Fantastic 40+ Thread - Part Eight.

[goldengirl71]

"Come on ovaries! Let's get this party started, yeah?"

FF, we crossed posts [waves] Are you going to start ttc at Christmas? I wonder, also, if you would be prepared to share your ttc story. I don't think I've heard it...didn't you mention IVF t'other day? I'm sorry for the prolific posting, I'm a dreadful chatterbox.

Do forgive, one more quickie: prior to implantation is it even physiologically possible to have pregnancy symptoms? Surely not (please say no...please say no...please say no.)

Morning all....I have woken up in a much better mood this morning. And yes golden you lovely lady you...I can say hand on heart he does love me. Managed to have a longer convo last night (15 mins whoop lol). He was explaining that some 40 other recruits were sent for a haircut after dinner last night. He didnt need one but apparently they are not allowed to be on their own, they have to stay together. I feel for him right now. I know he is only 23 (believe me if he acted like a regular 23 year old we WOULD NOT be together) but he has a very wise head on his shoulders and this lack of freedom must be torturous.
Before implantation there wouldn't be any pregnancy symptoms (despite us convincing ourselves)....just the possible reactions to the progesterone from the corpus.
My boss resigned yesterday....I was initially pleased as I thought it would mean a possible reshuffle and chance to improve and promote myself (I'm a bitch I know, but her management skills were pants). Alas the heads of department (who never actually work in the department) have aportioned the work to those already overworked and decided to employ another Pharmacist (despite a lengthy battle to recruit to the post we already have available) therefore completely overlooking development for us poor technicians. I'm not a happy girl but have decided (completely out of character for me)to keep my gob well shut and see how it pans out!!!
Have a great day ladies x

calibee I think in life in general keeping your gob shut and seeing how things pan out is probably the best way to get through situations like that- not that I have ever managed it! Sounds like a mad decision by the 'higher uppers' though . Glad you're feeling more positive today xx
Golden I would second that there will be no symptoms before implanation as no hcg 'in the system' as such. Then I think it's 3 days after implantation that hcg might show on preg test. Are you still temping, or does clomid give a false reading?
Well have ewm here, lots of it, which isn't typical for me, and as dh has begged asked nicely to do the deed tonight who am I to say no...might even do an opk this afternoon - knowledge is power and all that.
Hope everyone is ok xxx
Hello to gum and fireflies xxx

Golden I'll just echo what Calibee has said about symptoms - even if you are pregnant you might not have symptoms, I'm only just starting with a few symptoms now and the ones I expected (sore boobs and puking) are noticeable absent!

By the way hope you will all wish me luck as it's my first scan tomorrow at Care, I'm excited but also a bit apprehensive! If I get any pictures I'll post them on my profile although it'll probably just be a dark blob at this stage!

Yes, Diege, I'm still temping and seeing lofty temperatures which haven't been in evidence since my pregnancy chart in January. We all know that that can mean shit, right? I was going to be really brave and sensible and NOT take a pregnancy testing stick in my luggage for my weekend stay with mum. However, my mantra is 'knowledge is power', right? So..in order to take control of my emotions earlier I think the right thing to do is to test. I shall use a crappy One Step internet cheapie on Saturday (11DPO) and if that is negative I shall use my remaining First Response stick on Sunday. If that is negative, well....there is no false hope to be had, is there? [fucking dreading Sunday emoticon]

I am feeling horribly irritable all of a sudden. I reduced my antidepressants from 10-5mg (I started off on 40mg) the other day and I think this is to blame. I haven't had sex for NINE DAYS because DP is so wrecked from that bastard marathon (he rang me today to tell me he was stuck in a ditch and a farmer was trying to haul his van out. He said he was 'rushing' and slipped off a path. This is all because his body and mind are exhausted and it is entirely his fault for running a fucking marathon having not trained for fucking weeks and weeks. I have no sympathy). I have also just returned from the dentist (4 mile round trip on foot) where I waited half an hour to be told I needn't have bothered as my lost crown is not problematic. Upon my return I was assaulted by a wave (nay, a tsunami) of ammonia. Cat piss. I'm sure this fecking kitten has a bladder infection, he pisses like a race horse.

Furthermore I have just shrieked at my poor mum for suggesting that I am not a very good girlfriend for the way I iron DP's shirts (because he wears a sweater over the top I only iron the collar and cuffs. What's wrong with that?) My mum also thinks it's 'not on' that DP makes his own sandwiches and that I don't rise at the same time as him to 'see him off to work'. Why the hell would I do that? That would mean rattling around this labyrinthine shit-hole of a house for an extra three hours a day. Harrumph!!

Oh, Tina, masses of luck for tomorrow! xx

Very quick post - sorry i haven't made any effort to read or keep up with you all but OMG Calibee - I've just looked at your photo. I am sooo jealous that you get to TTC with such a hunky young man whilst I had to make do with my old man seriously, my love - he looks simply scrummy :-) (and you look pretty damn good too!)

Awww I'm blushing. Thankyou hippy. He is pretty special....I have no idea what I did to deserve him. I did try back in the very early days of our relationship to push him away to find some young sexy thing who would give him babies, but he was having none of it. I'm so glad he didnt let me push him away...even though this army stuff is tough. I'm looking forward to seeing him in uniform though wink wink.
Tina lots of luck for tomorrow....will look forward to seeing the pictures.
Hey Golden you are doing so well with your medication reduction....just go at your own pace. Its not worth wasting the good they have done by trying to cut them down too quickly. If they are what I think they may be, they are safe to give during pregnancy ;)
Diege oh my....sounds like you will be enjoying this evening...I'm so jealous lol. Have fun xx

Just a quick hello to all & a wee update before I head to bed (and not for anything exciting; I'm simply bloody exhausted!)

I booked in with the midwife today at approx 11.5 weeks. Felt very surreal & strange - can't quite describe it.....next hurdle is a week today for the 12 week scan & dreaded neuchal translucency. Realise it's automatically going to come back high risk due to age & then will have decisions re: cvs/amnio to make. Just feels like a whole series of hurdles..

Tina good luck to you for tomorrow - will be thinking of you & hoping the scan goes well..

Evening everyone!
I've been away for a few days but have been trying to catch up with everyone's stories (good and not so good) on my phone. That in itself is a big technological leap forward for me; now I just have to work out how to use it to post on here...

I got my AF yesterday. After such a long cycle last month, I convinced myself throughout yesterday that it was actually implantation spotting. When I saw it there, I just couldn't abandon all hope entirely. Today, I'm facing this month's reality. Ho hum.
I need cheering up. Chocolate of some sort calls...

Hugs to Tiger....its a horrid feeling but also a time to relax and forget for a few days before preparing to be positive for next cycle.
cheese I can only begin to imagine how you must be feeling. Fingers crossed for you x

Tina - good luck for tomorrow-don't forget the snug helicopter is available so we can all come and hold your hand. Same goes for you cheese - we'll tag along in chopper.

I have a good feeling for both of you, but I also know how hard those scans are.

Cheese, I know what you mean about all the hurdles. I worry a lot about the scans and what it all means.But,it is just another hurdle that brings you closer to meeting your baby.How wonderful

Tiger - sorry about AF.It's shit when you are ttc. Break out the chocolate and start thinking positive thoughts for the next chance to ttc.

Deige - can you believe you are actually here again, ttc? So exciting...

Golden, will you be able to post on here on the weekend? I want to know what those pee-sticks say! And as for your mum giving you a hard time about your OH - seriously, what is is,8 years old?He can make his own lunch and iron his shirts for Pete's sake. Tell your mum it's now the 21st century and men can actually learn to drive an iron.It's miraculous, I know, but it really can happen

Good luck for today Tina! I'm sure all will be fine and come back and tell us the good news as soon as you can xx
Back later - have to rush now getting everyone up/dressed x

Hello again. Well to update, ewcm all but disappeared, opk resolutely negative (not even a hint of a line), and temps today still low...so dh got a freebie there . Am having a wtf cycle I think. Having only just started temping again after losing thermometer so I'm not really sure where I'm up to. Thought it might be liberating but it's not!
Hi Gum, yes very strange actually to be ttc-ing after peeking through the window for so long (ok, a few mths). I feel strangely detatched from it all at the moment, but am sure that will change when I know where I am with my cycle.
Golden, I agree that knowledge is power with testing to the extent that a bfn has the gradual effect of letting you down gently-ish. I compare waiting for af/getting bfns to removing a plaster. Is it better to take it off slowly (test) or rip it off in one go (wait for The Blood). Personally I find the gradual letting go of hope better. But of course that is not going to hapen to you!!! Very high temsp are such a good sign x
Hippy, meant to say you are so missed on the thread! I will have to get fb-ing and stalk you that way
Will be back later to get your fri night bistro orders x

So I pissed on a stick (at 10DPO). Instead of a line there was this message: 'Listen, twat, not only are you not pregnant this month, you will never EVER be pregnant again'

Oh Golden So you used a digital? Now there are reports that these are less sensitive than the non-digi types, but I can well understand how you're feeling. 10 dpo is still very early, but am not going to patronise you with stuff about time of implantation etc etc (though there is some leeway in that). Horribly disappointing, but will you test again tomorrow?

Don't despair golden It is def a bit early and did your dr not tell you to wait until cd 30 to 35? Maybe I'm mistaken.ive never had a BFP that early...
< hugs >

OMG everyone, just got to tell you I'm having twins!!! Still in a state of shock here, I was never expecting this, not sure why seeing as how I had two embryos but I never expected them both to stick! Saw two little heartbeats and even some tiny arms! Got some piccies too so will post those later when I've worked out how to scan them on our printer!

golden don't give up yet it may still be too early!! And it doesn't mean you'll never be pregnant, youre still young girl and it will happen for you I feel it in my water :-)

TINA!!! FANTASTICO!! Oh, what a thrill! I totally overlooked the fact that two embryos were transferred and we are so programmed on this thread to merely hope for the smallest miracle...but you got TWO!! Well done, missus!

Oh my good god Tina what a star. So very very poleased for you xxxx

Pleased even.

Thanks, ladies for your commiserations. No, Diege, I used the One Step internet cheapies. Also, I pissed in a cup at 8am and was too tired and pessimistic to unwrap and dip the stick so I went back to bed and only tested from that same urine two hours later. What do we think of that? I do feel it is still very early (fertility friend tells me that only a third of pregnancies are detected by 10DPO) and my temp this morning was the third highest so far, but...but...you know.

I am over the fuking moon, however, for Tina*. That really has made my day. See? Monumentally brilliant things can and do happen on this thread

Pink, CD30-35? Is that what to expect for women on Clomid, do you mean? Can you elaborate? Thanks.

Tina - that's fantastic - what lovely news!! Wonder if they'll be boy/girl or same sex.
GG - don't give up yet, you weren't going to test until the weekend, it's still early. If FF says only a third are detected by 10DPO, then for the majority of people it would be too early to test.
Calibee - I second the comments re your photos - you will make lovely babies - my DH is twice his age, it's not fair!!

I'm probably one of the only ones here who is wishing AF to come so that I can start ttc asap and get back to normal post mc. I still feel in limbo at the moment. The other (non?) issue I have is that if I did go on to conceive end of Nov then I would be due just when my eldest DD is due to sit her 11+ exams in Sep and I can't decide whether it would be selfish of me to inflict that on her and should wait ttc until after Christmas. On the other hand I will be 42 in Feb and it's coming too quickly!!!