Morning all
Lol how sad am I up and posting at 6:00 in the morning? Truth is that dh left his keys when he went out and rang the bell so he could get them. Needs his keys as has some secure thing on them that gives him a code to log into his computers at work – dunnow how it works but he can’t log in without it. So as I had got up I thought I’d pop online J.
Klou I think your situation is all too familiar. I tried for 13 months before I fell pg with ds, and it’s already 11 months this time round. Didn’t have any m/c’s though so definitely started to lose heart after some months of trying. Never went in for temp charting or ovulation prediction though, even though I bought an isisscope this time round but it’s still in the box and unused.
I think that dh’s feel it more because once they manage to get you pregnant their work is done so to speak. I think it’s all too familiar to see posts on here saying that “dh think he’s just a sperm doner”, and I think that we can often become more insensitive at the time when we want a baby, and aim to get pregnant without thinking that we’re trampling all over our dh’s in the process. And I think that sex so often becomes a chore then, and then it’s important to put things back in perspective.
If the spontaneity has gone out of your sex life, then put it back, remember, the baby you are meant to have is in there, he/she will be made when he/she is ready. I know I’ve said this so many times before but it’s true. If you have a loving relationship, then chances are you’ll make love often anyway, so you aren’t reducing your chances of conceiving because you’re not dragging him to bed every night, cook a romantic dinner, suggest going to bed early, lie there and talk about your days, and let nature take it’s course, don’t have sex, make love.