between his middle and ring fingers, made me twitch!

Rache1S · 13/01/2013 21:35

Hi ladies, sorry to barge back in! Glad to see you are all well and walking like John Wayne after all the DTD Smile

Happy when I had my coil removed (aged 33), the woman at Family Planning told me to go to my GP if I wasn't pregnant after 9 months of trying.

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Bunnygirlie · 13/01/2013 21:40

Happy, we have been trying 8 months now but I will be telling docs its been a year as they won't do anything if you are under 35 unless you've been trying 12 months I think!

Weekend was lovely thanks, nice to relax and get away from all this stress. Managed to DTD which was nice, at least we know its still works lol. I know we haven't made a baby this month but we did discuss how we need to start getting into the habit of DTD more often throughout the month so its not too much pressure to DTD loads during THE week! If you know what I mean.

So it's another failure of a month but feeling better about things.

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happylass · 13/01/2013 21:42

Thanks all. I thought the NHS advice was to go after 6 months for over 35s? Can bend the truth a little bit but I was on the pill before TTC so can't lie too much!

happylass · 13/01/2013 21:43

Cross post Bunny. Yes I'm 35 next month so honking I can get away with telling them I've been trying about 8 months?

happylass · 13/01/2013 21:45

Honking = hoping! Bloody iPhone!

Boodle9 · 13/01/2013 22:03

It's probably best that you don't go in honking, happy; you'll probably get a referral but it might not be one you want! On a serious note though, if you are 35 next month then just get on in there as you're right; the advice is 6 months for 35+.

Glad you had a good weekend, bunny!

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Bunnygirlie · 13/01/2013 22:12

Just catching up with what I've missed, Crikey there is a lot of DTD going on. It's no wonder I can't get pg if we can't even manage once a week Shock. Need to get back on that horse!

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captainmoll · 13/01/2013 22:44

Bunny Horse eh? Lucky thing Wink nudge nudge, wink wink..

I went to the GP after just under a year of trying, but told her it was just over a year. She said where she'd been a GP before you have to wait 2 years!! before you can get treatment. Thankfully, she got me going on tests etc straight away. I'm not sure of they've taken DH's age into account, as he's nearly 40 (I'm 32), and men do have a fertility slump post 40 too.

Pip I don't understand how anyone can write like that. He is clearly a weirdo.

Good luck for your op this week (it is, isn't it?), thinking of you.

Boodle9 · 13/01/2013 22:46

Viv, I missed the last line on your earlier post - good luck with your volunteering tomorrow!

Pipbin · 13/01/2013 23:28

Thanks Captain, yes I'm in on Thursday.

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Bunnygirlie · 14/01/2013 08:18

Oh Crikey captain My hubby 40 this year too, uh oh!!! maybe we should have picked younger models lol

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viviennewestwould · 14/01/2013 08:22

Pip, I think I've slept with your consultant.

viviennewestwould · 14/01/2013 08:23

...when he wrote me a cheque afterwards that's how he held his pen.

twinklestar2 · 14/01/2013 08:59

Captain - it's 2 years at my GP too but they're referring me early as they can see I'm doing all the right things.

twinklestar2 · 14/01/2013 09:01

Captain - it's 2 years at my GP too but they're referring me early as they can see I'm doing all the right things.

captainmoll · 14/01/2013 11:32

Bunny - I think we must be living parallel lives!
Twinkle - glad they're not making you wait 2 years, that's a crazy amount of time!
Viv - I don't use this term lightly: LOL

Rumplestrumpet · 14/01/2013 11:48

Ah, not only am I not the only one desperately trying to have a baby, but I'm also in good company when it comes to judging people for really unimportant things like holding a pen properly! I hate weak handshakes too, always makes me lose respect for a man (I know, that probably make me a bad person).

Glad to see everyone had good weekends, and that many of you are lucky to have found good GPs. But for those of us without, it seems getting to know our bodies better and pooling information is a great tool. I've had a similar situation as you, captain, seeing lots of different consultants who don't know what the key issue is (on a non TTC issue). In the end I started every consultation with a 30 sec summary of the issue and steps taken so far. They didn't always like it but I found it cut to the chase.

Thanks Boodle for the sympathy - I felt really guilty for being upset when my best friend announced her pregnancy at Christmas - I was/em genuinely happy for her, and wouldn't want her to wait for ages like me. And she was really sensitive about it, not shoving it in my face or going over the top. But it still felt like a kick in the teeth. And while I can't wait to rub her belly and feel the baby kick, it'll also be bittersweet.

Twinkle - we're married 2 years in Feb too. I glanced at our wedding pics the other day and thought how well I hid the fact that I was so cold I couldn't feel half my body! As for bunny and happy, I think a little exaggeration with dates is fine. viv is right - we'll be kicking ourselves later for not acting sooner. And there's no harm in just getting some bloody tests. I'm planning to have a whole load when I get back from my hols, and go armed back to the doctor - after consulting you wise ladies for advice on what it all means!!

Rumplestrumpet · 14/01/2013 11:49

(blood tests - just shows that some words come naturally!)

Soph80 · 14/01/2013 13:12

captainmoll NICE guidance is semen analysis and blood tests at the very least after 1 year of trying! Post 35 years, its 6 months. Good luck!!!!

twinklestar2 · 14/01/2013 13:52

Rumple - sometimes looking at my wedding pics make me sad as I remember how excited I was then to be trying for a baby soon.

Rumplestrumpet · 14/01/2013 16:03

oh twinkle I know what you mean. But then I also love remembering what an amazing day it was, and how I felt so incredibly loved by my friends, family and new DH. And having a partner in life who supports and loves you is priceless. So, while I want to add a mini person into the mix, I'm also trying to see this as extra "us" time. Hopefully we'll have a big family with kids running around, and be grateful that we had this time just the two of us. I know couples who got pregnant too early and never had that time to settle into the marriage and just enjoy each other's company.

That's my glass-half-full thought for the day, anyway!

twinklestar2 · 14/01/2013 16:40

That's a really good way to see it, actually :)