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TTC 10+ months, Part 11

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buzzybee123 · 05/11/2012 19:55

A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

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lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 14/12/2012 21:34

Well pout, whatever else you can say MrP's porn taste made me snigger. SB and I just had a chat about the porn on offer in our clinic. Apparently there is even a bed. He's invited me along, as we're IUIing on Sunday. Just did the last stab of 2012 :) quite pleased about that. Hope the house is good. And the sternness offer is open!

Also the craftiness inspired me, I have started knitting a scarf for a lovely friend for Christmas, which will be a bit of a squeeze to get done, despite big wool. But I love home made stuff too. I made my mum and sister cushions this year. And our flat is decorated in various crochet Christmassy things. It is nice!

So sorry to hear/read the final negative (of this round) nelly. I hope the wedding and honeymoon will make this fail into insignificance. And we'll be here if and when you go through it again in the new year. With a take home baby, please.

Yay for arteman eventually getting of his ass. Come and join us with warm elderflower cordial on the couch. Pass that wine and rocky road rabbit. Sounds lovely. PS I love the fred-killing. And I never know what to do about bumps and I just ignore them a lot. I am so petrified I'll really insult some person with a little excess fat. And I don't always want to hear their symptoms and whinging.

Enjoy the party in the short dress critter. It is good to let your hair down now and again.

Looking forward to a good year with new jobs for arte and sar - I am sure you'll both be fab at it! Many hard-won babies and BFPs for the fred. I reckon it will happen for us and since so many of us are heading down the assistence route, it is likely to be sooner rather than later!!

How did it go madness? Hope you're recovering okay!

How are you today joycep? Anything nice planned for the weekend?

Hiss boo about the sechsfails, but buzzy great you can have a laugh about it. And triple yay for fail-causing Kayla!

Big waves and luffs to you all!

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 14/12/2012 21:37

Horror at the tesco ball rearranging incident, rabbit. And I don't notice anything during my cycle except hurty boobs (=post-OV) and damp slidiness (=just pre-OV). On oversharing, the scanning lady could tell I was swiming the slidy stuff yesterday, as apparently my womble had opened. It was gross Wink

The pains sound quite nasty. Did they look for endo when they turned you inside out anyway?

rabbitonthemoon · 14/12/2012 21:58

lemon when the womb came out dr big inspected every crevice and space for endo, not a spot of it. My womb actually came out for a bit. Puke. I'm just letting my opk brew. If its positive I officially down tools and give up! It really does feel like ov pain. My op ruined me Sad

rabbitonthemoon · 14/12/2012 22:00

Negative. Sorry womble. Let's make friends. iPhone always tries to make womble into wimbledon. I might adopt it.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 14/12/2012 22:02

Brrrr at womb leaving the body. Thankfully they put it back in. But it does all sound odd. No chance of asking someone who knows what's what whether it could mean anything? I have no sticks of either variety in the house although I know should be able to pee lines on whatever tomorrow due to triggering tonight...

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 14/12/2012 22:03

The OPK should not be influence by the womble though, thinking about it... I prefer womble over wimbledon!

mrsden · 14/12/2012 22:05

I'm pleased you and your womble have made friends rabbit. That is strange thinking of your womble being in the outside world for a bit. And to think the surgeon has had his hands all over it!

I'm always impressed when people on this thread say they have ovary pain, I get pains in my tummy region from time to time but I have no idea if it's my ovary, or bowl, or intestine etc, how do you know?

mrsden · 14/12/2012 22:06

Also, when I have a smear, I get a pain in my lower left tummy when the scrapey bit happens. But this can't be my cervix so why do I feel the pain there?

Bubblegum78 · 14/12/2012 22:07

My hubby and I are trying for a baby after his vasectomy reversal in March this year.

I had a miscarriage at the beginning of september.

I'm starting to lose hope. :-(

mrsden · 14/12/2012 22:10

You've come to the right place bubblegum, this thread is amazing support for when we feel like its all hopeless. Did the vasectomy reversal work then? I'm sorry about the miscarriage, are you under the care of a fertility unit?

akuabadoll · 14/12/2012 22:22

mrsden re ov pain - indeed. I'm clueless. Freaks me out when folk talk about it. I remember art's acu said there is not much going on that low, just lady stuff and poo stuff (cute summary on my part). Still I don't know at all. oh yes ladies I did get 'cycle back', in the end, 4 or 5 days post fanny candles I think. I'm not sure that's a real cycle back though. Not sure. I'm not going to try and figure out what is what though. I'll IVF cycle again in the new year, it's not that difficult (I do hate spending the money, honestly). Oh and hi all, loves x

rabbitonthemoon · 14/12/2012 22:25

I think I just blame my womb in general for infertility lemon, like its a person. Hare often sticks up for womble!

mrsden I know ov pain because of when it comes. It's almost back ache ish to me but not quite. Like kidney pain but further forward? Hard to describe but I recognise it, but only by deduction since ttc. For years I thought it was something sinister!

bubble welcome to you. Come and stay with us. Bt don't give up hope yet by a long shot. One big thing I've learned is that for a lot of people, making babies takes fecking ages! And a vasectomy is bound to prolong this but sounds like the op must have worked and you've been unlucky. I'm sorry about your mc. Bu I have hope for you.

rabbitonthemoon · 14/12/2012 22:28

Big wave and hug doll. I've read ov shouldn't hurt. But Chinese meds think nothing should hurt and all should be perfect and in exact lunar balance. I'm yet to meet this person. And I could weep at what I've spent on acu. But if I think of it as counselling it feels a bit better.

akuabadoll · 14/12/2012 22:29

Blame away rabbit why not? Love how Hare sticks up for the little fucker, someone has to I guess.

akuabadoll · 14/12/2012 22:35

I've never had acu rabbit I'm useless at paying money for anything to do with my body if I'm not in a life threatening situation hence waiting one thousand years to do IVF till my eggs are old as the hills speaking of which I have had a stupid accident and Ken is threatening a massage something or other. Agreed.

akuabadoll · 14/12/2012 22:37

t'interweb wrote "agreed" not me Grin

GinSoaked · 14/12/2012 22:44

Just wanted to say rabbit I sometimes get ovary pain about a week before ov. I think it's the ovaries waking up? I've been dildocamed at that point of the month and everything was normals despite the pains.

critter I made the rocky rd last night! It was devoured by my colleagues today. A big snog to nelly for recommending the recipe. I miss out the nuts and use digestives. Enjoy the party and try no to stress about the wasted egg.

nelly sorry the bfn was confirmed. I'm still a bit envious of your amazeballs fertilisation rate.

We got sent a treatment summary letter. Dave's SA was shockingly bad, about half as good as before -1.7 mil count, 1% morphology and 9% motility. I 'm hoping it was due to the evil cold he had, but shows we do need to move onto other options.

pout I suspect dave all men indulges in nuddy phone ladies too. He was horrified at the 50+ (as in old lady) porn in the clinic's masterbatorium. Apparently posh clinics have DVDs... With his 2 good sperms, he needs to save them for me, not nuddy phone ladies!

Anyhoo, on with consuming my body weight in chocolate covered marshmallows. Will catch up properly this weekend. Big luffs.

ThatWayMadnessLies · 14/12/2012 22:55

Hello ladies. still in hospital but doing well. a bit confused about what's happened as was very woozy when cons came round. left tube is gone (i was expecting right Shock) and Cysts drained but not removed as stuck to my bowel (i think). Evidence of infection so vicious anti bs for 2 weeks then doc wants me to down reg for a few months before ivf Shock Sad. will get more info tomorrow. can't get my head around it now.

Off to sleep but big hugs nelly

Thanks everyone for all your support.

GinSoaked · 14/12/2012 23:00

Awww big hugs madness. Hope you aren't too sore and get a good night's sleep x

buzzybee123 · 14/12/2012 23:26

evening ladies, back from xmas work do, lots of booze, manager got us all a round, survived the maternity leave staff talking babies, old boss not coming back Grin

rabbit There is a phsyio at base who I can't quite work out if she is pregnant or just getting fat, so I don't say anything Grin and Shock at the elf fondling, I get funny ov pains, I'm also feeling emotional and still have nausea and hunger at cd9,

nelly I am sorry, enjoy our wedding and amazing honeymoon

art sorry Mr A is not helping, if I didn't want to do something I would just say 'you're not going t make your pregnant wife do that are you' Grin you need to look after yourself and make him do more

madness big hugs just rest and see what they say tomorrow

bubble welcome to the thread, you'll get great support here

we are not worried about the sesh fail, who knows whats happening with this cycle, I am happy just to wait for IVF next year, well off to bed nite nite ladies

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lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 15/12/2012 07:44

Welcome here bubble. It is a fab place, which is clearly why we all hang out here for so long Wink. MCs are horrid, sorry about yours. But it seems like the vasectomy worked!

Well done on surviving the op madness. That sounds hardcore. I hope you feel much better soon! And get some information you can digest. But that might all have to do with the GA. Is MrMad there with you to listen, ask questions and remember if and when the doc comes round?

Well done for surviving work Christmas do buzzy, despite baby talk. I guess the booze helped?

:( at the 2 good sperm that dave is spending on nuddy ladies gin. But well done on the slow gin and chocolate haze. I am going to bake all weekend (and do the parental sapphire wedding anniversary and an IUI in between). It is time for Christmas baking!

Did Ken force the massage onto you doll? I agree that it is best to avoid docs until it is life threatening. Although clearly with baby making I stepped over my natural avoidance...

Intrigued by womble and other pains in that area. I have to admit that since I've been diffed something has changed down there, I get pully feelings a lot post-OV, and I seem to be able to feel awake follies. But realy, I reckon it all has to do with my newly loosened bowels. And never with the big O. But thanks to last nights trigger I know it is O-time in 15 hours...

EuroShagmore · 15/12/2012 07:46

rabbit I'm glad you have broken up. You are making me laugh with your posts are the moment. I get my first ov twinges at CD4 usually, and then they come and go every couple of days until ov. I think it is just the follie growing a bit or something.

buzz we saw Mrs erm, I've forgotten her name - the lead lady who did he presentation at the open day. Although she was running late, so her colleague started the appointment.

sarlat I think we are cycle twins. I'm 9dpo today. If there is anything in there, it is well and truly pickled after 48 hours of Xmas parties!

Nelly sorry about the BFN. I really was still hopeful for you. But hurrah for 5 weeks off and your forthcoming wedding! Do the hobbles have a role in the wedding day?

Art sorry the mister is being a twat.

Critter I hope the party was fab.

Accident doll? Are you ok?

Gin you made me giggle about wanting mr gin to save his two sperm for you! BTW, for DNA fragmentation ishoos, some clinics (including ARGC from what I have read on t'internet) recommend the wankalot protocol. Apparently cleaning the pipes regularly is good. I have suggested it to Mr Euro but have not requested regular reports.

madness that sounds like an awful lot to take in. I hope you are ok and sleeping it off. x

Crafty 10+ers, can you give me some advice? Bear in mind I have not done anything remotely crafty since I left school almost 20 years ago, so it needs to be advice for the hard of understanding! Where can I get reasonable quality jewellery wire and clasps? I have a pearl bracelet that is not expensive but sentimental (it was a honeymoon present from Mr Euro). It broke in my jewellery roll on hols (so thankfully I have all of the pearls) so I need to redo it.

sarlat · 15/12/2012 08:31

Loving all the rocky road talk - want some now.

Masness - hooray, you made it through. Sounds like the very mention of IVF means they are very positive about your chances. Sorry for the nasty antibiotics. I will say it again my lovely - you are a brave and special lady and soon you will meet your baby.

Rabbit - I love your recent posts. Don't worry about the lady with the tummy / bump. I wouldn't have mentioned anything either for fear of either response. I get ovulation creaks and pains a week before too although I would descibe them as 'noticable' compared to actually painful. I think it is the growing and stretching and they often have spurts rather than steady growth. Ha ha ha at the elf and his christmas nuts. Chumba and I were in a pretty little tea room place last weekend. We were there until chucking out time. I went upstairs to use the loo and found the chef stripping off in the middle of the upstairs part of the cafe (no public there). He saw me and dived in to the nearest cupboard. Ha ha ha.

Den - ovulation pains are niggles slightly inwards and slightly lower than the hip bone. But not getting the pain is very normal too. My opinion is that the pain is related to the anatomy of the indivdual and if there are nearby organs and structures which might get poked. It is interesting how those of us like me and Rabbit with very tilted wombs really get the pains which sort of makes sense. I wonder if your smear test pain is because it scrapes near the bottom of the womb and maybe you get some referred pain which sounds very normal although I'm sure it feels odd.

Lemon - so gald you have had you last jab for now. Thank you for all your positivity about the future - it does help!

Bubble - glad you have come to join us. It's really not easy coping with ttc is it. Sorry for the miscarriage. I had one too (along time a go now). Good luck for the next step.

Doll - it's great that your cycle came back. My AF reappeared exactly 4 days after stopping the progesterone injections too. And my cycles got back in to a normal pattern really quickly so all sounds good for you. Do remember you made great embryos and you were unlucky this time - that is all. Hope you are ok after the accident? By the way homelands is literally keeping me and chum 'alive' at the moment. I luffs it and it is the only thing I truely can be distracted by, relax and switch off.

Pout - I'm sure no nekked lady image is as hot as you are my lovely.

Gin - sorry to hear that the sperm analysis was bit low. I reckon the cold could be to blame. But the quality of the spermios must be half decent in order to get a blasto? But I totally understand that you need to keep your options over and I am in awe about how well you plan and cope and I just luffs ya, I do! Wink

Art - aw, a 10 hour day with no tea is not good. Defo do the poor prego lady routine. Grin. You deserve it especially after how calm and collected you have managed to be throughout al all of this. I take my hat off to you lovely lady.

Buzz - glad you had fun at the paaaarty. Don't you find the colleagues we have can be the most oddball of all when they are let loose on the vino? Xmas Grin. Glad the old boss is not returning and glad you are not upset by the sesh fail.

Euro - yes I am 10 dpo today, we are twinnies. I feel no bean implanting. And have picked my insides too. Hope the nausea has gone?

Glad its the weekend although its a busy one with finishing the crimbo shopping, a 30th birthday meal and night out, making wedding things and hair dressers. Love going to the hair dressers. It feels like a genuine excuse to do nothing. I am keeping the rock chic fringe but hoping to go more red. A bit festive like. I have been trying hard this week not to see a potential 'announcement' from my sister as a bad thing post wedding. I know I sound like a cow and I am not jealous by nature, nor do I see it as a race. It's just the terror of becoming the one that is struggling and doesn't get there where everyone else does. I really need a strategy to cope with this. I wouldn't dream of behaving badly outwardly as I would never allow myself to act in a selfish way or hurt anyone elses feelings. But I need a techniques which helps me cope on the inside. If I could crack that, I think I would be okish and could just focus on my treatment again and look forward to 2013, Any good ideas?

EuroShagmore · 15/12/2012 09:09

Sar I find telling myself that that is X's baby, it's not my baby and has no influence of whether or not I will win my baby quite helpful.

Nausea has not come back. It just lasted 4 days this time. I have had no other diffage symptoms, so I don't think I have a little maldives-made baby on the way. Meh.

akuabadoll · 15/12/2012 10:33

I can relate to that feeling euro - Maldives baby I mean - looking back over a cycle and imagining it being the one that worked. It often seems to me that it should have been 'the one' for one reason or another and the Maldives seems like a good reason. Here's hoping, just a little anyway.

Thanks for asking about the accident, it was last Monday actually and ridiculous. I walked into a metal road sign (sigh). I hit my head pretty hard and was bleeding a little at my hairline, did not fall or pass out. Ridiculous but not a big deal in itself. The thing was though about 1 second after the impact I got this crazy bolt of lightening feeling down my right arm right to the finger tips. I still have pain and dumbness in various places in my arm and hand 5 days later. Self diagnosed as a trapped nerve. It's been really bothering me during a massively busy week, I keep getting distracted by it and then stress that it with never go away (I have unfortunately had a couple of small accidents where I never fully returned to normal). Hence the threat of massage lemon Ken has none a bit himself which has helped a little, it's not that I have a problem with at all it's more that he is suggesting getting a professional one. He is dealing with someone who got her first hair cut in an actual hairdresser at age 30 so I tend to take some convincing.

Oh, have to run because the boys just came home and I need to pretend I'm not on MN.... Loving the Christmas talk. Loves to all, will be back.....x